[quote author=dhabeautyjas post=49594682]hi mamas in the house. my lo will be 6 months next week and his poo is greenish since like 3 days now. tonight he is running temperature and i gave pcm, he vomited it the 3 times i gave him. am i supposed to be very worried?[/quote) go and see a doctor

dhabeautyjas:
hi mamas in the house. my lo will be 6 months next week and his poo is greenish since like 3 days now. tonight he is running temperature and i gave pcm, he vomited it the 3 times i gave him. am i supposed to be very worried?

The poo in itself should not be an issue. greenish poo is quite normal in babies, however because of the vomiting, Take him to the doctor to rule out any nasties.

mamamj:
Hello mamas,am a FTM...nice work u guys are doing here.Please my 2months old doesn't sleep at night till around 1 or 2am and am due to start work in 2weeks. Though my mil is around but she is not helping,she sleeps once it's 9pm and doesn't help to put her to sleep even when she stays up crying,pls what shud I do as it may seem somehow if I go get a nanny when she is still around

Is it that your MIL is not helping at all only during the night? Or is it that she is not helping AT ALL?
I agree with babythug, MIL may just need a rest and these seems to be a bit of misunderstanding of roles here....i. e what you expect of her and her own interpretation of what she can help with.

It is sometimes easier to assume someone's intentions (you to your MIL) or that someone is coping fine (your MIL to you). i dont know the relationship you have with MIL, but sometimes i find it easier to actually ASK for help. It may be something as simple as her not wanting to encroach as some mothers feel..invaded when some grandmas ( from both sides) swing in all guns blazing and totally take over childcare.

And also be aware that "help or assisitance" comes in different forms. If someone is helping only with meals for instance.... it shouldnt be underestimated.

Bear in mind that even if she or anyone else takes the baby for the night, if you are EBF you will still have to wake up as needed to do the feeds.

For your baby i would ask what your bedtime routine is? When is evening bathtime? Try and work it out that after evening bath, do some baby massage, feed and put him down to sleep. Keep the times and routines consistent and they will eventually get used to it.

Unfortunately babies dont have working body clock that young, but their perception of night and day should start kicking in at about 3 months. So hopefully it will get better.


Also as someone has said if the baby is not crying, put him in his cot and leave him.. he will eventually sleep. Dont feel that you have to carry the baby as he is awake or you have to rock to sleep in your arms everytime because he will get used to being carried and rocked to sleep...... that in itself is major drama when they get older.

FINA4804:
feed your baby very well even if she does not sleep on time, she will not cry. Or don't allow her to sleep from 5pm

Tnx

babythug:


It's typical of newborns to stay awake till late sometimes! I am doing vigilante as I type this for eg- the individual is 6 weeks

What do you need a nanny for? Just to help with bed time routine or other stuff?

Probably your mil is tired and already has her own bedtime routine which includes sleeping at 9pm, I don't see what the crime in that is!

But that's my opinion! Especially if she's helpful in other areas and at other times!

As per childcare what exactly did you have in mind and what was the agreement when your mil moved in? For me I've learnt that it may be easier for everyone if there's an extra or alternative child care arrangement e.g nanny in addition to having your mil around!

You can look for someone and your excuse/story will be that the extra hand will ease mil of some of the stress.. But remember that nanny may not join you in vigilante after caring for baby all day!

I hope my comment has helped you further expand your options and thoughts on the subject good luck

Thank babythug...she only help with bathing the baby, I do all other things in the house
I just need someone to help especially at night since I want to resume work and keeping up till that late,I don't know how I can cope at work
Or is there a way I can make her sleep early? She is not on EBF

AlphaHandMaiden:



Is it that your MIL is not helping at all only during the night? Or is it that she is not helping AT ALL?
I agree with babythug, MIL may just need a rest and these seems to be a bit of misunderstanding of roles here....i. e what you expect of her and her own interpretation of what she can help with.

It is sometimes easier to assume someone's intentions (you to your MIL) or that someone is coping fine (your MIL to you). i dont know the relationship you have with MIL, but sometimes i find it easier to actually ASK for help. It may be something as simple as her not wanting to encroach as some mothers feel..invaded when some grandmas ( from both sides) swing in all guns blazing and totally take over childcare.

And also be aware that "help or assisitance" comes in different forms. If someone is helping only with meals for instance.... it shouldnt be underestimated.

Bear in mind that even if she or anyone else takes the baby for the night, if you are EBF you will still have to wake up as needed to do the feeds.

