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|What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Ezkid: 11:12pm On Apr 15|
Well as an African I believe it's disrespectful and rude to diss or called out my mom for her unhealthy attitudes but I think its high time I make it public so people who has witnessed or experience such can give to me a valuable advice.
My mom was once a successful hair dresser and she was the breadwinner of our family until she became born again, she abruptly stopped plating hair for her customers based on what she tagged "unbiblical" She basically affirmed that she'll never touch attachments and synthetic hair again in her life and ever since then things hasn't been going smoothly again.
My Dad now has got a Rick Ross fatlike woman as a second wife and I think the whole situations has taken its toll on my mom's mental health, she's literally cut herself off from the outside world and everything always mean something extra terrestrial to her.
My Mom would see a gecko on the wall and believe it was sent from hell to drag her to the underground, We always packed from one apartment to the other thanks to her intolerance toward other people. Omg! She'll always find faults with her co tenants, everybody is either a witch or a spy from the underworld.
There's one thing she did that convinced me she's struggling from mental instability, we packed out from one house to a flat like apartment, do u believe my mom went back there and packed the huge rocks we used to make fire? She tagged them as her property which can never be left behind, she'll play with u today only to become unresponsive when u greet her tomorrow, she stopped her work almost 20 years ago and ever since then has become a liability on my dad and a burden on us the children, it disgusts me to feed her with my hard earned money when she's hale and healthy, she's the reason my dad was unable to send me to the university because the burden is too much on him.
What I find ridiculous about her is her mindset, her mind was wired to believe we owed her a living when in reality it's the opposite, when my dad is unable to send money she'll become so tensed and angry, its so annoying how she find it difficult to realize she is the PROBLEM of the family.
Pls I need good advice on what kind of help we the children can seek on her behalf cos its obvious she needs help. Thanks all.
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Earthbound(m): 11:20pm On Apr 15|
The disdain you feel towards your mother is unnatural. The church your mom became born again into is the root of all your problems
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Nedfed(m): 11:21pm On Apr 15|
Just need sum1 to summaries dis 4 me
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Ezkid: 11:26pm On Apr 15|
Earthbound:Its not really like I feel disdain towards her but she the architect of her problem and the PROBLEM is affecting the whole family but she failed to realize she herself is the PROBLEM!
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by IamD18: 11:31pm On Apr 15|
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by daben1(m): 11:31pm On Apr 15|
she left her work because she's born again thinking manna will fall or God will come down to feed her...
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by OneCorner: 11:32pm On Apr 15|
Ezkid:no mind ur mama... she no get sense
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Earthbound(m): 11:41pm On Apr 15|
What is the problem exactly? That she can't fend for herself or what?
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by daben1(m): 11:42pm On Apr 15|
OneCorner:his story doesn't warrant this. even if you're not yet mature, pretend to be!
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Lonergem(m): 11:52pm On Apr 15|
receive sense in Jesus name
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Lifeofpolice1(m): 11:55pm On Apr 15|
Bea say goodnight
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Ezkid: 11:55pm On Apr 15|
Earthbound:Yes! Her inability to contribute to the well being of the family is the result of her decision to stop working, She's been jobless for two decades under the pretence of becoming born again, and she's not really serving the God she left everything for cos her intolerance for others is far from anything Christlike.
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by OneCorner: 11:57pm On Apr 15|
Lifeofpolice1:see ur life
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Collins0609(m): 12:26am On Apr 16|
My mom is dead,as in real dead.i remember blaming her for some things;i wish she is alive today causing me a lot of trouble;been my burden.i wil give her everything only to make her happy and more troublesome.u own her,she didnt kill u when u are a child and spent a lot to c u grow as u are now.i remember my mum carrying me and running all d way to d hospital when am sick.i love my mum.i only wish she is alive today.u dont know what u have unless u lose it.u mom prayers is what keeping spiritual and evil minded person to get to u.u life,ur choice.
Over an out
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by kestolove95(f): 2:52am On Apr 16|
ova 20yrs of marriage ur dad still keep ur mum in rented apartment? nd he has money to marry another liability instead thinking towards an asset? ur dad is the problem, beta leave that woman alone and u guys own her alot..mothers ar never wrong even when we think dey ar..
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by GraGra247: 3:59am On Apr 16|
The hype, love and respect for mothers and fathers is very excellent and healthy but make no mistake there are parents that are very bad examples.
Unfortunately the Society makes it a taboo for individuals to complain about the bad influence of their parents.
This is totally wrong and its the kind of thing that leads to for instance a father carnally abusing the daughter and the daughter keeping mute out of fear that society will accuse her of disrespect and contempt for her dad.
