For me, No. Everything looks good for an outsider looking at me, but I feel like I have made the biggest mistake of my life and it makes me sad.

Omooba77:


https://saharareporters.com/2023/12/16/sometimes-we-think-there-will-be-no-more-nigeria-it-keeps-standing-rccg-overseer-pastor#google_vignette

I believe it as well. Nigeria would be great again.

For hard economy, person carry three mouths at once to feed. The Lord is your strength.

WiszyFraud:
Dear men,

Always remember to keep your children’s school fees receipts,

- including receipts for medical bills.

When men get old, their wives have a tendency of inciting the children against their father,

“Your father was irresponsible, I am the one who paid fees.”

Take note👍


Cc Nlfpmod
Lalasticlala
Mynd44
Seun

No child who grew up with his father, and was loved and nurtured by his father can have his/her heart turned by his/her mother or another person. The advice you should give men is to be physically involved in bringing up their children, money doesn't solve everything, spend time with your children and keep your stuffs in your pant. Don't go around hurting their mother by putting your stuff in strange women. Be a responsible and disciplined father and your children would love you. Period

Both Jasmine and the wife are self centered Nd just looking out for themselves

Me wey one brother come back ,marry carry abroad nko? Wetin I don do the brother?
People would just go online and be yarning nonsense.
There would always be bad and good experiences in all aspects of life, just don't use one bad experience and be a judge.

ednut1:
the child will get the citizenship but the bills will be close to 100k cad

It won't reach that amount, probably around 30-40kcad

Am grateful to God for good health, it is really underrated till one is unhealthy. I am also grateful to God as well for life , family and my daughter and I pray He keeps me healthy and alive for her always. Amen

madridguy:


Same fate awaits every men out there with good job/business but still doing me and my wife.

As a man, as you are striving for your children, sending them to best schools, taking them for international vacation, don't forget to also invest in your old age.

Secure your old age by having 2nd and if possible 3rd wife if you have the power to do so.

By the time your children from your first wife are graduating from the higher institutions, the second wife children will be finishing with their primary school and secondary schools.

When your first wife started going for omugwo in Canada, UK or US you won't be left alone with house maids or left alone in your mansion.

Fathers hardly go to their children house when they are married, either male or female so its our mothers that enjoy such benefits.

To our brothers in abroad, those planning to Jakpa too, please remember your old age too when the weather there will be too harsh for your old age, when your children and their mother will not follow you back to Nigeria, it is time for you to setup another base here in Nigeria.

Our old age is very important and we must plan towards it.

I have never seen a more silly advise.
Note; children can never abandon a father that loved and cared for them and their mother .#fact#

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On top I must give birth naturally, many women in Nigeria and even babies have died. We can't control everything in life, you can't control the position of the baby in your womb.

If someone hurts me like this, I can't guarantee that I won't do something horrible in retaliation

TheUnsure:


Na you no mature mentally. You should know there is a lot more to these family dynamics. So because the wife agreed to him marrying a second wife, she’s just going to embrace any woman he brings? Is it not possible that he marries someone, they have kids and then the person dies mysteriously, leaving the kids for his first wife to mother.
There are so many possibilities and I don’t like stress nor do I know how to do juju or hop from one pastor to another.

My dear, if you are a Christian as you claim, you won't even entertain these thoughts talk more consider it. Polygamy is a sin to God. Let them go and get a surrogate, shey they have money. It's in the old days that they do this marry a second wife shit because of children. Secondly if you don't have energy for war, strive, poison, death, malice, juju, different pastors, stay away from that man and his family. All polygamous families are filled with that, it might not be immediate, it might be 10 years down the line. I am from a polygamous family, I know all these would not end well.

madridguy:
To you marrying more than a wife is adultery ? I think you need to read your bible.

So your own bible permits adultery. Anyway believe what suits u. Man would twist the bible to satisfy their lustful desire. Na your soul in the end,do with it what suits u

madridguy:


Same fate awaits every men out there with good job/business but still doing me and my wife.

As a man, as you are striving for your children, sending them to best schools, taking them for international vacation, don't forget to also invest in your old age.

Secure your old age by having 2nd and if possible 3rd wife if you have the power to do so.

By the time your children from your first wife are graduating from the higher institutions, the second wife children will be finishing with their primary school and secondary schools.

