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Michelle55:
What is this world turning into?

DNA test should be made compulsory in every hospital to save one from stress biko.. I would allow it if we talk about it but going to conduct such test without my knowledge is a big No for me.
Come to think of it, some hospital do switch babies at birth right? What if there's a possibility of carrying someone's else baby home

Hypocrite! trying to appear supportive.


Brovo! Smart move!

You found a way out. So, it's now that you are concerned about whether or not your baby was switched, when your fidelity is questionable!
Maybe scientists will find a way to ascertain maternity, and if that proves positive, you can now explain how you are the mother of the said baby and then suddenly, he/she got switched so mysteriously that we can't confirm the paternity.

CheedyJ:
The most annoying part is they’d say men are the cheats whereas na dem cheat pass

Imagine her trying to turn it in her favour: stating the ground of domestic violence.

Oga MD better up his game, because, she will still elope with richer guys.

Missssii:
I refuse to jump on the bandwagon asking for the head of this woman. The hypocrisy and shallow mindedness really stinks.

There is no way on God’s green earth that man didn’t know those children were not his. The whole of FCMB knew about the affair and knowing the patriarchal society we live in, a couple of people would have briefed him immediately. Those Niger republic looking kids couldn’t have been born to Yoruba parents. And we all know it.

I find it very convenient that a man who had moved on enough to have fixed a wedding date with another woman, has his “family and friends” springing up out of nowhere to claim damages and justice. It screams of greed and blackmail. If this man wanted to fight his battles, he had years to do so when he was alive.

Apart from the disciplinary action required for the MD of FCMB for having an affair with his subordinate, I see no other “crime” committed here. The late husband and his ex wife had both moved on to different lives years ago. If he was that scorned, best believe he’d have blown hot once it happened.

Those that are looking to cash out from his death are going to be shocked because they’ve basically played their hands. They’re going to have an entire bank and it’s disgruntled MD on their neck and they won’t find a kobo out of this. No way can they prove in any court that a lively man already engaged to his new love interest died as a result of emotional distress from his randy ex wife of years ago having kids with her randy boss. The greed in all of this really stinks. The innocent children have their faces being plastered on all social media to push their agenda of extortion. If they wanted justice and not a few shekels, they’d have written to the banks directly and copied all bank regulatory agencies before proceeding straight to court.

Greedy opportunistic people!

Hey Big Monkey,
Why not just state that the late husband consented to raising another man's Bororo Children on their wedding day and that you are one of the witnesses for the slutty, run-away-wife and the MD and that she was transferred to US to Head their branch office there.

By the way, how much were you paid to do this?

Let me prepare you for your own version of the experience. The 5 Children you raise in your own case will not only be bastards, each of the HUMILIATING sexual activities will be done on your matrimonial bed and will last hours. The footage will leak and you will be mocked by your gate-keeper who fathers the children and your wife as she narrates in the footage, how the gullible Monkey that you are, gets fooled and believes every single thing she tells you. In fact, she'll make jokes of how stupid and foolish you can be, thinking you were treasuring her by not regularly having sex with her while she strips for some dirty and unkempt gate-keeper who humbled her with sex and makes her addicted to himself.

Await your experience Monkey!

becky39000:
If she likes let her do facial reconstructive surgery
She will still be exposed!!!

She would never do such: I feel it's part of her most valued assets. No be Nigerian, she would still want the attention perhaps try to seduce her new boss.

Shokoloko:
This doesnt sound true. Where is the verifiable source of this statement?

So, she didn't hear of it up till now and why hasn't she come to prove otherwise?

What do you think would happen to you, if after 8 years of looking up to God for a child and non came at the age of 45years as a woman, you now find-out that the same husband that claims he's been waiting on God with you, suddenly has 2 children: 8 years and 6years respectively, and with his subordinate at work is perhaps prettier than you and irrefutable resemblance ?
I guess that will make you leap for joy?

HYPOCRITES EVERYWHERE!

