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Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 9:28am On Oct 18, 2012 |
Coasting: I wish I could give u money for the part in bold. You are too correct!! Husband and Wife start living like roommates, no form of intimacy or communication btw d two. They live under d same roof for d kids....it's very sad my brother. IMO, I'll tell them to get a f*ucking divorce but I don't want to mess up ur thread. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by MrsChima(f): 9:56am On Oct 18, 2012 |
Coasting: I wonder why parents sometimes interfer in marriages. Anyway, we always try to keep them at reasonable distance so that they dont influence us. It is good that you and your wife decided to mature in your relationship but many things people do not understand regarding courtship. I am not saying this occur in your courtship...however many of us do not understand how to properly court our mate/partner. I always suggested that people start off as friends before getting serious...that is how my husband and I started. My husband wanted a relationship right off the bat and I told him I am old school when it come to dating. I do not limit myself to one person until i am sure that one person is the winner. I am not saying have sex with each person you court...I suggest no sex but let be real....people Bleep on the first introduction! Courtship isn't about establishing a title or status. It is about getting to know someone on a platonic level and with NO EXPECTATIONS. I didn't expect anything from my husband until after WE WERE ENGAGED..we have already established a status: ENGAGEMENT. However some people jump 1st, 2nd, and 3rd base right into home run not knowing the most important factors in the person whom they chose as their winner. During the courtship, I learned from several guys about their families, financial literacy, education, political views, aspirations, expectations, short and long term goals, spiritual views, hobbies, favorite color, favorite sport, and social intelligence. It is important to know at least 20 of your partner's favorite things because little things matter! Learning about these things should occur during COURTSHIP not during MARRIAGE. Marriage is a journey and new things will pop up daily! Free yourself from old baggage and allow your marriage the room it need to grow by embracing new challenges. However during the courtship, it is about learning from the old and REMOVING IT ALTOGETHER BEFORE STEPPING INTO A NEW CHAPTER. That's the issue MANY COUPLES HAVE TODAY because they do not properly courtship and hence their marriage experience turbulence. I am not saying my marriage is perfect...but it is good! We have disagreements and discussions regarding negative outside influences and we may have different opinions about it but we work TOGETHER to remove static and come to an agreement because the last thing you want from your partner is resentment and regret. During the courtship, couples need to master the ART OF COMMUNICATION My husband and I come from two COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CULTURES but we learned to accept each other differences, embrace sameness, and thrive for teamwork prosperity. Marriage is a partnership and it requires 100% work on BOTH SIDES. If you can't handle partnership during courtship...how would you survive marriage? Another thing people make a mistake during courtship....THINKING THAT ONCE WE GET MARRIAGE..SHE OR HE WILL CHANGE! OH MY GOODNESS! DON'T YOU GUYS REALIZE HOW MANY TIMES I HAVE HEARD THAT AND ONLY TO ATTEND MANY DIVORCE PARTIES?!!! Trust me in America...many divorce parties are better than many weddings! Sad but true! Now Coast, you said that your wife changed after marriage....no she didn't. You didn't pay attention to the variety of her personality. When you meet someone you like and you think that person is the one for you..EVERYTHING IMPERFECT IS PERFECT! That's the allusion that honeymoon provides...you have never heard people complain about their honeymoon but you sure damn heard about them complain months after the marriage! Sound familiar huh? My husband does some things that work my nerves but when we courted, it was the most beautiful thing in the world! However, we learned to talk about pet peeves, deal breakers, last straws, and no touch zones. We made a vow not to break any of them promises we made with each other and we have a mutual agreement of what will happen if such and such occur. It is all about effective communication and respect. Another thing people in courtship do not work on....taking things personal and not letting go petty shit. It would be a time in your marriage that your partner would say some of the most hateful things imagined or unimagined! However if your partner is sincere then you can choose to forgive or move on. My husband and I have established a strategy on what we will do if we ever get to the point of hurting each other. We will walk away and cool off. Trust me when you are upset and angry...COMMON SENSE GOES OUT THE DOOR! It is okay to walk away and cool off...LADIES! THIS IS FOR YOU...never chase an angry man! Trust me! Let him GOOOOOO! MEN, DO NOT CHASE YOUR WOMEN BUT YOU MUST EXPRESS THAT YOU ARE SORRY AND THAT YOU WILL BE HERE WHEN SHE WANTS TO TALK AND MAKE SURE YOU SAY THE WORD, I LOVE YOU. (only if you mean it) Women are emotional creatures so we respond off emotions well many of us do and expressing is emotion so therefore it bring us down from getting beside ourselves. Have you ever met an overly-emotional woman? Enough said! Courtship is about learning and growing before becoming serious and a team. It is a free pass to make a mistake and LEARN FROM IT before skipping down the aisle. The day you become serious is the say your would will change and emotions run high and expectations change therefore relationship either grow weak or stronger. I strongly recommend sexless courtship because it help when learning about a person that may be or may not be the person for you. When having sex...you are giving a piece of yourself away and it is no longer yours. Why wouldn't you want to share that with the most important person in your life...your spouse? Sex is an addition to intimacy but true intimacy is about becoming one spiritually not physically. I can go on and on....but my fingers tired! 5 Likes |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by DMainMan: 10:11am On Oct 18, 2012 |
pls ans pls o. who can help. one of my male freind was a virgin before he married, though d lady is not. He collapsed wen aving fun with his wife. Thereafter, he was rushed to the hospital. he recovered quickly and blessed wit children though we do laugh at him sometimes. However, it is now my turn. I dont want to mess up as am still a virgin. I will soon marry as am presently waiting for my fiance to graduate. i need confidence. i am afraid |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by forkadict(m): 10:13am On Oct 18, 2012 |
