Before now, i could vouch for her. I was almost 100% certain she would not go behind my back to sleep with another man, moreso a married man. But she did. Details are the typical cheat story. He has been giving her money and he brought her to the hotel and she stupidly let him have his way. He is a matured married man.

I knew of the man from the beginning when it was still bubbling but i thought she kept the details 100% with me. Unknown to me, she wasnt telling me everything.

So she decides to tell me now everything that happened between them, how he kept sending her money and finally slept with her once(i think its more than once but she is insisting on once). I asked why she told me and she said felt bad about it and she was ready for anything that comes out of it.

I told her i wont break up with her because of that. But now i cant look at her the same way again. Its not like i am saint in the relationship but i only vowed to keep it away from her out of the respect i had for her. I have had sex with with someone else while dating her. I just did not want to get her hurt by it so i kept it away by all means.

Now, deep down i know my trust for her has dropped. I cant just break it off. Apart from just the love i have for her, she has been helpful around. It might be difficult to find another like her immediately. I hate to think all the plans i had for us will never come to fruition. But i cant let her go even though i know our relationship is more or less dead. Am i cold-hearted in handling this?

I have invested in this relationship money-wise and time... It is just had to say goodbye. But i feel sorry for her because it will take time to get that trust we had before now. She feels sorry for what she did and promises to change. But, i really dont think i can handle the thought of it in marriage. Your thoughts please.

You cheated FIRST and hid it from her, she cheated next and told you. Who's more truthful here? In fact, she should be the one to quit the relationship not you.
I wonder what the problem is with you guys and relationship these days.

You cheated no problem. She cheated, now there is problem. Moving on from her is really a decision you alone can take and this depends on many factors. Whether she truly regretted her action, her past behaviors and your ability to forget things people do to hurt your feelings. Remember you did the same to her first.

Forgive, set the ground rules, because ladies always go back to there misbehaviour. Telling you this may be a test of your balls. If you do not stamp your dominance, she will see you as a whimp, and of course it will be the beginning of your end

You self have cheated on her so why the big deal? You're scared of losing her that's why you don't want to tell her yet you're pained that she went out to dig a married man. What's the color of your peoblem?





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You better leave her before you give yourself bp

ironheart:
Forgive, set the ground rules, because ladies always go back to there misbehaviour. Telling you this may be a test of your balls. If you do not stamp your dominance, she will see you as a whimp, and of course it will be the beginning of your end

I have made that known to her... But, i still can't stomach the fact that she did it... time will tell.

There is nothing like having peace of mind in a relationship bro, It is golden. Walk away if u cant deal with it. Amend ur ways also, for whatever goes arround, comes arround. Trust is key in a relationship.

yenereal:
You cheated FIRST and hid it from her, she cheated next and told you. Who's more truthful here? In fact, she should be the one to quit the relationship not you.
I wonder what the problem is with you guys and relationship these days.

lolz... You maybe right... But somehow ignorance would have been bliss for me. But you know women, they cant keep their shit together. Its only a matter of time before they let it out. I kept it away from her out of respect. She kept receiving money from the married man even though i was still there for her financially.

Infact she has a way of nagging me for money. She knew it will end this way but she never stopped it. The Nigga spent close to 100k on her. Even me as a guy wont spent up to that amount on a lady without expecting anything. Forget that i have cheated also. She messed up. She was greedy and to even think she cant even account for how she has been spending this money he has been giving her baffles me more. It wasnt long i gave her some money for hair before she let the cat out of the bag. Apparently, seems i have been to nice and it has been pricking her. Well, i am not saint but human. I forgave her but only time will build that trust if we dont break up.

She cheat and brought the pussy back so

Make two of una move on.

You hypocrite.

You aren't better than her. Why judging her?

You are a good fit for each other.

What was the plan you had for her? Marriage plan or something else?

If it were marriage plans, then I would like that you take it off your mind with her.

It appears she's tired of the relationship with you for her to say she's ready to face whatever comes out of her confession simply means she is fed up and other guys hanging around with juicy packages will just say I told you.

So you've been cheating.. And never told her.. But she cheated and told you..

my take is.. Better break up with that girl coz she don't have sense, why would she cheat and then tell you? So simple secret she can not keep wtf.!
So you that cheat and shut up, did you die? Which kind simpy girl be that sef.

Yeye amebo girl.

Bankalert:
I have made that known to her... But, i still can't stomach the fact that she did it... time will tell.

look at it from the other way round, if you wherr the one. You'll want her to forgive

dnt care abt d fact dt u cheated first, bt would say u shoul forgive her and gv her a second chance since u loved her soo well but mind u, cheating girls hardly change..
if am in ur shoes i would let her go because dt trust is broken and i think cheating for a guy is different from a bea cheating

No matter who cheated, the trust element is gone, anytime you are broke and cannot provide she will stray, break it off , besides sleeping with someone for cash makes one a LovePeddler no filtering.

Bunkum

Is D Story Urs Or Someone Else Story? Cuz, I Could See Mixed Up In D Story.

Bankalert:
lolz... You maybe right... But somehow ignorance would have been bliss for me. But you know women, they cant keep their shit together. Its only a matter of time before they let it out. I kept it away from her out of respect. She kept receiving money from the married man even though i was still there for her financially.

