Though am not new on nairaland and this is not my main handle but I need to hide my identity for some reason best known to me.
Pls I need mature advise from elderly people on this section. I married this man 6 yrs ago and God gave us a very handsome baby who is 5yrz old now. Some month after our wedding, I noticed that he spent more time on Fb but I was not bothered because of my condition(i got pregnant immediately after our wedding). Atimes I will beg him to make love to me but he will refuse and am not ugly at all. Even when I was pregnant, I always dress to kill and always make sure our home is very clean so i wonder why he's not making love to me. It continues like that till I gave birth and that is when the real beast in him came out.
I dnt have choice than to endure all the emotion pain he's causing me. I dnt nag nor ask him money for anything. Though he opened a mini provision store for me but the business was not profitable(provision business require reasonable amount of money) so I quit the business and decided to look for a better job with my ond certificate. All my effort to get a job was fruitless which made me to become a full house wife looking for what to do with my life. Though before we got married, he promise to send me back to school cos I told him he should allow me to go and complete my hnd and he said I will go to school from his house. So like 4 months ago, I opened his phone while he was sleeping and I wanted to download a worship song I heard in the church, a message came him from his girlfriend and that is when I opened his facebook inbox and what I saw shocked me. Imagine this man pleading and begging for sex from different women. I counted about 5 different women with different account, and this is a man that won't touch me foe 2weeks and even when he do he won't last more than 5mins. I have asked God several times why he gave me such man.
Early this year I told him I love interior decoration and he should give me money to go and acquire the skill, he didn't give me. My parent are poor and I have no where to run to. The only thing that still give me joy is my son, atimes I feel so useless and empty. I dnt love this man again cos he doesn't deserve My Love. I just want to move on with my life cos life is very short and i want to be happy for the rest of my life. Just advise me in your own way and I promise I will listen God bless you

Na wa oh

A man won't just abandon his wife and be soliciting for sex outside.....its either he is a serial womaniser,or there's something u guys are not getting right

If you don't love him anymore,and u feel moving on is the best thing to do,then do it

But,with ond,,and no job,the immediate future is very bleak

So sorry about your situation sister.

Sister sorry about what u r going thru in ur marriage. Did u date or court b4 marriage? And this u notice all this signs then? Well, try and talk to him and if there are things he compliant about you, try to amend or change from them. Also don't forget to talk to God to arrest him. I wish u best of luck.

Chijikenine:
Though am not new on nairaland and this is not my main handle but I need to hide my identity for some reason best known to me.
Pls I need mature advise from elderly people on this section. I married this man 6 yrs ago and God gave us a very handsome baby who is 5yrz old now. Some month after our wedding, I noticed that he spent more time on Fb but I was not bothered because of my condition(i got pregnant immediately after our wedding). Atimes I will beg him to make love to me but he will refuse and am not ugly at all. Even when I was pregnant, I always dress to kill and always make sure our home is very clean so i wonder why he's not making love to me. It continues like that till I gave birth and that is when the real beast in him came out.
I dnt have choice than to endure all the emotion pain he's causing me. I dnt nag nor ask him money for anything. Though he opened a mini provision store for me but the business was not profitable(provision business require reasonable amount of money) so I quit the business and decided to look for a better job with my ond certificate. All my effort to get a job was fruitless which made me to become a full house wife looking for what to do with my life. Though before we got married, he promise to send me back to school cos I told him he should allow me to go and complete my hnd and he said I will go to school from his house. So like 4 months ago, I opened his phone while he was sleeping and I wanted to download a worship song I heard in the church, a message came him from his girlfriend and that is when I opened his facebook inbox and what I saw shocked me. Imagine this man pleading and begging for sex from different women. I counted about 5 different women with different account, and this is a man that won't touch me foe 2weeks and even when he do he won't last more than 5mins. I have asked God several times why he gave me such man.
Early this year I told him I love interior decoration and he should give me money to go and acquire the skill, he didn't give me. My parent are poor and I have no where to run to. The only thing that still give me joy is my son, atimes I feel so useless and empty. I dnt love this man again cos he doesn't deserve My Love. I just want to move on with my life cos life is very short and i want to be happy for the rest of my life. Just advise me in your own way and I promise I will listen God bless you

Do you know reading through your post, I could hear you choking in your own pain and tears? It's amazing how what ought to be uplifting and bliss turn out to be the one thing that brings us the highest of pains. That leads us to suicidal tendencies.

