justnock:
@uninspired07 na your type wife go end up giving birth to quadruplets.

uninspired07:


How? If you know how I dislike plenty children ehn, you want talk like this at all. 2 children at most with the best of education I can afford.

When you have spent 10 years in marriage, come back and tell us how many kids you have by that time. You're not even qualified to brag for now.

OP God bless you.
If you're still hustling, this 2020 ehn your hustle must reach permanent site.

You don't know how happy I am when I chance upon Nigerians that reason well like you. Our land is filled with folks who prefer to live in denial of reality. It's part of the reason for our poverty.

I keep telling people that getting married isn't such a big deal. I think at this age with the little I know about life and my discipline, I can handle marriage.
The real deal is raising kid(s). If that part doesn't scare you, bro/sis I troway salute o. You try pass me.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

I totally agree with you OP, but may I please ask that you adopt the 2 instead of having them biologically. In the midst of grinding economic depression, please lead by example and take 2 children in in stead of creating more - prove your altruism.

Cheeryfeet:
Oga it's different strokes for different folks. It all depends on which side you are looking from, either the glass is half empty or half full; Perception. One guy said" it's because of you kids that I'm poor" another said " it's because of you kids that I'm wealthy". Besides God said be fruitful, multiply and replenish. It all depends on your capacity bro not on the economy, inside this economy we are complaining, people are still hitting it big time. But then again it still our choice to make

That is absolute nonsense.

maasoap:


When you have spent 10 years in marriage, come back and tell us how many kids you have by that time. You're not even qualified to brag for now.

Again, you’re a northerner & you are not qualified to contribute to this discussion because it is against your religion & culture. You can see I directed my message to southerners?

Willdone5406:
As FOR ME OVER 1.5 CHILDREN IS ENOUGH SIMPLE

Na so oooo Over 1.5 straight.

erifeoluwasimi:
That one no vex me at all. The one way vex me pass be say they will see me and tease me"madam this your boy suppose don get younger one o" and evening time they will come and be begging me for cup of rice.
One was telling me that why will I go for family planning if I am not cheating on my husband.
Nigerians women especially need reorientation

If you can please change location.

erifeoluwasimi:
That one no vex me at all. The one way vex me pass be say they will see me and tease me"madam this your boy suppose don get younger one o" and evening time they will come and be begging me for cup of rice.
One was telling me that why will I go for family planning if I am not cheating on my husband.
Nigerians women especially need reorientation

I have two, a boy and a girl. Do you know at my place of work they told me that i hate children for not wanting to have more. I tried to explain to them that even to take care of these ones is a tug of war, why should i want to bring more into these world to suffer them. I am even segregated for saying two is enough foe me.

Preetychina22:

I beg to differ. You're the one with a poor logic.
A man who has 2 kids and earns 100k monthly will cater for his kids better than a man who earns the same amount but has 10 kids.
It's simple logic, stop twisting it.

Then you have even poorer logic too.....you may not even have any logic at all

Everyone has different opinion....Poverty respects no one. Whether you have 2 or 10 kids. When there is poverty, the difference will hardly be noticeable

LZAA:
In the us and Britain some couples have up to seven or eight kids
Population planning is well on theory but trust me there is a reason even china had to reverse their one child rule
It's just not practical
The truth is just born the number you want and then stop

All throughout the West, birth/fertility rates have dropped below population replacement level (around 2 children per woman), which means if not for immigration, many Western countries would have receding populations. China despite relaxing its one child rule has a very low birth rate. It's in the natural cycle of developed or seriously developing economies to have low birth rates due to the empowered, career-focused female population. It's generally mostly the poorest, most poorly educated, underdeveloped countries in the world (like most of subsaharan Africa) where people still breed like rats and cultivate a vicious cycle of poverty.

Nigerians don't care.

Toneyo:


After I had 3 kids I did family planing. Now, I have 5 kids. Family planning failed me twice.

I could have floushed them but no, I cant abort my own blood.

Things are not that easy for me, but I dont mind putting on rags to give my kids the best. They are all I've got.

