janettee:
You people will use the bible to justify anything.

In the passages you quoted. Nowhere was it stated that wives shouldn't bear their own surname when they get married.

Crap!..

It is not stated but it was stated a woman should submit to her husband like she would submit unto the lord.

That is a strong commandment. It is a pity we joke a lot as Christians. If we don't, no woman should joke with that commandment. Do u know the meaning of that commandment? Submit to ur hubsnad like u submit to your lord.

It means if the man says he wants u to change ur father's name to his, u just have to do so becus u are commanded by your bible to submit to him. U were not asked to choose things to submit to but to submit every every to ur husband..

Can u question your lord Jesus? Since the bible says u should submit to ur husband like u submit to ur lord Jesus, it means u shouldn't question him. Lol. Bible is strict on women and that is becus Eve was the source of downfall of human race.

Remember part of the punishment given to Eve was that her husband will rule over her.

Also, bearing ur father's name doesn't make sense becus that name came from ur father who has his own family. U and ur husband shall become one, meaning u guys are starting a new family.

It's only insecure men that are worried. You name is supposed to show ur identity so her maiden and husband's name together does it perfectly. The irony here is that these same people that forbid this will her dead body back to her father's place for burial when she dies..... hypocrisy

Evangkatsoulis:


Dude, where does it state that a woman shouldn't bear her father's name along with her husband's?

Is there hope for Nigeria?.... People will just be quoting Bible according to the way it suits them, did they even make feminine mentions of surnames in the Bible. Are men not having baby mama's, did they mention it in the Bible, and we think government is our only problem in this country

FriendNG:
A woman should not use her husband name at all but her father name. Once your father he remains ur father forever and ever. You can get married to another husband but you can never get born for the second time to another father.

I agree with you. But these egomaniacs here will literally faint.

JeromeBlack:



Then Jesus would be Jesus Joseph.

Use your brain

Jesus Christ!
where did you see the Bible making use of such? it was David son of Jesse not David jesse, Sarah wife of Abraham not Sarah Abraham or Sarah and her father's name.

the Bible was not written in English language and most times the English version make use of direct translation. read and think first before opening your mouth.
if I get married today and my wife name was to be Juliet , if we go with Bible pattern she will have to use Juliet wife of Mark and I won't have problem with it

...this is a different generation of ladies where the respect & santity of being married is taken for granted...why didn't our mothers, grandmothers have hypernated surnames...it was because they believe so much in their marriage...

...i think ladies if they want to marry should either keep their maiden surname or change to their husband's name...simples...

Jaynom:
Our problem in this country is RELIGION . She's been bearing her father's name since she was born, did she die or was she plagued with mental illnesses? Get a good woman and whether or not she wants to use her father's name shouldn't be an issue. The most important thing is that She's your wife . You think in the Bible Abraham's wife was called SARAH ABRAHAM?

I tire of bros, as in I just tire.....As Africans historically, was there anything like surnames, she's your wife already. These same people won't complain when their married daughters keep their names o.

Jaynom:
Our problem in this country is RELIGION . She's been bearing her father's name since she was born, did she die or was she plagued with mental illnesses? Get a good woman and whether or not she wants to use her father's name shouldn't be an issue. The most important thing is that She's your wife . You think in the Bible Abraham's wife was called SARAH ABRAHAM?

reasoning, logic and perspective are not allowed please

Any woman who does so, show that shes not fully committed to her marriage. Thats the sign they are passing across to the world and i dont blame them, the man(husband) in question gave them the space to do so. cus how can someone pay your bride prize and you are not committed, thats bullshit may the lord deliver me from my friends, i can take a good care of my enemies.

Adding words to scriptures just to twist and force their opinions down ones throat. The hottest part of hell waits for you lots...

Strong, real and God fearing men are out there hustling, doing great things and trying to make their society a better place while weak men with low self esteem, no iota of self worth, chamfer-like personality, empty heads are here arguing about inconsequential things...
Dear Lord, You know that I am hard working and responsible. Whenever I make up my mind to have a life long companion, may these weaklings stay light years away from me and even my unborn daughters...Amen

alBHAGDADI:
Where e dey for Bible say make we no smoke igbo?

Must the Bible spell everything out for you guys? Even with the explanation in the OP, you are still asking this question?

Is it a sin to smoke weed?

Even when her father's name can serve as collateral? Imagine Adenuga, TY Danjuma, Duke ... Hmm ok oo I have go ooo

LandlordHopeful:


Not necessarily. Trent "Alexander-Arnold" is a fusion of both his father and mother's surnames

Same with Alex Oxlade-Chamberlain. Kyle Walker-Peters. Ruben Loftus-Cheek etc

Are you implying that there's a world outside Nigeria? How dare you?

Herrmes:
Is it a sin to smoke weed?

Yes.

alBHAGDADI:
Yes.

Please follow up

Princedapace:


It is not stated but it was stated a woman should submit to her husband like she would submit unto the lord.

That is a strong commandment. It is a pity we joke a lot as Christians. If we don't, no woman should joke with that commandment. Do u know the meaning of that commandment? Submit to ur hubsnad like u submit to your lord.

It means if the man says he wants u to change ur father's name to his, u just have to do so becus u are commanded by your bible to submit to him. U were not asked to choose things to submit to but to submit every every to ur husband..

Can u question your lord Jesus? Since the bible says u should submit to ur husband like u submit to ur lord Jesus, it means u shouldn't question him. Lol. Bible is strict on women and that is becus Eve was the source of downfall of human race.

Remember part of the punishment given to Eve was that her husband will rule over her.

