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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by sarutobie(m): 2:27am On Jul 09, 2016 |
This same nairaland where graduates are begging for 5k to be paid into their accounts by strangers?? I can bet some of these lowlifes berating the Op were among those shameless beggars on this forum...see them acting like they got their lives planned out...Nigerians are dead to emotions and humane feelings... 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Prettiepearlz(f): 2:30am On Jul 09, 2016 |
NUkachukwu:1.What I meant by buckling up is she facing her life squarely and quitting being pitied. 2. She might not be able to get white collar jobs because she isn't a graduate but she will still be able to get petty jobs she could do after classes but that's not advisable anymore as she is in her finals and she needs to devote time to her project and all that. 3. As regards funds, she should be able to get funds, because she should have "good friends" who should be able to lend her some funds for a petty business like you said (I have done that for people while I was in school and financially buoyant). Or even from the little her brother sends once in a while she could save from it. At least the brother gives her money but not all the time like she said. And she mentioned here that she was into hairdressing before I feel she shouldn't have stopped because this is the time she needs money most and now she has been left to fend for herself by her elder brother. 4. If I am the one in her position, I would do everything decent to survive even if it means sucking up my pride and being sales girl in shops, and every business outlets in school, or by being a lesson teacher to the kids of the indigenes of the state (depending on the state the school is most especially if it's outside Lagos even in Lagos you will still get parents that would need a competent teacher who are not too expensive for their small kids), use the salary I get to start a petty business (like selling shoes, the flat ones female students wear popularly called "doll shoe", there is gain in selling it) and with diligence the business would grow (while I was in school I have seen a friend's business grow from small to a big one and she was able to see herself through school). See I am not blaming her, I just want her to quit complaining and focus more on herself. If her brother won't help her, he won't and there's nothing she can do about that. If that's the case, what is she gonna do? Drop out of school? No I want her to accept her cross and strive to make it and come back to give us success stories. Not her coming to complain about her brother and his wife all the time for some people to insult them. People insulting her brother and backing her up online all the time wouldn't help her, instead it will make her dwell in self pity and I tell you that's depressing enough. If I had the means I would help her and if I have the means I will help her. I think she needs help but she needs to help herself first. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by sarutobie(m): 2:40am On Jul 09, 2016 |
freecocoa:maybe if my mum was like the Op's Sister in law, my late uncle's children probably won't have gotten education to the tertiary level...maybe my cousin would have gone into prostitution to help her widowed mother years ago..I will forever be grateful to my parents for showing me what family is...for showing me how to accommodate people... 4 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by cococandy(f): 2:43am On Jul 09, 2016 |
I know how threads like this usually pan out. No matter what you type, as long as you haven't called the wife names, you haven't helped. Lol Before I even commented, I knew it had the potential to turn into something like this where people will begin to judge and act like they know who or who doesn't help their family based on the posts. I hope unlike the last time she created this type of thread, this time she will leave with one or two things. Askseek: 2 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by cococandy(f): 2:44am On Jul 09, 2016 |
@freecocoa, of course if one can help and chooses not to, it is not a small jonsing. It's a big one. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by semitunde: 3:11am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Despite the emotional hues and cries on this thread, cococandy ( and some like her) have made the most realistic sense. Many are just wailing here ( some referring to their stories as if a lot of ppl viewing don't have worse); point is, op is here for advise, what would be yours? Pet her like a good child crying, form a pity party around her? Lambast the brother and tell her sibling is the real family ( am sure peter square is eyeing somewhere)? Let's assume the bro is under a trance and the wife is a witch, what should op do? Come to Nairaland and look for who would lambasted the bro with her? To what purpose. I'm not saying she can't be emotional for her state but this isn't the time for tears, its not a nolywood movie; she should get a grip of her situation ( no mater how bad it is) and work her way out. P.s. The fact that op brought the issue here doesn't mean that the brother, or in fact the wife, isn't the real victim here. I'm talking emotional and psychological victim, economic victim etc. Too many naive emotional comments. 11 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by ngoben(f): 3:12am On Jul 09, 2016 |
byvan03:...who ask u dat 1 ...must u comment....didint u read d stuff well |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by NovusHomo(m): 3:45am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Prettiepearlz: In short, her brother owes her nothing. N-O-T-H-I-N-G! 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 3:45am On Jul 09, 2016 |