That's what many of you do all around looking for married men who is already made. Túlétúlé. How I wish infidelity test could be done or perhaps, there's a meter on everyone's face showing:

How frequently you have sex with someone who isn't your partner,
The Degree or it's intensity,
What thoughts go on in that regard and
How much worth is left of every single part of your body.

Would people like you even desire that it exists, so that you can keep deceiving the innocent and guys you would never be with; who would keep trusting you and avoid such conversations as infidelity so as not to question your faithfulness?

tnerro1:
Chai, I just Dey imagine 1000 ways to kee this witch

What this woman did was so sad, that people that don’t know Tunde Thomas or even related to him will gladly pop her for free if the opportunity arises

Na the reason she comout be that na!
She know say if she wait small and people come catch her, her own don finish be that. Did you hear her say anything in her own defense?

Murderer, "Adulteress" , Whorish-Dog, "Betrayer", Money-magnet, Useless Side-chic

The money, fame, favour and class that she so desired which pushed the never-contented materistic dog into Whoredom; has she now got it?

Omo lasanlasan ekeji aja. Omokólo

Running from pole to pole to hide her face.

LadySarah:
Quality sex comes from a relaxed mind. The woman who has been busy with house chores after work will not give you quality sex and will not also enjoy it cos her body is yelling 'rest'.while the man has taken time to relax and is looking forward to the final enjoyment.

Our fathers who you compare to us had several wives. In case of sickness or childbirth or whatever, another wife filled the gap.

My husband isn't insensitive to these. Most he's home before me and already does some while I do the rest. It gives me ample time to relax and increase our bonding.

Unless your mum isn't truthful, ask her how she feels those times.I doubt if you are a mother. You will understand later

Many things are put together here.
First of all, my observation is that most female do not have minds of their own. Even in Churches, it will amaze you how the so-called Christian women come to discuss their homes. They discuss how their husbands need sex and do not assist them at home.
This and many other platforms like Facebook etc is where they learn ideas to frustrate their homes and act innocent.
It is absolutely wrong for a man not to assist the wife at home, he is stronger and it makes
it interesting
Women, too often give the excuse of tiredness for not having sex with their spouses. They consider it as a tool: particularly, when they feel the husband would not cheat.

Now, when a man assists his wife, it's either the woman relaxes, that's for the lazy ones or she gets uncomfortable for the competitive one: if the husband is such that does whatever he does meticulously. In which case, the woman still looks for another excuse for not having sex, looking attractive,tying rapper.

Let the matter of a new female secretary who's sincerely dutiful,polite and respectful comes in, then you hear the wife: "Why is she always greeting you?" "Good morning sir, weldone sir...yen yen yen sir" She's very fake o. Can't you get a male secretary? etc

To break the camel's back, the husband no longer demand for sex like before.

Shebi, you are tired and not always ready for sex. Let me leave you alone so that you can rest. Needless to mention that though both male and female enjoy sex, female enjoy it the most based on the fact that 15,000 neurons get fired in the female genital compared to 4,000 in male, coupled with the fact that the charges passed through a woman's body at orgasm, if passed through the male system, it will be fried.

So, whether a woman pretends not to enjoy sex or pulls back, I know better that it pleasures her more, and if anyone is supposed to make it a tool, it's the male.
This is not to encourage using it as a tool for any gender against the other.

My point:
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1. Female consult other female who will still tomorrow mock them and shame them for the advice that will ruin their marriages/relationship.
2. Female find excuses for not having sex with their husbands even when he assists, particularly, when they think he can not cheat until they realise he is done with them in his heart.
3. Sex is first will, though can be motivated by good-body condition otherwise, how do you explain the pleasure some women enjoyed from the expectedly traumatic experience of rape, that makes some not trust themselves asking:
Why did I enjoy being raped?

So, tell yourself you want to have sex with your husband and you want to enjoy it. Deliberately create the thought in your mind, your body will soon join. Husband help your wives and make it easy for her to WILL you into her mind.

