hmm

ibkkk:
All these wouldn't werk here in Nigeria. Na igbaju sure pass.

The likes of igbaju, ifakun, ifaya, ifoti and igbati will reset such teenq to default mode

MadCow1:


I thunk they should. . But we all know that's story for the gods

Not in Nigeria. I will not provoke my teen, but I will discipline him/her very very well$

muller101:
Use any thing u see and beat am well we'll.

Lol. You remind me of my mummy.

sisisioge:
Wetin you dey write? I'm still in naija biko...I could still slap the taste outta my smart mouthed teenagers. I remember the day I finished my 6:2f seventeen years old male cousin. I beat him up like we were in a ring. The rule is you must not raise your hands back. Afterwards, he adjusted himself and we didn't have a repeat. The guy forgot that I used to jump fences and play football...he didn't see the strength of my attack coming.

A slap first, then tons of heavy blows while he was recovering...yi o ba iya lai! Who be your mate

na lie eee

sisisioge:
Wetin you dey write? I'm still in naija biko...I could still slap the taste outta my smart mouthed teenagers. I remember the day I finished my 6:2f seventeen years old male cousin. I beat him up like we were in a ring. The rule is you must not raise your hands back. Afterwards, he adjusted himself and we didn't have a repeat. The guy forgot that I used to jump fences and play football...he didn't see the strength of my attack coming.

A slap first, then tons of heavy blows while he was recovering...yi o ba iya lai! Who be your mate

what if your kid call the police for you for abuse?

i didnt take shit when i was even sixteen....one foolish male neighbour tot he could inflict physical violence on me....God save am say bottle been no they near....I exchange blow with am ooo....Haaa....

Big or small na the same air all man they breathe....NO TO CHILD BATTERING

I'm not against putting a stance on discipline but I'm concerned at how what you coin "discipline" can easily be "abuse"

Most Nigerian adults don't know they were simply abused as children.

MadCow1:


I thunk they should. . But we all know that's story for the gods

Nigerian gods won't listen to such a story

In an African household
You won't be talking to Jesus you will be with Jesus if you talk back.
It's called discipline for a reason where one individual is a parent and the other a child. You are not friends. Discipline does not entail abusing your child. Discipline means you spare the world of having to deal with a beligrent adult who was treated like an egg. No one likes that kind of adult.
If this is parenting then it's best not to have children.

joe4real12:
For Naija the most effective way

Correct not the rubbish OP is saying, we should discipline them not pamper them.

Not in Nigeria... Beat the hell out of the child

Ishilove:

Not in Nigeria. I will not provoke my teen, but I will discipline him/her very very well$

I will raise well balanced and disciplined kids.

Talking back is a definite No! No!! And carries the capital punishment which is an Asswhooping.

But I will respect my kids. I will listen to them and try and understand them as much as I can on their level. But there will be no mistaking who the Leader is and who has the final say.

VirtueDigest:
One cool evening, I watched as my neighbour refused to grant permission for his adolescent son to attend a party with his friends. With an equally stern face the son responded “hell no, I must be at the party!” My neighbour’s son is developing a “smart mouth” and an attitude to go with it. He is very disrespectful, especially in public and in the presence of guests. I flashed back to my days as a teenager; I could not talk back at my parents for any reason and most especially in public and in the presence of visitors. Eons ago in Nigeria, we lived a communal life where the neighbour could correct a defiant teenager in the absence of his/her parents. In Nigeria today, family structures are not as strong as they used to be. There are too many distractions and a general breakdown of discipline coupled with the fact that parents are generally busy with career pursuit.
Teenagers are confronted daily with choices. They struggle to make good decisions and are held accountable for it. Adolescence is that time in which they go through a major transformation in their lives; emotional, mental and biological changes are taking place. This is one of the major reasons for their unpredictable behaviour. As a parent/guardian, how do you get your teen to stop the snide and rude back talk? Here are seven smart suggestions:



1. TELL IT TO JESUS: It could be challenging to have a rebellious teenager, but remember the hymn “I must tell Jesus all of my trials.” Indeed, Jesus is readily available when you lay your issues bare before Him. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you His love for your child and to help you to nurture him/her in the way of the Lord. Ask God to help you see one or two good aspects in your child that you can praise. Always find an encouraging saying, quote or Scripture verse to leave your child with as he/she walks out the door to school every day.



2. RESPECT YOUR TEEN: Respect is reciprocal. If you expect your child to respect you, show some respect too. This way you will be able to play the part of a role model. Be involved, but don’t interfere too much. At the same time, don’t indulge them; don’t give in to unreasonable demands. Give your child the same respect that you would like and try to refrain from name-calling or labeling with such words as, “spoiled brat.” Instead, keep the focus on the behaviour that you would like to change.



3. DO NOT SHOUT/CURSE YOUR TEEN: The more you shout or curse your teen, the more he/she will shout or curse back. When you get angry and shout or curse your teen, you undermine your authority. Remember, you are your child’s greatest influence in terms of nurturing the right kind of behaviour in him/her. When you shout at your teen, they may feel like they are under attack and may not be open to make adjustments. If your teen ignores you, you can also try to ignore them back. Do not negotiate with your child, back down, or let her draw you into an argument about the discipline that you are enforcing. Discipline is the goal and shouldn’t be up for discussion or argument. If your child feels like s/he can argue or negotiate a discipline, s/he’ll be more likely to continue an undesired behaviour and would likely argue even more the next time around.



