humilitypays:


If you lack the above 3 qualities, don't ever try to be like Nora before u end up like Opera Winfrey lol

Finally, Nora can't tell me she was an angel and never committed any crime against her first husband, because that will be total lies!‎

So you think you made sensible points? You can't even spell "Oprah"!

Igbo boys are the most handsome guys in Nigeria. We are blessed with beautiful women also. I'm proud to be Igbo.

And the MILF's are taking over...

Nancy2016:

So you would have preferred she left the marriage in a coffin? So she shouldn't move on with her life because she was unfortunate to get married to a wife-beater? It is because of people like you that women choose to stay in abusive relationships. What is there to resolve when the man has decided to live like a wild animal. Can you reason with that kind of person?

Ignore the child and his childish thoughts. It is important to highlight that the man, ex-husband is a cheat and a wife-beater. It is most often a full option specs of that category of men.

what an interesting end for her. Her ex will be so so bitter Now. God bless their union

lalasticlala:
Beautiful Mum Of 2 Who Walked Out Of An Abusive Marriage Marries A Young Igbo Man


Aishatu Ella John shared on facebook:



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If you like no advise girls on how to mend their marriages and homes. be deceiving them with this one-off.

And you seem like a mindless gold-digger too. Why did you emboldened "Canadian no visa wahala citizen"

As in, is that the measurement of a good husband?
Is a western visa a brand new life?

chineloSA:


I agree with you. Never been a fan of blended families. I feel for the kids, very awkward and difficult situation. It works for some families though with immense hardships to blend the family.

I also think these decisions are selfish and self serving and do not entirely consider the wellness of the kids involved.

Also studies show that divorcees are 70% more likely to divorce if they choose to marry again.

These comments are from a woman! So a woman's life ends when she divorces. So you had rather the kids watch their mother being battered on a regular basis and then they grow up thinking violence is acceptable? Or isn't it better for them to see what a loving, healthy relationship entails? Doesn't the new husband know about the kids and isn't there the possibility that he would love them just as he loves their mother? Don't women take care of their step children, so what stops men from doing the same thing?

Nancy2016:


So you think you made sensible points? You can't even spell "Oprah"!

‎Madam Nora, I am sorry, it was auto correct. If only u know who u are giving a kick lol

Getting married the second time isn't a guarantee that her second marriage will work. The 2nd husband can turn to a beast tomorrow, so let her wait small for say 10yrs before she start dancing around

Meanwhile, men that beat their girlfriend or wife are mentally insane, no man can try that with my sister or daughter, he will be in jail or in chains, except my sister or daughter hit him first and probably pushed her hubby beyond limits.

As for cheating, her 2nd husband will cheat on her more than the 1st husband, I know why I said that...the 2nd husband will always have‎ excuse to cheat on her, so madam Nora calm down for now and pray for a happy future instead indirectly castigating your 1st hubby!

Nora can't tell us she was so perfect in her 1st marriage without any fault‎

ephi123:


Haha!! Identify yourself first. Are you also HollGerman, or BritSpaniard or pure Belgium

I'm from Fernando po

humilitypays:
‎Madam Nora, I am sorry, it was auto correct. If only u know who u are giving a kick lol

Getting married the second time isn't a guarantee that her second marriage will work. The 2nd husband can turn to a beast tomorrow, so let her wait small for say 10yrs before she start dancing around

Meanwhile, men that beat their girlfriend or wife are mentally insane, no man can try that with my sister or daughter, he will be in jail or in chains, except my sister or daughter hit him first and probably pushed her hubby beyond limits.

As for cheating, her 2nd husband will cheat on her more than the 1st husband, I know why I said that...the 2nd husband will always have‎ excuse to cheat on her, so madam Nora calm down for now and pray for a happy future instead indirectly castigating your 1st hubby!

Nora can't tell us she was so perfect in her 1st marriage without any fault‎

I hope your sisters get married to decent men because I am sure that if one of your sisters comes to report her husband to you, your first question will be "what did you do to provoke him?". Nobody has the right to lay their hands on another person, so there is no justification in a man beating his wife. He should walk away if he can't control his temper. To add insult to injury, not only was he a wife-beater, he was also a cheat.

Timelezz:



If you like no advise girls on how to mend their marriages and homes. be deceiving them with this one-off.

And you seem like a mindless gold-digger too. Why did you emboldened "Canadian no visa wahala citizen"

As in, is that the measurement of a good husband?
Is a western visa a brand new life?

I thought I was the only person that saw that. I just saw it and decided not to talk.

The Nora woman and her friends/followers seem to be gold diggers hiding under the cover of abusive marriage.

