Most men that cheat/flirt around will always love their wives, no matter the amount of love portion, juju , special treatment or other tricks used by any of their girlfriends or mistresses to snatch them from their wives. It's only when he allows himself to be manipulated or jazzed that's when his marriage is threatened. if not, anything the woman outside does, she's only doing it for nothing!

I still dont understand the message the Op is trying to pass across

Iz very difficult 2 brk a convenant no mata hw hard u try, especialy wen children ar involved. So oda frds u keep outside marage can hardly influence d love u hv 4 ur fam. U may keep it jst 4 mere pleasure unless ur wife dosn't hv d quality of a gud wife.

and ur point is....?

^^
no point!

There are so many weed smokers on NL these days.