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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:18am On Mar 18, 2020 |
angelfallz: Aswear, your comment dey gimme joy 4 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:19am On Mar 18, 2020 |
SoNature: Na malo girls u dey talk about. |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:19am On Mar 18, 2020 |
samtinx: I've never seen too |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Mutemenot(m): 6:22am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Marrying a virgin gives you a kind of confidence that your wife has self control and can manage her sexual life. As a human, It gives a kind of rest of mind (even though she may change later). A sensible man gets worried when his wife begins to show him different styles of sxx she learnt from her several partners, he may enjoys it but that weakens self truat... Marriage is too broad to be determined by virginity, so let us not concentrate on that in choosing our partner, if you are lucky to have one thank you star as it's an added advantage 2 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:23am On Mar 18, 2020 |
NextD18: You have sense. One babe in my class got married recently. She's the most prettiest lady in my class. Babe was a virgin when she got married. Very disciplined and cultured lady. The way her husband adores her eh. Just like you said, she didn't have time for unnecessary argument. She's actually someone who hated gossips. Her posts were devoid of indecency. I wish to marry her type honestly 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:24am On Mar 18, 2020 |
NextD18: Lmao. You have sense |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Stillthebest: 6:28am On Mar 18, 2020 |
What's the essence of marrying a virgin who cooks her food same way everyday and everytime without trying new cuisines or give thus u already know her food tastes? What's the essence of marrying a virgin who won't Care about if her kids have eaten or not. Who won't chastise her kids at the appropriate time to check them? What's the essence of marrying a virgin, whose husband is sick but won't act like she cares? What's the essence of marrying a virgin who can't wake up at the middle of the night to disturb her husband for prayers, to join him. What's the essence of marrying a virgin that can't bring a conservative and progressive discussion or advice to the table? What's the essence of marrying a virgin that can't handle the home front and business set up for her? Who can't see her hubbys families as hers? Who pretends like she doesnt want sex always expecting me to initiate the sex move, won't yield to 'sexual instructions that you think you would want her to show during love making? Abegii! That positions herself as a log of wood always? Ex runs girls who have vowed to remain loyal or by virtues of life's tantrum(not wish fully) found themselves in the shackles of body selling most times enjoy their marriages more than virgins. Whom if her hubby got stuck in a Lagos traffic till 11 Pm she would have gone to bed to sleep? Marriage is more than marrying a virgin. Whats important is loyalty, fidelity and paying attention to details and lil things. Most husbands and wives dont need you to buy them the biggest gifts, they want you only to be Swift and care for little things. I would rather marry someone who's never a virgin but has a high level of sanity and respect for marriage and her partner than marrying a virgin who lacks the core values and qualities that hold a marriage. Most patents only raised a child and not a wife or a husband. But if you are lucky to find a virgin with alll those qualities, you are just lucky. Except one goes down the lane of endurance which is the bedrock of a successful marriage! Summary: successful marriage is different from Virginity. This is 21st century and internet/media age. Virginity is a big deal. We can only commend any lady who keeps it and respect her virtue. 2 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:31am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Gemineye: Tell.them pls. We don tire for this virginity and character stuffs. Virginity isn't easy. We should stop pushing them to break it with this subtle nonsense talk 5 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:34am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Lucrativress: One of the first females who said something sensible. It isn't easy to be a virgin in the 21st century. They need commendation and not subtle thrash like this that will make them lose it the next minute. There's absolutely no correlation between virginity and failed marriage |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:37am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Lucrativress: Best comment I've read so far. You're a wise lady tbvh |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by shadeyinka(m): 6:37am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Vega100:My wife was a virgin when I married her and by God's grace we have a beautiful marriage. I've never thought about getting a DNA test for any of my children, neither have I ever remotely thought she could have even had any kissing relationship with any of her exes. I even know some of her old boyfriends and we all have cordial relationships. I think you have chosen a wrong theme for your writeup. A good marriage isn't dependent on how virgin you were but on WHO YOU ARE and WHO YOU FINALLY GOT MARRIED TO. Virginity helps when you've married a good man as it foster greater TRUST between husband and wife in situations where 1. Barrenness of the woman comes into the picture 2. Separation due to travel or job requirements is expedient within the marriage 3. When unforseen circumstances seem to suggest infidelity 4. When all your children turn out to look like your best man or your baby turns out to be an albino! LOL 5. Finally, general peace of mind with respect to trust and integrity issues. A lady who kept herself without your watch will most likely keep herself within the confines of marriage. 8 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Agugbadin: 6:37am On Mar 18, 2020 |
But it makes a responsible man to respect his wife. |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:45am On Mar 18, 2020 |
ayokunl: As in eh. But they will tell you that's not the aim of the post. They fail to understand that you can talk about why having good character is important in a marriage without bringing virginity into the equation. I find posts like this irritating and annoying. 3 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ogmask: 6:46am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Vega100: Nothing but the truth. I married a virgin as a with too. |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 6:48am On Mar 18, 2020 |
shadeyinka: I dont know any truer statement than this 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Lawrry(m): 6:52am On Mar 18, 2020 |