And for Nora to have agreed to marry the 1st husband who lives abroad at a very tender age shows she has been a gold digger from small, so she paid the prize of being gold digger like every gold digger pays, and she may even pay more prize in her new marriage if care is not taking.‎

tempex88:
I read the way this Lady was celebrated on Lindaikeji and i totally do not think it is worth the Hype.
As much as am happy with her on her new found love, what we should preach and encourage is resolution not walking away.
Walking away should be last option. When one does walk away, it is not something worth celebrating when he/she chooses to settle with another partner.

Resolution?For a Man that beats her?I am not sorry to say at all..You are very very Mad..QED..

That's life.
When you fall off a horse, you get up, dust yourself, and get back on the horse.
You always have to keep trying.
I wish them a happy married life.
By the way, many divorcees do remarry, and do well in their new marriages.

Nancy2016:


I hope your sisters get married to decent men because I am sure that if one of your sisters comes to report her husband to you, your first question will be "what did you do to provoke him?". Nobody has the right to lay their hands on another person, so there is no justification in a man beating his wife. He should walk away if he can't control his temper. To add insult to injury, not only was he a wife-beater, he was also a cheat.

Like I told u earlier, and I will reiterate my point again, any man who beats his girlfriend or wife is mentally insane, and probably a drunkard and uses hard drugs.

But unfortunately, ladies do see all these traits in their boyfriend during courtship but will never leave mostly because of their crave/love for the guy's money, gifts he splashes on them and some material reasons, because I don't see any reason why I would date a lady that smokes, drinks and lives lousy life and still go ahead to marry her hoping she would become Mother Theresa after I marry her.

Ladies do encourage guys to drink, smoke and live all those lousy life, and after the guys are drunk and high and decides to use them as punching bag, they start to scream abuse!

In case u wanna ask me how ladies encourage guys to drink, smoke and use hard drugs, u would agree‎ with me that most beautiful ladies don't like to date guys who don't drink nor smoke...to most women, a man that doesn't drink, doesn't smoke is less of a man, but they forgot that so many great men around the world don't drink nor smoke, US president-elect Donald Trump is one of them.

I rest my case‎

humilitypays:
I thought I was the only person that saw that. I just saw it and decided not to talk.

The Nora woman and her friends/followers seem to be gold diggers hiding under the cover of abusive marriage.

And for Nora to have agreed to marry the 1st husband who lives abroad at a very tender age shows she has been a gold digger from small, so she paid the prize of being gold digger like every gold digger pays, and she may even pay more prize in her new marriage if care is not taking.‎

The message was just themed on her ability to secure a foreign based husband who is supposedly stupendously rich.

happney65:


Resolution?For a Man that beats her?I am not sorry to say at all..You are very very Mad..QED..

U do not get it. She can walk away but that doesn't call for celebration.

Nancy2016:


I hope your sisters get married to decent men because I am sure that if one of your sisters comes to report her husband to you, your first question will be "what did you do to provoke him?". Nobody has the right to lay their hands on another person, so there is no justification in a man beating his wife. He should walk away if he can't control his temper. To add insult to injury, not only was he a wife-beater, he was also a cheat

So what of the lady that can't control her f**King mouth??

Of course, I know the likely answer:

"but you know that's the way lady are, men should understand. Even if she insults the living daylights out him, his parents, HIS ENTIRE GENERATION, under no circumstance should be lay a finger on her. HE should walk away."

See una WIDE mouth.

The fact remains, a lady who has serious problems controlling her mouth HAS NO RIGHT to demand or expect restraint from her husband, and should be prepared for the recupercussions. As simple as that.

Do I condone physical violence? God Forbid!! But I also don't condone rude, abrasive, insulting women!

OUR IGBO BOYZ THESE DAYS EHN....THE THING JUST TIRE ME...

NOTHING DAT I WILL NOT HEAR.. SAME THING IKEAGU DID...

MAKES ME WONDER WHICH DAY WE STARTED MARRYING BABY MAMAS...

THESE LADIES MUST NOT HAVE IT SO EASY, THEY MUST NOT BE ALLOWED TO HAVE THEIR CAKE AND EAT IT.

IF DEY CAN MARRY ANYBODY WITHOUT CAUTION AND OPENING YANSH ANYHOW FOR EVERY TOM, DICK AND HARRY, U THAT IS A MAN DAT MAINTAIN STANDARD MUST NOT BE USED TO COVER SHAME.

I CONDEMN THIS AS AN ABOMINATION AND DEM FALL MY HAND.

IGBO BOY TO THE CORE MEHN.. I DONT DO BABY MAMAS. IT IS TRADITION.

I REP DAT...

I like stories like this. Walk out and move on with life. Don't listen to the bible and die an u timely death.

alezzy13:


So what of the lady that can't control her f**King mouth??

