rookiy:
u sure say na her mama ,she fit dn save d number as mumsi 2..check well ohh ..he fit be landlord ohh

Lols @ the bolded, no be lie shaaaa@, things dey happen

kwb567:


It isn't wrong for a mother to call. But we all go to work and I get back after meal the only time I have to discuss with my wife, ask her how her day was her mum calls and the conversation lasts for mor than 1 hour. At that time I usually sleep off. There is a communication gap my wife and I feel it is a recipe for disaster.

D Am I sensing jealousy here?

Somebody make calls to her own momsi na wahala. At least she makes it in front of you b4 u staet saying she is casting u to her mom.

TheArchangel:
For her to be calling her mother often means that you are not her close confidant. You lack that basic skill to be her confidant, little wonder she is confiding in her mum instead.

God bless you for this comment. Some men don't show enuf care for their wives, u better be glad it's her mother she's calling and not another 'he'. Pls check yourself and adjust sir.

Double check. It might not be her mother. I no trust nowadays women

Space booked.

kwb567:
While we dated she rarely called her mum and vice versa . Then all of a sudden 2 years after marriage her mum calls more than thrice a day and duration of at least a call lasts for 1 to 2 hours usually from 9 pm . The annoying part is most times its at night when my wife and I are supposed to be share our thoughts. Most times these calls usually ends in sending my wife on errands that piss me off. Is this normal/OK?

Tell her how you feel about these calls. The mum is demanding her attention and that's wrong. She should cut these calks short, decline some and turn her phones off at night. Her mum will get to know all that happens in your home and advice her on how to behave towards you . tommorrow is Saturday, no work.Enough time to table this issue with your wife. Communication is key in marriage. Talk to her.she should not go and tell her mum what you said,caution her. At night when her mum calls,she should rush the call and say " I have to attend to my husband" " mom I have to sleep,talk tommorrow"..when she keeps declining, cutting calls short and turning her phones off at nights, her mum will get the message.Her mum's intentions may be out of love,but she has to know when to back off. I have said my own

sharpwriter:

That's not true, dont blame the young man. Some ladies are just foolish and still live in children's world. I have dated a lady before that told me that she will love her mother more than her husband. Now, do you think that such a lady will listen to the husband's advice over her mother's? Woe betide the man if the lady's mother is a bad one, because she will be a bad influence on her daughter, and from observation, girls like this seldom have a mind of their own. They are easily influenced to act foolishly by mother or friends. Mind you, I am not against the friendliness of a man or woman with their mothers, but they should know that an adult is an adult and things should be done moderately.

My brother, I choose to follow you on the basis of this your comment. Some women fail to use their brains. They complicate their lives only to run around claiming men are evil. Is it rocket science for a woman to know she needs to create time for her man. We are all praying to outlive our parents. After your mum is gone (hopefully in her old age), is that when you will expect the man you have abandoned over the years to create time for you and make you his all-in-all?.

Jesusbabygirl:
God bless you for this comment. Some men don't show enuf care for their wives, u better be glad it's her mother she's calling and not another 'he'. Pls check yourself and adjust sir.

From the comments we read here, we know those women who will make good wives and those who are potential bad wives. I hope you have enough time to grow before you marry.

eyinjuege:
There's nothing wrong with a mother calling her child.
I'm sure if it was your own mother and she complains, you would say your wife doesn't like her.
If their conversation disturbs You, please politely tell her to go and receive her calls in the sitting room or guest room.
Life isn't hard. If you guys want to discuss something important, come home as early as you can to do so, or if you don't mind having your sleep disturbed, wake her up in the middle of the night to do so.

You are the worst counselor yet alive.

kwb567:
While we dated she rarely called her mum and vice versa . Then all of a sudden 2 years after marriage her mum calls more than thrice a day and duration of at least a call lasts for 1 to 2 hours usually from 9 pm . The annoying part is most times its at night when my wife and I are supposed to be share our thoughts. Most times these calls usually ends in sending my wife on errands that piss me off. Is this normal/OK?

