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Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Nobody: 6:26am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Op are you a Palmpay marketer?.......your marketing strategy isn't that bad. 3 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by alexola20(m): 6:28am On Feb 27, 2021 |
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Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by captainamiedi1: 6:29am On Feb 27, 2021 |
What I did was to open shop for my mom. Stock it with goods and explain to her that I still have a life. I need to invest as well. So far, the business is doing well and I'm free from calls. Though I'm not the first my other two elder brothers are working but parents are not depending on anyone as well. My mom hates it. She hustle on her own. Stop giving them fish. Teach them how to fish. Open business for them. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Sheriman(m): 6:33am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Truth801:You are 100% correct this is what is really happening in an average Nigerian home.. it is saddened my heart. Poverty is rampant 2 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Limassol(m): 6:34am On Feb 27, 2021 |
dazzlingd: I hope this generation learned a valuable of lesson: DON'T BREED MORE THAN YOU CAN CATER FOR! 6 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by DaInferno(m): 6:40am On Feb 27, 2021 |
HappyNigerian:You be strong man, you d try to do good but,if the stress d drain you... I'd urge you to focus on the most important things, BTW,what do you do to make ends meet? |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Lincoln275(m): 6:40am On Feb 27, 2021 |
IYANGBALI:Even with that method, they will know that whenever they ask you 10k you will slash it into 2, then they double the money they want to ask you and eventually you give them exact amount they really need, wise up. You owe nobody anything. 9 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by alexola20(m): 6:43am On Feb 27, 2021 |
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Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:50am On Feb 27, 2021 |
seanwilliam: Please attack, I may learn from what you have to say. Most Africans enjoy the sole provider and richest member of the family title. If the load is too heavy for him, he knows what he will do 2 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by alizma: 6:51am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Zanxx:May God bless you more. However I think the best thing at time is to give them a little gap to avoid them noticing those period when you look sad because of the too much pressure. Because you maybe surprised in the future that of all the good things you think you have been doing, one or two of your siblings may forget when things get better for them but only remember few ugly things or attitude that you put up on the days the pressure is much on you. Even your parents can forget if one of your siblings becomes billionaire tomorrow and they start seeing the sacrifice of 100k today like peanut (5naira). 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by capitalzero: 6:51am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Humans are insatiable. Siblings, relatives and friends are worse . If they ask for 10,000, give 2k or say no or promise. If you keep responding to their needs, they keep asking for more. I do help people when they are not expecting it. They appreciate it more. I identify their needs and I help. If you request for help, I determine if your request is necessary or not. I focus on basic human needs-medicals. I can't buy clothes for your owambe. I can subscribe for your dstv. I can't pay for extravagant life styles. I keep simple eyes. I don't discuss material things. I discuss life. You wouldn't see me in social media posting about my success. I live below my income but I do investment for sale of my children and my old age. I do not want rely on my children on my old age. Worry less about people. If you don't exist, they would be fine. If you are filling their needs without hesitancy , they would be pampered. I encourage people around me to acquire skills so as to take care of themselves . I tell them to be self-reliant. I learnt that skills as student. I rarely burrow. I don't buy things on impulse. @HappyNigerian If you get married, and your responsibilities increase, they would tag your wife a witch and wicked. That she is 'eating' your money. I think you enjoy spending on them so that they can be calling you big man of the family. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:51am On Feb 27, 2021 |
seanwilliam: Please attack, I may learn from what you have to say. Most Africans enjoy the sole provider and richest member of the family title. If the load is too heavy for him, he knows what he will do |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:54am On Feb 27, 2021 |
OrdinaryNigeria: As parents we should not make our children our retirement plans. As grown up children we should not make our parents our emergency fund plan 9 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by CrownWale93(m): 6:55am On Feb 27, 2021 |
My brother I feel for you as myself too. E no easy oo, na that is what makes me works around the clock from being an Insurance brokers, website designer, affiliate marketer,sign writer & screen printer, Online investment Networking and so on. Yet some people still dey own me money I borrow them. So much bills to settle. HappyNigerian: |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by emmanuelewumi(m): 6:56am On Feb 27, 2021 |