I will implore you to walk back to the beginning of this union, trace from then till now, don't leave any stone unturned, search for one time that you may have hurt him soooo bad and the issue wasn't properly resolved but you guys chose to move past it for peace sake. There, may lay the clue to the troubles in your marriage. Some people are vengeful, it is never a good reason for him to treat you the way he is but he may be on a revenge mission. Just search wella and if you find any, take it back to him in humility. Recall he is your husband and the peace or war in your home is only yours to fight. No big mouthed friend or relative will bear it with you so don't listen to no one advising anything contrary to restoring your home. Ask to be forgiven and let him know he is killing you slowly with the pains he is causing you. Remind him how you guys started, the love, the joy and others in-between. Ask if he doesn't miss all that. While at it, don't forget the God factor. He is the greatest healer. He will restore your home and every other thing will fall into place.

Cry no more woman. God has His ears to your cries. Let him use you. Don't be stubborn lest you will bruise his ego and the cycle continues.

It is well with you and your family.

I can't imagine the pain you are passing through. My dear, what you are going through is nothing new.... 90% of Nigerian women are going through it in one way or the other. It's very hard to see a faithful and honest man these days. Sadly, Infidelity in marriages is a norm these days.
I would advice you to gather evidence and confront your husband with it. Express yourself and let him know how u feel about his actions.
I would not advice you to just pack your things and move on until you have exhausted all possible ways of fixing the issue first. if all is said and done and he is still misbehaving, then follow your mind. i personally believe that your happiness should be your priority. The worst thing a woman can do is stay in a loveless and unhappy marriage where there is no mutual respect and understanding. Also look for a way to save money, further your education and make your self better. Learn a skill such as makeup artistry, sewing, cake baking etc and start a small business that will bring you little income. It's very important for a woman to be financially independent. Don't wait for him to send you to school , if you can do it for yourself, do so. I personally have learnt that it's not wise to depend on anyone for anything. If their plan for you is not a good one, make it work for yourself. Good luck!

Chijikenine:
Though am not new on nairaland and this is not my main handle but I need to hide my identity for some reason best known to me.
Pls I need mature advise from elderly people on this section. I married this man 6 yrs ago and God gave us a very handsome baby who is 5yrz old now. Some month after our wedding, I noticed that he spent more time on Fb but I was not bothered because of my condition(i got pregnant immediately after our wedding). Atimes I will beg him to make love to me but he will refuse and am not ugly at all. Even when I was pregnant, I always dress to kill and always make sure our home is very clean so i wonder why he's not making love to me. It continues like that till I gave birth and that is when the real beast in him came out.
I dnt have choice than to endure all the emotion pain he's causing me. I dnt nag nor ask him money for anything. Though he opened a mini provision store for me but the business was not profitable(provision business require reasonable amount of money) so I quit the business and decided to look for a better job with my ond certificate. All my effort to get a job was fruitless which made me to become a full house wife looking for what to do with my life. Though before we got married, he promise to send me back to school cos I told him he should allow me to go and complete my hnd and he said I will go to school from his house. So like 4 months ago, I opened his phone while he was sleeping and I wanted to download a worship song I heard in the church, a message came him from his girlfriend and that is when I opened his facebook inbox and what I saw shocked me. Imagine this man pleading and begging for sex from different women. I counted about 5 different women with different account, and this is a man that won't touch me foe 2weeks and even when he do he won't last more than 5mins. I have asked God several times why he gave me such man.
Early this year I told him I love interior decoration and he should give me money to go and acquire the skill, he didn't give me. My parent are poor and I have no where to run to. The only thing that still give me joy is my son, atimes I feel so useless and empty. I dnt love this man again cos he doesn't deserve My Love. I just want to move on with my life cos life is very short and i want to be happy for the rest of my life. Just advise me in your own way and I promise I will listen God bless you

I am sorry about what you are going through.
But to be candid, what you are going through is a script played out in many families.