For your baby i would ask what your bedtime routine is? When is evening bathtime? Try and work it out that after evening bath, do some baby massage, feed and put him down to sleep. Keep the times and routines consistent and they will eventually get used to it.

Unfortunately babies dont have working body clock that young, but their perception of night and day should start kicking in at about 3 months. So hopefully it will get better.


Also as someone has said if the baby is not crying, put him in his cot and leave him.. he will eventually sleep. Dont feel that you have to carry the baby as he is awake or you have to rock to sleep in your arms everytime because he will get used to being carried and rocked to sleep...... that in itself is major drama when they get older.

Thanks Mama...she starts to cry if I put her down in her cot and u don't play with,although she can be there laughing but u must laugh with her or she starts crying. I think she is already used to been rocked to sleep cos she doesn't sleep on her own. Pls what do I do?

mamamj:



Thanks Mama...she starts to cry if I put her down in her cot and u don't play with,although she can be there laughing but u must laugh with her or she starts crying. I think she is already used to been rocked to sleep cos she doesn't sleep on her own. Pls what do I do?

For me I will say give it time. She doesn't know night and day yet dats why. Before 4months she will adjust. Can you delay bathing her to like 8pm and feeding her immediately after.
As for resumption, you will have few days of headache but your body will adjust. Dooo

mamamj:



Thanks Mama...she starts to cry if I put her down in her cot and u don't play with,although she can be there laughing but u must laugh with her or she starts crying. I think she is already used to been rocked to sleep cos she doesn't sleep on her own. Pls what do I do?

I wish i could give a sure fire solution but here are some tips that worked for me.

If the cot is by your bed or it is one of those bedside / co sleeping type basinets that allows easy arm reach, what worked for me is to just put my hand on the baby when she stirs and just pat without eye contact. That way she still knows you are there. As i believe it is for them to know they are not alone.
Your arm is likely to cramp up a bit from being in an awkward position but to get even 30 mins more of sleep.... totally worth it.

Shushing also helps, and keep the light low or dim. Get a bed side lamp with a low energy bulb, or a little night lamp with LEDs that isnt too bright. So you dont have to turn on a 100 watt bulb that will wipe out the little sleep from everyones eye.

Once fed, and burped, lay them down and if they start to wimper or cry, patting and a bit of singing helps... i have gone the full circle from "kpo ya chukwu no ga za", "to twinkle twinkle little star" to "yo gon make me loose my mind! Up in here, up in here!"

As long as they are fed, burped and with a dry nappy, just resist the urge to pick them up at every wimper. For night time feeds, get clinical about it... no "faffing" about - if you are changing the nappy, do it BEFORE their feed. Once fed ( likely to sleep off during the feed) gently burp and lay them back down to sleep, pat and shush as required.

Even if it means lying down beside them in the daytime to pat them to sleep. Gradually you will reduce the patting and just laying a hand on their tummy will be enough. And gradually they wont even need you to fall asleep.

Also babies have a keen sense of smell and they learn to recognise their parents based on smell first before eyesight so it may help to carry around her cot bedding on you for a while or lay it on your bed and sleep on it for a day or two, so your "smell" is on her sheets. Sounds weird but it works!

Also being too quiet sometimes is the issue. I used to leave the tv on sometimes and keep the volume just audible, as i also used the light from the tv as a night light... but i will admit this is not ideal if you are a light sleeper and you have work to go to the next day. A small radio with some classical or relaxing music on low volume may be better. You may also find it soothing for yourself as well.

All the best.

Oh one more thing: since he is not EBF, arrange formular already measured out in bottles and warm water in a flask and hubby and mil can help wirh one or 2 of the night or early morning feeds.... in fact you should allocate one night feed to hubby so you can get a 3 to 4 hour stretch of sleep. childcare na joint effort. All hands are required. But as i said before if you dont ask for help, everyone will assume you are coping fine.

mamamj:
Hello mamas,am a FTM...nice work u guys are doing here.Please my 2months old doesn't sleep at night till around 1 or 2am and am due to start work in 2weeks. Though my mil is around but she is not helping,she sleeps once it's 9pm and doesn't help to put her to sleep even when she stays up crying,pls what shud I do as it may seem somehow if I go get a nanny when she is still around

Very few babies sleep all night before 3 months. You could try the following tricks:

1. Bathe baby early e.g. 6pm. He'll probably fall asleep after his bath. If he doesn't, someone should play with him so he gets tired.

