hi,
don't know why parents do this, i really don't know what to say. I'll get back to you.

its a sad scenario but that life sha.

meanwhile, where ur gal from?

Just try to ride it out as long as you can. pleading with her as much as u can but have it at the back of your mind that you guyz might have to split up._{benn ther done that we fought 4 two years but had to split eventually. nasty scenario bro}

Shouldn't this be the girl's choice

habibi777 if u truly love ur chik and she loves u so dearly that she can do anything to make sure u both end up being husband and wife. Then you two have roles to play, make sure u beg her mum and let her realise u are well trained but she doesnt see reasons after u might have shown ur gud sides to her, Then leave that area wit ur guy a a month or two and see what will happen, lol

How come u had no hint of this in the "3 years of courtship". A mother can't suddenly wake up and tell her daughter not to marry someone from another tribe. She would have been dropping hints or warnings to the girl since she was old enough. And you guys got serious, 1st year, 2nd year, 3rd year without ever discussing this and you were in a "serious relationship" and "you love yourselves to bit".
Maybe I'm too harsh but really, I wonder when people come up with such issues after years of dating.

Anyways, since the mother has said over her dead body, you had better move on so that you won't be accused of killing the poor woman if u guys do marry, and next time, when the seriousness bug starts biting, ask your questions ,

my guy, i don't feel for you. go and marry someone from your state. fullstop. parents especially yorubas- that are myopic, are like that so move on. cheers

omogenikky ::::: I get what you are saying, and i asked her why it took her this long to tell i can not marry her, ( her mum said i did not not tow of you will last this long), So now tell me where do i stand

Bros, two of you can marry, this is the time both of you should show committment, care and concern for each other. In other word, it is time to show LOVE.
this is how it could be made possible.
- Make sure that both of u love each other as you love yourself.
- Option A (a short one) is agree with the girl and she will get pregnant for you. Accept the responsibility and take full care of her. Before she gets to 3 issues, you are already comfortably married.

-Option B is for two of you to remain single and make your relationship open to every one that cares. Her parent may hold on to her for some years but they will definitely call you and appologise to you. They will not only support the marriage but also sponsor it partly having seen the love their child have for you. Keep on loving and helping the girl and her parent as much as you can. This will convince them that love have not barrier. That you are for real and not chasing shadow. This option need endurance, trust and confidence.

To bolt away from the relationship because the parents and not because of girl is an indirect way of saying that you had only sexual interest in her.
Best of luck.