An idiOt once told me that you cannot to have rice and beans as a meal you must
eat varieties.

It is either your husband never had to opportunity of having the girls he wanted when
he was single or he is a play boy that you must have sensed doing courtship.

He is just a typical man. He needs more of the fear of God in his life.
Listen to me,he loves you and never for one day doubt your love for him because
the moment you allow your love for him to die, your marriage begins to look for
a rock to hit.

Be a prayerful and loving wife.

A woman shared a prayer point she used that worked.
The prayer goes thus
The manhood of his husband should go dumb if he attempts to sleep with any woman besides me.

Soon, the man always came home angry and after sometime he no longer kept late nights
and later confessed to his wife.

Prayer is your best weapon in times of challenges like this.
It is not quarreling,not being disrespectful,not even calling his family members.

But not fainting in prayer. The ones outside or the girls he begs for sex are not better
than you and can never be better. He is just been a man.

He will send you to school or open that business you want for you very soon.
Just be a loving wife and of course a prayerful one.

Very soon he will ask himself what has this woman done wrong that i treat her this way.
It only a test for your love for him and how much you can go to make sure
your family is what God wants it to be.Just trying times my dear.

Many women that you admire their marriages have had to go through trying times
Work out your own marriage with wisdom that you can only get from God.

I know you will pull through.
Enjoy Marriage

Hin go tire for the facebook sef, they no go tell am.

Why DID you Marry the man in the FIRSt place. Because a wise man said when purpose is unknown, abuse is inevitable

Did you marry to escape poverty
Marry because of the go and marry pressure everyone was ringing to your ear
Marry Because my friends are married
Marry Because I'm getting older
Marry Because of sex OR kids
Did you force yourself on him
Did you pressurize him to marry you
Did you find out whether he was Marrying you out of pity
Did you find out whether he genuinely loves you or it was just lust or infatuation at the spur of the moment
Was there anytime you deceived him?

Go and find out all this

infogenius:


I am sorry about what you are going through.
But to be candid, what you are going through is a script played out in many families.

An idiOt once told me that you cannot to have rice and beans as a meal you must
eat varieties.

It is either your husband never had to opportunity of having the girls he wanted when
he was single or he is a play boy that you must have sensed doing courtship.

He is just a typical man. He needs more of the fear of God in his life.
Listen to me,he loves you and never for one day doubt your love for him because
the moment you allow your love for him to die, your marriage begins to look for
a rock to hit.

Be a prayerful and loving wife.

A woman shared a prayer point she used that worked.
The prayer goes thus
The manhood of his husband should go dumb if he attempts to sleep with any woman besides me.

Soon, the man always came home angry and after sometime he no longer kept late nights
and later confessed to his wife.

Prayer is your best weapon in times of challenges like this.
It is not quarreling,not being disrespectful,not even calling his family members.

But not fainting in prayer. The ones outside or the girls he begs for sex are not better
than you and can never be better. He is just been a man.

He will send you to school or open that business you want for you very soon.
Just be a loving wife and of course a prayerful one.

Very soon he will ask himself what has this woman done wrong that i treat her this way.
It only a test for your love for him and how much you can go to make sure
your family is what God wants it to be.Just trying times my dear.

Many women that you admire their marriages have had to go through trying times
Work out your own marriage with wisdom that you can only get from God.

I know you will pull through.
Enjoy Marriage

Hin go tire for the facebook sef, they no go tell am.[b][/b]

so during the temptation period while praying what should she be occupied with Because it's obvious she's not employed. She neither has a buisness OR is in school. Don't forget the devil is not far away from the idle

So this man magically changed completely after marriage? He must have been showing symptoms that you chose to ignore. I don't get what you mean by being a house wife made you penniless, even house wives have savings. Gather that saving of yours and go learn whatever skill you want to learn .


You should be happy that he isn't sleeping with you with a possibly STD infested stuff. Empower yourself first and think of your next move. You can also try the praying down heaven method, just know that we don't fool God. Wrong decisions have consequences, don't blame God for giving you the man, you chose him yourself.