Infact she has a way of nagging me for money. She knew it will end this way but she never stopped it. The Nigga spent close to 100k on her. Even me as a guy wont spent up to that amount on a lady without expecting anything. Forget that i have cheated also. She messed up. She was greedy and to even think she cant even account for how she has been spending this money he has been giving her baffles me more. It wasnt long i gave her some money for hair before she let the cat out of the bag. Apparently, seems i have been to nice and it has been pricking her. Well, i am not saint but human. I forgave her but only time will build that trust if we dont break up.

Then follow your instinct and act on it.

JordanMichael:
She cheat and brought the pussy back so

Donald Trump, is that you?

Be deceiving yourself and be in denial...the relationship can't work again as the trust is gone and the love will die....na entaglement una go dey now.

#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv
If dem advice una to gulp in Ubunja's thread .. Una go day NO..
Now you are crying like a baby.. Ubunja said and I concur.. One reason it is always hard for a guy to quit a relationship is if he has invested financially in it.. And that is exactly why you find it hard to quit.. E go be like your resources and money dn waste for nothing..
Make una continue dey spend on this girls that ain't loyal.. Premium tears is still loading for some of your likes in no distant time..
Keep on harbouring a cheat..
You will be wrecked more both financially and emotionally..
I won't say Death to SIMPs like others but I would say.. You have seen anything yet..
Body go tell you..

She should break up with you,unlike u,she was sincere enough to let u know,this relationship is on a rocky ground it won't last the test of time.

The way Nigerian male folks wail whenever a lady cheats you'll think ladies cheat more than men in this country or they're fvcking stones and not fellow men but we all know that's a lie.
Welcome to Nigeria where a man/guy that has more than three girlfriends will be angry/complaining that one of those girlfriends cheated.
The problem is that Nigerian men want to eat their cake and have it. They want to be allowed to cheat anytime they want but they don't want women to cheat.

Op
I am sure you are already in a sexual relationship with her and she's not ur wife.

U don't have any moral justification to question her activities after all u're immoral too.

She's even matured enough to tell u what she did. Infact I will say she respect u to have told u.

She's a lady with several admirers and u're not likely to be her last bus stop.

If u can't trust her, tell her so that she can move on quickly but it will be all square if you tell u're a cheat too but u were too immature to tell her what you did.
Kindly also include in ur farewell speech that u can eat ur cake and have it back but she can't.

I wish you all the best I ur next relationship as there's no guarantee that u would get someone better than ur soon to be ex.

If I will advice you, for the fact that she came out to tell you should make u forgive her. Give her another chance provided that u don't sleep out too.
And if she has too much affinity for money that u are not comfortable with then kindly let her move on.

End time Relationships can be so complicated.

Elder0001:
The way Nigerian male folks wail whenever a lady cheats you'll think ladies cheat more than men in this country or they're fvcking stones and not fellow men but we all know that's a lie.
Welcome to Nigeria where a man/guy that has more than three girlfriends will be angry/complaining that one of those girlfriends cheated.
The problem is that Nigerian men want to eat their cake and have it. They want to be allowed to cheat anytime they want but they don't want women to cheat.

Not only Nigerian guys but, Indian guys too.

This is main problem ladies have with we guys....
Fine, u cheated and u didn't let her kwn ( that make sense)
Now, she cheated on you and she told u what happened, you find it difficult to sleep, u can't forgive her and u can't quite the relationship....

Anyway Op.. My advice is that, You don't have any other wayout than to continue with her, just let her kwn how you were hurt and she should give u assurance she would not go back again....

As you kwn.. Bae plenty outside but there are just 10% of women
Quote me if u grab my point

Girlfriend o, not wife

Like what I will always say if you are not ready for marriage don't go into a relationship.then if you are ready,go into a relationship with like 6 girls and observe them.the best out of all of them is what you will settle with.
Bitches are not loyal.

Bankalert:
Before now, i could vouch for her. I was almost 100% certain she would not go behind my back to sleep with another man, moreso a married man. But she did. Details are the typical cheat story. He has been giving her money and he brought her to the hotel and she stupidly let him have his way. He is a matured married man.

I knew of the man from the beginning when it was still bubbling but i thought she kept the details 100% with me. Unknown to me, she wasnt telling me everything.

So she decides to tell me now everything that happened between them, how he kept sending her money and finally slept with her once(i think its more than once but she is insisting on once). I asked why she told me and she said felt bad about it and she was ready for anything that comes out of it.

I told her i wont break up with her because of that. But now i cant look at her the same way again. Its not like i am saint in the relationship but i only vowed to keep it away from her out of the respect i had for her. I have had sex with with someone else while dating her. I just did not want to get her hurt by it so i kept it away by all means.

Now, deep down i know my trust for her has dropped. I cant just break it off. Apart from just the love i have for her, she has been helpful around. It might be difficult to find another like her immediately. I hate to think all the plans i had for us will never come to fruition. But i cant let her go even though i know our relationship is more or less dead. Am i cold-hearted in handling this?

I have invested in this relationship money-wise and time... It is just had to say goodbye. But i feel sorry for her because it will take time to get that trust we had before now. She feels sorry for what she did and promises to change. But, i really dont think i can handle the thought of it in marriage. Your thoughts please.

baba, u be nyash o, I stopped reading when u said u also cheated!

Like a fvck mate. While my main gf is away.

Any day I decide to seal things with my main gf I bounce her