nightingalee:
... Discreetly, push through with the DNA test the result will point you in the right direction.

mazazatonda:

Since that three days ago i for the first time saw this man face to face,my mind has been disturbing me,Why? we have two kids,the first kid is exactly my carbon copy and also just like me,he is not fair in complexion while the other one is very fair in complexion like my wife.I was shocked when i saw the man that he resembles the second kid more than I.He is also fair in complexion and apart from that if I and him stand together with the kid,people will assume he is more of the father by resemblance.This has been bothering.

Berbierklaus:
OP answer truthfully.
1)Were you celibate during the space of that 6months you and your wife separated?
2)What led to the separation
3)Was your wife pregnant immediately after you both got back together?

I think its your African mind playing tricks on you though

Berbierklaus:
OP answer truthfully.
1)Were you celibate during the space of that 6months you and your wife separated?
2)What led to the separation
3)Was your wife pregnant immediately after you both got back together?

I think its your African mind playing tricks on you though

mazazatonda:
Sometime ago in 2015 i posted how my wife confessed to have slept with two men within the interval of six months that same year we had a temporal separation before being reunited again and the matter has since been forgotten as we have been living together since then.Though i did not know any of the men in person when i asked her of their name,what they do and their location which happen to be within the axis we stay and pass almost on daily basis but i did not bother to go and trace the men or start having issues with them since they did not rape her or forced her into that or to start finding something that will disturb my mind.Hence i do pass there or stop and buy something around there and there after go my way.
However three days ago,i was buying something around the place and the man i was in his shop do not have all i wanted to buy he called the other man by name for me to buy the remaining thing from him.Coincidentally,the man he called is one of them that slept with my wife but i did ask him anything and he too did not know me and i left.
Since that three days ago i for the first time saw this man face to face,my mind has been disturbing me,Why? we have two kids,the first kid is exactly my carbon copy and also just like me,he is not fair in complexion while the other one is very fair in complexion like my wife.I was shocked when i saw the man that he resembles the second kid more than I.He is also fair in complexion and apart from that if I and him stand together with the kid,people will assume he is more of the father by resemblance.This has been bothering.The kid was one year old when we had the temporal separation which means if they had known before the temporal separation,it will be back then in 2013-2012 downwards.
My question now is should i sit my wife down and ask her further questions even though she may find it difficult telling me truth if any or should i meet the man and ask him some questions as well or should i forget asking neither my wife nor the man and start planning for DNA paternity test.Please i am confused and need an advise.
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Richy4:
As you said, Both of you were separated...

<<<<<She doesn't know if you guys gonna make up or not at that point in time
<<<<<She decides not to put her life on hold waiting for you hence....So u will not hold that against her.....But I will understand if u are angry that she couldn't wait for u guys to sort out whatever the deferences was

As for the Child, U do not have to disturb your wife asking questions....Just Do the paternity test...What ever you discovered, You can discuss it with her in a matured manner.....
If the kid is yours, Fine...If he is not, then you can always iron it out and find a way forward....Remember you have to put the innocent child first in whatever decision you are making.....He or she never asked to be in such situation...

blaise26abj:


Separation is not divorce. There is no justification for infidelity. Op : you are strong to still be living with her. I hail you. I Can never do that. even with 150 kids, I would walk away from that union. Guess that is why we are different. To the issue, just discreetly do a paternity test and use the result to decide your next line of action

Berbierklaus:
OP answer truthfully.
1)Were you celibate during the space of that 6months you and your wife separated?
2)What led to the separation
3)Was your wife pregnant immediately after you both got back together?

I think its your African mind playing tricks on you though

mazazatonda:
Please there is this lady friend of mine.Most time we do have fun together,but i noticed that the last two time we did it,an offensive odour do come out from her ass when we do the back position.Initially,it wasnt like that,but the first time i noticed it,i thought may be she did not shower well,so i ignored it.The next time she came,i made sure that she took enough shower with good soap etc,but unfortunately,when we started doing it and i want to start from her back,the same odour was there that discouraged me from continuing the act.I simply stopped and told her that i am tired and wont continue.She was surpised and did not know why.This lady is very beautiful and physically very very neat.Thou i m married and she knows,and is aware that i wont marry her.So during the course of our discussion she told me that the last two guys that want to seek her hand in marriage was not serious and did not work out.I begin to think can it be may be those guyz have tested her,noticed it and the odour pursued them away without telling her.(i did not ask her weda she slept with them).The main 'zone' is very okay,and no odour on it.its just the back when u want to use the back method,the offensive odour will be emmanating from the Ass despite all the shower she had taken.Its very irritating.Please should i boldly call her and tell her so that she can know what to do on it or will she take it that i am insulting her?because i am sure such can scare a potential suitor away if they had premarital stuff,and the irony of it all is that none of them will tell her why they walked away.

Incline:

https://www.nairaland.com/2309653/should-tell-odour-ass-buttocks

Thought op was a saint but he has cheated on his wife. I was on his side till I saw this thread. Eyinjuege, you right bro, they're perfect for each other.

Firstcitizen:
Op, Nairaland is the wrong place to bring issues such as this. The people here will give diverse information.

Some will ask you if you were celibate during the very short separation meanwhile if they are in your shoes the will not even touch the woman with a long pole.

Others will tell you they will walk away but if they were the ones they will murder the woman.

The rest will ask you to pray forgetting that God built man with the concept of freewill and expects him to takes his decisions himself without recourse to him. Remember Adam?

Follow your instinct and engage with real people around you, like elders not faceless strangers. That is the truth.

Now as a Nairalander, let me add my own. Separation is not divorce especially considering the short period. Women are built to be stronger than men in terms of resisting the urge to engage in New relationships when there is crisis in a formally recognized one like yours. The only explanation is that those relationships were in place before the crisis.

I am sure issues like this led to the separation in the first place. If you can take a decision to live for months away from a woman you love, I see no reason why you cannot stay away from her for life after she fvcked 2 other men inside marriage.

The issue is not whether you should do paternity test because that is highly important or talking to her because you will end up with lies. The issue is how you plan not to develop mental health issues in such a relationship.