No one deserves to live in misery, think and rescue yourself.

Am so grateful for everything you've said and I pray almighty will bless and give you all a happy home. Honestly am fed up of life because I have asked him several times what am doing wrong and always go down on my knees to apologize for any thing I might have done. I neither begged or forced myself on him. I have all the prove of his infidelity, I screenshot all their conversation and transfer it to my phone, I will keep praying as a sister suggested and will also tell God to take my life or change him

God to take your life or change him? I'm sorry o but that is a very stupid thing to say.I want to believe you are not stupid.Do you realise you have a child Did that child beg you to be born? If your life is taken who will care for him? How can you mortgage your life because of a man born of a woman like you?? The sooner you realise that we are all the same,its the same God who created and the same blood running through all of us,the better for you.How can you believe death is better than living to see your child excel because of a mere man.hmmmmmm

Let me tell you something,you MUST start building an emotional wall if you cannot leave a miserable marriage.You have to learn to coach your mind to become cold and view him as a roomie In the interim while you sort yourself out.You must be cold and calculating to survive the misery.

If hes not touching you you should be happy cos that reduces the chances of you catching an STD since you know he is unfaithful.If you want to be hitting it raw with him good luck cos sooner or later craw craw will descend.G o and buy a vibrator and have peace.

Go and look for something to do as well no matter how little,this will give you some self of self confidence.I personally believe self worth shouldn't be tied to a job though.

I don't know why people make it a habit of apologising and kneeling to say sorry when the other party is clearly at fault.There can be mutual acceptance of wrongdoing but this constant apology will make even me begin to take advantage.You have to have some dignity abeg.

Stop killing yourself and start thinking of. ways to build yourself up especially as you have a child to cater for.When you stop being obsessed with him,he may sit up and take notice.

War room members will soon come to help you cry harder.

Good luck

The only man that MAY avoid cheating in marriage is a born again (God fearing) man. Every other person will cheat, now or later.

Women should always remember this principle. I've seen some jokers who marry flirts, club landlords and booze (alcohol) lovers, yet they want FAITHFULNESS.

@OP,

Please make your man realize that he's hurting your emotions. If he has a heart, he will change 'temporarily".

Alternatively/concurrently, make him realize the evil in his action from the religious point of view. If he listens and repents, then his bad attitudes might just change permanently!

I know some folks will come here to castigate my points for mentioning religion. I won't entertain their opinions because they are hypocrites. They do Church wedding, take oaths with the Bible, but they hate the idea of introducing religion into marriage.

Cheats hardly change because they fear no one. So madam, take your man to the Pastor who joined you guys. He has more job to do. For every pastors out there who hurriedly join people together without scrutiny, God will judge your cases soon. Report to your pastor and let appropriate discipline be served on your husband.

If he fails to change, whoever joined you have the full RIGHT to dissolve the marriage immediately! Imam, Pastor, Magistrate, Parents, Family, etc.

The truth is that many of the men out there these days are not marriage material at all.
So any woman that wants to get married should be fully baked before going into marriage and with eyes, ears and senses wide open before making the decision of a life time because people rarely change.

You came into the marriage with only an OND and without a job. He opened a provision shop for you, but it crashed and then you started looking for a job....you should have done it the other way round.

Parents too should please send their kids to school and not wait for a man to take up that responsibility as some men just say that to get the woman to marry them and the woman ends out losing.

Now back to the current issue. Sit down and have a look back and see where things started to go wrong; either before the marriage or during the early days of the marriage. If he was a womaniser before you married him, then there is not much you can do.
You say you are beautiful, clean and don't ask him for money but there is more to marriage than that.
I am 100% not excusing his nonsense and infidelity but I am trying to help you to work out where things may have gone wrong and retrace if there a possibility of doing that.

It seems very odd that you are begging for sex at home and he is begging for sex outside. There is a serious disconnect somewhere cos that doesn't make sense.

In the mean time you dont need much money to learn a skill and start a small biz. With 10K you can learn how to make beads and buy a few tools, you can also learn how to make hair. You don't need a big salon to start. All you need is a chair and a tree to start with and then grow from there. Even if you make N1,000 a day, that N1,000 is yours.

