Hmmm. Just hope it doesnt get bloody.
Most protests in Nigeria end up bloody.

Well there's no need for bad blood btw u ladies. Sweety, i don't think a phone cld prevent a guy from ever cheating And if U̶̲̥̅̊'re thinking maybe the current phone no he gave U̶̲̥̅̊ is just an excuse for him to sneak out of ur life (best way to detach himself), well U̶̲̥̅̊ gotta be smart abt it. Having a long distance reltnshp cld be traumatic (yes i've been there), U̶̲̥̅̊ continuously worry abt how he feels towards U̶̲̥̅̊ as a result of the distance, if he still feels the └♡̨̐√ƺ like he used to when U̶̲̥̅̊ guys departed And all other stuffs. U̶̲̥̅̊ kinda live in perpetual fear of when he/ she wld break up with U̶̲̥̅̊ wch most times is the end result. The best thing is to totally trust ur partner (only when he's proved it beyond doubt) And be decisive abt what U̶̲̥̅̊ want frm him. Don't be scared to hurt his feelings (no insults), if U̶̲̥̅̊'ld av to tell the truth abt how U̶̲̥̅̊ feel And where the relationship is going. Be open minded as U̶̲̥̅̊ Ċɑ̤̥̈̊Ω̶̣̣̥̇̊​ And i wish U̶̲̥̅̊ all the best of luck.
NB Is he always willing to introduce U̶̲̥̅̊ to his family mbrs (just a food for tot)."He gotta be proud of U̶̲̥̅̊"
I'm a M̲̣̣̣̥ά̲̣̣̣̥
п̥̥̲̣̣̣̥
And i know how we act when we └♡̨̐√ƺ sm1 even if we wldnt admit or say it to her.

kayles: Well there's no need for bad blood btw u ladies. Sweety, i don't think a phone cld prevent a guy from ever cheating And if U̶̲̥̅̊'re thinking maybe the current phone no he gave U̶̲̥̅̊ is just an excuse for him to sneak out of ur life (best way to detach himself), well U̶̲̥̅̊ gotta be smart abt it. Having a long distance reltnshp cld be traumatic (yes i've been there), U̶̲̥̅̊ continuously worry abt how he feels towards U̶̲̥̅̊ as a result of the distance, if he still feels the └♡̨̐√ƺ like he used to when U̶̲̥̅̊ guys departed And all other stuffs. U̶̲̥̅̊ kinda live in perpetual fear of when he/ she wld break up with U̶̲̥̅̊ wch most times is the end result. The best thing is to totally trust ur partner (only when he's proved it beyond doubt) And be decisive abt what U̶̲̥̅̊ want frm him. Don't be scared to hurt his feelings (no insults), if U̶̲̥̅̊'ld av to tell the truth abt how U̶̲̥̅̊ feel And where the relationship is going. Be open minded as U̶̲̥̅̊ Ċɑ̤̥̈̊Ω̶̣̣̥̇̊​ And i wish U̶̲̥̅̊ all the best of luck.
NB Is he always willing to introduce U̶̲̥̅̊ to his family mbrs (just a food for tot)."He gotta be proud of U̶̲̥̅̊"
I'm a M̲̣̣̣̥ά̲̣̣̣̥
п̥̥̲̣̣̣̥
And i know how we act when we └♡̨̐√ƺ sm1 even if we wldnt admit or say it to her.

Thank you. Yeah, long distance relationships are very hard. But the thing is that I'm just about to graduate with my masters, I don't have a job yet, only an unpaid internship. And he just went back to Nigeria this summer and decided to stay there to start his own music business. So, I can't ask him to come here because I live with my mother, and he can't ask me to go there because I won't have any job there :-(. Plus I might go to Singapore for an internship at the Swiss embassy, so it's gonna be even more complicated but I am aware that I should focus on my career and getting a job.

I don't think he's cheating on me. I asked him he told me no. Maybe I should ask him again. I can't picture him cheating on me, but I know it wouldn't be hard for him to get girls, so it's kinda difficult to be sure about anything. He wants me to go there for Christmas, but I have to see if I can manage to come between my internships (if I get the one in Singapore). He wants me to get to know his family, I've already talked with his sister and cousin because they wanted to talk to me. And I know he loves me because we've already been through bad stuff and we worked it out, it's just hard because of the distance.

Odunnu: Hmmm. Just hope it doesnt get bloody.
Most protests in Nigeria end up bloody.

That's ok, I don't think this will happen here.

