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Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by victme1(m): 8:47pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Easy peazy. U did not disrespect your elder so why should you condone disrespect. Solution is cut such teen off. Ur word should be law. Go to that party and never come back home period. Cut all support, finances, free food, accommodation, love etc. Just freez ur heart against such teen. By the way you can no longer beat that teen to avoid the embarrassment of been beaten. Thank me latter |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Jgr8ola: 9:20pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Mouthgag:Bros that's the most effective! |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by imma2(m): 9:24pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Rebelutionary:I'm not going to get drawn into specifics because I don't have the strength neither the time to educate you on that. Parenting is a hard task but we Africans go the easy route by using anything that we see around to hit the child all in the name of discipline. You need to see the way some parents go about it, with so much anger, you can literally see fury in their eyes. The irony of it is that they'd describe it to you as "love". I would rather go with punishments and cutting out certain (if not all) privileges and make him/her understand the rules and consequences. Meanwhile, him/her should understand the reason of your actions. There are many psychological effects associated with "abuse" which I'm sure you don't know. It dampens creativity, innovation and it basically result to kids growing to be robots. There are lots to say, I'm tired. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by whytemon(m): 9:25pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
I totally agree with the OP. I know my father as being difficult and whining. I know he has the most well behaved kids. His kids have never stolen from him or anyone. He has never been called by anyone for something his kids did. However, instead of being grateful he is whining, complicated and difficult with us. You need to be in my family to understand what I am saying. It is sad that most people here talk with ignorance. My father his disrespectful to us all including my mom. From calling us names and all other excesses I don't care to recount. If you think children should be respected to get respect from them back then you are unintelligent. Pray to God if you have problems with your children. Respect them, talk to them, be friends with them. It isn't about beating and flogging. You cultivate a terrible relationship with them from doing that. You drift far apart. U can only cower them as toddlers. When they become full adults what would you do then? Get into fights with them or curse them out when they don't do what you want. I think it's better to be respected than feared. You won't be feared forever. It would only grow into hatred and detestment. |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by whytemon(m): 9:26pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
[b][/b]if you think children shouldn't be respected |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Rebelutionary: 9:42pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2:Really? Wow! Maybe u shd have defined in simplest terms wat ur definition if discipline is that should apply to every teen should be....I mean, give us a template that is all encompassing! Mr. if the "abuse" u r referring to produced MOST responsible ADULTS that we have today then i think that abuse is recommended! I await ur template discipline that should apply! |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Rebelutionary: 9:50pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2:See I get ur point but making it look like u hold some magic wand on this issue of discipline from ur initial submission is why I called u out... Kids DIFFER and for that different methods apply. Just because one method u apply on one works doesn't mean it will work on another. So becos u have kids n one certain method works on them is enough |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Rebelutionary: 10:03pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2:See I get ur point but making it look like u hold some magic wand on this issue of discipline from ur initial submission is why I called u out...n u dd it again by saying u r sure I am nt aware of some psychological effects of "abuse"...really? U said MOST ADULTS from ur initial position but u have now shifted grounds to "some parents"...which would have been a more tenable submission! Kids DIFFER and for that reason different methods shd b applied. Just because one method u apply on one works doesn't mean it will work on another. Take this to the bank! So becos u have kids n one certain method works on them is not enough reason every other method employed is "abuse" just because it doesn't suit what u are accustomed to and for as long as it is used within limits. I won't deny that discipline jst like any other tool can be abused and is bn abused but saying that MOST people that are adults today who were disciplined back then ddnt know they were abused is a big No No! So most of d adults that according to you were "abused" have gotten their creativity dampened! Wow Goodnight |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Mouthgag: 10:06pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Jgr8ola:You must be sick.. |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 10:32pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2:Neither do the children know how they are abusing us |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 10:38pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
obinna58:Bros that comment is 100% intelligent |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by imma2(m): 10:43pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Rebelutionary:I agree with you on most of your assertions but we as Africans undermine the effect of our mental development. We like to waive it because we feel it's native to the white man's land. As I said, parenting is hard and you have to use your mental abilities to think of ways to solve an erring teen. So doing this is not a solution for all. I see parents that use all those awful things that people are describing like wire and all sorts as lazy Who do you think wields true power? We need to start developing ourselves mentally and not by unnecessary show of physical power. For that statement "Most adults have gotten their creativity dampened" is just one of the effects. Most times, it happens but not always the case. There are plenty effects of what child abuse can do to the development of a child. Modified: I would still keep my stance "Most parents don't know that they were abused as children" Look at our society today. It is just full of hypocrisy. With all the so could "abuse" in the guise of "discipline". What have we been able to achieve? We had resources that would rival most countries on earth but what did we do with it? 1 Like |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 10:44pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Durentt: So how 'Trustworthy' are ur onyibo children? |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by ssuccess(m): 10:46pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Inanna: So what have you turned out to be with all the beatings, Zuckerberg? ?? |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Nobody: 10:50pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
