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Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by bukatyne(f): 12:25am On Jun 14, 2018 |
postmann: @last paragraph, why do you think so? |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by MissRaine69(f): 12:34am On Jun 14, 2018 |
2buffagain:You need four accounts 1. His own personal account 2. Her own personal account 3. An account where all the bills are paid from - you contribute 50-50 4. A savings account where both signatures are required to withdraw money both agree how much both put into this account monthly or every other month What you do with what’s left over in your account is your business. 2 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:37am On Jun 14, 2018 |
MissRaine69: Interesting.. My wife and I share bills but don't operate four accounts.. whatever works for every other couple out there though. |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:40am On Jun 14, 2018 |
postmann: That the woman is earning more doesn't mean the husband won't contribute. This is the 21st century.. the earlier you awaken from the drunken patriarchal mentality the better for you. 4 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by MissRaine69(f): 12:58am On Jun 14, 2018 |
Elder001:Until something happens .... |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 1:45am On Jun 14, 2018 |
MissRaine69: Something like? |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by 2buffagain(m): 2:11am On Jun 14, 2018 |
MissRaine69: So basically same as mentioned in the OP. Like this is such a common sense and stress-free way to go about it. 2 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 8:14am On Jun 14, 2018 |
Elder001: I disagree. It is men who hide their salaries because "they don't want their wives to know what they earn and make demands" 1 Like |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by postmann: 11:17am On Jun 14, 2018 |
Elder001: I'll tell you what; when your wife nurses your child on one breast, I implore you to take hold of the other and nurse to your fill. Be mindful of your file of adult teeth while at it so you don't bite the life out of her as she nurses you along with the infant. While your brain is scientifically proven to be bigger (with larger IQ) than hers and a corresponding set of muscles as added bonus, you'd make for a poster boy of the ever emasculated 21st century male for not bringing them home where it matters most. 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by postmann: 11:20am On Jun 14, 2018 |
bukatyne:Simple! Empirical observation, verifiable stats. 1 Like |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 1:06pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
ImaIma1: This isn't shít, you know? Why should I hide my salary from my wife because she wants demands? she works too and earn so why will she be making demands when she got her own cash unless she's broke? 1 Like |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by bukatyne(f): 2:43pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
postmann: You haven't said anything. All the women you observed/ engaged, why did they have issues handling most of the finances? |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Fhemmmy: 3:37pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
What is the purpose of opening so many accounts? WHat happened if the man oor the woman lost his or her job after the wedding and now the laziness is shown? While some of the advice is applicable, some won't but a great place to start |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by ImaIma1(f): 4:22pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
Elder001: Easy tiger. I am only telling you what i have seen and heard constantly which does not apply to me anyway. You seem to be very money conscious and alert. |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by freecocoa(f): 5:37pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
2buffagain:Okay, I see your point but then, some men are the ones that mismanage the funds, infact I would say, women handle money better than men. |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Gloriagee(f): 5:57pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
Women feel fulfilled irrespective of if the guy earns less provided other conditions are met. So if a guy earns less than me whilst I can afford a quality lifestyle, I'll be unhappy whilst He's faithful, caring n a wonderful communicator? Odiegwu postmann: 1 Like |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by postmann: 6:23pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
Gloriagee: To dream is free. 1 Like |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Gloriagee(f): 6:24pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
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Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by postmann: 6:31pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
bukatyne: Women don't generally go into relationships with the expectation they'll be doing MOST of the financial spending. Be it societal expectations or biological conditioning, they far more proud and comfortable with a man who meets majority of their financial needs. Women generally can't cope with work related stress and domestic obligation without feeling stressed, fatigued and unhappy. 3 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by postmann: 6:34pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
Gloriagee:Ok |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by bukatyne(f): 6:50pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
postmann: Thanks They do not go into relationship with the expectation they'll be doing MOST of the financial spending BECAUSE they are expected to handle the domestic turf. @Bold: Show me a man who would be happy handling work stress and finance while he has a wife then I would agree it is a woman thing ELSE, it is a human thing. If there is a delegation of duties, nobody will be happy doing every body's job. Now, the above is theory. In practical, it doesn't work that way. 3 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by postmann: 7:16pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
bukatyne: Women are meant to do most of the house chores and men are expected to rake in most of the finance for the family upkeep. This is a biologically and physiologically backed gender categorized roles. Statistics have proven men are 5 times more likely to cheat when their partners are the major breadwinners and it is partly because they find such women less attractive. On the other hand it has been proven that men who do more house chores engage less in sex and their women find then less attractive. When humans abuse nature, they can't escape the consequences. There are lots of men who are the breadwinners, paying most/all the bills in the home and are happy and fulfilled doing it. 3 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 7:28pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
Fhemmmy:I don't think they're many. People already have their own accounts before marriage. With marriage, they open a joint account where they pay bills from, and a savings account that remains untouched, so the only accounts that get opened upon marriage are just two: the joint and savings. 3 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by bukatyne(f): 11:25pm On Jun 14, 2018 |
postmann: You are making my case for me. In theory, (practical life is much more complex) women are to do chores and men are to finance the home. Shouldn't it occur to anyone that it would be natural for a woman to feel 'bitter' when she is financing the home because she is expected to do the chores + finance the home? Why do people behave as if the 'bitterness' is a vice especially when the husband is still traditionally inclined? On the flip side, would a husband be happy picking up most of the domestic work after financing the home? |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:00am On Jun 15, 2018 |
postmann: Hey. This is Shìt, you know? What exactly are you trying to say with this post? When did men start breast feeding babies?. for the big heart stuff .. man stop saying shìt, things ain't so anymore . I don't think any Self conscious and intelligent man will want to marry a wife that can't co-provide alongside him. Even the so called traditional men or alpha males want women who'll contribute too. 65% or more of married American ladies share bills(co-provide) with their husbands... so wtf is your point? Times have changed.. men do the chores too you know. That's why it's called a civilized world ,yeah? You follow? 1 Like |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:03am On Jun 15, 2018 |
bukatyne: Do you think him for a fool? Since providing finance is his responsibility why don't you stick to doing the domestic work alone because they're your responsibility. 2 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:06am On Jun 15, 2018 |
postmann: do yourself good by posting links to this statistics . Nature indeed.. You must be living in a delusional world I'm forced to ask. ..are you married? 2 Likes |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:11am On Jun 15, 2018 |
Gloriagee: The funny thing is he hasn't met up to 1% of the world's female population but he's making that useless generalization. What I denoted from that post is that he's a guy or man with skewed 18th century mentality and probably living in a cave. |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:14am On Jun 15, 2018 |
freecocoa: Really? despite handling better than men and contributing less most women are still financially dead if compared to their husbands... (talking about Nigeria) You know what? handle your own finances not the joint finance or the man's money. |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:15am On Jun 15, 2018 |
ImaIma1: Someone who isn't money conscious can never have a good financial standing. |
Re: How to handle finances in Marriage by Nobody: 12:24am On Jun 15, 2018 |
postmann: It'll only happen if you allow such to happen.. There are two types of males in this world: Alpha males and Beta Males. Alpha males are the ones that won't share bills with their wives and at the same time won't share house chores with their wives... they're pre dominantly found in Africa and some parts of Asia. Beta males are the ones that share bills with their wives and at the same time share house chores with their wives... they're pre dominantly found in western countries and some parts of Asia. Alpha males are already going to extinction in civilized countries.. a lot of them have embraced the "Beta male" concept. The type of man you choose to be is what'll determine your behaviour towards marriage. |
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