Of course, I know the likely answer:

"but you know that's the way lady are, men should understand. Even if she insults the living daylights out him, his parents, HIS ENTIRE GENERATION, under no circumstance should be lay a finger on her. HE should walk away."

See una WIDE mouth.

The fact remains, a lady who has serious problems controlling her mouth HAS NO RIGHT to demand or expect restraint from her husband, and should be prepared for the recupercussions. As simple as that.

Do I condone physical violence? God Forbid!! But I also don't condone rude, abrasive, insulting women!

Potential wife-beater. May no decent woman have the misfortune of marrying you.

tempex88:


U do not get it. She can walk away but that doesn't call for celebration.

It does not call for celebration from a Man that beats her?Beats her on the hospital bed after the delivery of their child,hes child?Haabaaaa...I guess you are a Muslim..You must be a Muslim

From the tone of this write up, one can simply conclude that OP wants to recruit as many as possible into this evil club. That Nora has got a young man to marry her after two children doesn't mean another member of the club will be that lucky.

Nancy2016:


Potential wife-beater. May no decent woman have the misfortune of marrying you.

Actual abusive, uncouth, disrespectful woman. Its your type that give the other decent respectful women out there a bad name. Pity your husband.

Nancy2016:


These comments are from a woman! So a woman's life end when she divorces. So you had rather the kids watch their mother being battered on a regular basis and then they grow up thinking violence is acceptable? Or isn't it better for them to see what a loving, healthy relationship entails? Doesn't the new husband know about the kids and isn't there the possibility that he would love them just as he loves their mother? Don't women take care of their step children, so what stops men from doing the same thing?

I hope you red my ensuing comment. I dont agree with abuse or violence, but I said that seperation for longer periods could have resolved issues.

Coming from a blended family, i can tell you that there will always be uneven distribution of love and resources. More especially once this men start producing his children with the women. Unless they are rich. In the event where there is limited resources, women/men normally start singing a different tune, passing the buck of financial responsibility to the childrens biological father.

Yes a woman or man can love someones child but can never love them more than she/he would love her/his children if he/she had children. There will always be imbalance and disagreements and complaints on distributing the resources.

Example, If a man doesnt agree to buying a child an iphone 7 before they are say 18, but the woman feels that its no big deal. She will only think that its because its not his biological children, if it was his children, probably he would have agreed, even if its not the case.

Being from a blended family setting, and having experienced it, I am not for it, unless one partner is dead. Blended families are not ideal and easy.

If I was her, I was going to date but not marry yet until my kids are of legal age.

Once again one you have kids, its not always about you, the welfare of your children should come first.

I wish her well though.

Excellentmind:
From the tone of this write up, one can simply conclude that OP wants to recruit as many as possible into this evil club. That Nora has got a young man to marry her after two children doesn't mean another member of the club will be that lucky.

Op was once a mod on nairaland and one of her foremost feminists. So her soapy writeup is really no surprise for most of us.

alezzy13:


Actual abusive, uncouth, disrespectful woman. Its your type that give the other decent respectful women out there a bad name. Pity your husband.

My husband will differ with you. He thanks God that he met a woman like me.

chineloSA:


I hope you red my ensuing comment. I don't agree with abuse or violence, but I said that separation for longer periods could have resolved issues.

You made some salient points. The only comment I don't agree with is the above one. There is no guarantee that a separation would have resolved issues. Sometimes it is better to face the inevitable, cut your losses and move on. If a man is violent to a woman who has just given birth to a child, then he is a lost cause.

Haute:


Yes. I agree 99.9% - because I can't agree 100% with you. And because I'm altruistic, I'll give the 0.1% to charity ( not a girl ).

Yes, you are ATURUlistic.

Fedayeen02:
I'm from Fernando po

Loool

In every abusive broken relationship, each of the two parties have blames to share, even if it is the blame of making a wrong choice when there are a million and one potential good partner out there. Being young or immature is never a reason to make bad choice. Children need to be tutored that marriage (especially Christian marriage) is a life time commitment and once the knot are tied it remain spiritually indissoluble and as such they better open their eyes and take their time so that they don't end up with regrets. There is life outside here and our choices and decisions will determine where we will end.
Best of luck to the 'couples'.

Nancy2016:


You made some salient points. The only comment I don't agree with is the above one. There is no guarantee that a separation would have resolved issues. Sometimes it is better to face the inevitable, cut your losses and move on. If a man is violent to a woman who has just given birth to a child, then he is a lost cause.

I hear you, its also not guaranteed that cutting your losses will bring better prospects. I have seen seperation works in a lot of cases, but in some cases it doesn't work.
Marrying again does not guarantee better prospects, its a matter of trying.

I also don't agree with violence on women and nursing mothers. The man was wrong from all angles.

I wish her well