MRbrownJAY:

@poster

here is my advise to you:
- close your legs for the first 6 months of meeting a guy. men usually dont cherish/respect something hat they got easily so stay away from any sexual relationship before you are sure he is the right guy. any sex before 6 months is a FAIL! if he cant wait then he is not right for you.

- get to know him. you give yourself to "strangers" and then complain later that they are the way they are.? get to know the guys you date. dont be emotionally cheap! discover them, talk, ask questions etc let them focus on YOU not the booty.

- go to his house. thats where it all starts. if you havent been to your mans house then he is hiding something from you there.

- invite yourself in his house at 3am in the morning. only a man who has something to hide or who has lady friends over sometimes will be mad at you for coming to his house uninvited.

- check his phone. a person who has nothing to hide will gladly hand over his phone to you.

- know his friends and family. if you never met his parents, real friends then you are not his woman. yes people will tell you that it will take time to meet them and thats when you tell him that he will take an equal amount of time for him to "get down" with you.

men would tell you that you have to trust them but trust has to be earned so therefore dont trust any man until you are 150% that he is THE ONE. raise your standards!

but remember that even with all this things checked, it doesnt mean that a man will stay faithful all his life so you have to remember that relationships are a constant struggle to be on top of your game, the day you slip, someone will be there to take your place in his eyes, mind and bed!

ps: some would say that these are drastic measures but in the posters shoes, drastic measures have to be taken before she "join the other side" LOL. ******become a lesbian******

Spanishfly:

Good points but what if you've been to his house but he does not like you showing up uninvited and does not let you check his phone. You've spoken to his mum, sisters, family too and seen some of his friends, could he still be the right one or shows that he's not playing with you?

Flavio:

Mr brownjay,
Good points you have,  But y are you talking like you will wait for the pu88y for six months ? ? ? ?,  Cmon bro lets be realistic,  A man might be patient for about a month or two, but after one or two  months and the chic aint giving the pu88y,  man will get busy with a next chic,  a  man  has his needs,
Be real with yourself bro

milcax:

will u try me?

saintneo:

several ladies waiting 2 pounce if i make the wrong comment

olugirl:

Do relationships really work?  I cant believe it's me ALWAYS meeting the wrong men.

I am not a bad person, not ugly (not necessarily miss world), not a bad girl (tho not an angel). I go to church,

like all d usual things girls like, but still homely, well brought up but being very unlucky with men, especially Nigerian men.

the last one just told me that he thought he would prefer a casual relationship, cos i said he never picks my calls. Yet kept begging me after i broke it off, obvious;y wnats to eat his cake and have it!

I have tried dating outside Nigerian men and while it was a great relationship, didnt think there was that click btwn us.

I am not one to generalise but just find Nigerian men (the ones ve met in London) to usually be liars, cheats and not truthful to what they say at the start.

At my wits end, dying of boredom, feel very sad and sorry for myself, maybe become a lesbian (lol)

Pweety4me:

^ *Burps* Huh realli?

Pweety4me:

_{^Hehe oh be quiet there. . .*adds powder 2 her cheeks*}

Pweety4me:

_{Nawa see over rehearsed poetry abeg jo. . .}

na2day?:

this is no poetry, this is real love. every step i take remains me that i journey into the unknown, the only assurance i have is u, u are my compass, the thought of u gives me hope for tomorrow

Pweety4me:

_{O my gosh paleeeeez!}

na2day?:

u dont want ppl to know about our eternal love?

Pweety4me:

_{dis is just a commercial 4 ya a way of u attracting other gurls. .} .

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
oh lawd!!!! lady,what do these so called bad guys want from you? sex!!! so keep your damn legs closed until you are 150% sure that they are who they claim to be. . . . . even if it takes 6months.

look within yourself and ask: what is it about me that attracts all these no good men?

contrary to what everyone here might tell you, YOU are the problem.
here is a clue: if a woman dont try to discover the man she is with before going to sleep with him AND THEN realize later that he is married/in a relationship then she is to blame for allowing that guy to play her like this.
the first time a man used you, you should have learned from your mistakes and step up your game.

i think that the problem is: since you are "dying of boredom, feel sorry for yourself and very sad", you will just jump into any fools arms just because you are desperate.

here is my advise to you:
- close your legs for the first 6 months of meeting a guy. men usually dont cherish/respect something hat they got easily so stay away from any sexual relationship before you are sure he is the right guy. any sex before 6 months is a FAIL! if he cant wait then he is not right for you.

- get to know him. you give yourself to "strangers" and then complain later that they are the way they are.? get to know the guys you date. dont be emotionally cheap! discover them, talk, ask questions etc let them focus on YOU not the booty.

- go to his house. thats where it all starts. if you havent been to your mans house then he is hiding something from you there.

- invite yourself in his house at 3am in the morning. only a man who has something to hide or who has lady friends over sometimes will be mad at you for coming to his house uninvited.

- check his phone. a person who has nothing to hide will gladly hand over his phone to you.

- know his friends and family. if you never met his parents, real friends then you are not his woman. yes people will tell you that it will take time to meet them and thats when you tell him that he will take an equal amount of time for him to "get down" with you.

men would tell you that you have to trust them but trust has to be earned so therefore dont trust any man until you are 150% that he is THE ONE. raise your standards!

but remember that even with all this things checked, it doesnt mean that a man will stay faithful all his life so you have to remember that relationships are a constant struggle to be on top of your game, the day you slip, someone will be there to take your place in his eyes, mind and bed!

ps: some would say that these are drastic measures but in the posters shoes, drastic measures have to be taken before she "join the other side" LOL. ******become a lesbian******

na2day?:

no oooo, this is me dying for u ooo