I know, it's a parable sir

alfredo4u:


Im a father of two......my daughter is four this while my son is one...

1) Is your wife working? If no you are starving her already which is not fair
2) dropping money for provision in your neigbours place is totally out of it....you are subjecting your wife to ridicule. She is a mother and knows what the children wants.
3) since you are ok now, relocate your family to your side since distance is part of your problem.
God will save your HOME....

Your marriage has ended op. Your wife sees you as a cuckold. Get a divorce and save yourself. Perform a dna test on your children.

Amongst other stuffs
She is also collecting 'banana' and 'cucumber'

...that's why she ain't taking correction.

I just read your story and all I can say is that you're indeed a very very patient man!!! You were supposed to have noticed this fondness your wife has for this neighbor right from the beginning and put a stop to it. To me I think she's already emotionally attached to this person, this is not good at all because that guy could take advantage (sleep) of your wife!!

Oga I will advise you call this guy to order,sit him down and have a Stern talk with him to keep off your wife..I think that may help but if it doesn't I'm sorry you better let your wife go.

You have no business with the guy @ o.p, the problem is between you and your wife, you probably have not corrected your wife in love. Women are very weak and they could lack reasoning most times, as a man come to their level by becoming weak also and try to make things work. She might not be cheating but am very sure you did not handle this issue well from the beginning.Of a truth, her attitude is annoying, call her and apologize if you have spoken rudely she will reason with you and listen let her know the guy is the problem in your marriage and try to be a fool even when you are not one all for your children and for your own self because the christ forbids divorce.

Your wife is just the annoying type... a married woman in a man's house @ 10pm is just a no no irrespective of how close and harmless the relationship is with the neighbor

LadySarah:
First,ithe house is for the Both of you not yours alone.
secondly,your wife is supposed to restrict her comm with the said young man.why is she even going to collect food from him ?

SOLN: Get the intruders no,tell him in clear terms that you dont want him near your apartment or family again.(I'm assuming your wife refused to tell him and he is unaware of your grouse),so that When next you see the Both ,whstever you Do nobody will blame you.
Also understand that your wife is your partner not child and deserves respect .communicate with her As an adult and the issues will be sorted out.

This is not an advice, but a vice

Not any good at all

My brother go take your children and allow her to marry the guy.what nonsense. I can never take such level of disrespect from a woman. She is lost already.

alfredo4u:


Sincerely is not everything I will say here. I have gone through a lot just because of both of them. More than two neighbours have complained about two of them to me. If not for the sake of God and because divorce is not encouraged in my place i would have divorce her now that God have bless me .

Na so...

Bro. Its well.
Firstly pls don't make the mistake of calling the guy to leave your wife alone etc. I
Secondly......you have to call a family matter into this issue. This issue is beyond you now.
I just hope what I'm thinking isn't the issue.
Lastly...for the same of your kids at least...please call her.
Lastly....it would have been good to specify her age. Is she also working or into trade? Its well. Amen

Your kids, all of them should go for paternity test.

that your wife get serious agidi
is she buhari daughter
why is she confidently misbehaving

LadySarah:


SOLN: Get the intruders no,tell him in clear terms that you dont want him near your apartment or family again.(I'm assuming your wife refused to tell him and he is unaware of your grouse),so that When next you see the Both ,whstever you Do nobody will blame you.
Also understand that your wife is your partner not child and deserves respect .communicate with her As an adult and the issues will be sorted out.

this is nonsense childish talk! If his wife refuse to listen to him, u expect a neighbour to listen? We men dnt act like u folks dat will see ur man wit anoda woman and start fighting the woman, in our case, we simply let him keep her.

OneCorner:
Leave those men alone with ur wife na.
Patapata, they will fvck her and at the end of d day, she's still yours again.

Abi wetin I talk no make sense ni

You're right oh... it took me a minute to fully process it. After all, if a wife wants to stray... she will find excuse, but she sha will come back after obgeni is tired of her. Unless she carry belle... that one is a different kettle of fish...

Go warn the guy and take your children. If she wasn't ready to be faithful, she shouldn't get married. She can have the guy or better sit in her father's house. Awon omo werey

alfredo4u:


Sincerely is not everything I will say here. I have gone through a lot just because of both of them. More than two neighbours have complained about two of them to me. If not for the sake of God and because divorce is not encouraged in my place i would have divorce her now that God have bless me.

Do you want to die because of woman? Be there forming no divorce, abeg If it has reached to a level on disrespecting you and not even calling after you stopped calling her, my brother she is getting "it" front the neighbor. Quietly carry your kids and divorce her, the love she had for you is gone, trust me she's staying with you must for marriage sake and vice versa with you. Divorce her and have peace of mind.
Oga sef check if that one year old son is yours? Do a DNA if you can afford it.
My one cent and no disrespect meant.

Sorry but, you are not acting like a man but a wussy, you are not married but in a civil partnership with kids, the day your wife told you she has her life to live was the day it ended for both of you.

Its high time you make destiny changing decisions

LadySarah:
First,ithe house is for the Both of you not yours alone.
secondly,your wife is supposed to restrict her comm with the said young man.why is she even going to collect food from him ?

SOLN: Get the intruders no,tell him in clear terms that you dont want him near your apartment or family again.(I'm assuming your wife refused to tell him and he is unaware of your grouse),so that When next you see the Both ,whstever you Do nobody will blame you.
Also understand that your wife is your partner not child and deserves respect .communicate with her As an adult and the issues will be sorted out.