Your son is 5 so should be in school. You cant just sit down at home during the day
Please get something doing
Go out there and conquer
You will gain more confidence when you are out there and meeting new people and learning new skills
He himself will see the change in you
He sees you everyday in the N500 dress he bought you because you cant afford to do anything without him dropping money
Those girls out there are not better than you.

But the bottom line is what do you want to do?
You and you alone can make that decision on whether you are prepared to call him to order and give him one more chance, assuming even that he is even remorseful and wants to change or if you have had enough and want to call it a day.
When it comes to cheating, people rarely stop, but never say never. There is nothing that God can't do or touch.
Please do what you think is best for you and your son

Jahblessme:


War room members will soon come to help you cry harder.

If you see the way I was jumping up and down when I saw this film on goslow
started watching it in the car straight away
I was deeply disappointed
This was a Christian couple who were just having a bad patch in their marriage
Nothing like the craziness that one hears about
They were a well matched and happy family to start with
They both loved God to start with and they both Loved God even when they were going through their bad patch
The war room method is not for everyone
The foundation has to be there in the first instance

tearoses:


If you see the way I was jumping up and down when I saw this film on goslow
started watching it in the car straight away
I was deeply disappointed
This was a Christian couple who were just having a bad patch in their marriage
Nothing like the craziness that one hears about
They were a well matched and happy family to start with
They both loved God to start with and they both Loved God even when they were going through their bad patch
The war room method is not for everyone
The foundation has to be there in the first instance

Hahahahahahaha..demonic husband demonic wife- war room.everything war room forgetting the context the movie was made in.
Remains for war room to raise the dead.
It's the cure to everything.

Hope you are great madam,i don reach work o.byee

Jahblessme:


Hahahahahahaha..demonic husband demonic wife- war room.everything war room forgetting the context the movie was made in.
Remains for war room to raise the dead.
It's the cure to everything.

Hope you are great madam,i don reach work o.byee

Thank God am not the only one that 'War room' suggestion annoys.

Everytime I see someone recommend that method for cheating husbands I always feel like giving them a big slap.

No be only war room.
War room ko, battle room ni.

1. What a Friend we have in Jesus,
All our sins and griefs to bear!
What a privilege to carry
Everything to God in prayer!
O what peace we often forfeit,
O what needless pain we bear,
All because we do not carry
Everything to God in prayer!

2 Have we trials and temptations?
Is there trouble anywhere?
We should never be discouraged,
Take it to the Lord in prayer.
Can we find a friend so faithful
Who will all our sorrows share?
Jesus knows our every weakness,
Take it to the Lord in prayer

3. Are we weak and heavy-laden,
Cumbered with a load of care?
Precious Savior, still our refuge—
Take it to the Lord in prayer;
Do thy friends despise, forsake thee?
Take it to the Lord in prayer;
In His arms He’ll take and shield thee,
Thou wilt find a solace there.

when we say wives should be prayerful about their homes, they think we don't know what we say. If the shepherd (Your husband) is being attacked, the flocks will scatter. I love the hymn I quoted above, you can also start singing it. Now is a time for prayer, I mean serious prayer. His heart is no longer in you, he doesn't find you attractive again in fact very soon he would want out of the marriage. Things at times may go from sweet to sour in marriages especially when expectations are cut short. From your point of view, you are doing everything right but your husband is soliciting for sex from strange women (repercussions are attached though but I don't want to mention )

Just start fasting, praying and doing night vigils for your marriage. When I mean prayers, serious prayers. Let's see where that leads to in a month's time. If you don't know how to go about the prayers, I could recommend some prayer books. Be strong, cheers

Hmmmmm

bennyrazz:
when we say wives should be prayerful about their homes, they think we don't know what we say. If the shepherd (Your husband) is being attacked, the flocks will scatter. I love the hymn I quoted above, you can also start singing it. Now is a time for prayer, I mean serious prayer. His heart is no longer in you, he doesn't find you attractive again in fact very soon he would want out of the marriage. Things at times may go from sweet to sour in marriages especially when expectations are cut short. From your point of view, you are doing everything right but your husband is soliciting for sex from strange women (repercussions are attached though but I don't want to mention )

Just start fasting, praying and doing night vigils for your marriage. When I mean prayers, serious prayers. Let's see where that leads to in a month's time. If you don't know how to go about the prayers, I could recommend some prayer books. Be strong, cheers

I know everyone's entitled to their opinions but why, just why do you always give high BP inducing advice??

