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Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by MiddleDimension: 6:13pm On May 11, 2017 |
somegirl1: THATS ABSOLUTELY UNTRUE AS ONE OF THE MAJOR WAYS YOU CAN KNOW SOMEONE TRUELY LIKES YOU, IS BY LETTING YOU KNOW IT IS NOT A MUST FOR HIM/SHE TO BE WITH YOU! you can also know a person loves you by how he treats everything that has got to do with you inclusing your children. my step mum treats me like hers and i also know a friend with the same experience. when mandela died, we saw how close his widow and ex-wife were. what do you call that? lastly, you can speak for all women. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by bencarson007(m): 6:18pm On May 11, 2017 |
MiddleDimension: @MiddleDimension,let's me explain to you what @sbashir10 meant... He just gave an opinion of his own... Experiences in life matter... While some muslims look at it as a do or die affair to get more than one wife, my brother @sbasir10 has his reservations and he is quite correct at it... The summary is if you can afford the emotional and physical costs of polygamy as well as any attendant extra drama, go ahead but if u can't, kindly stick to one wife and give ur family quality attention... Just a small take on this, majority of the women and children in polygamy suffer neglect and there is also the problem of jealousy,infighting and favouritism in such families which tend to last like forever... 1 Like |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by salt1: 6:20pm On May 11, 2017 |
Uncommonbreed: Actually there are more men than women. More precisely, out of 1,000 people, 504 are men (50.4%) and 496 are women (49.6%). For every 100 girls, 107 boys are born. But the men who are husband material are fewer than women who are wife material. Many men of marriageable age are in prison for petty crimes. The others are struggling with their younger siblings for the fish head in their mothers' kitchens |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by SirMichael1: 6:25pm On May 11, 2017 |
delishpot: You have no idea what Nigerians will agree to. We adapt quickly, you know right? |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by MiddleDimension: 6:28pm On May 11, 2017 |
bencarson007: i agree with you completely. and you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT ON EVERYTHING YOU HAVE SAID EXCEPT FOR THE 'MAJORITY OF PEOPLE FROM SUCH A HOME...' PART. you have not taken a stat to know that, and it is of no use to judge based on stereotype. and the part where you summerized the whole thing by saying if you can afford the emotinal and etc...is absolutely on point. but guess what? this doesnt apply to polygamy only but to all things including monogamy and celibacy. if you think you can handle it, then go on ahead! but the christian ummah do not see that way, instead they prefer a kind of crusade against polygamy like it is a thing condemned by their bible. also, that i support polygamy does not in anyway mean that i encourage it for everyone. the same way i dont encourage even marriage at all to just about anyone. i also dont encourage celibacy for just anyone too even though i find nothing wrong with it. the truth remains that just as there is mothing special about monogamy and celibacy, there is also nothing special about polygamy too. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by Nobody: 6:45pm On May 11, 2017 |
salt1: I just researched on it and you have a point. But again there could be gender imbalance as a result of war and other stuffs which could greatly affect the number of males. Your second paragraph down said it all anyway. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by somegirl1: 6:46pm On May 11, 2017 |
MiddleDimension: If wishes were horses. You sound naive, like you believe everyone wears their heart on their sleeves. Adjusting to or managing an unpleasant situation doesn't mean you like it. Any woman who genuinely has no issues, secretly or openly, with sharing her man is not emotionally invested in the relationship. 1 Like |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by salt1: 6:54pm On May 11, 2017 |
Uncommonbreed: Thanks so much for not quarreling with me. Your name describes you: you're an uncommon breed 1 Like |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by MiddleDimension: 7:06pm On May 11, 2017 |
somegirl1: again i say to you that absolutely false! you put so much emphasis on this emotional investment as if you dont already know that that so called emotional investment, the 'butterfly in the stomach', does not have exist in equal measure among couples for them to be married and lead happy lives. and truely the butterfly in the stomach does not have to exist in equal measure. this is so, so that the relationship can succeed. there is need for common sense in a relationship for it to succeed. the one that is less 'attached'- emotionally invested- provides that common sense. and if you want to continue to emphasize your high 'emotional investment', then i would ask you to look around you eapecially now a days couples who think like you do and tell me hoq successful they have been. yea, you will find successful ones, no doubt. look at the story of romeo and juliet: the both of them were so 'emotionally invested' and you saw what became of them. you really think that story is a story of love? that's a tragedy! it only teaches us how not to 'love' it warns us of the high 'emotional investment' you advocate so much. if at least one of them isnt that 'emotionally invested', common sense would have prevailed and they would have lived. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by explura: 7:10pm On May 11, 2017 |
morscino:The last time I checked, sense was very much affordable.. Hurry now and go get some! |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by loteliz(f): 7:12pm On May 11, 2017 |