Tusky44: Marriage is boring. I have concubines and they are mainly European women who don't give a damn. OP Try this for a start and tell me how you enjoy it. One voluptuous Polish mistress, one thick Jamaican mistress, one mature French mistress and one slutty Latin American with lips like Ava Devine. Add them to your wify experience and you would know why they say this world is a Man's world.Yeeeeparipa!!!! Dis guy, I swear you are my hero. Really and truly, It's a man's world |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by ocelot2006(m): 10:16am On Oct 18, 2012 |
Well, I have been married for a few months now. And it has been blissful so far. I guess one of the major reasons is that I married a woman who was my closest childhood friend (yep, ever since nursery school at Enugu). My wife not only loves and understands me dearly, but has always been, and will always be, my very best friend, confidant, and personal advisor. That woman is truely God's very best blessing for me. As someone rightfully posted, marriage definitely makes one more responsible. Finance wise, you have not only more mouths to cater for, but also bills to pay, and savings to make for rainy days/future investments. On the homefront, i equally help out with house-chores when they're abit to much for wifey. Nothing stops me from cleaning the dishes after every lovely meal she prepares, or moving round the heavy furnitures when she cleans our home. That said, i did notice that one has do a lot of compromising in marriage. And honestly, I'm not good at that. I still run my house as an absolute monarchy were the King's decree is final. But it is a malevolent (and slightly liberal) one as my queen has the right to advise me and make a lot of inputs, PROVIDED she runs her ideas by me. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by MrsChima(f): 10:20am On Oct 18, 2012 |
ocelot2006: Well, I have been married for a few months now. And it has been blissful so far. I guess one of the major reasons is that I married a woman who was my closest childhood friend (yep, ever since nursery school at Enugu). My wife not only loves and understands me dearly, but has always been, and will always be, my very best friend, confidant, and personal advisor. That woman is truely God's very best blessing for me. Lawd my debate argument educated a man! Yes! |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by goofie: 10:53am On Oct 18, 2012 |
Coasting: I have suddenly discovered that marrying a very beautiful wife is one way to avoid cheating. Am not making a general statement but simply stating my view point. the "FALSEST" statement i hv hrd since i ws born. men cheat on their beautiful wives with ugly ducklings. i hv seen PLENTY n i hv hrd of plenty. dont get it twisted. beauty is vain. a beautiful woman with a bad character is like a pig wit a gold ring in its nose. 1 Like |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by MrsChima(f): 10:57am On Oct 18, 2012 |
goofie: That's true! When I said it...I was told to chill jor! 1 Like |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by goofie: 11:24am On Oct 18, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: lol...dont mind them. whn a man is greedy, d unattractive househelp will apeal to him. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by ekene2011(f): 12:17pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
Ride On. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by DonaldGenes(m): 1:48pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
Harbb: I've been married for two and a half years now. I can say that everyday comes with its own experience.One gbosa for ua head |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 7:01pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
Am thanking all the people that have been contributing to making this thread a viral one. I got married at a relatively younger age and my wife (my queen) is also pretty young. We are really close to each other and most times when we go out, other married couples (who are much older) wonder how cool we cling on to each other. We set the pace of what an ideal home should be. Even our neighbours are tripping... It can sometimes be fun and profitable marrying early. At least you get to have your kids pretty early in life and train them while you are still young. 1 Like |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 8:05pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
pendusky: PLS THIS THREAD IS ONLY FOR MARRIED PEOPLE, we nid bouncer at the gate! Who I go even kal sef? Maybe Acid Family gud 4 d biz!!!sweetheart you're sighted |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 8:11pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
190-the-clown:no need repeating yourself, you've been heard. Now pls shift, lemme see beta post. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 8:19pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
The habit of taking my wife out most times to eateries, malls and many other places is making my marriage more and more exciting. Most times we just drive off to an eatery and buy something thats not too expensive and yet we enjoy it together. It is important to always spice up your marriage with frequent outings otherwise boredom might creep in with its attendants consequences. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 8:41pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
One good thing I learnt during our counselling classes prior to getting married was to always compliment my wife (my queen) in everything positive she does. I compliment her when she cooks, wash the dishes, arrange my wordrobe and most importantly, I make it a point of duty to always tell her I love her. Women never get tired of hearing you love them. Dont just assume she knows you love her, always say it to her because women are moved by what they hear. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 9:09pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
Mrs.Chima: Not from you silly. I left him to be with my wifey only. |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by MrsChima(f): 10:53pm On Oct 18, 2012 |
*Kails*: [size=3pt]Tou remember two or three years we were chased on Nairaland by Witch Hunt Association as being dykes and lovers[/size]? |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by pendusky(m): 12:28pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
booqee: sweetheart you're sightedYea dear! |
Re: Newly Wed - Share Your Experience Here by Nobody: 9:31pm On Oct 23, 2012 |
@mainman Go and get 'Sex in Marriage' by Tim Lahaye It will help |
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