That's the spirit

Take care of your kids!

RealMillennial:
OP God bless you.
If you're still hustling, this 2020 ehn your hustle must reach permanent site.

You don't know how happy I am when I chance upon Nigerians that reason well like you. Our land is filled with folks who prefer to live in denial of reality. It's part of the reason for our poverty.

I keep telling people that getting married isn't such a big deal. I think at this age with the little I know about life and my discipline, I can handle marriage.
The real deal is raising kid(s). If that part doesn't scare you, bro/sis I troway salute o. You try pass me.

I think the reason why average people can have many kids in Nigeria is they don’t pay attention to the socio-political condition of Nigeria. They know nothing of Geo politics or national security. They think they are ensconced from the madness in upnorth. They feel Nigeria cannot erupt into war of famine anytime soon.

I just don’t feel comfortable raising many kids in Nigeria as presently constituted.

erifeoluwasimi:
That one no vex me at all. The one way vex me pass be say they will see me and tease me"madam this your boy suppose don get younger one o" and evening time they will come and be begging me for cup of rice.
One was telling me that why will I go for family planning if I am not cheating on my husband.
Nigerians women especially need reorientation

It's your fault. How did she know you're on family planning? Shouldn't that be between you ad your husband?

Blueelf:


Then you have even poorer logic too.....you may not even have any logic at all

Everyone has different opinion....Poverty respects no one. Whether you have 2 or 10 kids. When there is poverty, the difference will hardly be noticeable

This is a lie & you know it but I won’t argue with you.

You just want more innocent Nigerians to fall into the poverty hole you’ve dug yourself into.

If my education cannot teach me to fear Nigeria, what have my parents gained in educating me? This is a failed contraption & our children deserve better.

concept65:

I totally agree with you OP, but may I please ask that you adopt the 2 instead of having them biologically. In the midst of grinding economic depression, please lead by example and take 2 children in in stead of creating more - prove your altruism.

You can't tell the OP how to lead his life, shame on you.

uninspired07:
I know this my thread might get some people angry but it’s a subject that surprises me whenever I think of it. How do normal Nigerians who are educated have more than 2 children in a country like Nigeria with all the poverty & hopelessness? I am still single but I have it in mind to lay a ground rule that whichever woman I marry must agree to family planing methods after the birth of the 1st child whether male or female. And if the 1st baby is male, we can as well wait for another 5 years before having a baby of either sex as the last.

I'm curious here, mind answering my question? You said if the 1st baby is a male, what if the 1st baby is a female? What happens then? What if the 2nd baby is also a female, what happens then? All are children but I'm asking you because of your specific statement about the 1st child being a male. If you're ready to stop after two females, what about your wife? Will she agree to stop after having two female children even when your own statement is pregnant? You guys need to consider all possibilities before making a futile promise to each other because you don't get to choose between male and female child even at giving birth twice.

But I wonder when I see Nigerians that are not so wealthy giving birth to 4 - 5 kids in the midst of grinding economic depression and in a nation that has clearly failed. Don’t these Nigerians know that the country can descend into war anytime due to the instability that is so palpable? I get afraid when I see couples who have 4 children in this day & age so I always wonder how they are coping with the stress & the bills. I also wonder why they are not afraid of Nigeria.

Is there a special formula to protect one or two children during the war as against having 4 or 5 kids?

001bumsa:

I have two, a boy and a girl. Do you know at my place of work they told me that i hate children for not wanting to have more. I tried to explain to them that even to take care of these ones is a tug of war, why should i want to bring more into these world to suffer them. I am even segregated for saying two is enough foe me.

Don’t mind them. They want to see you & your kids stuck & suffering in Nigeria.

Take care of those kids & get them a passport so you can all flee out of Nigeria at short notice. At least God has blessed you with a boy so you have nothing to fear.

God bless.

001bumsa:

I have two, a boy and a girl. Do you know at my place of work they told me that i hate children for not wanting to have more. I tried to explain to them that even to take care of these ones is a tug of war, why should i want to bring more into these world to suffer them. I am even segregated for saying two is enough foe me.