4. COMMUNICATE: If your teen is out of control, one of the best things to do with them is to sit him/her down and have a talk. There are always different aspects to a story and you might discover that probably you are the one at fault. Do not assume that your teen is stupid and immature. Discuss the rules with your child. Explain why you are setting rules and be prepared to give answers for your ideas because most children will question you. One common catchphrase from teens is, “You don’t understand!” Do not further frustrate your child by saying, “Yes, I do!”, or “I went through exactly what you are going through now.” We all like to think of experiences as unique. Instead of asserting a “been there, done that” stance, help your child practice communicating without being rude by responding, “I may not understand, but I do want to try to understand what you are feeling. Can we talk about it later when we’re both calmer?”



5. NEVER RESORT TO VIOLENCE. This will aggravate the problem, making your teenager more unruly. Never confront them with hostility and anger which may lead to violence in an extreme case. Be confident, firm, and consistent.



6. BE FLEXIBLE: Flexibility might turn out to be a huge advantage. Be willing to have conversations (rather than fights) about adjusting the rules and consequences every few months as your teenager gets older and can take on more responsibility. You may have to participate in some odd-seeming activities—and maybe at odd hours – to be part of his or her world. Really try to relax and bring humour to the daily interactions and challenges of having a teenager. It will make a difference!



7. COMPLIMENT YOUR TEEN: Also try to notice and point out the positives in your teen. S/he really needs your affirmation and encouragement. Remember to praise the child for what they do right before focusing on the wrong.

On a final note, children are like sponges. Whatever you throw in their direction they will surely pick up.

http://virtuedigest.com/7-ways-deal-teen-talks-back/

This incidence must have happened overseas abi? For here we beat them to remind them who is in charge ...a parent van go as harsh as having the tern locked up to show him how criminals are treated .stupid idiot ,na who born am all these western rubbish is spooling the little ones

Inanna:
What happened to the good old hangers, belts, shoes, sticks, canes, wires(both thin and fat), slippers, ladle(for turning garri), bucket, mopstick, hand, fists, fan, walking stick, broom etc that has been resetting us back to default since time immemorial?
The problem is, Nigerian parents of today are pûssies. They're all forming the bullshit new generation parenting skills that believes beating a child is abuse and dialogue is the best way to correct an erring child. That's why there are so many wayward and incorrigible children around.
God knows I'm going to beat the the stupidity out of my children if they ever go astray. If I wasn't beaten as a child/teenager, only God knows what I'd have turned into.

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ibkkk:
All these wouldn't werk here in Nigeria. Na igbaju sure pass.

�thumbs up

Lazy parents beat their children

obinna58:
Lazy parents beat their children

The most sensible post so far.

frubben:
Stupid crap post. Talk to jesus ko ttalk to Mary ni.


I will beat dat demonic spirit out of him or her

lmao

ibkkk:

To Mr.X.

X or ex? lol

Vanquay:
What a load of bullshit_, I'm not my teens friend...The best way to maintain control is to seize their cash inflow...If your teen is acting up, gather all the electronics, toss them a book and suspend their weekly allowance, that's the most effective tactic ever .

My brother
For this america, what i always do is to cut off their internet!
Come and see begging!
They have to promise not to commit the offence again, then i on it again for them!
That has kept them in line!

sisisioge:
Wetin you dey write? I'm still in naija biko...I could still slap the taste outta my smart mouthed teenagers. I remember the day I finished my 6:2f seventeen years old male cousin. I beat him up like we were in a ring. The rule is you must not raise your hands back. Afterwards, he adjusted himself and we didn't have a repeat. The guy forgot that I used to jump fences and play football...he didn't see the strength of my attack coming.

A slap first, then tons of heavy blows while he was recovering...yi o ba iya lai! Who be your mate

Mah nigga

Richy4:


what if your kid call the police for you for abuse?

Nigerian Police abi

Me tok bak when i knw the papa wey i get, the nigga no get joy. He has be handling me with iron hand since pry3.

Nonsense!
Simply slap the daylight out of his/her ear and watch him/her receive sense
Gaskia!

It's unfortunate that most Nigerians don't know the act of parenting, this explains their reaction to this post. What is explained here is all I'd been doing and it's worked for me. The one small thing to add is that you must also discipline them, using different methods, overall teach them the meaning of consequences.
Add this to the rest of the post and you're good to go.

Richy4:


what if your kid call the police for you for abuse?

Ma broh, no be only naija we dey, na him papa born am. He no fit try that here as he no be omooale

WHY NOT FOLLOW THIS STEPS.:
1) CARRY THE BOY TO THE PARLOUR,

2)LOCK THE DOOR AND BLOCK EVERY ESCAPE ROUTE.


3)STRIP HIM NAKED.

4)AND BEAT/ FLOG THE BOY WITH KOBOKO, PANKERE, WIRE,OR CABLE WITH101 LASHES/ STROKES COMPLETE. (NOT 100 OR 99).

4) MAKE SURE ALL THE COMMA, EQUAL TO, CANCEL, WRONG AND CORRECT MARKS SYMBOLS ARE VISIBLY SHOWN IN ALL PART OF HIS BODY. IF IT DOES NOT REPEAT THE PROCESS AGAIN.

THE REASON IS WHEN HE GROWS UP AND HIS CHILDREN ASK HIM WHERE HE GOT THOSE MARKS. HE WILL BE PROUD TO GIVE THEM AN ANSWER.

Na the wire I dey chop reset my brain for good now.
Nowadays if you be teacher beat pikin for doing wrong, either his parents come to fight or he calls his fellow cultist

Those does not work in Nigeria... My Dad will beat me to an extent I will be asking myself, is this man really my Dad? Broom was his favourite! After flogging u, the brooms will break into your body... He will escort u to the bathroom to ensure u use ur sponge to scrub the pieces of brooms stuck in your body out.

He was a Major in the Nigerian Army! But today, I love him for never giving us (Me and my siblings) a chance to go astray.