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Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by ahnie: 3:45am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Some monikers on nl are mean...selfish n wicked,you know yourselves. Wicked women...one was even advisin the Op to go and marry and stop doing osho-free. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by marcopollo(m): 3:49am On Jul 09, 2016 |
The way some people dey talk ehn? "Go look for something to do", Na stones she go take set up something? It's better to carry herself go do ash.awo now. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by marcopollo(m): 3:52am On Jul 09, 2016 |
ahnie:You dey mind dem? What do know. Many of them talking have nothing doing themselves. Because they have access to internet they hide behind their phones or computer to type nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by phaulzoe(m): 3:53am On Jul 09, 2016 |
hmmmm..... most time I wonder what's wrong with some ladies. how can a true wife b wicked to his husband siblings, it's really annoying. then the mumu husband also will allow the lady controlling her.. God 4bid |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by ahnie: 3:56am On Jul 09, 2016 |
marcopollo:just negodu....lets just pray for them that God shud change their negative thinking! |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by pakpan89(m): 3:58am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Bro, ur brother has unfortunately married one of those wrong ladies, satan, gold diggers, who hv nothng to offer. Tell him dat i say whn dat moni finishes dat dat woman will run away frm him. Write today's date and keep. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Chumzylove(f): 3:58am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Well to the Op I just pray that you're not also lying. against ur bro and the wife, perhaps the money is not there you may not know what they're passing through trust me on this, since you can make hair you can do that in ur hostel during weekend's, sell indomie and egg, with recharge card, you'll get small penny from there. What am saying is from experience am married to a husband who's the 1st son and their orphans but his own case is different he strive hard to see them get to the level they're now, but the immediate bro and the last went an got married while staying in his own house, is that not selfishness, the sis will always cry for money but when she returns from sch you'll see new handbags,clothes and shoes that she brought and you'll be asking if she's doing a beauty contest. But they see me as threat and someone that wants to break their home because I got married to their bro who they see as their father. What point am I trying to make one thing I've discovered is that some orphans when their bro gets married they feel he has drifted away from them and that he's now concern about his wife and kids, jealousy and envy comes in and they'll start transferring these hatred to the wife and feels she's the cause of the problem, they no longer see any good in her. Pls when we try to criticise the wife let us also know the truth, am not writing for writing sake am speaking from example I can lay down my life for my husband's siblings because I'll spend my entire life with them but when I put to bed and my mum came, my younger sis came for her baptism, in fact he whole story changed, these my sis in law that I've always encouraged started showing me that in fact its her brothers house, because I didn't want to cause problem and you know people will always blame the wife I kept quiet and endured all her misbehaviour, its a long story sha at the end a humble and dedicated wife suffers for what she knows nothing about. Do your best as a sis in law don't interfere in their lives, maybe he's passing through a financial break down. Also remember that you're a woman and if you hurt ur bro wife you'll get married and also the law of karma will visit you. When you're done with ur project you can look for a mini job, save and do ur clearance. Posting these thing here to me also shows the kind of person you are. Believe me when things turn around for good between you, ur bro and the wife you won't come and give us the testimony. Patient, humility is the key to a successful life. 9 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Chumzylove(f): 4:06am On Jul 09, 2016 |
To those saying that the wife is this she's that, if you're a lady and you're not married my dear don't say until you enter and pray not to get marry to a guy who's the 1st son and also an orphan, to some if you like give the family the world they'll never be satisfied why because they're now sharing their bro with a total stranger. Once a man gets married his attention is divided he also starts thinking of his own children, if he has done so much for you appreciate him and don't paint him black in the face of people. The little you can do to also help him you can do. But remember don't go online and start telling people how ur bro has been so bad to you, pray for him. You can't wear his shoes 6 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by nonjebose(m): 4:11am On Jul 09, 2016 |
OP, what do you want? Be direct. I don't think having us castigate your brother and his wife will change anything. If it is money, how much? |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Funpeter: 4:32am On Jul 09, 2016 |
crackhaus: |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by johnson232: 5:10am On Jul 09, 2016 |