Take her phone n block her mother's line, or you wire your wife's phone so u can know What their conversation Z all about b4 taking steps

sharpwriter:

That's not true, dont blame the young man. Some ladies are just foolish and still live in children's world. I have dated a lady before that told me that she will love her mother more than her husband. Now, do you think that such a lady will listen to the husband's advice over her mother's? Woe betide the man if the lady's mother is a bad one, because she will be a bad influence on her daughter, and from observation, girls like this seldom have a mind of their own. They are easily influenced to act foolishly by mother or friends. Mind you, I am not against the friendliness of a man or woman with their mothers, but they should know that an adult is an adult and things should be done moderately.

Virtually every guy I've met claim that they will love their mothers than their wife including my brother. Even my mom had to caution him. I once told a guy that was on my case that I can't be with a man like that and he stopped pursuing after then. Dude said he can't deal and I respected his view. Personally, it is unacceptable to me because I plan to love my husband than my dad.

sharpwriter:

That's not true, dont blame the young man. Some ladies are just foolish and still live in children's world. I have dated a lady before that told me that she will love her mother more than her husband. Now, do you think that such a lady will listen to the husband's advice over her mother's? Woe betide the man if the lady's mother is a bad one, because she will be a bad influence on her daughter, and from observation, girls like this seldom have a mind of their own. They are easily influenced to act foolishly by mother or friends. Mind you, I am not against the friendliness of a man or woman with their mothers, but they should know that an adult is an adult and things should be done moderately.

Virtually every guy I've met claim that they will love their mothers than their wife including my brother. Even my mom had to caution him. I once told a guy that was on my case that I can't be with a man like that and he stopped pursuing after then. Dude said he can't deal and I respected his view. Personally, it is unacceptable to me because I plan to love my husband than my dad. We need to be on the same page.

DONLEKAN:


My brother, I choose to follow you on the basis of this your comment. Some women fail to use their brains. They complicate their lives only to run around claiming men are evil. Is it rocket science for a woman to know she needs to create time for her man. We are all praying to outlive our parents. After your mum is gone (hopefully in her old age), is that when you will expect the man you have abandoned over the years to create time for you and make you his all-in-all?.

Abi nau

Izen:


Virtually every guy I've met claim that they will love their mothers than their wife including my brother. Even my mom had to caution him. I once told a guy that was on my case that I can't be with a man like that and he stopped pursuing after then. Dude said he can't deal and I respected his view. Personally, it is unacceptable to me because I plan to love my husband than my dad.

Well, I'm not one of them. My own be say if anyone misbehaves (mother or wife) I will put them in their place... lolz....but all na wisdom. Personally, I detest anyone who is a bad influence, and that's why I don't get too close to elders. Because the day they'll ask something difficult from you, you may not have the strength to turn them down. May God sha help us marry good wives and husbands.

ststyreal:

D Am I sensing jealousy here?

Such a comment..smh

TheArchangel:
For her to be calling her mother often means that you are not her close confidant. You lack that basic skill to be her confidant, little wonder she is confiding in her mum instead.

Can u imagine the gibberish this one just typed. Some if u ladies are just too blind and a guy should still be blamed for ur worn out panties.

U just failed to make an intelligent submission and then u are blaming the guy. Instead of u to ask him first and know the root cause, u pass a direct judgement on him for his wife's misdoings. I fear u o

ImaIma1:
It is not right in this situation. There must be a balance. Her mother shouldn't be calling that often and staying that long on the phone. She is intruding in their time together.

She might be trying to check on her daughter and see that she is ok but she should realize that her daughter's duty,attention and time is first to her husband because they are now one and she should give them space. She has relinquished full rights to her daughter and handed it to the husband.

The daughter herself should let her mum understand that she cannot stay that long on the phone. Little by little these loops will affect their marriage. Little hinges swing huge doors.

Try spend more time with your wife and let her know without fighting her that she is spending too much time with her mum.

Very wise statement. Credit

Sebastine1606:

Lols @ the bolded, no be lie shaaaa@, things dey happen

lol abii na Maybe he no dey perform duties well

FitnessDoctor:
My friend what kind of son-in-law are you? Get close to her mother too, infact invite her to stay with both of you for a week. there is more to this than meets the eye and even if you ask your wife she wouldn't tell you the whole truth or might even say both of them are having women talk.
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But, how can you marry a woman without being close to her mother in the first place?

That's you will end up creating more problems for yourself. Couples are supposed to focus on themselves and not their extended family.