2. Retire to bed early e.g. 8pm. Put off the lights in the room, read a story using torchlight, play a torchlight game, pray, change his diapers rock him to sleep, etc. He's sure to sleep before 9pm if he's away from tv and light.

3. Feed him before he wakes up. Once he starts doing cooo coo feed him while you're both half asleep. Me I arrange mine one kind at my breast and sleep off but I won't advice you to do same :-)

4. Avoid changing his diaper at night, he is sure to wake up if you do.

5. After 4.30am/ 5am feed, hand him over to DH or MIL without any explanation or negotiation. Just dump him. And sleep! Trust me that 5am sleep is veeery sweet and refreshing!

I understand if you feel upset with MIL, but na you born pikin o, better gear up to handle your blessing. God will strengthen you.

rezzy:
See my almost 7 months old son, he has started behaving like his brother. His brother removed the bottom drawer and used it has drum, while he is trying to remove his

Your little boy has lovely hair

Pretty mamas good morning.... How una dey??

Abeg make una help me suggest small. My President has this cough that scares me, Nurse recommended Neofylin syrup + Erythromycin syrup yet its still persisting. Maybe am expecting sharp sharp result.... Can you suggest an effective syrup plzzz??


cc : helovesme , soonest, zaynie(I would have tried that your oil & st louis sugar solution but the sugar no dey my area), liftedhands, alphahandmaiden e.t.c

babythug:


Do watch him carefully please and don't delay to get to a hospital as soon as you can do so ! Give him a shower with lukewarm water to abate the fever! As per greenish poo there's something wrong with his diet or its an infection!

FINA4804:
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The poo in itself should not be an issue. greenish poo is quite normal in babies, however because of the vomiting, Take him to the doctor to rule out any nasties.

thank u all so much. will do that asap

tyconcepts:
Pretty mamas good morning.... How una dey??

Abeg make una help me suggest small. My President has this cough that scares me, Nurse recommended Neofylin syrup + Erythromycin syrup yet its still persisting. Maybe am expecting sharp sharp result.... Can you suggest an effective syrup plzzz??


cc : helovesme , soonest, zaynie(I would have tried that your oil & st louis sugar solution but the sugar no dey my area), liftedhands, alphahandmaiden e.t.c

How old is your baby ?

You need to have a doctor not a nurse listen to his breathing using a stethoscope. He might actually need antibiotics.

Usually if a cough persists for more than 7-10 days or if it sounds very chesty, a mild course of antibiotics is recommended ahd it's proven to work.

Jewel90:
Hapi sunday beautiful mamas in d house.....pls is any mama using Eldorin my boy(formula)I want 2 knw if its gud.

I'm using it for my dd. She rejected sma gold so I tried Eldorin and she takes it without any struggling or throwing up

helovesme:


How old is your baby ?

You need to have a doctor not a nurse listen to his breathing using a stethoscope. He might actually need antibiotics.

Usually if a cough persists for more than 7-10 days or if it sounds very chesty, a mild course of antibiotics is recommended ahd it's proven to work.

He is 11months old.... Antibiotics is why Erythromycin was recommended. So I will continue on it then.

Rezzy has inspired me! We are doing #ThreadBabies today!

Everyone, please share pics of our LOs. Let us see the cause of Mummy's constant presence on NL . We promise to take them down before the end of the day (so safety). Use the hashtag #Threadbabies

#Threadbabies This was at the beach. We had a small water runoff so she sat there and paddled and played with seashells. When I decided to take her to the waves, she hated it! We met another lovely little girl who helped us pick several seashells to add to our growing collection. By God's grace, we will all be able to one day pick seashells on different beaches around the world.

#Threadbabies we're exactly 4months today

Prettyhurts:
#Threadbabies we're exactly 4months today

And you're giving her the remote control...okay na, prepare to spend the next couple of months fighting with her before you watch anything

Onegai:


And you're giving her the remote control...okay na, prepare to spend the next couple of months fighting with her before you watch anything

She won't allow me to press my phone oo. So I gave her the remote control so I can rest. She's teething and I don't want her to drool on my phone screen.

Prettyhurts:


She won't allow me to press my phone oo. So I gave her the remote control so I can rest. She's teething and I don't want her to drool on my phone screen.

happy 4 months old to her.

tyconcepts:
Pretty mamas good morning.... How una dey??