My brother, it's easier said than done. You need to know the basis for your union. There's no marriage without its peculiar glitches. Nothing is wrong with marrying an older lady, only make sure:

1. She's not marrying you because you spoke/proposed to her, as opposed to her loving you. In such cases, if there's someone she has been hoping would speak and didn't, if she's obsessed with him, you might struggle to earn her sincere love, and it's a very big issue in marriages. So, ask yourself, would she have picked me if this other brother had proposed at the same time I did and she would have had to pick one person? If your answer is No, note that marriage can not be endured. You are going to be together longer than you've ever been.

2. You are not marrying her for the fear of being accused of wasting her time? As evil as wasting her time could be, worst still, is marrying to avoid being told that. It will not be fair to her if you don't love her and you marry her. It takes grace for sincere development of love in such instances.

Also, note; that love can be a decision but there's the mystery you may not have control over.

Let me stop here.

Very few of them could be different. Most of them are proud, disrespectful and full of themselves because the effort of people in other professions seem to have been undermined by the society and the government. E.g. For the fact that someone is a medical student and not even a doctor yet, you stand the chances having what others cannot.The beautiful Ladies, unsolicited greetings and admiration, and so on, even if a doctor would argue with a lay patient that fruit juices don't contain preservatives and you wonder how he got his degree!

VISIBLE CHANGES would surface when a doctor realises he needs a plumber and a nurse realises she needs an ARCHITECTS and that we all have need of one another; When a lady goes for a man because of his genuine value which should be seen beyond his profession; When a lady would at certain instances go for an Economist over a Surgeon. When NEPA officials are sent to jailed for misconduct; When recognizing an Electrical engineer would attract the same ovation as mentioning people in other professions.

iamadonis2:
Bash me Nairalanders, I didn’t learn again.

But sit down critically and analyze this, then tell me your thoughts.

Sometime last year, I made a thread https://www.nairaland.com/5461415/it-proper-girlfriend-still-gets where I revealed my girlfriend-cum-business partner still receives financial help from a man she once dated.

Today, another story surfaced. In June 2020, she had produced one million naira saying her brother gave it to her to invest in our business. I even called the brother to say thank you and he told me it wasn’t a bother to him at all. We could pay in six months time. I know we can.

Today, I realized it was her ex-boyfriend, the same man I complained about last year, that gave her the money. He’s 52. She's been confessing more and more about how it’s a loan to grow our business she asked for to pay back in December and she only kissed him as a thank you. My people, what precise, wise, and smart move do I make now?

You too look for someone to help and only receive kisses as a form of gratitude

nogragra:
.....you mean what she has done to herself. If you no give yourself dignity no one go give you.

SURE!

ToluLove001:
YES! LOVE exists and anyone could feel it, but there are conditions. If these unwritten conditions are breached, then one might not have it.

Why the PAIN? Let's not pretend it's because of the promise alone. Could it be that she realized the repercussion of being a 'runs-girl' late and now she wants to get herself into anybody's life at whatever cost?; looking for someone to blame her 'runs-girlism' upon.

Oh! Let me guess: even she, doesn't think anybody would have her and yet she was engaging in the very act. She wants another man to have what she doesn't think has anymore value and she wants to blame him for acting like that.

Ikún n jògèdè ikún n rèdí...Síò!


Ìgbèyìn lóun yé olôkú ada.
LESSONS:
1. Make hay while the Sun shines!
2. There are consequences for actions whether now or later
3. You can't eat your cake and have it
4. What obtains today may not by tomorrow
etc

Yeah! Self-worth/ begins with you.
If you don't value yourself, you've got no ground to blame others for not valuing you! So, treat yourself and show others how you'd love to be treated and make sure you possess the values you profess. NO MAN CAN MAKE YOU FEEL LESS THAN WHO YOU ARE if you don't give them the power.

Forgiveness is a choice.
Forgiveness can still be possible.

Trust is based on "premises": Trust is built by truth and integrity. Once it is breached, it has to be earned, and it usually takes a long time.