You're doing the right thing by coming foward with things you consider your mom is doing wrong so ignore anybody that will accuse you of disrespect and contempt.
Just try to deal with the problem of your mom but be sure to include a high level of COURTESY AND RESPECT for her every inch of the way else you'll ruin it.
If she stopped making hair, there are so many other businesses she can do. You can help her open a store, a restaurant or food item business if you can afford.
Getting her busy will give her less time to bother the tenants and neighbors and other nasty things you complained about.
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by happy200: 4:00am On Apr 16|
Ezkid:It it's a mental issue then safe up and take her to hospital.
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by victorian(f): 5:54am On Apr 16|
Has it ever occurred to you and everyone at home, that she's tired of working?
She simply need a break and she has finally hang her boots on working all day for the upkeep of the family.
She simply want to rest at her old age. So let her be.
Go and hustle. You are still. Young and vibrant.
And lastly don't compare your family with others, or else u will always find faults in your mum.
Everyone in the home, should Appreciate her, love her, respect her and see how she will change from been troublesome to calm and soft mother.
She is simply tired!
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by highpriestess: 5:59am On Apr 16|
what religion has done to people. so pathetic.
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Madukaele(m): 6:16am On Apr 16|
you just talked about my mum. I stopped sending her money.
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Sparkle777(f): 6:47am On Apr 16|
Pls open another religious friendly business for her,make it easy and stress free for her. Follow her to her church, get to know them and even complain to them. That ur fathers new wife sef,I hardly trust women like that, their jazz can upset the brains of the first wife. Ur Papa no do well oo.
Believe me,one day u will wish she were alive even wit her kolo. Somebody said here,he or she doesn't give the mom money anymore, hmmm trust African Mama curse,e go follow u die. Retrace and be nice to her,NO MATTER what.
Another thing,poster. I see ur detest and overly hatred for ur mom, pls also work on ur self. Most children end up suffering what happened to their parents. So u wouldn't want ur kids treating u wit such disdain,right?
As Mother Theresa said, if u want to change the world,go home and love ur family.
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by LieDetector(m): 6:53am On Apr 16|
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by Ezkid: 7:39am On Apr 16|
victorian:She's 51 now and she stopped the work over 15 years ago and she's tired ever since? We tried setting up other cake business but she always squandered the money, give her 100k today and she won't be able to account for it the following week. We've left her to become what she wants to be.
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by eleojo23: 7:56am On Apr 16|
Looking at her age, the feelings of paranoia and irrational behaviour are signs that she might be going through a rough menopause. For some women, it starts as early as age 40.
In this phase, such women act as if they have bipolar disorder and they begin to carry their religious beliefs to the extreme because they think they have a heightened sixth sense and that they can see what everyone else is not seeing.
All these can make life difficult for her family members and it really takes a lot of patience to cope with them during this phase
If you can convince her to see a doctor, he may be able to help her with hormone replacement therapy.
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by victorian(f): 8:49am On Apr 16|
Not every woman can work till 80years or 100years old.
Every woman body mechanism is different. So let her be and appreciate her presence until God calls her.
Do u know there are some young wives who do not wish to work. Have seen young married women who prefer to stay at home, breed kids, cook and simply attend to home duties, than go out there and hustle. Women of 26, 30,35,40, etc. They are everywhere world wide.
They just want to be housewife and there is nothing there husband can do about it, than to manage the situation.
So it's good, u all have left her to do her own thing.
My landlady she's 50years old, her husband is late. She doesn't work. All she does is collect rents from houses the late husband has built down. Then her grown up children, who lives abroad and also in Lagos. Pays her ticket fee to go spend vacations with them in UK, for like 3months before coming back to Nigeria. She has maids, she has some shops her daughters are handling for her.
All she does, is keep tabs of her rents and small businesses by the side, then sometimes organize birthday parties for herself.
What will u say about this one? Is she not a woman? Is she old? Just 50years. She doesn't work but enjoys life. While their is a 65years old lady cleaning our surroundings three times a week with other compounds on the street. This woman will work her heart out, after cleaning I will see her carrying bottles on her head, she's heading to the market to sell palm oil.
U can see the difference. Every woman with her own kadara, as Yoruba will say it.
So just accept your mum like that.
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|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by rychard(m): 9:07am On Apr 16|
Its a mental thing, and its extremely extremely hard to work on, if you draw her attention to it, you'll become the devil , if you use aggression , she'll see it as unjust persecution, no action you take that won't be viewed by her from the spiritual side of it.
She will only change by her own personal introspection or retrospection, you just have to make her begin to questions her religious beliefs,
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by McBrooklyn(m): 9:16am On Apr 16|
|Re: What Is Wrong With My Mom? by tribalmall: 9:38am On Apr 16|
You no get sense I swear
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