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Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by SAMBARRY: 7:06am On May 01, 2018 |
iAudio:mshrwew.nonsense.you're part of the people that encourage entitlement mentality in younger siblings as if they don't have hands to work.they're matured,a graduate and old enough to work.it's mentality like this that encourages laziness and entitlement mentality.so because I'm your brother,I shouldn't have savings,you must keep taking and disorganizing my stuffs.every relationship needs space and boundaries if not they're the type of siblings that will not give his wife breathing space because they feel its because of her he stopped giving them things not knowing that he has a family to take care of I owe it to my parents to take care of them but I cannot leave my own load and be carrying my parents load (siblings) Bottom line is that any body that is 20+ should go and work.if he likes comfort and good things of life he should work.no free.thing forever.the things he put in.the fridge didn't just fall into the fridge he worked,earned money to be able to buy it This reminds me.of a neighbor that keeps popping out kids they cannot take care of.he has 9 children and he is only an event planner.he will come and beg me.to give him money that his kids are hungry and haven't eaten since yesterday.I will give him 2k,another time the wife will.come and beg for palmoil,maggi tomorrow,garri next tomorrow,if they see me with fanta they will.collect,if I travel I must bring something for them or they won't let me hear word.when I saw this entitlement mentality is getting out of hand I had to stop it myself by cutting all ties with them and saying no to everything.my no.was firm and emphatic The kids Will cry from morning to night and they no I'm hearing the cry but I will.deliberately ignore if not it will turn to quarrel because I refused to set boundaries.the point is everyone should carry their load.if you know how to fok without family planning,be ready to carry the burden of children ,don't come and put your load on my head,I go throway am 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by lalanice(f): 7:08am On May 01, 2018 |
Jman06:how will you see it when ladies are usually the first to blame for all your life's problems op didn't mention a lady but somehow you found a way to fit one in 6 Likes |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 7:11am On May 01, 2018 |
OrestesDante: He started it! |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by sexdoll: 7:11am On May 01, 2018 |
kimbraa: Ha ha ha. I have a feeling you're exactly in a similar situation like the adult siblings the OP is complaining about. No wonder, you No wonder you No wonder you already know what will happen to people when the fridge is empty!!! Ha ha ha. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 7:12am On May 01, 2018 |
Hidemyface:No nice way. The only nice way is to get them set up in life. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by SAMBARRY: 7:13am On May 01, 2018 |
Iceblockbabe:tell him you want to travel and you won't come back for a long time and you don't want to leave him at home.tell him to pack his things ahead of yesterday so there will be no excuses or the moment he goes out change all the keys to the house and if he calls you on phone,tell him your feelings that you Cannot be breastfeeding an adult,he should work and you need your space |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nwambaise: 7:14am On May 01, 2018 |
Hidemyface: One should be op3n enough with his siblings to show displeasure when they do wrong. You now feel you need space because you have small coins, did you have space when you guys were growing up? You guys are stuck together for life so you help each other be a better human. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 7:15am On May 01, 2018 |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by rayval(m): 7:18am On May 01, 2018 |
Where else would they go to? Whose house would they scatter instead. Whose food would they eat...?.. become one with them and let them become one with you....just make your plans appropriately...then taking care of Mom and yourself wouldn't be a prob |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by SAMBARRY: 7:21am On May 01, 2018 |
Nwambaise:lol.smh.childhood life is different from adulthood At childhood our parents were responsible for our clothing,houserent,feeding and everything.we didn't need to contribute or give them anything to keep the house functional because WE WERE CHILDREN.now we're adults and it's time to man UP or woman UP and take responsibility for your life's decisions.it is a very dangerous thing in this time ,age and generation to depend on anybody for food or shelter not even siblings because everyone has a point of limit.when you exceed it you begin to look like a nuisance and agbaya and start to get disrespected.even the last born will insult you how you're nothing without tunji,if not for tunji you will be sleeping in the bridge.respect yourself and don't put yourself in a position where anyone of your siblings will be justified to insult you and you won't be able to say or do anything about it |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 7:22am On May 01, 2018 |
OrestesDante: Lol.. so u really believe OP is my uncle?? I no sabi am ooo. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by CarlosTheJackal: 7:23am On May 01, 2018 |
