Both my dad and my mum played part in me becoming who I am today. I’m now 37 years old, a married man and a father.

When I was young, my dad worked hard to provide money for my schooling, and my mom also worked hard to make sure I attended schools regularly, following me to school. My dad spent money, and my mom spent enormous effort.

I’m their only child.

They’ve now advanced in age, and there’s one thing I don’t like which my dad still does. He beats my mom. I know my mom can sometimes not stop being saucy, despite the fact that they’ve been living together for 37 years.

I’ve a good job and provide for both of them without favoritism. I send provisions and money and a visit them once in a while.

While my mom has her faults, I think my dad should’ve gotten used to her antics. At that age, he still beats her. I used to witness this when I was very young and still living with them. I was small and clueless then.

I thought my dad ought to have gotten used to how my mom behaves, but he still thinks he can teach her some lessons.

It’s shame for me whenever their neighbors phone me, telling me that my mom has been beaten and stripped naked by my dad. Sometimes, the neighbors would rush in to save her.

His family members and I have pleaded with him countless times, but nothing has changed.

He’s my dad and I don’t want his curse. I need his blessings. I still love him.

What should I do? Should I confront him? Should I tackle him the next time he lays his hands on my mom?

Should I continue to watch helplessly as my mom is being beaten?

Please advise me!


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Talk to your mother to stop being saucy. She should stop finding papa trouble. On the other hand, it might just be what keeps them going Maybe you should invite them to stay at your place for a while and monitor them both. All the best.

As lame as u may see my reply, It's a bitter truth maybe to a greater extent.

I think an evil spirit is at work here, Your father needs an intense prayer and deliverance. I think you have to take this serious, seek d face of God in his case.

Fighting him won't change anything. So act wisely.

shalom

Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

Cry baby
You know what to do and still you need people to tell you attest it so that you can do....
You are mature enough to know than your mom is not a punching bag
If i was in your place only one sentence

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
she is my mom and i wont let her suffer

My view please dont take any offence

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

what a terrible comment

Beating a woman, especially your wife is termed a domestic abused.

kindly advise your dad, give him reasons why he should stop hitting his wife. If he continues, report him to the police; he would see your seriousness in making the family united.
he should show undoubting affections towards her and expect nothing more.

and for your mum: women can be very annoying - but that's their default settings!

Tell her to behave like a wife and not a chick
Tell her to be quiet and see positive results
Tell her if she continues, you would ban them from visiting your home.
just try and bring them together with carefully chosen words.

#MyOpinion

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

It's not hard to recognise one from such upbringing

Well done my brother

Dyt:


It's not hard to recognise one from such upbringing

Well done my brother

Upbringing? Nah..my mom has been with my dad for more than 25years...and he has never raised his hand in her...
But have seen alot of ladies, infact I know alot of ladies who enjoy being beaten by their husbandz or boyfriend..
Cos I don't understand why a lady would remain in an abusive relationship if not simply because she enjoys it..

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

What are you saying? An Old Lady with a 37 year old son loves to be beaten? It isn't cool

Op, I think you should confront your Dad first, explain things to him like a matured man, tell him outwardly how you feel with the way he's treating the woman that brought you to the world. If he doesn't adhere to it, take it to higher grounds.
Your mom isn't growing younger and one day, you might hear he has beaten her to death. Do something about it, and do it fast.

I see no reason why a man of that age should portray such irresponsible Character.

sunnydayasaba:
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I think an evil spirit is at work here, Your father needs an intense prayer and deliverance. I think you have to take this serious,
shalom

Leave Evil Spirit out of this...

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.
If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..
Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

Never ever raise your hand on a woman, instead use other emotional means that will do the beating.


@Op

How did you survive it while growing from Junior class till marriage?

What is Her family doing about it?

If you cannot talk to you're mum or dad then they still take you as a Kid.


Only you cannot solve the issue as it has grown beyond repair


It should have been solved earlier on then the understanding will be built.

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

wharris this ?

Stay out of it!

Your mother hasn't asked for your help, has she?

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

Says a lot about the kind you roll with and so about you.

Dyt:


It's not hard to recognise one from such upbringing

Well done my brother

nor is it hard to recognise a lady whose partner continued to beat her just after the father stopped..

God is your strength my sister!

Mindfulness:


Says a lot about the kind you roll with and so about you.

nah honey..
'I still love him' with big bandage on her head...have u not seen girls like that? I have seen a lot..I know a lot.
they simply love the beating.

I have never raised my hand on a woman...and I will never do that.

Domestic violence usually doesn't end until one person is resting in the grave.

