If you were in her shoes, what would you do?

I am 22, he is 32.
I am 5ft 7inches, he is 6ft 1inch.
I weigh 43kg, he weighs 120kg.
I am light skinned, he is dark skinned.
I am slim, and my statistic is 32'26'34.
He is broad shouldered, all muscled and with a wide chest.
We met at a Singles Prog. and became friends. He had a lot of female admirers due to his physique and godly character. I also had my share of admirers because I was a natural beauty, and quite intelligent.
We started dating and I thought I had found the man I was going to marry.
His female admirers were jealous of me, and my male admirers took a step back. But I became disturbed when he started harrassing me to eat well. He said I was too slim and I looked like a teenager beside him. I didn't take him serious at first until he started making statements like, "How I wish you had a bigger boob and bigger bum."
I have always been a slim person. My entirely family is filled with slim people. Where does he want me to get the extra weight from?
His incessant comments and complains about my physique is getting to me. This is the man I plan to marry, what should I do?

I would tell her:
The fact that you STILL want to marry this guy after such a huge problem, is what is alarming to me. This man has a serious issue with the way you look, how long after marriage do you think it will take before he go seek for the big tittay/bootay gals he SO desires?

This man is not ready to be married to you as you are NOT what he physically desires in a spouse........ Remember: If you Aint got it then YOU AIN'T GOT IT!

Tell her to come over, let me help her "bulk" up....lol.... seriously tho...she should tell him to get with the program or leave her alone.

Come to me, I love tall slim girls

Well girl he's already told you what he prefers.Ignore at your own risk.
One thing I can tell you is this; Never take spoken words for granted,cz as man thinks, so he is.
Your man prefers slightly bigger women ,so do not sweat it out. We girls like changing to impress men but that doesn't last long.
If you are slim by nature,why are you the desperate one here and not him if you are both truly in love?
It's cz he is comfortable with his physique, so it's up to his partner to measure up, not the other way round.
Would you fr instance do a boob job to please him? do yourself a favour.Stop being desperate and miserable and allow him the freedom to go for his taste,because he will always be satisfied outside.

How is he your 'fiance'??..... With your narration, you are the one hoping to marry him. His thought his obviously different from yours....... The hand writing is boldly written; take your time and read it, sweetheart!

MRbrownJAY: I would tell her:
The fact that you STILL want to marry this guy after such a huge problem, is what is alarming to me. This man has a serious issue with the way you look, how long after marriage do you think it will take before he go seek for the big tittay/bootay gals he SO desires?

This man is not ready to be married to you as you are NOT what he physically desires in a spouse........ Remember: If you Aint got it then YOU AIN'T GOT IT!

Hmmmmm... Serious advice. She aint got it, She better quits, shey?

k2039:
Dump him,there is a guy who will love you for you.Trust me it will only get worse when you marry him,because he will keep complaining.

True Talk

Sijo01: How is he your 'fiance'??..... With your narration, you are the one hoping to marry him. His thought his obviously different from yours....... The hand writing is boldly written; take your time and read it, sweetheart!

When they started dating, he told her that he hoped the relationship will lead to marriage. He has also started introducing her to his family members and he has met some of her relatives. Now that he is singing a new song, she better reads the handwriting on the wall, shey?

pendo89: Well girl he's already told you what he prefers.Ignore at your own risk.
One thing I can tell you is this; Never take spoken words for granted,cz as man thinks, so he is.
Your man prefers slightly bigger women ,so do not sweat it out. We girls like changing to impress men but that doesn't last long.
If you are slim by nature,why are you the desperate one here and not him if you are both truly in love?
It's cz he is comfortable with his physique, so it's up to his partner to measure up, not the other way round.
Would you fr instance do a boob job to please him? do yourself a favour.Stop being desperate and miserable and allow him the freedom to go for his taste,because he will always be satisfied outside.