Chijikenine:
Am so grateful for everything you've said and I pray almighty will bless and give you all a happy home. Honestly am fed up of life because I have asked him several times what am doing wrong and always go down on my knees to apologize for any thing I might have done. I neither begged or forced myself on him. I have all the prove of his infidelity, I screenshot all their conversation and transfer it to my phone, I will keep praying as a sister suggested and will also tell God to take my life or change him

God take your life? Are you OK at all? If you were sitting next to me I for recharge you better slap to reboot your brain. God take your life so he can cheat happily ever after abi?


Stop this reasoning and woman up, you don't know how much strength you have in you till an attempt is made. Why will your life be taken because a man chose to be irresponsible? Who will raise your son for you? Don't say nonsense because your are hurting , so devil doesn't take you up on the offer to sacrifice your life over nothing.

I recently listened to a woman share her story of how her loving husband changed to a complete stranger because she became born again. He picked up his bag one morning and told her we was travelling for four days, this turned into 4 YEARS. He completely abandoned her and the children and was flexing in another city of course with ladies.

She cried, but later picked up the pieces of her life. She prayed to God to help her out of her situation and also help her to control her emotions (sexually). HE did and made a way for her to pick up the pieces of her life through "destiny helpers" non of which asked her for a relationship. In those four years, she became better, richer, closer to God and even looked younger.

After globetrotting with ladies, he came back begging.

Honey, look on to God. You need him now more than ever. He will help you. Do not seek revenge, but if possible ignore his actions and do not have a headache over them. Acquire a skill or a means of income. Pray and trust in God to see you through.

EfemenaXY:


I know everyone's entitled to their opinions but why, just why do you always give high BP inducing advice??

so my advice of prayer and fasting for her home now induces BP? you know some things does not come to be without prayer and fasting? it shouldn't be an uphill task. Missing breakfast and lunch shouldn't be something difficult. While also studying the word of God (Bible) to know what it says.

Thank God for the good advise of those above me.

My dear, there is nothing new under the sun. Pray to God to give you the heart to fight this. A real stone heart. Thank God it is not a case of physical abuse. Though, I know you are emotionally traumatized. But it is not the end of the world. Be courageous. Pray to God for your husband. God can do all things.

You need to be busy though. You shouldn't have given up on your provision shop. Women need to have their own financial independence. You just have to be busy. An idle mind..... You should stop snooping his phone. This will only maximize your heart ache. Learn a trade, skill or something. But always pray. Keep yourself busy. just don't sit at home and kill yourself with worry. God will touch him. Always pray for him with Col. 1:9

I mean the guy had never cheated on her or laid hands on her. As for the woman, her major grouse was that she wanted to have much more access to the guy's finances. Yeah, not issue-ish enuf

tearoses:


If you see the way I was jumping up and down when I saw this film on goslow
started watching it in the car straight away
I was deeply disappointed
This was a Christian couple who were just having a bad patch in their marriage
Nothing like the craziness that one hears about
They were a well matched and happy family to start with
They both loved God to start with and they both Loved God even when they were going through their bad patch
The war room method is not for everyone
The foundation has to be there in the first instance

Gloriagee:
I mean the guy had never cheated on her or laid hands on her. As for the woman, her major grouse was that she wanted to have much more access to the guy's finances. Yeah, not issue-ish enuf

So peeps keep prescribing a movie based on non-issues to people having serious issues?

Interesting.