Do not allow the narrow-mindedness of semi-literates get at you.

Just imagine their excuse, you hate children, emotions/sentiments.

One can easily deduce they are illiterates or semi-literates at best for not dealing with facts/reality but emotions.

James39:
do you think having 2kids keeps you away from the harsh economy? Or do you thinks its everyone with many kids that's poor? Me I just can't takeb2 children. Call me whatever you like. Its my life and my decision

Like I said as for me ooo either maximum or minimum its 4kids.

When you know how to play your cards well. You will understand my own point

You have no point oga
Many kids is the major reason for poverty in this country.
U can as well give birth to 10 ten kids
Breeding kids like animals is d only thing u Nigerians know how to do. Give them a better life u can't.

Amanda4life:
I don't see myself having less than 5 children.

The bible says we should be fruitful I beg

That's fine if you have the resources to cater for them. If you don't have enough to cater for them, they'll become a burden to the society at large.
That's why you find a woman in a public bus carrying 4 kids and intending to pay for just one seat. Her plan is to ask other people to lap the kids for her: because they are kids. I never did that.
Nigeria is a failure.

James39:
do you think having 2kids keeps you away from the harsh economy? Or do you thinks its everyone with many kids that's poor? Me I just can't takeb2 children. Call me whatever you like. Its my life and my decision

Like I said as for me ooo either maximum or minimum its 4kids.

When you know how to play your cards well. You will understand my own point

Last last one of your pikin go sue you for bringing him to life ...
Abi e fit use you for ritual
Oga take advice for is too much even if you have all the money in this world
3 should be maximum children nor be food

uninspired07:


I will lay the ground rules for any woman I want to marry ooo. If she defies my rule mid-marriage, I might as well exit the union. It seems some of you don’t know the severity of the issue at hand.

I love this entertainment from you. If wishes are horses.........
You talk as if marriage is a kind of Boss-Servant relationship.
You hire and fire...Ok
We are watching. May God help your choice.

AkeNathan:


You can't tell the OP how to lead his life, shame on you.

But he is telling others how to lead theirs? Shame on him

CopyJoe:
It's one of the major reasons there's so much poverty in the land.

People give birth to children they can't take care of. Instead, they should use the little resources they have to take adequate care of the ones they have already given birth to.

Rich people, with all the money they have, limit the number of children they give birth to.

cc James39

uninspired07:


Don’t mind them. They want to see you & your kids stuck & suffering in Nigeria.

Take care of those kids & get them a passport so you can all flee out of Nigeria at short notice. At least God has blessed you with a boy so you have nothing to fear.

God bless.

Why do I feel like this look like a clownish advice? So, 180 million Nigerians can really flee at short notice! Now, I have to ask you another question: how old are you? I meant it

erifeoluwasimi:
That one no vex me at all. The one way vex me pass be say they will see me and tease me"madam this your boy suppose don get younger one o" and evening time they will come and be begging me for cup of rice.
One was telling me that why will I go for family planning if I am not cheating on my husband.
Nigerians women especially need reorientation

u cannot overemphasize d value of education.. m sure those women u r talking abt aren't educated or had half education..

Blueelf:


Then you have even poorer logic too.....you may not even have any logic at all

Everyone has different opinion....Poverty respects no one. Whether you have 2 or 10 kids. When there is poverty, the difference will hardly be noticeable

Quite laughable.

uninspired07:


Naija doesn’t have a future & it has failed already. She is just yet to slip into internecine war.

Oga uninspired07, and you still want to have your "one or two kids"? For what?! To become soldiers or nurses in the future war of a failed Nigeria?!

If Nigeria really doesn't have a future & has failed, why don't you just completely refrain from bringing any innocent child to the failed State?!

Nigeria good or not,you are just irresponsible if you have a baby that you can't cater for
The painful part is someone will just see one lavish money and bam he don born 4 give them good primary and secondary school after that money no come again he can't afford tertiary education so they resort to the street,this is the case of so many.....