hmmmm... all i can say is that evil women plenty for this family section sha... but sorry to say the day God created a woman, he created problem... the world would have been a better place without them... |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by sokera: 5:11am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith:good write up and it all looks like a pity party write up , only the wise could see the basics of the write up , something is not right with this write-up but I don't wanna be the judge here ... Let me just ask you these questions , do you have friends ? if you are a Christian why not approach your church leaders ? Any relatives ? Family friends ? just look elsewhere and let your brother be for the sake of your younger brother ...you have gone too far in education not to have able friends ... God help us all |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by pedrilo: 5:15am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith:u were doin hair for people b4 n u stop? I tink u r lyin, a lot of u come here to lie wit dis final year project format just to garner pity while ur true aim is to swindle peeps online. Well just in case ur story is true, i'll say go n continue ur hair stylist hustle 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by galantjoe(m): 5:25am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Don't commit suicide. We had enough suicide for this buhari period. Seek your help elsewhere. People can help. 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by johnson232: 5:26am On Jul 09, 2016 |
semitunde:sharrap if u got nothing reasonable to say? so when someone is ill, is now a wrong thing to tell them sorry? anyone who has spent 2hrs in this family section knows cococandy & her likes, because of her selfish, bias & insensitive comments. i pressume those quoting her & her likes saw this topic on home page. @bold, what are u trying to say? if u are tagging a working class man economic victim, what abt a student? 3 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by johnson232: 5:29am On Jul 09, 2016 |
galantjoe:seeing God physically is more easier than finding help these days.. |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by obialfa: 5:35am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Satan can resolve a lot of issues Speak to Him |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Nobody: 5:43am On Jul 09, 2016 |
What a coincidence you walked in on your brother talking to his sisterinlaw about the money he transferred to her account.lol . The same day you asked for money and you just happened to be present(even traffic that day couldn't stop you from hearing that part of the conversation) when they got to the money part? I don't believe that part of the story. I think you made that part up to gather pity 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by semitunde: 5:48am On Jul 09, 2016 |
johnson232: Well I've said something reasonable even if I say so myself, so I guess that takes care of the "sharap" part. You dont need to bring in the personality of cococandy or infact anyone else save for their thought as put down on this thread. The issue brought up is what should be faced. Again that knocks off your second point. You are asking what I meant by economic abuse? You should have just asked nicely. What I meant was that as a married man, op didn't tell us if his bro has any child, what kind of job he does, if its enough in this present economic situation. We don't know if they are just married and just settling in and now have two siblings lumped on them - and they are not complaining, just adjusting. Has anyone asked how they are coping financially? How from the ops post can you infer that his bro is rich enough to take care of them? You're not considering his situation. He might be a victim economically given the responsibility he's carrying while still being lampooned here by his sis. Are you married? 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by InvertedHammer: 5:53am On Jul 09, 2016 |
humbledbyfaith: / How much do you need for your clearance? \ 1 Like |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by eyinjuege: 5:56am On Jul 09, 2016 |
Okijajuju1: Apparently, your questions won't matter to the OP. The brother is expected to steal and at all cost meet the financial responsibilities of a twenty something year old woman. Even some parents can't keep up and have washed hands off the schooling of some of their children. There are so many people in our unis these days that don't receive any support from home because there's NOTHING. You can't force water out of a rock. The brother may be experiencing some financial difficulty right now, but the sister wants to invoke their dead parents as if they're also not his own dead parents. As if he also wasn't orphaned. 5 Likes |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by Acidosis(m): 6:06am On Jul 09, 2016 |
There are some stories I don't believe, this is one of them. Your story may be true anyway but why beg mods to place this on the front-page? as in this is the 3rd thread you've opened on the same issue. What exactly would you gain from this newest thread that you haven't learnt on your previous threads? MONEY? OP simply open a new thread and solicit for financial assistance to complete your education. All this nonsensical repetitions doesn't make sense when all that is needed is MONEY. Btw, where did you get this name? The humbled-by-faith I know on Nairaland has been a member since 2011/2012. Are you the same humbled-by-faith? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Brother Will Make Me Cry To My Dead Parents Against Him by eyinjuege: 6:11am On Jul 09, 2016 |
uplawal: Do you know the brother's financial status right now? What if he truly cannot afford to cater for his siblings? Should he go and steal? Or start kidnapping others? If the worst comes to the worst, OP should defer the semester, work for a year to save money, and go back to school. People have been doing that since time immemorial. Its not the end of the world if you defer your studies for a period. 3 Likes |
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