What If the guy stops coming and the woman decided to be paying the guy a regular visitation as e dey hot?

The man has no business with the guy...it is the woman's recalcitrant behavior that should be dealt with squarely

alfredo4u
Go back home call the guy and warn your wife in his presence and also warn him too. If na beating go solve am beat the guy and your wife but be careful that woman can poison you and make sure you do paternity test for your children

jump and pass.lol!!!!!

xtivin:
You have no business with the guy @ o.p, the problem is between you and your wife, you probably have not corrected your wife in love. Women are very weak and they could lack reasoning most times, as a man come to their level by becoming weak also and try to make things work. She might not be cheating but am very sure you did not handle this issue well from the beginning.Of a truth, her attitude is annoying, call her and apologize if you have spoken rudely she will reason with you and listen let her know the guy is the problem in your marriage and try to be a fool even when you are not one all for your children and for your own self because the christ forbids divorce.

I hate it when I read this kind of comments. Can you accept that trash she is doing. This my eyes have seen lot ooo wrt to this kind of thing. The best thing is to send the bitch packing. You're still here in Nigeria and your wife has started nonsense what if you travel out nko, she would have slept with everything in sight. Tell the dude to be mindful because thunderbolt is by the corner. To disgrace them both .

alfredo4u:


Sincerely is not everything I will say here. I have gone through a lot just because of both of them. More than two neighbours have complained about two of them to me. If not for the sake of God and because divorce is not encouraged in my place i would have divorce her now that God have bless me.

Not bc it is not being encouraged in ur place or u r now bless but bc her character portrays a seriouse disrespect to ur marriage. Threatened her with divorce and she will seat up.

Donald3d:
Not again , person come dey fear to marry na , una wey don marry just dey make person fear everyday .Shey I go marry like this sha ,chei
Anyway.....
Situations like this to be honest would be very hard to solve(she is unwilling to do anything about it) , this is why you should always make it clear the things you like and the things you dont like before marrrying your partner .

Your madam was very very very very wrong on all levels ,
1.She is not supposed to go to a single guys room and vice versa
2.She is not supposed to collect anything from him , You should be the one to go to him if your family needs his assistance.
3.The height of it is her inivting him to your house at night to watch match by 10pm !!!!, like what the ....

Now to your own part
-If she has not always being like this, then something is wrong , and its at the foundation
-How often do you and your wife do things together ?, because from the look of things , if you observe critically and psychologically , its not just about collecting things from him , and she also might not be cheating on you, the koko here is SHE ENJOYS HIS COMPANY.Thats why she finds it hard to stop .
-Is your wife your best friend ? , how do you correct her when she is wrong (by shouting or in a loving manner)
-How well do you tell her sweet words and comment on her beauty
-How well do you give her time just to listen to her
-I know its hard creating time for all these with work and everything but you have to try .
-Women love someone who makes them feel safe and alive, someone who listens to their fears and worries and anything they have to say -Be her friend !
-Have a heart to heart talk with her, tell her calmly why what she is doing is wrong .
-Never stop telling her you love her , even when you are angry with her
-Try and get her busy , so she would have less time to even think he exists
-Bring back respect into your home , not just her respecting you , but you also respecting her .She has obviously lost respect for you
-Above all while you take actions talk to God about everything .

Act fast , because that guy na sharp guy, he knows where you are lacking and he is capitalizing on it , thats the advantage side chicks and side guys always have over the main partner "filling the empty spaces"

No matter what you do ,use wisdom and be calm and loving about it
God bless your marriage


MODIFIED : Women please stop assuming your husband would automatically know what you are thinking or feeling , talk to him if you feel he is not doing something right , not all men are mind readers biko, sometimes he honestly has no clue what you need until you open up,same goes for men too

Abeg make una check my signature

You are sooooooo soon on point

gudvibz:



You are sooooooo soon on point

That woman has lost her sense of reasoning. Divorce her n senf her away before they connive and kill you.BTW Why is some men so slow and dull in running their homes. Cnt imagine my wife I married properlyflirting wit a man openly and claiming right.Goin there 2 collect food?haba! Dem no born am well. I no dey for that 4 beta 4 worse nonsence whn it comes 2 issues like this.

My broda marriage nowadayz na bizness transaction whereby rules n regulation n defaultment n consequences r fully spelt out

Numba One Rule na marry Ur friend so dat weneva any ugliness rises...d friendship might help in alleviating d damage done cos love is sadly no longer enuff nowadayz

Presently u actually nid to go street on d guy cos as I bad reach...I can't allow a married lady into my house if not for business n women spirituali r sumtin else n weak so just go street on d guy n disappear him from dat locality n Ur wife brain go reset

Wit 50k max u can get men who will flog dat cretin outta dat community n mind u dz no b police case so use either OPC or Soljo

Break Ur wife Sim n get her a new one n finally provide as much as u can for her cos na hunger n poverty dey cause all dz small small insult

If u can't do all dz den OYO is Ur case...Reporting to her parentz pastorz blahdahdash no go work or stop her except u r ready to lose Ur home n raise up kidz in a broken home

Wish u d best!

AnodaIT:
One guy was telling us how his married neighbor always come and do beverages for him and she likes taking things from his fridge which of course he has no issue

He asked whether to make a move since she was already giving him all the green signs
Mind you, this was 6 months ago here on nairaland

This guy u funny o...lol! I remember Wella. But na u wan take this memory scatter d remaining part of the marriage o. The guy might just be a nairalander and I hope this hubby then didn't encourage him to touch d woman o cos na im wife e go be.