VolTOxic:
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Can you believe this guy?

You my friend have not even an ounce of respect for women. Look at the way you portray them, like mere objects. Toying and fúcking both. Worse still, getting the single mother pregnant, just to add to her bundles and to run away. Depriving a child of his Dad. And you even have the audacity to get confused. Karma will get your ass.

konfused:



Guy relax, it wasn't as if I set out to hurt both women, just the way things happen sometimes...

konfused:
hello nairaland,

Am so confused on what path to follow.

I ve two girls in my life, but am confused on who to settle down with.

Girl A....she is not a graduate, she is a sales-girl, from a poor background, has a love-child at home.

I believe she loves me, but I strongly suspect she is in luv cos of her belief that am way higher than her . I sense a great level of inferiority complex from her.

She is never money conscious, barely asks me for money, she accepts anything I give her.

My main issue is she is not proactive. She doesn't have a say of hers!!!!

Girl B.......she is a graduate, she is doing her nysc, from an average family, assertive, doesn't pretend, always money conscious, always looking for ways to add value to her life, she nags and complains alot.

She is always advising me to do better, she always keeps me on my toe by criticising any thing I don't do well.



But.....

I love girl B more than girl A, but the crux of the matter is girl A is pregnant for me......

I just don't know what to do.

I need serious advice, I can't go for abortion, I don't want to marry girl A.......

Gaborone:


What did you set out to do to both of them, by cheating on them both?

How do things sometime happen? Was the se/x a mistake?

VolTOxic:
Can you believe this guy?

You my friend have not even an ounce of respect for women. Look at the way you portray them, like mere objects. Toying and fúcking both. Worse still, getting the single mother pregnant, just to add to her burdens and to run away. Depriving a child of his Dad. And you even have the audacity to get confused. Karma will get your ass.

Roseey0:
The thunder!!!!!..... Just leave girl A first!

StPete:
This is real dilemma. OP follow ur heart cos if u marry d lady cos of d child, u will just end up regretting ur life. However do all u can to morally and financially support the pregnant lady and be a good father when the child is born.

konfused:
Biko what qualifies this issue as wickedness, girl A was a side chick, cos I don't want to indulge in abortion now am wicked.....

I love girl B, I need advice and not telling me if am wicked or not...

benjibabs:


Side Chick ko? What does that even mean? someone to keep on the side to sleep with whenever you feel like and dump at the end of the day for the real deal??shey? Obviously, you don't think the so called "side chick" is human or deserves to be loved and cared for? No matter what level she is there is still someone of her level out there that will love and appreciate her. And besides, do you think she wants to be where she is or be in that situation for life? You really don't need anyone to tell you that you are wicked, you should know by now yourself. If you found out that girl B has been keeping you as "side guy" all this while, how would you feel? Or how would you like some clean guy to call your sister "side chick" to your face?? Go ponder on that to start with.

Ok. Now lets see if there is any damage control you can deploy to salvage the situation.

First, sit girl B down and tell her what you have done with girl A. If she dumps you, great! You now only have girl A to deal with. You then have to sit down and think of what you wanna do with girl A - marry her and be miserable or leave her but take responsibility to father your child and support the girl. If girl B is crazy enough to still wanna hang on to you, then let girl A know you are not moving on with the relationship with her but you will take responsibly for the child and support her. And yes, the conversations with both girls will be difficult and emotional. You just have to Man up and do what you need to do. It is what it is!

Above all, you need to get you head screwed on straight and go back and look for your integrity wherever you lost it. In addition, stop calling fellow human being "side chick", it stinks!!!

trilobite:
. We are in the same boat my brother. I never give her bele sha. This your story just be like say God don warn me.


Where did I keep that Durex?!!!!

Gaborone:


You don't want to marry her? Who do you want to leave her for with a second love child? You are a joker.

konfused:
He who has no Sin should first cast a stone.....


All these dudes acting all sanctimonious as if you guys are all angels, calling me wicked and all that, all I asked for is advice and not some holier-than-thou dudes telling me am wicked....


I bleeped up, yes I admit to that, but using that world "wicked"......haba!!!

If you don't have any advice for me, say so than calling me wicked for something I didn't do intentionally.....