spidey77:Swear to God that you can trust a nigeria Man? Always looking for ways to outsmart people. Home training indeed! Don't sit and teach your kids manners like normal humanbeings would, be flogging like goats. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by imma2(m): 10:50pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
spidey77:LOL!!! I'm not talking about calling your children all sorts of awful names. That's not the abuse I'm talking about here. Just in case you've got me wrong. It's despicable that you can turn around to say that children don't know that they abuse adults. You brought them into this world for Christ sake and the last time I checked, they didn't beg to be brought into this world. All I'm saying, raise your children sensibly not a raging bull who is ruled by emotions. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 10:52pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Gebbson007: Kid, Anini did not spoil out of too much beatings, he escalated as a result of bad example. His father was a criminal and coupled guns as well as sampled loots in front of the kid. I guess u were not born then, but research before u type...Thanks |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 10:59pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2: Now let me ask you two questions 1. Look at the moral breakdown now, compare it with DAT of like 5-10 years ago 2. What do u think went wrong, westernization or reduction in the no. of churches? I am not saying u should turn to an outright bully (nobody likes DAT) but for Gods sake, God did not make you a parent for nothing, if he wanted u to b just his friend, he would have made you his brother. A leader is a person of authority (authority with love - that's what our parents did)!!! God did not put 'spare the rod...' simply because he did not have what to say.... |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Nobody: 11:00pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
spidey77:yahoo boys also had yahoo fathers? Such an idiot. I pity nigerians, only going to church for hypocrisy and flogging kids like dog they are good at. They never communicate with their kids, they never know their kids. I don't blame you, you were abused and battered as a child. Keep gaining pride in nonsense. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 11:09pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Durentt: There goes the language of a well raised Americana in a conversation....Abuses and curses. So what are u insinuating in a nut shell? |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 11:11pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Durentt: You did not answer the question....How trust worthy are your onyibo kids? |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Nobody: 11:14pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
spidey77:The truth sounds like cuss to you? 23:14, The average Nigeria Youth with "good home training" is somewhere with his laptop looking for who to swindle to reap where he didn't sow. The females are something else. |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Nobody: 11:16pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
spidey77:i am not onyibo. My father is from Nigeria, my mother is From France. I am a nigerian like you talking against what is wrong. |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by imma2(m): 11:18pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
spidey77:I love your last paragraph and I believe you're getting a little grasp of what I'm trying to point at here. I'm not in anyway telling you to be a friend to your child rather, you should be a parent and a very stern one at that. The moral degradation as you mentioned can be attributed to parents who are not actually fit to be parents. We know our society encourages marriage at a certain age not realising that it's not everyone that is cut out for that. How long do you think it would take that child before he adapts to all your constant rambling and beatings? You should be better than kids when it comes to tactical warfare and manipulations which can be used to bring up kids in a right way. This does not involve any show of aggression. Goodnight.. 1 Like |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Nobody: 11:20pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
This is a good piece. Respect is reciprocal. Not everytime does beating and whipping works, sometimes you need a personal relationship with your children and let them see you as your best friend as well. But overall let's pray for children that will listen to us and be obedient. Cus even if you use more than rod to spoil some children there'll still be very disobedient and hardened. I think that's where prayer comes in too I totally agree with this post |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by imma2(m): 11:21pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Durentt:You have a very valid point here but I believe you can still communicate your values without abuse. A learned person should always understand that it's not everyone that must agree with his/her views |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 11:24pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
Durentt: And 'Well-bred' whitees with incredible home trainings don't do DAT too? or is it bcus the country has a bad name means DAT others are saints? Check the list of the most currupt countries in the world and educate yourself. The country has a bad name does not make other countries saints. Check the list of top drug lords or worst hackers n see if u will see a Nigerian's name |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by imma2(m): 11:24pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
temiitayo:If you want to be the best friend to your kids, that's where all you problems would start. Don't say I didn't warn you |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by spidey77: 11:29pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2: Well, i totally agree with you there. May God give us the grace to train our children well...Have a lovely nite too |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by Nobody: 11:32pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
imma2:my apologies spidey77:apologies |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by kingjomezy(m): 11:53pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
I think we ought to balance it sha.... the naija aspect and American aspect.... but if my pikin Bleep up... I go warn am first(conversation) and then leave stamps of slaps on his/her face |
Re: 7 Ways To Deal With A Teen Who Talks Back by kingjomezy(m): 11:56pm On Jul 29, 2017 |
whytemon: great one ....my dad is just like that...but only say im Don observe say we don too big to beat |
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