Vrytin seem fine to me as U̶̲̥̅̊'ve analysed, but don't ask him again abt if he's cheating, its a sign of total distrust And U̶̲̥̅̊ don't wanna get him thinking Δά̲̣̥†̥ way. U̶̲̥̅̊ both shld be fine as time goes on.

ok, i won't ask. anyway, he probably knows that i find him having several phones strange. so if he cares to give an explanation for that he will call me, otherwise i'm not planning to call him anytime soon even though i know he's capable of not calling me for weeks.
the things is that he gave me many reasons for doubting him, but he doesn't have any reason for not trusting me because I'm always very honest and he knows what I'm doing and so on... so it's kinda like he's all the power, so now i'm trying to get some control back by not calling him!

i called him and he rejected my call :-( (although he can't know for sure that it's me because it shows only private number when i call)

miss-sweety86:
i called him and he rejected my call :-( (although he can't know for sure that it's me because it shows only private number when i call)

you are explaining ya issues to the wrong set of nuisances... these girls dont have a b/f not to talk of a steady relationship... they are jealous

free2ryhme:


you are explaining ya issues to the wrong set of nuisances... these girls dont have a b/f not to talk of a steady relationship... they are jealous

OK.

they envy u and the only way to discourage your love for your guy is to make you dislike and continue to see him as unfaithful

Babe...read between the lines!

be optimistic about your guy even if you have trust issues at the moment .. ask yourself if dumping him or breaking up will be the best solution...#food for thought.. my own two cents

free2ryhme: be optimistic about your guy even if you have trust issues at the moment .. ask yourself if dumping him or breaking up will be the best solution...#food for thought.. my own two cents

yes i know, i told him on monday that maybe it's best if we break up but he said he doesn't want... now i'm getting tired of trying to call him and he doesn't answer, or worse when a girl answers (he told me it was his sister and yesterday it was his cousin)

Lol. They always say no. Please don't break up with me. Everything is gonna be fine. Bla bla bla...

Before you know it, you will realise you have wasted years in a fake relationship. Btw, does he have any plans to come settle in 9ja?

Having 2 phones isn't the issue. The problem is his attitude towards communicating with you.

nikkyshyne: Lol. They always say no. Please don't break up with me. Everything is gonna be fine. Bla bla bla...

Before you know it, you will realise you have wasted years in a fake relationship. Btw, does he have any plans to come settle in 9ja?

Having 2 phones isn't the issue. The problem is his attitude towards communicating with you.

I know. It's really his attitude that bothers me. Not replying to calls or texts, that really upset me and he knows it. He said he will make it up to me if I give him another chance, but nothing has changed.

He's now in Nigeria starting his own music business so I understand that he might be busy. But I really don't get why he can't take 5 minutes to call me or to reply to my texts! He wants me to come for Christmas, but now I'm starting to see our relationship won't last until then because he's really making me sad now.

Ok. I misread. Tot he was away and you in Nigeria. My dear, thread carefully. I don't care attitude in communicating is always a big sign.

The two of u r in different countries as u said. Even if he has one phone and cheats on u wit it, hw wud u knw?

this is the thing: i can't know anything unless he or someone else tells me

and that's so hard to trust a guy who acts like that when it comes to communication

miss-sweety86:
this is the thing: i can't know anything unless he or someone else tells me

and that's so hard to trust a guy who acts like that when it comes to communication

Den y r u givin Ÿ̲Ơ̴̴̴̴͡uя self headache abt him havin two phones. He can still cheat on u if he doesn't own a phone at all.

anyway, he can be cheating, i'll never know. But the fact he is using 2 phones raised my suspicions, that's all.

To me, i'l suggest you save yourself all the troubles and worries. Find out for sure if he is cheating. I could help you investigate with prove if indeed he is cheating. Its better to know than to waste your time and effort. With the strains and signals you are getting i think its worth knowing for sure.

thank you, but as it is nearly impossible to find out for sure if he's cheating or not, i've decided to trust him when he tells me there is no other girl.

[quote author=miss-sweety86]Ok, thank you for the explanation Odonnu. That's probably why he changed number so many times. But apparently he's currently using the other one. I think maybe he has a number just for me, or at least it seems that he often forget that phone at home, or let his sister plays with it.

That's what am talking about! For havinq a clear undastanding you qraciously earned my espousal! Hope your relationship nothing but the best

miss-sweety86:
thank you, but as it is nearly impossible to find out for sure if he's cheating or not, i've decided to trust him when he tells me there is no other girl.

Don't worry all will be good! Have faith aaaaite!