DLondonboiy:


nah honey..
'I still love him' with big bandage on her head...have u not seen girls like that? I have seen a lot..I know a lot.
they simply love the beating.

You spoke of women in general, didn't you?

I have never raised my hand on a woman...and I will never do that.

Then stick to those mentally healthy ones and you won't have to.

Mindfulness:


You spoke of women in general, didn't you?



Then stick to those mentally healthy ones and you won't have to.

I generalized..my bad!

mentally healthy...you are not in any way trying to suggest that the op's mom ....
lemme mind my business ....bye!

DLondonboiy:


nor is it hard to recognise a lady whose partner continued to beat her just after the father stopped..

God is your strength my sister!

Did you just think if it over again?

DLondonboiy:


I generalized..my bad!

mentally healthy...you are not in any way trying to suggest that the op's mom ....
lemme mind my business ....bye!

You are wicked.

DLondonboiy:


Upbringing? Nah..my mom has been with my dad for more than 25years...and he has never raised his hand in her...
But have seen alot of ladies, infact I know alot of ladies who enjoy being beaten by their husbandz or boyfriend..
Cos I don't understand why a lady would remain in an abusive relationship if not simply because she enjoys it..

fact

Dyt:


It's not hard to recognise one from such upbringing

Well done my brother

Hahaaaaa, you be clown my dear,you are looking for trouble o, abi you are speaking from experience too?after all,bro asked for help or contributions,so are you vexing?

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

You sure you don't have some mental issues disturbing you

Bros, your popsy na military man?why na ,after over 30yrs, he needs a brain reset, that means he is not a godly man,that means he didn't raise you up,to be a perfect gentle man o!,my prayer for you is that you do not toll the same horrible path, your dad need be taught a serious lesson o, he already has grand children and still behaving this way,thought they are supposed to get better and better with attitude, ask him if he will advice you to always do same whenever your spouse provokes you,listen to him talk, then you will be able to know the next step to take.

If the OP has child or children, he should use them to blackmail their parent..

Just say that A and B was having a misunderstanding and A decides to beat B.. and when u called A for a heart to heart talk, he says but grandpa beats grandma....

That day, u almost died of shame, that u do not know what to say... etc.. it could make him realize what he has been doing.. because i know a lot of men love their grandkids..

I expect your mom to have drawn a line and put a stop to this all these years.She's in the best position to stop the abuse.

Talk to your dad too 'man-to-man'.Age should have made him mellow.

DLondonboiy:


Upbringing? Nah..my mom has been with my dad for more than 25years...and he has never raised his hand in her...
But have seen alot of ladies, infact I know alot of ladies who enjoy being beaten by their husbandz or boyfriend..
Cos I don't understand why a lady would remain in an abusive relationship if not simply because she enjoys it..

You are right.. If not I also wonder how some women can stay so long with a man who beats them. A colleague friend of mine said, she would love her husband to beat her, even if it a slap or use a whip on her, cos it will make her realise she needs to be a good girl and also the make up sex afterwards is so sweet.. I was like WTF ... I looked at her and am like you know what? There's something wrong with you, upstairs.. Sorry but u are crazy!
She shook her head and said noo, shes not crazy that it's good! And that her dad still beats her at age 22... I said what? My God! No wonder..

Mehn, it's a crazy world out there.. Different peeps with what rocks their boat.


. No. Mind other nlders castigating you.. My dear, some women enjoys it, every blessed day.. Lol

NgcoboP:

what a terrible comment

What do you expect from a wife beater or beater to be?
It's more disgusting and less terrible.

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

lol guy u don wacko b4

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

whose uncle is dis?

DLondonboiy:
Oga, don't disturb yourself.

If there is anything I've learnt in my few years on earth is that women love to be beating..
If you dare interupt ya dad while he is beating ya mom..ya dad won't curse you..ya mom will..

Women love men that beat them...Forget all those cry and running around....they love it!!

whose uncle is dis?

Amelian:




You are right.. If not I also wonder how some women can stay so long with a man who beats them. A colleague friend of mine said, she would love her husband to beat her, even if it a slap or use a whip on her, cos it will make her realise she needs to be a good girl and also the make up sex afterwards is so sweet.. I was like WTF ... I looked at her and am like you know what? There's something wrong with you, upstairs.. Sorry but u are crazy!
She shook her head and said noo, shes not crazy that it's good! And that her dad still beats her at age 22... I said what? My God! No wonder..

Mehn, it's a crazy world out there.. Different peeps with what rocks their boat.


. No. Mind other nlders castigating you.. My dear, some women enjoys it, every blessed day.. Lol

thank you..