make a report to the police,
let that ungrateful mother in-law sue you now, dont be a weakling bro, always stand on your right on family issues, never allow your mother in-law stay with you to avoid problem.
it seems your wife don't love you anymore, I am very sorry for your predicament, don't let your wife or in-law intimidate you, they already know you will come begging

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

I blame u for part of this problem. B4 u marry the daughter of a single parent mother, u need to ask questions and study attitude of the mother. Is she a builder or a destroyer.

Some mothers will see this same scenario or even worse and call u for a serious talk to keeping ur family together bt this one seems to be the total opposite. She pulls down rather than build up and ur wife is listening to her instead of u.

Now the deed is done, give them stern warning on ur actions if they don’t return ur kids. They have no such rights to take ur kids that way and infact the suing they are talking ignorantly about shud actually be done by u against.

What are they suing u for? U shud be laughing at their ignorance and setting them straight.

This what u get when u have a problematic mother in-law who shud rather be correcting her daughters poor attitude after having her 1st kid.

Bro with no disrespect, your case is the case of "See Finish".
She has been looking for the slightest chance to leave the marriage.

Hand over this situation to God.

With all due respect, you married d wrong Woman.

Bro with no disrespect, your case is the case of "See Finish".
She has been looking for the slightest chance to leave the marriage.

Hand over this situation to God.

Another mumu bites the dust.

Your problems are only just beginning to warm up. You never see anything.

A man that can't stamp his feet from DAY 1, and ensure that the woman he does a huge favour by marrying is submissive, tolerant, and patient and loving like a real wife should, from DAY 1, is bound to suffer this kind of fate in marriage. Life out there (with the daily hustle) is hard enough. A man who knows what he is doing cannot and should never condone having to struggle with a useless jezebel at home in the name of marriage. Home is supposed to be a drama-free sanctuary of peace, quiet and relaxation. No more, no less.

Since you have made the mistake already, the only thing left is to take drastic, corrective actions.

Don't allow that bitch you call a 'wife', and the witch she calls a mother back into your house and into your life. There's nothing to discuss. There's no need for peace talks.

I know you love 'your' children (do DNA first to be sure), but be willing to forfeit them to that bitch. Swallow a heartless pill and wash your hands off those kids and their mother. Demonstrate that you don't send them and don't want to see them, ever. Mean it.

If she chooses to sue you to court for whatever or file for divorce. Take the lead and the initiative. Go rogue . Get a lawyer to take preemptive action. Look for a judge to bribe to turn the case on its head, annul the gaddem marriage, and ultimately (if you confirm that the kids are actually yours), revert paternity to you.

There is no forgiveness or settlement with these kinds of damaged women. They are thoroughly and irreparably damaged. As the mumu that you currently are and previously were, you have made the mistake of marrying a damaged product that can't be repaired. But you're under no obligation to keep managing that damaged product for the rest of your life. Discard it, and start anew.

Don't say I didn't warn you.

Oga OP

Your wife is not a good woman to be sincere with you for you as a husband that can't touch her again she is not treating you well

And again her mother is also a bad woman that is why she is so gle and why dis you allow her to stay with you guys she has been looking for ways to tell her daughter to leave you ..she caused the main havoc

She and her mum are bad people

Aya buruku seeni sugbon ana buruku o seeni, ati aya buruku ati ana buruku, k'olorun maje k'ani kan ninu won

Righteousness89:
Make a police Report!
Also inform Family elders...

After that Calm down and use this time to seek GOD'S Face on your family....

Something is wrong somewhere!

I Believe the Greatest solution is the one that GOD gives..

Use this period to knock on Heaven gate for your Family Matters..

Personal Times as these produce results!

I Pray For you that GOD Almighty have Mercy on your Home and restore the Love and Joy that in your Home in JESUS Name.... Amen

Nothing is wrong, marrying a lady whose mother is a single mother is a dangerous venture.
I did it and I am regretting it too.
Any small thing she will pack out.

