What happens when your step-mother is the same age as you?

1. You stop bringing friends over because she starts acting wired, due to insecurities

2. You fight over the top (yours) she decided to wear without your permission

3.Suddenly, your dad doesn't like it when you want to take turns for house chores. She's your age for crying out loud

4. Then she finishes the whole deal by STILL enquiring about whom that guy you were talking to is. Not parent enquiry, trust me

jagugu88li:
What happens when your step-mother is the same age as you?

1. You stop bringing friends over because she starts acting wired, due to insecurities

2. You fight over the top (yours) she decided to wear without your permission

3.Suddenly, your dad doesn't like it when you want to take turns for house chores. She's your age for crying out loud

4. Then she finishes the whole deal with STILL enquiring about whom that guy you were talking to is. Not parent enquiry, trust me

If that happens then I think it's time for you to move out.

I'm sure your dad won't mind financing that because I'm sure he is uncomfortable seeing you and wife together, because he'll always be reminded about the fact that he married his daughter's age mate.

This look more to me like an experience

People need to always consider their actions before hand.

In ur case you may need to go on a long vacation. Like charges repel unlike charges attract.

Ioannes:







If that happens then I think it's time for you to move out.

I'm sure your dad won't mind financing that because I'm sure he is uncomfortable seeing you and wife together, because he'll always be reminded about the fact that he married his daughter's age mate.

Say you are the only child,still in University, mother passed on and anyway you are not used to your maternal family. What then?

Are you writing from a female friend's experience or your girlfriend's experience?

People need to

People need to always consider their actions before hand.while remarrying remember your childrens welfare is paramount.

Emodeee:
Are you writing from a female friend's experience or your girlfriend's experience?

Mine, current situation

jagugu88li:


Say you are the only child,still in University, mother passed on and anyway you are not used to your maternal family. What then?

Get a place of your own still, maybe close to home (or not) and visit them often.

That way you won't be a threat to your mother-in-law and your relationship with your father will be intact.

I'm thinking you are old enough to stay on your own right? I'm assuming if you are the same age with your dad's wife and all... Hope you get what I'm saying...

jagugu88li:


Mine, current situation

Upload your picture then. I think say you be male na.


can you just narrate the full story? So we can fully grasp the message you are trying to pass out. Why did he marry a lady of your age?

Ioannes:


Get a place of your own still, maybe close to home (or not) and visit them often.

That way you won't be a threat to your mother-in-law and your relationship with your father will be intact.

I'm thinking you are old enough to stay on your own right? I'm assuming if you are the same age with your dad's wife and all... Hope you get what I'm saying...

I get you and thanks for advice. Only problem is, with no job that's impossible and the scarcity of jobs is another problem. Currently I go by some allowance which is not much, but I get you

hisgrace090:
People need to always consider their actions before hand.while remarrying remember your childrens welfare is paramount.

Parents think we making them choose when we say such

Emodeee:



Upload your picture then. I think say you be male na.


can you just narrate the full story? So we can fully grasp the message you are trying to pass out. Why did he marry a lady of your age?

You don't have to make jokes about this

jagugu88li:


I get you and thanks for advice. Only problem is, with no job that's impossible and the scarcity of jobs is another problem. Currently I go by some allowance which is not much, but I get you

You welcome, and all the best...

jagugu88li:


You don't have to make jokes about this

if i was joking, i would use a smiley or indicate a smile. I'm not joking. Narrate what happened.

just leave the house for her.

I've witnessed this scenario and in that case all the children were older than their step mother. It wasn't funny at all.

OP, time to leave the house.

Sirmuel1:
just leave the house for her.

oglalasioux:
I've witnessed this scenario and in that case all the children were older than their step mother. It wasn't funny at all.
OP, time to leave the house.

bad solution, but true!!!

jagugu88li:
What happens when your step-mother is the same age as you?

1. You stop bringing friends over because she starts acting wired, due to insecurities

2. You fight over the top (yours) she decided to wear without your permission

3.Suddenly, your dad doesn't like it when you want to take turns for house chores. She's your age for crying out loud

4. Then she finishes the whole deal with STILL enquiring about whom that guy you were talking to is. Not parent enquiry, trust me

from the post, I can deduce that you are talking from experience... but I think I have the solution.. I.e if you are willing to do...

doctorkush:
from the post, I can deduce that you are talking from experience... but I think I have the solution.. I.e if you are willing to do...

You welcome

Talk to her in the most amicable way you could and hence try to keep to yourself in the house. Lock your room. Get locks for your wardrobe. Become very grown up without seeming rude...just carve a space for yourself in the already crowded House. Since your mates are already getting married, its time to start acting the grown woman you are. May God help you. Thank God she's not already plotting to throw you out...we both know mother in-laws are devil's cousins.


By the way, I meant no insults with the mates marrying thing....my mates are great grand parents now

If you are a student, tell your dad u want to live close to uni...That is the best way of saying u want to stay out of their business...and if your request is granted, make sure it was not a hostel because that house will be your base... even during break, u are there....

For u to get some respect, u need to clear out, because i believe that since u have started talking about the house chore, it will soon turn ugly and ur dad might support her and u will feel dissapointed. Before it does, i suggest u keep ur dignity intact and find some where....

I won't mind that at all.... Am curious to find out how I might react...

Just keep doing you with restrictions.

You just have to deal with it

jagugu88li:


You welcome

I'm just wondering why she would be interested in who you speak to over the phone and also your response. That was what got to me.

Life is all about perspectives. And i think you need to look at this scenario from a different lens. Some said give her space, others said leave the house; and my question is for how long will you do all these? How long will you keep your distance and leave your dad to her mercy?
I think you should embrace her more like a friend. Yes it is an awkward situation and i don't think your dad made the best decision here but theres little you can do about it now.
By making her your friend you wield more power and influence over her and your dad, whilst protecting your dad.

sisisioge:


By the way, I meant no insults with the mates marrying thing....my mates are great grand parents now

no offence taken, if I'm lucky my turn will come, hopefully soon. Thanks loads hey

jashar:

hmmmm.....

The way I would react would be this

1. I won't bother getting close to her.  
Not being rude or anything, just keep my distance.

2. I will do the chores I need to do in the house.
For peace sake.

3. I won't talk to my father when she's there.
He can tell her about our discussion later. if he wants to.

4. I will tell her I don't feel comfortable sharing clothes.
I really don't I break out in rashes when this happens.

5. I will look for ways to keep busy even if I'm at home.

6. Next time she asks about a boy that called or something,
I will tell her it none of her business. After all, she's my age and married. 

7. When my friends come visiting, 
I will take them to my room or restrict them to a particular area of the house.
I will later explain to them that things have changed. 

Chai,see plan

m'Lady all you've said is true but the practical side is almost impossible. This here is what I call polite imprisonment and I have to do it to myself

Hard because just seeing the person spoils the mood, I'm sure you know how that feels. But thanks darl

Richy4:
If you are a student, tell your dad u want to live close to uni... i suggest u keep ur dignity intact and find some where....

Honestly that wouldn't work for both me and my dad. Without giving you a lot of family history, we are the only family left. Anyway..I hate the idea of being subtly kicked out but a stranger.

DukeNija:

I'm just wondering why she would be interested in who you speak to over the phone

She still had interest in guys here age, that's how I see it. Then acts out

DukeNija:

By making her your friend you wield more power and influence over her and your dad, whilst protecting your dad.

My friend? Yeah I hear you. I'm trying to do all these but really its easier said that done. Time will tell bro, time will. Nothing is as annoying as waking up to seeing the d***l