MrHighSea: That is how responsible people reason 3 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Psoul(m): 7:00am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Be somehow stingy and hard-hearted. Get seriously focused and make as much money as u can Establish yourself and build strong financial channels Then come back as a wealthy person Help all you can I tell you, they will forget all the years u were not there for them. If you try to help all that come ur way when you were still struggling to stand You will not build urslf and may not even be able to build the person u wanted to help At the end, both of u will remain at the same poverty level. At some other time, the person u helped may not be able to help u later if things change for u. So concentrate on urslf first. Stand before you want to make another to stand. Don't try to be a solution when you yourself is still a problem that needs to be solved. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by temitimx19(m): 7:01am On Feb 27, 2021 |
emmanuelewumi: Can you explain more on this |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by dominique(f): 7:06am On Feb 27, 2021 |
HappyNigerian: Has calling a person stingy ever killed them before? They should go and work for the money if it's that easy. If you kill yourself trying to satisfy people none of them will follow you into the grave o. Give them what you can afford and save money for yourself. The thing with dependent entitled Nigerians is, the more you give the more they demand. You'll only wreck yourself trying to meet with their endless demands and they'll be fine 11 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by emmanuelewumi(m): 7:06am On Feb 27, 2021 |
temitimx19: You will remove the excess load for the sake of your sanity, health and financial stability. A lot of young people now have high blood pressure because they are carrying loads that are too heavy for them. 3 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by IMASTEX: 7:08am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Zanxx:May you keep feeding the right help and energy to keep up. Truly it could be very frustrating having to house so much responsibilities from friends & families. Most of whom always have a strong believe that you have money and you can't be broke even when they keep placing demands. This is why the rich always create a rich circle of friends & lock themselves away from the poor. The Africa system is wired for suffering. 4 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by toprealman: 7:13am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Smart PR by PalmPay. Your siblings should go and get a casual work anywhere.....bakery, factory, fuel station, eatery, security....etc. You guys are operating on the old paradigm which does not apply to modern day reality. That way the appreciate money more, become more responsible and most importantly streetwise. Yes you owe you parents everything, so believe. You are their investment..... continue to do the best you can for them. Also remember that when it comes to friends, people are selfish. The are quick to forget the good things you do for them, choosing to hold on to the "bad" memories which is mainly when you tell them no or give them part and not the full bill they slammed at you. 1 Like |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by toprealman: 7:17am On Feb 27, 2021 |
alexola20:So sad bro. Can you share your story? We can learn from it |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Yxxx: 7:19am On Feb 27, 2021 |
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Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by ade2008(m): 7:20am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Psoul: I like this 1 Like |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by ProphetofOdin: 7:21am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Too much family responsibilities on this part of the world. That's why even some of us that earn a living still feel we are poor cos of the number of dependants. 5 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by femi4: 7:24am On Feb 27, 2021 |
HappyNigerian:You are not helping them to fish for themselves. Stop giving them fish Dstv and regular airtime for their phones are not investment. It's a waste of money. Focus on support on their biz, education and well being not irrelevance like dstv subscription 3 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Nobody: 7:25am On Feb 27, 2021 |
No doubt u are helping your family but I think you are exaggerating here. |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by DanHaske: 7:27am On Feb 27, 2021 |
I'm more concerned about the primary message for the post. Use paypalm instead of bank transfer to send airtime, pay bills, make transfer etc. The rest na story that might not be true My bank charges me 10 naira for transfers. How much does PayPalm charge? 4 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Lincoln275(m): 7:28am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Yxxx:Marriage will still add to his problem, am not sure the guy will survive it if he add marriage to his self inflicted problem. He needs to be a man first. |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by Nobody: 7:28am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Put every dependant on a reasonable fixed monthly stipend; payable on a fixed date that is convenient for you; and make them aware that it is their responsibility to budget all their expenses around it. The small unplanned payments they ask for randomly are the worst money wasters. Eliminate them. 1 Like |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by authority2006(m): 7:30am On Feb 27, 2021 |
Zanxx: You can start making a change by moving out first. 2 Likes |
Re: HOw Do African Youths Deal With The Numerous Bills From Family And Friends? by IMASTEX: 7:32am On Feb 27, 2021 |
dazzlingd:True, this is one of the major reason poverty abound in African families. In the West, his parents would have been taken care of by the system while his siblings would have access to education grants and work while schooling to take care of personal needs. Breaking poverty chains while in Africa is a miracle with all this responsibilities. 1 Like |
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