Also, bearing ur father's name doesn't make sense becus that name came from ur father who has his own family. U and ur husband shall become one, meaning u guys are starting a new family.

I didn't read all that!. Go look for who else to preach to not me!!�

Nigerians you guys never seize to amaze me, you have a million and one problems but keep focusing on bullshit, spent 5 years in China and never once was I bothered about such frivolous issues everyone of them are focused on improving themselves even remote farmers but just 6 months in Africa Tribal discord, Religious fanaticism and Hate is the order of the day, y'all need to do better, smh

Ugosample:
I'm wondering what's the link between keeping your father's surname and rebelliousness? ?


Don't you know that this surname thing originated from the Norman French culture in the 10th century and then spread to the rest off the over the centuries?

Men like these make me ashamed to be a man

JoKe Silva that has been married for decades to olu Jacobs, are they not a happy family?

Fathia Balogun that changed to her husband's name, how far with the marriage?


All ye dumbasses will be fretting and hyper ventilation over frivolous things


And in the bible passages you quoted, what is the link between that and "name change"

Take your mature and sensible post elsewhere... we don't need that here on nairaland

pocohantas:


Doesn't he submit to the church?

How many of you can wash your wife's feet like Jesus did for the disciples?

No, he doesn't submit to the church. He is the head of the church. Or have you seen where the head goes where the legs one to go? No. Rather, the legs go where the head wants to go. The day the legs decide to do otherwise is the day they get cut off.

Ephesians 5:23-24
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Washing feet? What do you think men have been doing all these years of falling much?

Herrmes:
Please follow up

Does smoking glorify God?

1 Corinthians 6:20
For you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Corinthians 10:31
So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

alBHAGDADI:
You people want to keep the tradition of paying bride price, but you don't want to keep the tradition of husband's name alone.

Isn't that double standard?

this is the ONLY angle from which the issue can be logically tackled

Biscuits:
Nigerians you guys never seize to amaze me, you have a million and one problems but keep focusing on bullshit, spent 5 years in China and never once was I bothered about such frivolous issues everyone of them are focused on improving themselves even remote farmers but just 6 months in Africa Tribal discord, Religious fanaticism and Hate is the order of the day, y'all need to do better, smh

Please go back to China where there is No regard for the living God.

abbeyfel:
This is the most stupid and baseless topic I've read on nairaland! What rubbish. Just mention where d bible said this specifically...

So that’s why you wanna cry?

pocohantas:


This is why I suggest History should be made compulsory in secondary schools. You know nothing about culture/tradition obviously.

Just like "white wedding", a woman switching to her husband's name is foreign.

That said, Bride price was started by you men. Men are the ones that sit and collect it all. Ego will not allow you all stop it, because you people must always have something to feel superior about.

Honestly I do wonder if some of you can exist as women. So insecure, despite how society has given you guys a higher standing...you people still fight over the pettiest of things. Jeez!!!!

another logical observation. I take it that ladies are not obsessed with bride price. It's fathers that insist on it?

kingPhidel:
Even when her father's name can serve as collateral? Imagine Adenuga, TY Danjuma, Duke ... Hmm ok oo I have go ooo

You trust in those names instead of the name Jesus which is above every other name?

noturbusiness:

Jesus Christ!
where did you see the Bible making use of such? it was David son of Jesse not David jesse, Sarah wife of Abraham not Sarah Abraham or Sarah and her father's name.

the Bible was not written in English language and most times the English version make use of direct translation. read and think first before opening your mouth.
if I get married today and my wife name was to be Juliet , if we go with Bible pattern she will have to use Juliet wife of Mark and I won't have problem with it

You keep shooting yourself in the foot.

You are saying that the naming pattern used in the bible is different from that of modern times...but you want to use the bible to modern life

Ugosample:
with the rate of globalisation over the decades, bride price will die a natural death in Africa
you will see. ...
30-40 years from now, max

You seriously underestimate africa

alBHAGDADI:
The analogy is on point. Or can your legs go to Ikeja when your head wants to stay at home? I bet you usually cut off your legs to satisfy their ways which are contrary to your head's thoughts.

@ albhagdadi, take it easy. You seem like a nice guy. You are the head of the home, not to walk over your wife, but to lead in/with love.

Don't use this your rigidity to spoil things for yourself in future.

noturbusiness:

what is surname? is it not your father's name? try and type with understanding

Son of Joseph is not a name. It's a title

janettee:


I didn't read all that!. Go look for who else to preach to not me!!�

It is ur choice..

CookieLaVee:
Adding words to scriptures just to twist and force their opinions down ones throat. The hottest part of hell waits for you lots...

Strong, real and God fearing men are out there hustling, doing great things and trying to make their society a better place while weak men with low self esteem, no iota of self worth, chamfer-like personality, empty heads are here arguing about inconsequential things...
Dear Lord, You know that I am hard working and responsible. Whenever I make up my mind to have a life long companion, may these weaklings stay light years away from me and even my unborn daughters...Amen

Are you praying to the same God who said your husband will rule over you and you must submit, or you are praying to Satan who wants you to drag headship with your husband?

Simply because you don't want to obey God, your father and your husband, you have listed men who simply comply with God's rule as weak. Keep it up.May God open your eyes before it's too late.

alBHAGDADI:
Adding her father's name to her husband's name is totally against the Bible. Including her father's name means her marriage, which her father should have no business in, now includes him. This makes it two flesh.

Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

It also doesn't show submission which is against the Bible which says wives should submit to their husband. It changes the ancient landmark which we all met.

And answer to one name? Like if the man's first name is Segun, she starts bearing Segun too, in the Spirit of submission and "two become one"?