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Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by stuffs4me(m): 7:39pm On May 01, 2018 |
Hidemyface: Lol... Kudos to you.. You have tried actually |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 3:36pm On May 02, 2018 |
phoenix90:Is that what you think?? You are wrong bro. I was just typing generally based on what's happening arround me. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 3:38pm On May 02, 2018 |
fineguy11:In your fooolish mind abi?? I can feed you and your entire poverty-stricken generation. Bimbo |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 3:45pm On May 02, 2018 |
Maxcollins042:My opinion was based on what i know many guys to be capable of doing. BTW, you have no right to stop me from airing my opinion on any issue. The cyberspace does not belong to you. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Maxcollins042(m): 5:53pm On May 02, 2018 |
Jman06:Yeah, go on with your gibberish opinion. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 6:01pm On May 02, 2018 |
Maxcollins042:And you'll continue quoting me like a fool that you are. Now, gtfo my mention! |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Maxcollins042(m): 6:12pm On May 02, 2018 |
Jman06:I will continue quoting you as long as you infiltrate my mention with your senseless , lunatic and inordinate tendencies. Just don't utter a nonsensical opinion regarding peoples' lives that you have no idea about. It irks me to see dingleberries like you. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 6:30pm On May 02, 2018 |
Maxcollins042:FOOL...who quoted the other first It'll do you a whole lot of good if you learn to stay on your lane next time, otherwise you'll continue to expose your foolery on social media and get burnt in the process. Dunderhead... |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Maxcollins042(m): 6:51pm On May 02, 2018 |
Jman06:slowpoke I made the first quote because it irritates me to see a gobshite like you delve into what that does not concern him. Look at what a supposed human being typed and he thinks it makes an iota of sense (pukes) I won't sit back and allow the insidious faeces you excavated fester -never. The sooner you owe up to the blunder that you made, the better for your thick skull. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 7:43pm On May 02, 2018 |
Maxcollins042:Fuckkk you, foool! I made my opinion and I stand by it. If it irritates you, go and grab the nearest live high tension cable, or better still, use rat poison to end the misery you call life! Keep hyperventilating on my mentions while i join my real guys to have some fun. I won't dignify you with further response. Brainless nitwit! |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Maxcollins042(m): 7:46pm On May 02, 2018 |
Jman06:Haha.... alright lazy sod. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Chuksmonika(m): 9:18am On Feb 01, 2019 |
Ramos16:and lastly,your parents |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 4:24pm On Feb 02, 2019 |
Jman06: That's why it's not good to jump into conclusions. And how are you sure the OP he the capacity to help his bro stand in his business? He might be managing himself 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Jman06(m): 10:12pm On Feb 02, 2019 |
ImaIma1:OK ma'am. My bad |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Nobody: 3:55am On Feb 03, 2019 |
Wow! Reading this topic and comments has really got me thinking how fortunate I am, my brother is in the United States settled with his family, my 2 sisters are married to men that are well doing. It's only me and one of my sister who isn't married that live in our family house, and i don't even live in the main house with my parents I live in a separate bungalow house located at the back of the compound alone, and I have privacy too with my 2 vicious dogs at the back yard. Only problem is I'm unemployeanr jobs are very scarce, I keep giving out CVS but nothing, my parents are helping by giving out my CVS to friends and relatives but still nothing, finance is a bit tight but I'm managing sha but atleast I don't struggle to pay bills, as when my folkes pay there's they include mine also. Meanwhile even the people with Jobs in this thread are struggling, this country is very difficult sha. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 8:57am On Feb 03, 2019 |
DaCharis2016: Terrible behaviour from him. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 9:00am On Feb 03, 2019 |
Elderay: Apart from helping himself, he was helping you too. How long did you want to keep being dependent on him before you found your own feet? 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 9:10am On Feb 03, 2019 |
I don't think these your adult siblings are financially stable. Carry them along in your plans 'cause food is nothing. This one you're deliberately keeping your fridge empty is wrong if you have people in the house who may be hungry. About cleaning, you can all discuss that and strategise a plan on how cleaning should be done and by who daily. Lastly, encourage them to get something doing. I think the major issue his siblings and a lot of people is that they don't know when they have overstayed their welcome especially when they have seen free food and everything...where they are not the ones taking responsibility. Asking them to leave will make them find their feet and have their own place whether it with a grudge or not. Sometimes we need to be hard to make things better. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 9:16am On Feb 03, 2019 |
LordKO: People won't understand because they are squatting with a sibling and feel entitled to the help and have refused to go and start on their own. When he gets married, they will start fighting the wife and bearing grudges. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 2:29pm On Feb 03, 2019 |
Iceblockbabe: He will bring in his wife and kids and live with you. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 2:37pm On Feb 03, 2019 |
Hidemyface: So how far? Have they gone or they are still occupying your house? |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Hidemyface: 9:52pm On Feb 03, 2019 |
ImaIma1: It's like you've gone through this situation before. I guess it's my cross to bear.. I just tire cos I can't live for me and even think about settling down cos automatically they'd need to give me space. Looking back at the way I struggled to survive and work for the family, I don't know if they think I had it easy or inherited what I presently have. Whenever I go broke or things get hard, it's between me and God for help cause can't depend on anyone. Mentally I am tired so I don't even need any other stress hence I keep off ladies that don't even know my battles and want me to fight another battle of keeping the relationship even when I try. I pray things works out the way I'm planning so I just settle everyone to go find their destiny so I can face my live rather than having adults policing my progress even when I don't feel like revealing. Now extended family and friends are knocking. I just tell them I don't have cause I need to plan for myself hence I've gone off social media. Sometimes, people think the reason I smile a lot is cause I have it all good and perfect but nope, deep down my cross is heavy but I choose to smile and be source of strength to others. That's why any chance that presents itself for me to forget my pains, be it party or hanging out, I try to loose myself and make the most of it. It is well. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Hidemyface: 10:08pm On Feb 03, 2019 |
mhd5757: Your elder brother and sisters might have taken the weight that'd fallen on you. Life gives us different crosses to bear. You might be complaining about not having shoe until you meet someone that doesn't have legs. |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by ImaIma1(f): 11:50pm On Feb 03, 2019 |
Hidemyface: I really feel your struggles but most people will see as being selfish and not wanting to help your own family. It is the same entitlement mentality that they complain about. You are not under any obligation to settle them but it is out culture that imprisons us with this idea. I haven't actually gone through this situation. I am last child with 5 elder ones but I know what it means for people to overstay their welcome. I don't even like sleeping over at my siblings place. None of my siblings do either. They visit and go or spend one night. I just hate to feel like I am inconveniencing anyone because I like my space and I don't like to deprive others of theirs too. You need to be diplomatic in the way you handle it. If it was possible to be transferred to another state, that would be good. So that you can leave the house for them. I wish you the best. You need it |
Re: How Do You Tell Siblings To Give You Space Without Hurting Them Feelings by Hidemyface: 5:17am On Feb 04, 2019 |
ImaIma1: Thanks |
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