Wow... But why did he ask her out if he wasn't satisfied with her physical attributes? He should have left her alone. Or was he thinking she will suddenly add weight miraculously?

serahsadeiyare: If you were in her shoes, what would you do?

I weigh 43kg, he weighs 120kg.

Based purely on the Body Mass Index measurement, he is overweight(bothering towards obese), while you are underweight. He needs to shed the excess weight, while you need to put on some weight to get within the healthy BMI range. Both of you need to register in a Gym and plan a good regime, you should be carrying weights in order to build muscle while he should be doing a lot of cardio workouts to shed weight.

[size=13pt]what chapter are we in a columnist on NL , let me look at your face again, i sure know you from somewhere[/size]

The irony of life!!!

claremont:
Based purely on the Body Mass Index measurement, he is overweight(bothering towards obese), while you are underweight. He needs to shed the excess weight, while you need to put on some weight to get within the healthy BMI range. Both of you need to register in a Gym and plan a good regime, you should be carrying weights in order to build muscle while he should be doing a lot of cardio workouts to shed weight.

The gym? Really? Food for thought. Hmmmmm...

It looks like the OP is advertising her market to me.

@OP,
I think there's a thread somewhere about 'chubby' ladies.
Just direct him there...

I wish he was me. I'd Love you more because of all the reasons he dislikes.

interesting, truth be told better leave that guy cos in the end he will cheat on you.

bennyraz: [size=13pt]what chapter are we in a columnist on NL , let me look at your face again, i sure know you from somewhere[/size]

Bennnnyyyyyrrraaaazzzzz
I bet you enjoy stalking people.
You are right about one thing.
Yes I am a WRITER.
But every topic I have posted on Romance/NL are actually true life stories.
I have a passion for relational issues and I am always seeking out solutions.
I believe Nairalanders have a thing or two to say and share.
I have been silently watching.
*winks*

After all said & done. I take GOD beg U, NEVER DO ANYTHING FUNNY TO BURST UP u may turn out to greet it.

That is not a problem....ask him to give you a month after you first child...proofs are all around you.....cheer up

serahsadeiyare:


Bennnnyyyyyrrraaaazzzzz
I bet you enjoy stalking people.
You are right about one thing.
Yes I am a WRITER.
But every topic I have posted on Romance/NL are actually true life stories.
I have a passion for relational issues and I am always seeking out solutions.
I believe Nairalanders have a thing or two to say and share.
I have been silently watching.
*winks*

[size=13pt]naaah! i'm not stalking you, i'm just following u.. I know you write for either a magazine/newspaper, and you want nairalander's to do your primary assignment for you, whichever way you have to pay service charge to me [/size]

I love tilapia fish so much.

Me wey be orobo my my oga dey complain! You be lepa shandy your bobo dey complain too! What in the world are we gonna do to please nigerian men?

Poster. Don't know y u are so adamant on wanting to marry a guy by fire by force.

U said in ur write up over and over again that he's the person u intend marrying.

My own worry now is that u seem more interested in this guy than vi s-visa.

Since when did women start taking men down the aisle in Nigeria ?

D guy says u are way too skinny, y then are. U forcing urself on the dude ?

On a second thought I have been seriously thinking hw thin u could possibly

Are u fatter than this chic ?

I sell maawu.

bennyraz: [size=13pt]naaah! i'm not stalking you, i'm just following u.. I know you write for either a magazine/newspaper, and you want nairalander's to do your primary assignment for you, whichever way you have to pay service charge to me [/size]

Far be it from me, I aint using NL to do assignments. You are funny. Your imaginations are grand.

Is obvious you are the one planing to marry him without even wondering if he would want to marry you

Pls like i'll always be told by others, "dnt do anything 2 ur body dat u'll 4eva regret, u wud'nt knw wot u've got till u loose it" bt i tell u, u wud'nt remain dat way 4eva. Other girls r out der working demselves out n starving, spending money on slimming tea jst 2b lyk u while u're complaining. Be hapi 4 wot u've got. Cheers