So, trusting such person will not be too early except if it wasn't done wilfully i.e. say, maybe under the influence of drug or blackmail etc

Well, people marry and people get married for different reasons, and we should all remember that we have different value systems. MARRIAGE, in the real sense of it, isn't as simple as some people "trivialise" it. Women's opinion about sexuality and the ease of speaking about it differs from that of men.

Having said that, remember that many things are not said yet about the circumstances surrounding the state of the marriage.


I think the lady in question is from a good home to say the least or well brought-up.
She doesn't have many good friends and she knows it.
She clearly feels responsible for many people around her
She could be a believer/ godly lady .
There are too many people she would let down if she makes any mistake.


She NEEDS A VERY SERIOUS &PRODUCTIVE ADVICE.

I will advise:

As obsolete as the idea of dignity as it pertains to infidelity might sound to many people, I will advise you to dignify yourself in this regard.

Marriage is meant for mature forgiven forgivers. God instituted it and only God's principles can keep it. So, if it will require you to swallow any possible pride of yours to bring back your husband, please, do.
A wise woman, builds her own home.

You clearly have a need, but you are a woman taught by the society not to make her sexual need known. You are married and God hates divorce...also,
stolen water is always sweet...it turns to gravel in the mouth of the culprit.
DON'T INDULGE IN FORNICATION or any form of sexual immorality.
Note: There's a way that seemeth right to a man, but the ends are the ways of destruction.

More so, I hope you didn't have a negative approach in mind and hoping that people will help you validate it to relieve your conscience.

Important Note:
There are more elderly ones around, who have integrity and earned testimonies of people about them in your place of worship. Consult them for more practicable approach to solving this.
Keep in mind that the solution they profer may somewhat bruise your ego or require a great sacrifice,but always bear in mind that your end goal is to be with your beloved HUSBAND and enjoy sex with him alone till death does you part.


About the opinion you get here:

You may have to sieve the opinions you get here. Some people can empathize well with you and they understand. Some are looking for validation of wrong approaches they have taken, so they advise others too to do likewise. Some on the other hand are here to catch fun and are very inexperienced, while the last category are those who do not have good moral values let alone religious value, and are set to live life like they please expecting good results afterwards.

You can only get the right piece of advice from people of like minds and those who uphold good moral and religious value system. Seek only their opinions.

Prayer for you:
ORORE ATOPE, NI ORIKO JESU, AMIN.
May your case become worthy of Thanksgiving in Jesus' name. Amen!

It should be noted that the Biblical prophesy will come to pass. Their plans including: Installing holographic satellites in the sky by staging moon-landing; demorallizing America and consequently the world sexually (including porb sites with the illuminati logo,gay marriage, lesbianism,masturbation, introduction of electronic devices owned by them...the iphones,ipads (pronounced as eye-phones,eye-pads), taking over of virtually everything,fashion, promoting sales and praise of body revealing wears for ladies using their puppets(celebrities who propagates their logos,demonic dancing styles,backsmashing of songs,coding of songs to praise the devil),making ladies feel until they expose their bodies like the celebrities who they believe, by virtue of popularity, to be better than them also do,they can not get the attention of a guy. You try and expose your breast if mere exposing some part of it is what makes another lady get the man you have been desiring__ofcourse, the man would prefer you to your rival (THIS AND MANY MORE ARE THEIR INTENTIONS AND AIM). To make people become so used to sinning that it will no longer bother anyone. THE LOVE OF MANY SHALL WAX COLD. Get a lady who is half-naked on the TV programmes: ADVERTS (CARS,BOXERS,FANS,HOUSE), SINGING,NEWSCASTING,ANCHORING OF PROGRAMMES, DANCING,MOVIES e.t.c, and you will get men to watch it. The programmes get the attention of a man than a woman (his girlfriend,wife,female co-worker) does, she becomes jealous and covets the dressing styles and tries to beat the lady on the TV programmes in order to get the man. Thus multiplying the number of ill-dressed ladies in the society. Other ladies see them, copy them and become competitive__try to do something different......making men to become more lustful at heart and promoting RAPING.....AIMS OF BIG BROTHERS.The love of money is the root of all evil.