FitnessDoctor:
My friend what kind of son-in-law are you? Get close to her mother too, infact invite her to stay with both of you for a week. there is more to this than meets the eye and even if you ask your wife she wouldn't tell you the whole truth or might even say both of them are having women talk.
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But, how can you marry a woman without being close to her mother in the first place?

That's how you will end up creating more problems for yourself. Couples are supposed to focus on themselves and not their extended family.

kwb567:
While we dated she rarely called her mum and vice versa . Then all of a sudden 2 years after marriage her mum calls more than thrice a day and duration of at least a call lasts for 1 to 2 hours usually from 9 pm . The annoying part is most times its at night when my wife and I are supposed to be share our thoughts. Most times these calls usually ends in sending my wife on errands that piss me off. Is this normal/OK?

Brother I see nothing wrong with that. You have to let her know to cut the call short when you have important talk with her, if not, let her continue as long as it makes her happy.

Many of us have a very very close relationship with our parents, especially mothers and female's,. The bond is stronger if the female is the only child.

I expect your wife to be matured about it and talk to her mum...but again, if the bond is like I said above, she would find it hard to talk to her mum based on respect.

The whole job lies with you sir.

After a round of talk with her mum, insert yourself in their conversation by greeting her and making her realise it sort of late.... Then after the call, talk to your wife and make her understand the odd hours of call is unsettling you.

It's all about presentation and understanding.
You can use your own mum as a basis for the discussion in terms of how frequent you and her talk.


It's a touchy issue.... One that is bound to whip up sentiments.... Your presentation really matters.

It seems everything is an issue in marriage. Your mama call you na trouble, your mama no call you na trouble, smh

Pidgin2:
It seems everything is an issue in marriage. Your mama call you na trouble, your mama no call you na trouble, smh

So the mum should call every night and spend an hour. A wise mum should ask about the husband and let the daughter get off the phone to be with him.

GlobalGisting:


You are the worst counselor yet alive.

I hope you don't have a screw lose somewhere?

Get off my mention.

pocohantas:
You dey lucky say you be man...
You wouldn't have liked all the "women hate themselves" and "DILs always trying to separate a man from his mother" comment that would have taken over this thread by now.

Allow your wife and her mother talk please!

If it's so bad, face your wife...not NL.

you've said it all. Issues that should be discussed in your home, you brought it to NL and wonder why am won't call her mum all day

jaybillionaire:


Can u imagine the gibberish this one just typed. Some if u ladies are just too blind and a guy should still be blamed for ur worn out panties.

U just failed to make an intelligent submission and then u are blaming the guy. Instead of u to ask him first and know the root cause, u pass a direct judgement on him for his wife's misdoings. I fear u o

idgaf sir

ImaIma1:


So the mum should call every night and spend an hour. A wise mum should ask about the husband and let the daughter get off the phone to be with him.

If it was the son, will you say this? Many people will say the lady is wicked and wants to stop her husband from loving and caring for his mother so what is good for the gander should be good for the goose

gechyy2:
The timing is wrong, every husband deserves that time after work to chill with wifey so i'll advice you to talk to her about it, but mind your words so she will understand its the timing not her mom..

You are correct, I think the problem here is the timing. Left for me, you can talk with your mum from 6am till 9pm no wahala. But anything from 9pm when am back from work and we ought to sit down, discuss family issues, sort out some things and carry out planning, I don't think I will be happy hearing you spending the that precious time again with your mum on phone especially when I know I need to have enough rest and prepare for the next day's work. After our discussions, you can continue with your talks, badamu!!

Pidgin2:


If it was the son, will you say this? Many people will say the lady is wicked and wants to stop her husband from loving and caring for his mother so what is good for the gander should be good for the goose

Husband or wife...none of them is exempted. Their mums should not call that often and spend that long on the phone. Their mums have become third parties and should not be allowed to interfer or have a say in the marriage.
It's my own orientation of marriage and how my people view marriage. Family should not interfer except in life threatening situations.

DONLEKAN:


From the comments we read here, we know those women who will make a good wives and those who are potential bad wives. I hope you have enough time to grow before you marry.

Lol, there goes the myopic thinking. Not everyone's comment is a reflection of their life. I am a happily married women.