OP. Make a report to the police about it and after that, don't call them, don't apologise, don't send money to them. They will come back to you

Bluntly you have no wife,you have the worse mother in law.I will accused your wife of infidelity even though I don't know her..get a police involved just for you to know where about your lovely kids..She is not coming back, she has seen the other boxer ,other side,is more greener than your side and your acclaimed mother was aware, you are the only home dummy between both of them..If she wanted to leave let go..she will likely continue single mother lineage like her mother.. Don't ever force or beg her again..let her go please.

As a man how could you apology for the crime you don't commit,does that one make sense pls go and lodge the complaint at the police station first for kidnapping your children and settle for another reasonable and mature lady

hotspec:
Bros, urs is even better. we have similar issues. d mistake u made was allowing ur mother in-law to live in. my in-law rained curses on me, and my wife even arrested me with police because she wanted to go with our two daughters. mybin laws live in d same town with us. it's always from one problem to another. d same allegation mybwife gave me and mother in law called to rain curses on me without even asking me. in fact she even came to my workplace to fight. May God see u tru. I'm as confused as ure. just eat and try to sleep, then try to be around people that can play with u and lift ur spirit.

Nawa oh. Well op your mother inlaw is a single mother. If she divorced her husband can you see the trend........

Always check family background before marriage. Her mother might even b jealous that her daughter is happily married and want to destroy her marriage but d said daughter wouldn't believe it.

Who did you pay her bride price to? Report her to them.

This your story get k-leg sha. You have demonized your wife here but it is possible of we hear her side our collective ears will tingle.

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

Bro, develop a stone heart. Change the keys to your house and flex. They will come and beg you soon.

Iamundisputed:
Please report to the police as a first step. I hope you and your wife settle and reunite, but it's important that you inform the police & write a statement, just in case.

Also, I don't think your wife packed out because you were only playing or flirting with a woman, she probably must have caught you cheating, don't tell lies please.

Women usually change their attitude towards sex after birth cos of: 1. Personal insecurity because the vagina may not be as tight as it was. 2. Postpartum depression. 3.other psychological issues. This is where your emotional intelligence as a man comes into play. You need to have an understanding of her mood and help her want sex again.

Find a way to win her heart back, if possible, have your people call her people.
I wish u a happy home.

self-righteous mumu

When we tell you people to stay away from girls raised by single moms, they're very toxic, you won't hear. Now look atew. She'll end up, a single mom, like her mother and they'll indoctrinate your daughters to end up like them, toxic people, and the cycle will continue.

How will a man use his hard earned money to marry a lady, the lady reproduces kids for him and then because of hearsay she runs out of her matrimonial home with his kids on advice from her mom(? First of all her mother is a bad influence to her, secondly the young lady in question does not know what marriage is, na wa o,
The man should contact the elders from his family who would in turn contact the elders in the ladies family and settle whatever difference they have, he can even involve the pastor that joined them together at their wedding.

Lol

Ur mother in law cursed u and Ur wife took Ur kids.

They must have known that u are a Dumbo.

Bro your wife is not confident in her body yet, mostly happens after childbirth. Just wait fr some time before starting to touch her. Sometimes she can let you play with G* for a couple minutes in bed but when she says stop it's okay just stop try to understand the phase she's going through rn. I Know of a friend who waited fr almost a yr without sex nothing's wrong with wife

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

why stress? is not that u been getting laid all this while let her carry are rubbish n go.

wen shes tire she go come back by then only ask for the kids let her go b spending on her mother

Have never been a fan of allowing your mother in law to stay with us . I plainly told my wife . They can come to spend 2-3 days and leave . I don't care . All these mother inlaw use to abuse their opportunities. I trust my mom. We always beg to even visit us. After spending a day or hardly 2. She'll tell you she is going back home so we can enjoy ourself . .

U are a weak and dull man. Who dares take my kids out of my house? Is she and her family mad ni?

