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Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:01am On Jul 01, 2020 |
SILVERLINES:Dull brain?! lol, n!gga go and hug something. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:05am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Ghostmode2two:Like i stated in my first post, it happened a few days before my first WAEC exam, so yeah, i failed... for 7 years straight. I couldn't concentrate on anything and it felt like i was sleepwalking through my own life. Also, it didn't make me gay, it just bleeped up my brain. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:10am On Jul 01, 2020 |
grandstar:Not to my knowledge. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by YelloweWest: 8:13am On Jul 01, 2020 |
My dad said something similar about my brother and sister which was completely false. People get fustrated in life and atimes take it out on their children. Just like your case, my dad never mentioned it again. See it that she was temporarily insane, put it behind you and move on. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by LyfeJennings(m): 8:13am On Jul 01, 2020 |
heendrix: No see am like that Some many years ago My mum accused me of trying to rape my sister Something that never happened From then till now, I still have some form of dislike towards my sister It's not easy And I am not an indomie child o 3 Likes |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:16am On Jul 01, 2020 |
jayloms:Wow you're very perceptive and you are absolutely right. My Dad and I were close prior to the incident and he used to cheat on her... a lot. Tiri gbosa for you. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:25am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Martinez39s:Lol at weak and fragile. So you think you have a clue the kind of person I am because I decided to spill my heart out about the worst mental abuse I've ever suffered this one time on a faceless. Come to think of it, I don't think anyone's ever defined me as weak and fragile, not even on my worst day, in fact people find me highly unusual due to the high amount of threshold I have for both mental and physical pain. I find your comment slightly humorous, but let's be guided. 4 Likes |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by DeeMain(m): 8:26am On Jul 01, 2020 |
seguno2: Religion and ignorance. It's also important you know how competent the therapist is. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by alfredilly: 8:30am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Your mum from the figment of her own imagination falsely accused you of sleeping with your dad. That's strange enough to warrant further questioning. Is your mum the weird type. How is her habit? Does she drink. What does the relationship between you and your mother look like before the incident? Hostile? Uncaring? Indifferent? How is her relationship with your dad? If all this question yield no negative result and it is true your mother never bring it up again while you are still troubled, I think the wise thing to do is to ask your mum, one more time, why she acted that way. If she maintain her claim, then tell her to confront your dad with it.. You can also share the experience with your dad if your mum fail to do that. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:32am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Dpharisee:If i didn't commit suicide back then, i'm certainly not going to do it now. But for someone who isn't an "indomite" you certainly lack wisdom, understanding and sensitivity. I'd expect more from these nigg@s claiming old age. 3 Likes |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:33am On Jul 01, 2020 |
morris477:And yet, she did. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:39am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Martinez39s:I'm not even sure what to say to ignorant & idiotic comment... talking 'bout tough skin. If you've gone through half the shit I've gone through, you'd probably be in a vegetative state right now. People like you don't really surprise me anymore... with your big mouth and lack of substance. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:41am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Karlifate:I'm curious, what part of the narrative makes me come across as weak? I'd really like to know. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Evercurious(f): 8:41am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Agba2020: So sorry. May God heal you |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:43am On Jul 01, 2020 |
abah001:I grew up in the streets, you fo0ol. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by TGMISKY(m): 8:48am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Agba2020:It is either you lack the skills of writting, you're trying to give fiction or you don't know what ruining of life means. Either way, you just ended up bringing your mum to Nairaland to be insulted |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 8:48am On Jul 01, 2020 |
merahki:OMG thanks for stating the bolded. You don't know how many times I've thought that myself. Why stay with a man who would do that to your kid? Why not stop it when it was happening, since you claimed you saw it? I guess ,y own mistake was that i thought i could move on from it, but as time passed, it became much harder for me to even bring it up. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Akhirastriver(m): 8:54am On Jul 01, 2020 |
heendrix:Haba , mad o |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by kumulus(m): 9:05am On Jul 01, 2020 |
A young boy's mental fabric was ripped at an early age by the very one who he's supposed to find security with and some bunch of idiots and nonentities dim it fit to say balderdash out of their profound foolishness. They fail to realize their condition, made obvious by means of their words is way worse than the OP's. I understand your plights tho, you probably know zilch about human life..... To the OP, find your peace in what was written in the Book; "......forgive them(her) for they(she) know not what they(she) do(did)". Don't be surprised if you tried explaining the implications of what she did to her and she remains unapologetic, ours is a culture that prides its self so much on PRIDE(ego). Know very well that what she/anyone says does not define you but what the God in you says, this is liberation.....th very salvation that many seek. Peace I leave with you brother, love and eternal light. -Lloyd 3 Likes |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 9:08am On Jul 01, 2020 |