Iceblockbabe:I was once in your shoes. my elder brother who was around 38 wasn't bothered about anything. he will watch movie till around 4am then sleep till 1pm. I stomach it until one day i just asked him to leave my apartment that I'm tired. He wanted to use emotional blackmail on me but I told him that i know we are brothers but I'm hindering his stepping up. Told him he needs to hustle when that's the only thing that can provide food and Shelter for him |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by SAMBARRY: 7:34am On May 01, 2018 |
CarlosTheJackal:exactly when you make a sibling get too comfortable in your house,he will not have the thinking capacity to know I need to be independent and sop being a burden on my brother until you take away all the comfort and start making the house hot for him.there are many ways to chase out a parasitic relation away from your house 1.stop paying for dstv subscriptions 2.if you don't have dstv remove the extension box he will use to turn on the t.v. or the cable 3.stop buying food into the house again.be eating from outside and as soon as you enter go and sleep.if he has brain and is a sensitive person he will be the one that will pack his things and thank you for accommodating him and leave but if he's one suffering from entitlement mentality he will ask you why then kuku voice out to him AND tell him you are a man just like me,go and work.another more rude approach is being a girl into the house and be foking her in his presence ,like in the sitting room where he is watching tv or leave the room door open for him to see the sex and hear the noise.no prophet will tell him it's time to excuse himself out of your home and life 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 7:34am On May 01, 2018 |
I thankgod for the kinda family I have. That's all I have to say 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by SAMBARRY: 7:36am On May 01, 2018 |
rayval:take care of mom and dad and yourself,yes,reasonable,take.care of adults that have hands and legs to work and are not imbeciles or physically and mentally challenged? No.unreasonable 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by bmxshop: 7:48am On May 01, 2018 |
kimbraa: Thanks love for this wonderful piece. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by CarlosTheJackal: 7:48am On May 01, 2018 |
JuanitaJames:i can imagine your thought that day but the truth is that sometimes we need that little push. I'm happy that today you know that the push of yesterday made your today worth it |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by blessingsonflee(f): 7:49am On May 01, 2018 |
KOPT33:don't you think they will call you as soon as rent is expired to help them renew their rent? Just saying... some of us have lazy siblings who take advantage of the other one struggling. It's a selfish world but then you have to also make sure they have a source of income to take care of basic things including rent. 5 Likes |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Buffalowings3(m): 7:50am On May 01, 2018 |
Shynerman: Why must you wait till you get married? 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Buffalowings3(m): 7:52am On May 01, 2018 |
JuanitaJames: 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by CarlosTheJackal: 7:53am On May 01, 2018 |
SAMBARRY:All my other siblings ask me to throw him out that if you cant hustle and stand on your own then you should go back to the village |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 7:55am On May 01, 2018 |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by SAMBARRY: 8:03am On May 01, 2018 |
CarlosTheJackal:exactly |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by adeolu21: 8:07am On May 01, 2018 |
ceeroh: if u ar truly one of his nephew, then u hav good uncle that never regret for once for taking good care of you guys. I hop u reciprocate the good deeds toward his children in future. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Hotzone(m): 8:09am On May 01, 2018 |
If u think the violate your privacy then rent affordable apartment for them |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by talk2percy(m): 8:10am On May 01, 2018 |
Oga or madam, there's no better way to do that without hurting them than to continue. Help them by finding a job for them in that way they will become independent and look for their own apartment. If u ask them out knowing too well that they are not better off financially, where would u want them to go?? |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by emmysoftyou: 8:18am On May 01, 2018 |
JuanitaJames:that means ur brother do you well Na? If not, u for just relax there and time dey go.. Naso my Yoruba friend dey complain sey him friend wey come pay visit no wan go again instead carry woman come him house. The guy sey him go live the house for him sey him dey find apartment now. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by fineguy11(m): 8:18am On May 01, 2018 |
Jman06:nonsense post from a breastfed adult. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by DavidEsq(m): 8:19am On May 01, 2018 |
Jman06:Ur bad? Wen I actually thought u were his neighbour. Chai! So u jus dey talk anyhow abi? Lazy Nigerian yoot |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by DavidEsq(m): 8:19am On May 01, 2018 |
fineguy11:Shey na ur brezz e suck ni |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Gettreadyy(m): 8:30am On May 01, 2018 |
Mariangeles:if they have sense they will understand and give you ur space |
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