Eeyah . You should get your family involved

Why is your MIL living in though? Your wife's mental health might not be the best, you should look into that if she is willing.

I suspect your wife cheated on you and the kid is not yours. That would explain her overcompensating when she suspected you of cheating, your mother in law probably knows as well. Although this is just speculation on my part.

I hope you get your kids back, if not try to move on, your wife sounds like a terror although we haven't heard her part of the story.

Some of you are very stupid. What should he have done? Beat them up or was he aware of what they were going to do?

Everything is always masculinity competition with you.

olaarie:
U are a weak and dull man. Who dares take my kids out of my house? Is she and her family mad ni?

She's toiling her mother's path.

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

Sue you for what?
Be happy you have kids bro... Enjoy the rest of your life.

simplexity:
Firstly I will like to apologize for any errors made while typing, and I am seriously in need of ur advice and criticism.

My name is Stanley(not real names) married for 4years with two Lovely kids both female with d eldest at age 4. Trust me I cherish and love my family. I am a graduate while my wife dropout from the university cause of some money issues her single mother had while she was sick. After our first child I made sure she got admitted to a polytechnic and thankful she just rounded up her N.D all expenses paid by me, with high hopes of Getting admitted for her HND.

The problem started after our first child, my wife attitude towards sex changed totally, she would never let me touch her or play with her, calling her pet names will usually end in quarrel, I spoke with her her severally, pleaded and beg her most times but her attitude never changed, she made me feel like I met nothing to her, yet she will always fight with me whenever ever she suspects I have a girlfriend, fights with any female that comes close to me through calls or chats, she even went as far as beating up a lady that needed my help thinking I was dating her.

Fast forward to recently, her mom who is a single mother relocated to stay with us, and during her stay we had some misunderstanding about money issues, (note both me and wifey are gainfully employed in the ratio of 10:4, but 60% of wifey salary goes to her mom while she spends the rest 40% anyhow she likes) during d money issues a frd of hers came and told both of them that she see saw me flirting with a lady. And without hearing my own side of the coin my mother in-law rained curses on me , reported my to all her family members and left my house angrily, two days later my wife took our children and left my house while I was in d office, I called about her where about and she said she won't tell me and she said I will hear from her family soon, her mom called a family friend saying she will sue me.

It's been one week now and I don't know the whereabouts of my kids.

Should I report to the police or what?
Note I have apologized to wife for the crime I didn't commit yet it seems they want a bigger pound of flesh.

Please kindly advise me caused am depressed and confused

her mother is single not a widow.
She left her house to stay with you.

The issue above are the foundation of your problem.

Most single mothers in our society are wayward women, ever you imagine why a decent woman won't get married? it's their wayward lifestyle that ended them the other way. In the other hand it's your mother in-law that influence your wife. She living in your house give her every necessary apportuniy to whisper words to her daughter's ears.

Now, hurry up and report the matter to the appropriate authorities. You shouldn't asked for our consent here before you know the right thing to do.

This is the reason why some men don't like there wife going back to school after marriage

Because according to your story that's where the problem started

You send your wife back to school after marriage and she went there to see a free life to live that she cannot enjoy as a married woman still looking young
No wonder she denied you puna

Secondly is when she started working earning money and as at that time she was the one that invited the mother to come stay with you guys

Thirdly your wife is seeing someone else that has been taking care of her and her mom more than you that's why she is too suspicious of you having affairs outside in other to use against you

Lastly my guy you are not a man that is why.
And the end of your wife and her mom will be in tears but I pity your innocent children
Who knows wether you are there real father sef

Just make sure u are always turning up for ur kids. Hit the street and find a sweet young lady to blow off some steam, never let a lady stress u.

What did you expect when you married from single mum home, my brother trying looking for alternative you don't have wife even you settle this matter today except big one tomorrow, I will advise you don't apologize of you didn't do. Most expecially don't allow her mum more than three days in your house again.