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Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Pwettyella(f): 4:58pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
chardyni:because of ur Son |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by mikolo80: 5:46pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
wonukwuru:you no see all this when you marry her. Which kin mumu talk be all this |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by chardyni(m): 5:50pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Pwettyella:My son will still be schooled without her. Also if I remarry i expect the new wife to take care of my son. So all parties should win. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by JustOzito(f): 5:58pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Fourwinds: y are you pained? allow the op to answer pls |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by chibuzorAbia: 5:59pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
BEFORE I FORGET! OP you may not know it now but you already have signed a contract with POVERTY! 3 live children and one on the way......yet you are not loaded with 6 zero bank balance. Have you bought land? You live in your own house? You can feed and educate the 4 kids if your job suddenly goes? And yet you are coming Yaaaaa! full honey pot. Divorce cannot solve your problem bro! Your contract is almost signed sealed and delivered o! |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by fayded(m): 6:17pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
lofty900: hahahahahhahahaha..lwkmd..brother..dt last sentence off me kpata kpata maximum respect..bro..nice one dia..probably d funniest comment I've read here 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 6:41pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
fayded:Thanks |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Lagban(m): 6:42pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
berrye:lol. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by dultmax(m): 7:16pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
My dear.... You can't have it all... Please I want you to know that that woman despite all her externalties gave you 1. Life.... You may think you have a life before you married her but... Ask people with good job and a wrong woman.. 2. Children.... They are the beauty of life... It may seem you have your own plan but I swear... You will be happy at the end of d day 3.Health...you didn't complain about the health of her children... Rather they are brilliant kids 4.loyal....u did not complain she's being unfaithful to you... I can continue counting..... She is not just your type but she is a key to your success.... She is not an angel... So embrace her and find a way to fix her 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Fourwinds: 7:25pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
JustOzito:I mean pretender yet they claim to know God so much by md number times they visit church or mosque.... nothing looks so beautiful like presenting urself exactly what u are. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Pwettyella(f): 7:54pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
chardyni:Ok ooo, I wish u bst of luck |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by iukpe: 8:12pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
mikolo80:When someone has made a mistake it can be described in Naija as mumu tins. Mumu action leads to mistakes. But can he get remedy? |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by JustOzito(f): 8:49pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
[quote author=Fourwinds post=52532600]I mean pretender yet they claim to know God so much by md number times they visit church or mosque.... nothing looks so beautiful like presenting urself exactly what u are.[/quote yes I can't help but agree with you, although it is not gender specific. that's why we must pray for discerning spirit. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by drealj: 8:56pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
maxti:most funniest comment on nairaland I have come across.3 gbosa for u. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by eyinjuege: 9:15pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
chardyni: How is she endangering the health and wellbeing of her children? Because she doesn't speak good English? Or because her dress sense is wack? On another note, everyone seems to assume the wife is unintelligent because she doesn't speak well, or finished with a third class. There are some people with really poor grades in school who change courses and start shining through. She may have just studied the wrong course for whatever reason. I wouldn't even want to go through the challenges house wives face, especially if the children are not yet in high school. They do face their own challenges that many husbands would rather face a tsunami than stay home alone with the kids for one week. I don't think anyone should stay in an unhappy marriage, but, I don't think the OPs woes would be gone after a divorce. You are stuck with this woman for life through your four children whether you both remarry or not. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by chibuzorAbia: 9:22pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
dultmax: Check your brain, not in this day and age. Especially when you have more than your resources can maintain properly. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by wonukwuru(m): 10:11pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
ThierryJay: |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Origin(f): 10:11pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
uboma: Sorry to digress: Actually there at safe family planning procedures for men. It is entirely inconsiderate to expect women to do this for her family. Men should please explore the options open to them for family planning. Wife go suffer childbirth. Suffer family planning join. I beg o. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by mikolo80: 10:17pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
iukpe:he should go on his knees and beg her to arrange herself or he should beat her into shape |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by uboma(m): 10:56pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Origin: lol. Your point is duly noted Ma'am. Happy New Year. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Kobicove(m): 12:27am On Jan 05, 2017 |
I believe you saw the signs when you were courting but you delibrately ignored them |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Raymond4kc: 1:03am On Jan 05, 2017 |