See all this nonsense comments Non-virgin with good character virgin with bad character bla...bla...bla... To me, what is character without self control?? You claim you have character as a non-virgin after having sex in all your previous relationship before marriage, where is the character? You were asked to discuss your past, your first date deflowered you, the second one looks serious, so you gave him, the third was God fearing, you thought it will lead to marriage, you gave him, you told the fourth guy you don't want sex before marriage, but when he heard about your sexual activities in the first three relationships, he wasn't looking serious, so you gave him sex too, in order not to lose him. Most marital challenges are as a result of lack of self control from both male and female e.g, 1. Couples engaging in physical combat, 2. Infidelity 3. Leaving one's spouse for a richer person elsewhere etc. Those real mamas will tell their daughters during wedding that, as you're married today, you can't return to your father's house never again, meaning, they are preaching determination, patience, commitment, perseverance,self control etc, to the lady as she goes to her husband's house. As for me, if you have demonstrated lack of self control in the past, in fact, the character that everyone is talking about will be questionable almost all the time, because any action of yours that reflects your past will surely raise doubt about your present. To keep one's virginity is self control, and self control is key to successful marriage. Virgins rock 7 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ogmask: 6:54am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Korllami007: It's not by getting a million likes my brother. The op is so on point. The problem of marriages around the world is not infidelity alone. In fact, infidelity accounts for a very minute %age while other things the op mentioned are the thing that settles a home. Btw, if a parter is not faithful but does his or her thing secretly , how does his or her action affect the home front. The main marriage wreckers are nothing but the things mentioned by the op. I also married a virgin and I agree with the op 100%. The whole virginity stuff will turn to nothing after a few weeks/months in marriage while you need other activities to run your home and keep it going. Simply put, virgin wives are very myopic and naive. Zero street credibility and very poor interpersonal relations. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by soleexx(m): 7:02am On Mar 18, 2020 |
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Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by shadeyinka(m): 7:05am On Mar 18, 2020 |
ityP:Thanks dear! I hope young people will try to be the best marriage partner while opening their eyes to also choose the right man/woman for themselves. 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by dynamic010(m): 7:07am On Mar 18, 2020 |
obicoolnino:Y do pastors have problem in there marriages too 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Nobody: 7:07am On Mar 18, 2020 |
SoNature: I think the only girls who don't enjoy sex are the ones who don't achieve orgasm. Their men need to do a better job. |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by odisman(m): 7:10am On Mar 18, 2020 |
So on point. WaleRock: |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Joshkeith(m): 7:14am On Mar 18, 2020 |
As a matter of fact, most men like their women sexually experienced. I stand to be corrected though. 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Keemsleek005(m): 7:15am On Mar 18, 2020 |
Korllami007: Hmmmm very dicey topic. Yes its a pride and blessing for a woman to hold unto her virginity to her wedding day, shows shes a decent and upright person some you can trust when it comes to been faithful and one of the greatest problem in marriages now adays is infidelity, so marrying a virgin you safe on that. But the main component and most important thing in marriage is character, and once you dont have that whether you a virgin or not you cant keep a home. As much as been a virgin is a pride character is the most important thing. As of your sister that was always partying, pls dont b offended its either she changed cos she felt what she was doing was wrong or she changed cos her time was ticking or she became a good wife cos that the only thing that can leverage her part. My opinion thou. 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by sparko1(m): 7:17am On Mar 18, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Coming from a lady! How can you even say that! Virginity is a sacrifice, what you bring to the marriage is a complete different thing entirely! Remember, marriage is about two people, look at the example the OP gave, do you want to blame the woman for being a virgin! She married a cheat, and now her life is miserable because of it. A successful marriage entails lots of things, sacrifices from the couple, virginity is just an added advantage and a bragging right on the side of the woman. Stop using a single occurrence of a reckless man (By the way, in this instance it is completely out of context) to judge the everyone. |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by 21cents: 7:30am On Mar 18, 2020 |
ityP: honestly I don't!! but a harlot which you wifed up can still go to Fawk her exes when you're farther away and no dick in sight. non virgin ladies are prostitutes and like someone said, you rarely hear of cases of infidelity or DNA sagas when the wife is married clean!! in case you wanna marry a non virgin, prepare your mind for bad moments cos theres a high chance things might get ugly in your Union. and be more than prepared to discard her without remorse if she erred or messed up!! your sanity should never be compromised if you wanna live long as a man. let that whöring bitch go seek for her type - those guys she fuckéd with. 4 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by UndauntedYOCA(f): 7:31am On Mar 18, 2020 |
ityP:Lol, does this look like I am discrediting virginity. If it looks like that to you then that's fine, I won't even bother to dissuade you from thinking so. |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Coalkendar(m): 7:31am On Mar 18, 2020 |
This is a well written epistle.. I hope the target audience see this and learn.. #Coalkendar 2 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ImaIma1(f): 7:37am On Mar 18, 2020 |
sparko1: Seems you quoted the wrong person or you didn't understand my comment. Besides I was responding to a comment by someone else who claimed that it's only women who didn't marry as virgins who cheat. And he portrayed those who married as virgins to be innocent of any kind of future cheating. So maybe if you read his comment and read mine, you will understand my point better. 1 Like |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by Mrpojj(m): 7:38am On Mar 18, 2020 |
unmask:Wetin u want use adventure do 2 Likes |
Re: Virginity Doesn't Guarantee A Stable Marriage (a Must Read for young ladies) by ityP(m): 7:41am On Mar 18, 2020 |
UndauntedYOCA: Y'all can preach the character card without bringing in virginity. Hope you know. 1 Like |
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