Yet to watch the movie (doesn't sound like my type anyways).

byvan03:
So this man magically changed completely after marriage? He must have been showing symptoms that you chose to ignore. I don't get what you mean by being a house wife made you penniless, even house wives have savings. Gather that saving of yours and go learn whatever skill you want to learn .
You should be happy that he isn't sleeping with you with a possibly STD infested stuff. Empower yourself first and think of your next move. You can also try the praying down heaven method, just know that we don't fool God. Wrong decisions have consequences, don't blame God for giving you the man, you chose him yourself.
No one deserves to live in misery, think and rescue yourself.

On point.

I doubt the man changed 360 after marriage.

bukatyne:


So peeps keep prescribing a movie based on non-issues to people having serious issues?

Interesting.

Yet to watch the movie (doesn't sound like my type anyways).



On point.

I doubt the man changed 360 after marriage.

Of course 98 % knew exactly what they were getting into but counted on the ever elusive change.

It seems very odd that you are begging for sex at home and he is begging for sex outside. There is a serious disconnect somewhere cos that doesn't make sense.

The thing with women is that they know how to tell heart-rending tales such that you will wonder how they got married to thier men in the first place, wether it was the men that forced them or wether they didnt dance thier feet off in joy on their wedding day. Women are expert sob-story tellers. Men, on the other hand, keep everything inside them cos society expects them to be emotionally strong.


This tale is as incomplete as they come.


Contrary to what many of you ladies here believe, a man just doesnt start cheating on his wife. I know, i know, i have uttered blasphemy, but its the truth. The sooner you accept that truth the better for you and the more wisdom you will acquire.


She begs her husband for sex yet her husband is online on facebook, not concentrating on one single woman he is having an affair with, but begging various random women for sex.
And you all think this is how he was before she married him. Or he just became like this for no reason.
Meanwhile op your husband has been taking care of you. I didnt see where you said he misbehaved towards you. Your mentioning that he didnt agree with your interior decor idea, i dont know how it plays into this write-up except to garner sympathy.

Levae him if you want. E no concern me.

But stop painting him as a complete devil here. Tell the truth.

I would like to re-iterate to you ladies something else.
Men love sex.
Men love sex.
Men love sex.


Take it or leave it.

Men love sex.

And if you deny us sex its like leaving us dying of thirst. We literally become uncomfortable and sometimes manifest physical pains. If we see where we can quench that thirst, we will go there. It will take only the power of God to stop us.


This goes for the womanizers and born-again husbands as well. If you like preach and insult me from here to tomorrow.

Sex is food for us. If you are reading this and currently denying your man sex and smirking at this post saying your man is different or he 'understands', chances are he is drinking from another fountain right now. The day you catch him, you will be shocked out of your wits.


Sex is important to us men, just as you women cant do without romance and attention. Its good to understand men as well just as we men try to understand you women. Its not just what the woman wants in marriage that is important, its what the man wants as well. No matter how insignificant it may look to you as a woman.

If he told u while pregnant to please not cut your hair, or to stop wearing that dirty wrapper day in and day out, that it turns him off completely, you may laugh at its absurdity, but for goodness sake take it serious.

Amongst other things.


The man is begging for sex from different ladies on facebook and you think all is well in that house, that he is just asking for sex and jeopardizing his marriage for the hell of it? Ok.

Do not attach your happiness to someone else.

Stop the pity party and get a grip of your life.
What if you husband was no more? You'll still be waiting for someone to look for money to give you and start business?
Once your child is in school, better go and start looking for something to do. Even if its to start frying chinchin at home, and taking it about to schools and offices.
Start looking for someone that can buy into your sensible idea of a petty business, that can loan you money, even if its 30K.
Women with responsible husbands sef are hustling like no man's business, and you're still there feeling sorry for yourself.
My dear, go and find something doing. Forget the issue of marriage for now and concentrate on yourself, and how to move ahead in life. If you're so busy, you won't even have time to notice someone else's madness.
If Conji is worrying you, go and buy romance machine. I hear they're everywhere you turn in Naija now.
Keeping yourself busy equally has the advantage of taking your mind off issues like your ailing marriage.
You cannot comman keel yaself.

EfemenaXY:


I know everyone's entitled to their opinions but why, just why do you always give high BP inducing advice??

I dunno why this cracked me up like this but....
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Na wa o. All these happen because of faulty foundation.