merahki:OMG thanks for stating the bolded. You don't know how many times I've thought that myself. Why stay with a man who would do that to your kid? Why not stop it when it was happening, since you claimed you saw it? I guess my own mistake was thinking that i could move on from it, but as time passed, it became much harder for me to even bring it up. My siblings live in different cities. I don't think she told my bro about it, but she called my sister who then called me. I told my sis that what mom accused me of wasn't true, my sis tried to be supportive towards me, but i could tell that she didn't really believe that i didn't know anything, and that was when i realized that i was truly alone because my sis was the one who always had my back. It wasn't a nightmare, but i wish it was. Repressed memory? You don't know how many times I've considered that possibility. While she was making her accusations, i was deep inside my own mind thinking "Why would i ever do something like with Dad, am i mad?" "No, is she mad?" "I would never do that!" And then i started doubting myself and started thinking "Maybe it happened and i repressed it." But even if that were the case, wouldn't I have felt that pain in my asshole... or something. But i didn't feel any body pains, I'd never felt any body pains and that's how I knew it wasn't a case of repressed memory. I thank you for your insightful comment, and God bless you too. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 9:09am On Jul 01, 2020 |
koolaid87:Thanks. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 9:14am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Cleanworld:There are certain situations or events that we can't possibly fathom unless we experience them ourselves. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 9:18am On Jul 01, 2020 |
[quote author=graciousolo post=91250297][/quote] I appreciate you, thanks. 1 Like |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 9:19am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Temidayo9:I think it would have been better if I had been accused by a stranger. 2 Likes |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Agba2020(m): 9:20am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Reex12:Lol. No, i definitely did not turn into a Bobrisky. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by mrsheddy(m): 9:24am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Janeberryy: Op is not telling us the whole truth. I think � after her mom accused him, he came to realise what it is and boom he is a gay |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Martinez39s(m): 9:31am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Agba2020: Agba2020:We can agree to disagree. Like most parents, your parents, especially your father, didn't drill you in having a tough skin. You are overly emotional and fragile as far as this issue is concerned. If you don't like what I have said, no problem; feel free to wallow in your misery and depression (and self pity, perhaps) brought about by the foolish accusation of your mother. If that's not enough, allow the foolishness of your mother to ruin your life completely, and after that, top it up with sniper or fall from third mainland bridge. After all, the sky won't fall when you are gone, and the world will move on. It's harsh of me, but I won't pamper you like others. You must be tough like a real man. Mtewww. As I have said, words cannot hurt you except you let them. You can decide to move on and live a well-rounded and productive life, or keep wallowing in your misery and depression, and let your mother's foolishness ruin your life. Your mother's opinion on whether your father molested you or not is of no relevance to you, and it shouldn't ruin your life. Her unwarranted behaviour is something you should brush under the carpet as one of her foolish acts in life (we all have foolish acts). If you let someone's foolish words/opinions ruin your life, it's your fault. In life, no cares what ruined your life; if you end up useless, it will all fall back on you. WEAK AND FRAGILE MAN. Good day. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by MrJavaS: 9:33am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Agba2020: I can see that you are taking too many grievances to heart. This is something that you can just overlook and let go. Imagine pondering over this for 9 years. You won't live a happy life if you keep taking peoples comments seriously. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Janeberryy: 9:41am On Jul 01, 2020 |
mrsheddy: Lool funny you. |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Janeberryy: 9:42am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Tillatalk: Yea but I don't expect I'm to still be holding inbtobtgat only if it's constant. It was a one time thing. Even if it's constant he should have left na and take care of himself |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by Nobody: 9:49am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Agba2020: You need to sit your mama down in private and make sure she tells you exactly what's wrong. Is either of you a somnambulist? Was she aware of what she said? Instead of keeping stuff inside that will explode, talk about this with her to the point of numbness where you don't feel the pain anymore. By the way, without meaning any disrespect to your mom, does your mom have any mental/psychiatric issues that hasn't been dealt with? |
Re: How My Mom Ruined My Life by EJanni(f): 9:50am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Dear op, I'm really sorry about this burden. Your mother may not remember saying that. She has or have had psychological problems that no one may have known in your family. Just go straight to her one day in private. Ask her why she say that to you and the burden it has left in your heart. She may have accused others too, of other things. |
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