Polygamous men have mistresses outside. A man who can't be satisfied by one woman can never be satisfied by three women. You are the third and he still has one slot. He can continue chasing women until he finds the fourth one. I rather stay single than to be at risk of contracting HIV. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by MiddleDimension: 7:17pm On May 11, 2017 |
loteliz: it is unfortunate when people get married solely because of sex. sadly, this is the case with some people polygamy or not. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by bencarson007(m): 7:24pm On May 11, 2017 |
MiddleDimension: Well said sir. I stand corrected on some of my asserions but like I said b4, it all boils down to capability of the said individual and as for the christian doctrine condemning polygamy, na strong topic be that o... So let's not bore the good people of NL by derailing the marriage thread of oga IBB daughter...let's do that at religious section... If you create such a thread on why christians condemn polygamy, invite me and let's hold intellectual discussion on such cos I see you are very sound in reasoning.... #RespectsBro |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by morscino: 7:30pm On May 11, 2017 |
explura:hehehehe...e pain am!.. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by somegirl1: 7:43pm On May 11, 2017 |
MiddleDimension: Emotional investment is not infatuation or lust as you have interpreted it to mean. Can you share a woman you like with another man? If no, you've countered you own argument. 1 Like |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by Nobody: 7:47pm On May 11, 2017 |
salt1: You argued intellectually so I also reciprocated too. I was always under the impression that for every child born the females always outnumbered the males but I guess it's actually the reverse. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by bukatyne(f): 7:50pm On May 11, 2017 |
MiddleDimension: IMO, polygamy only hurts the first wife. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by sonsomegrigbo: 7:56pm On May 11, 2017 |
TrapQueen77: how many of you have taken turns on that guy di**k? BTW, are all of you legally married to him? |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by loteliz(f): 7:59pm On May 11, 2017 |
MiddleDimension:I understand what you are saying and I totally agree with you. The way we think and behave is influenced by so many things. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by sbashir10(m): 8:03pm On May 11, 2017 |
bencarson007:@bencarson007 thank you sir, ameen sir and God bless you 1 Like |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by MiddleDimension: 8:05pm On May 11, 2017 |
bencarson007: hmm, i just stumbbled across an interesting thread here. please take your time to read the op's point. make sure you so it when you have a lot of time to spare because it is a long exposition. i am not saying you should agree with every single thing, but please do not be afraid to discover something to the contrary of what you've alwys thought to be true. https://www.nairaland.com/3689844/polygamy-not-sin-christianity#54723317 |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by olasaad(f): 8:19pm On May 11, 2017 |
[quote author=sbashir10 post=56423758]It's her life, and she decides what she wants. so, you don't have to be subjected to abuse for not choosing to marry into a polygamous family, it's a thing of the choice,. I'm a Muslim but i don't think i can cope with polygamy, as I'm speaking from experience, i know what my mum faced being the first out of the four wives of my dad. [/quote) That's what other men says but when they eventually married with a lovely family, the next thing you heard is the man marry another wife. So don't assume wait until you have a family. 1 Like |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by Aremuagan144(m): 8:42pm On May 11, 2017 |
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Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by sbashir10(m): 9:09pm On May 11, 2017 |
[quote author=olasaad post=56432183][/quote] Lol, is that what you think? , it's a thing of discipline, mindset and orientation. and lastly I'll pray over it |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by maasoap(m): 10:42pm On May 11, 2017 |
SirMichael1:You truly believe that only Alhajis or Muslims are into polygamy? Dey dia. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by SirMichael1: 10:47pm On May 11, 2017 |
maasoap: No. Not really but they have better chances of taking care of the wives well. They were born for that |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by maasoap(m): 10:53pm On May 11, 2017 |
NwamaziNwaAro:Try again. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by ademusiwa3r: 2:58am On May 12, 2017 |
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Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by Cromagnon: 4:36am On May 12, 2017 |
TrapQueen77:turns is better than nothing |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by bencarson007(m): 7:21am On May 12, 2017 |
sbashir10:. Blessings sbashir10 |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by delishpot: 7:46am On May 12, 2017 |
sunnysunny69: The other wives go park their nyanshes for a few weeks o. Na she get turn now. Na them go dey ask when the thing go find them come. Dem go rub and use different concoction to keep the man remembering their thing make e no dry out. That is how it works in those homes. I guess women are expected to endure being sex starved while the men are expected to enjoy sex as often as they want. Imagine sleeping with your husband and all that is in your mind is.......is he enjoying me like he enjoys mama Risi? AM I giving him good? Then the next thing is to go get charms natural or fetish to rub in their private parts so that the man would love their kini more than the other wives own. Chai, a very depressing thing. |
Re: Halima Babangida To Be The 3rd Wife Of Auwal Lawa: Lady Shades Anti-Polygamists by sbashir10(m): 7:52am On May 12, 2017 |
nurshah: why are they divorce widow is quite different, someone that lost his wife can also marry such person. |
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