Abeg make una help me suggest small. My President has this cough that scares me, Nurse recommended Neofylin syrup + Erythromycin syrup yet its still persisting. Maybe am expecting sharp sharp result.... Can you suggest an effective syrup plzzz??


cc : helovesme , soonest, zaynie(I would have tried that your oil & st louis sugar solution but the sugar no dey my area), liftedhands, alphahandmaiden e.t.c

Erythromycin should take care of the cough. What dose are you giving?

AlphaHandMaiden:



Is it that your MIL is not helping at all only during the night? Or is it that she is not helping AT ALL?
I agree with babythug, MIL may just need a rest and these seems to be a bit of misunderstanding of roles here....i. e what you expect of her and her own interpretation of what she can help with.

It is sometimes easier to assume someone's intentions (you to your MIL) or that someone is coping fine (your MIL to you). i dont know the relationship you have with MIL, but sometimes i find it easier to actually ASK for help. It may be something as simple as her not wanting to encroach as some mothers feel..invaded when some grandmas ( from both sides) swing in all guns blazing and totally take over childcare.

And also be aware that "help or assisitance" comes in different forms. If someone is helping only with meals for instance.... it shouldnt be underestimated.

Bear in mind that even if she or anyone else takes the baby for the night, if you are EBF you will still have to wake up as needed to do the feeds.

For your baby i would ask what your bedtime routine is? When is evening bathtime? Try and work it out that after evening bath, do some baby massage, feed and put him down to sleep. Keep the times and routines consistent and they will eventually get used to it.

Unfortunately babies dont have working body clock that young, but their perception of night and day should start kicking in at about 3 months. So hopefully it will get better.


Also as someone has said if the baby is not crying, put him in his cot and leave him.. he will eventually sleep. Dont feel that you have to carry the baby as he is awake or you have to rock to sleep in your arms everytime because he will get used to being carried and rocked to sleep...... that in itself is major drama when they get older.

Will sure try this out
Thank you so much
The way u freely give out advise is amazing
God bless u and ur LO

Tojued:


Very few babies sleep all night before 3 months. You could try the following tricks:

1. Bathe baby early e.g. 6pm. He'll probably fall asleep after his bath. If he doesn't, someone should play with him so he gets tired.

2. Retire to bed early e.g. 8pm. Put off the lights in the room, read a story using torchlight, play a torchlight game, pray, change his diapers rock him to sleep, etc. He's sure to sleep before 9pm if he's away from tv and light.

3. Feed him before he wakes up. Once he starts doing cooo coo feed him while you're both half asleep. Me I arrange mine one kind at my breast and sleep off but I won't advice you to do same :-)

4. Avoid changing his diaper at night, he is sure to wake up if you do.

5. After 4.30am/ 5am feed, hand him over to DH or MIL without any explanation or negotiation. Just dump him. And sleep! Trust me that 5am sleep is veeery sweet and refreshing!

I understand if you feel upset with MIL, but na you born pikin o, better gear up to handle your blessing. God will strengthen you.

Thanks so much Tojued

soonest:

Erythromycin should take care of the cough. What dose are you giving?

5ml twice daily. Okay??

Baby Sophie @ 11 months plus. She can walk now.
Pls o you pple should help me ask her if that's a good position for pooing and while she's smiling and waving while doing serious business. Lol #threadbabies#

#ThreadBabies Princess Olivia at the mall!
She will be a year exactly a week from today (29th).
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Thanks everyone for the likes
Pic removed

#threadbabies#
1.pristine ready 4 church
2.selfie time with momma

cutiereborn:
#ThreadBabies Princess Olivia at the mall!
She will be a year exactly a week from today (29th).

Pics not showing, ma'am. And more importantly,

How are you planning on reaching everyone's hand with cake in a week's time??

ozycy:
Baby Sophie @ 11 months plus. She can walk now.
Pls o you pple should help me ask her if that's a good position for pooing and while she's smiling and waving while doing serious business. Lol #threadbabies#

Give Sophie an award for sitting that long and even smiling! Rofemiguwa, Pristine is super-cute!

Potential in-laws, contact the Mothers now and start negotiating o!

My twins last night.
Pic 1:say cheese
Pic 2:Oyin to Jaiye I say give it to me
#threadbabies

Onegai:


Pics not showing, ma'am. And more importantly,

How are you planning on reaching everyone's hand with cake in a week's time??

oops, just noticed that. Working on attaching it.
As for cake delivery, her fairy-god-mother will make sure all mummies here.