THE SCHOOL CALLED MARRIAGE Marriage is the only school where you get the Certificate before you start. It's also a school where you will never graduate. It's a school without a break or a free period. It's a school where no one is allowed to drop out. It's a school you will have to attend every day of your life. It's a school where there is no sick leave or holidays. It's a school founded by God: 1.On the foundation of love. 2.The walls are made out of trust. 3.The door made out of acceptance. 4.The windows made out of understanding 5.The furniture made out of blessings 6.The roof made out of faith. Be reminded that you are just a student not the principal. God is the only Principal. Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run outside. Keep in mind that, this school is the safest place to be. Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day. Never forget the C-word...Communicate. Communicate with your classmate and with the Principal. If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate, Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So take it as a challenge and work on it together. Do not forget to study the Holy Book (the main textbook of this school). Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to. When tempted to quit find courage and continue. Some tests and exams may be tough but remember, the Principal knows how much you can bear and yet it's a school better than any other. It's one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace, and happiness accompany each lesson of the day. Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject. After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it. To be loved is a good thing, but to love is the greatest privilege of them all. Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse. More grace from God. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 3:24am On Jan 05, 2017 |
I think i know this op personally. you reside in the eastern part of nigeria, if yes, then you added some salt to the story, to make it sweet. i pray you are not who i think you are. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Theorytor: 6:53am On Jan 05, 2017 |
My broda is like all this gurls now are the same.... beauty without brain full every where. Buy your wife Porsche panamera now she will post on Instagram without thinking the problem that comes with it. All they wanted is pre-wedding fotos, honey moon, spend money and still tell you you are not trying at all... So many Bsc graduate holders in Nigeria doesnt even know what they read in school, and they lack COMMON SENSE. So my broda na everywhere d thing dey o. 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Theorytor: 6:58am On Jan 05, 2017 |
Kobicove: I believe he saw d signs but he ignored it... Love can make u overlook sometins but d minute dat love wear out a little, u get pissed. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by bejeria101(m): 10:25am On Jan 05, 2017 |
LordReed: Bros i tire o! |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by wonukwuru(m): 2:21pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
huntax: Im indeed surprised that you said this. How can you say that, if i truly love her, i will not complain about her dressing or diction? If i may ask, what part of the country are you from? Or do you want me to believe that you just want to comment because you can write? So, you will like your wife to be dressing like "Merry Amaka"? My dear, your dressing goes a long way to tell people how they will address you. If you are the type that dont dress well, personally i dress well. For your information, I have a class. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by wonukwuru(m): 2:43pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Theorytor: I know that, but its very surprising that a graduate cannot teach a primary 2 and primary 5 pupils. Even when the textbooks contains lots of solved examples. If she is an average student, i will understand. But the truth is that she is below average. Somebody that cannot write a formal and an informal letter, cannot send text message with a simple and correct english and does not even know her "safe period". In this era, a graduate cannot or does not know how to use the computer, does not know what Facebook, Whatsapp, etc is all about. I begin to imagine if the person is in this part of the world. Im complaining, and some persons are telling me that if i truly love her, i should over look all her faults. What kind of love are they talking about? A situation i will tell her to remove the clothe she is wearing and wear another one, and she ignores me. If its you, can you take such? I bought a car for her last year, she will also expect me to fuel the car for on every two days. She is expected to use the car to take my kids to school and bring them back, but she will use the car to run round the whole town and expects me to fuel it and my own car. If she was working or doing business, is she not the person to fuel the car? Must i be the one to do everything? My building project has stopped for over a year because no money to continue. We are still living in a rented apartment. The lady that you call your wife will not want to do anything to assist in the up-keep of the family. Of a truth, i married her when i have not gotten a job but she was not the person that contributed to my getting a job. We were dating when i was writting my professional exams (ICAN), if was reasonable and ready to learn, will she not have joined me seeing that we studied the same course in the university? For your information, I met her in the university. I was just a year ahead of her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by huntax(m): 3:20pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
wonukwuru:My point is, there was a certain way she was dressing before you married her, so what changed? There was also a certain way she was typing her texts before you married her? What changed also? Tens years of marriage is a long way for you to start complaining afterwards. Which comes to the point that you don't love her anymore, maybe you just don't know it yet. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by ThierryJay: 3:30pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
wonukwuru: Thank you too sir. I really wish you found a way out of this. But it is also obvious that while you have done a lot of things for her, you are now irritated by her actions and presence, which is understandable, but not beneficial in the long run. You still need to respect her as your wife and not see her as a pesky irritant. Afterall, you married her and frankly, I'm surprised you didn't notice any of the signs even if you were unemployed then. If you are able to make her see reason with you and know that you still value her, it should make the job of agreeing on and implementing her areas of development easier for both of you. The important thing is that she needs to recognize herself as a vital part of your marriage team, working for the best interests of the family as a whole; This is your most important task. Nonetheless, in implementing the above, please take into account her natural or intellectual limitations. Hence, things like ICAN should be out of it as it is even difficult enough for the intelligentsia. You will do best in structuring her developmental initiatives along her areas of interest. Though, you can also stretch her in areas like grammar, dressing, watching good intellectually stimulating movies and reading some books and general knowledge. In these areas, you will need to be very proactive to achieve results. Haba, all these to-dos within your already tight schedule. God will help you brother. Marriage is not for the faint-hearted. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Amgreat1(m): 11:08pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
This is what happen when U marry because of physical attraction & appearance. Beauty will definitely fail, but character does not. |
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