When your first wife started going for omugwo in Canada, UK or US you won't be left alone with house maids or left alone in your mansion.

Fathers hardly go to their children house when they are married, either male or female so its our mothers that enjoy such benefits.

To our brothers in abroad, those planning to Jakpa too, please remember your old age too when the weather there will be too harsh for your old age, when your children and their mother will not follow you back to Nigeria, it is time for you to setup another base here in Nigeria.

Our old age is very important and we must plan towards it.

Why don't u plan for eternity better. Live an adulterous life to your detriment,eternity in hell cannot be compared to few years of pleasure. Be wise

legendgalas:
Depopulation.
-Transhumanism.
-Weakening men.
-Destroying families.
-Erasing women.
-Castrating/sterilizing/mutilating kids.
-Destroying women’s sports.
-Destroying women’s rights.
-Stealing women’s safe spaces.
-Lifelong Big Pharma customers.
-Grooming kids.
-Sexualizing kids.

Why are people supporting this?

The flag should be destroyed

Cos it's end time,lgbtqia or whatever they call themselves is here to stay.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

This life no balance,some women would have faithful men and be messing up. It is well with her o.

Death penalty on top sexualty,very crazy. African government,why don't they give that same punishment to people who steal public funds. Misplaced priorities mtcheewwwwww

Pastor committing fornication for 22 years, living with a woman he is not married to. What God would judge eh

simplesearch:


Before you marry know who you're getting marry to, but no! We always want it our own ways.
Life is about consequences of choices made, and marriage is one that comes with a permanent one.
It shouldn't always get to the extreme, but the heart of man is extremely wicked.
You can separate from an abusive relationship but you can't divorce or remarry or get involve in extra-marital affairs.


Romans 7:1-3 (KJV) Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Matthew 19:9-10 (KJV) And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

Did you read the part where adultery of your partner frees you up to remarry? I think one is free to divorce and remarry once your partner cheats.

Marriage is not an achievement,it's not a must. If you aren't happy and you are mentally , physically at risk please leave. You didn't come to the world with the person you married,u mustn't die being married. I think our parents and older generations are the cause of this mentality that you must be in a marriage. Plus women need to be financially dependent so they can leave whenever they want to and not tolerate flagrant disrespect from their partners.

This post you are single,post of last year,you were married. Oga Linus,which one we go believe

I will marry a short man if it would make me happy in marriage. Somethings in this life are unimportant.

Sometimes our parents see what we can't. In the end marriage decision can either make or mar your life. Sense and prayers is 100 percent needed when deciding to settle down. I don't believe love is blind,I believe love is calculative,try and picture your life of marriage with that person,do you see happiness?

There is more to life than marriage. The married cry even more than the singles.

Marriage is scam

What people would say have destroyed so many people.

That means they don dey commit rubbish together since childhood o

Gracelander:
I never knew this is what heart break feels like, I'm shattered and broken.

I started dating him from 100 level till we graduated, it's been five years now. We suffered and passed through a lot together, I made a lot of sacrifices for him and even had two painful abortions for him.

But he always complained that I got fat and he liked slim girls, he broke up with me in the most excruciating manner. I noticed changes a few months back but he kept lying to me not knowing he was seeing another girl.

The girl chatted me up few days back to know her stand and I told her everything, he even posted pictures he had with the girl, this is someone that hates pictures and hardly takes one with me regardless of how much I beg. He doesn't even post his own pictures but he's already posting the girls pictures.

The girl is his spec and more attractive than me... I'm just ashamed of myself. The girl decided to stick with him even after everything I told her so she could leave him including the abortion part.

I've wished him well but I'm in serious pain, I've been crying for days now and unable to eat. I gave him everything, he was my first ever guy. I wish he could come back, I'm ready to forgive him.

How can move on from this heart break, it's killing me slowly.

It's painful I know but give it time. Time heals every wound. Abortion is a no no ,please do not repeat it in future relationships. If he isn't ready to use condom then he isn't ready for sex .

Munzy14:

Too many good marriages out there....

You only read more of negative ones here.

I know dear,by God's grace I am enjoying one

jaksmillioniar:
u Neva still see a guy to married u

I don marry

Congratulations ��. It's hard to see a good marriage these days.