₦airaland Forum

Naijalegal:
Under the Nigerian Law you cannot divorce a woman because you just discovered that she was a wayward prostitute before the marriage. Before marriage, every woman has the right to live her life the way she likes and nobody can decide otherwise. Prostitution, cheating (different from adultery), flirting and other wayward lifestyles are not criminal offences but moral issues and moral issues are not enforceable under the Nigerian law. The same way that it is illegal for the police to arrest a young man for wearing dreads or having funny haircuts. These are personal issues that are protected by the fundamental rights of privacy.

Going back to the main issue which is that a man cannot divorce his lawfully married wife just because he discovered that before the marriage she used to be an olosho at Allen avenue pleasure supermarket where every dick, tom and harry took turns on her let us consider the content of S.15(2)(b) of the Matrimonial Causes Act which provides:

"Since the marriage the respondent has committed adultery and the petitioner finds it intolerable to live with the respondent."

When you look at this section very carefully with the mind of a trained lawyer, the first thing to notice is that the only adultery that will count for the purpose of divorce is the one committed from the time of the marriage "SINCE THE MARRIAGE......" Any intercourse done before the marriage is not going to count even if she was recorded and posted online and you saw it. After marriage the law sees the woman as a new person and gives her the honorable title of a "MRS" and wipes out everything else she has done in her years of youthfulness and every old thing is passed away. Marriage is a form of veil that protects the dignity of a woman and the doctrine of covering the veil operates to prevent anyone from looking to see who she was or what she did before her marriage. Thus, once married old things are passed away.

Ladies must also remember that there is no law that said you must reveal your body count to any man in the name of being a good person. Whatever you did with any man is your privacy and the constitution protects your right to privacy. Even if a man asked you what your body count is all you have to do is to assert your constitutional right to privacy and he has no right to force you. Even if you lie to him about your body count, he has no right to do anything about it because nobody can take away your fundamental right no matter what unless you have committed a crime and taken to the court. Even if he goes to court to ask for divorce relax and sip your bottle of beer because he is going to lose the case. The law court is not a chapel or a mosque where issues are decided on morality. In the Nigerian legal system, morality and law are two different streams that are not allowed to mix. For moral behavior to be enforceable in Nigeria, it must first be passed into a law for everyone to read and follow, see the case of Aoko V. Fagbemi.

If your fiancé ask you if you have done olosho or hookup before simply look into his eyes, and remind him of your constitutional right to privacy and if he forces you to answer, simply tell him no. If he discovers anything else after the marriage, the law is very simple because whatever happens outside the marriage stays outside the marriage. What counts is the one is the one that happened during the marriage. Research has revealed that many women who lived the life during their youth make better wives because they have seen everything and have finally decided to settle down so their whole mind is in the marriage and they hardly cheat unlike women who entered marriage without exploring and will end up trying to experience things they have not done before out of curiosity.

Dear men, once you marry please don't listen to anyone telling you anything about your wife's past life because it no longer matters. Most of them are only interested in breaking your home. A woman who was wild in her youth may have outgrown such tendencies and make a good wife. You have the duty to protect your wife's dignity and honor no matter what her past was and you are now her knight in shinning armor.

TouchNfollow:
https://x.com/instablog9ja/status/1986068191299137921?t=Zn7ll3aUv9UmyLcC5qXgIQ&s=08[/quote]But I don’t understand?

Men are supposed to impregnate women when they have sex at the right biological time and condition, isn’t it.

I don’t see a problem here.

Oh you mean the married women? Who told men that they own the vaginas of their wives? It is a lie and one of the highest deception on earth to believe that a woman is innocent and she is not supposed to do this or do that or cheat.

Biko know that the vagina belongs to them. They give it to whoever they feel deserves it. Yes. Even your gym instructor. And the vagina as an organ, it has no security protection or a usage meter recording who went in and out. That title of “Husband” is a big scam of sorts.

Remove this delusion that women, whether single or married, are supposed to be quiet and stay with one man and not look outside and are supposed to be angels , etc.,etc. The society forced these expectations on the women and in order to survive and be accepted the women locked their true nature in almost evil pretense as a survival and mating strategy. When you do, remove the brainwashing, things like this story will never ever ever shock you.

Sonnobax15:

Na so..

If e reach your turn,make you marry only one wife, you hear

Now imagine a young lady like that agreed to be a third wife to an already married man . Thats enough reason for everyman out there to know that "women no really get choice".

As a man, just get money,and leave your money to be importing plenty wives into your life ..

dollytino4real:
All these social media practices like burning bay leaves and other spiritual things for financial freedom but I don't see any changes, i don't know if am not doing it well

dosmat:
I have been wondering if your child or children resemble or looks like you,proves that you are the biological father of the child(ren)...

obembet:
I know many of us here wrote the West African Examinations Council (WAEC) many years ago.

Despite all the family responsibilities and life’s distractions now, I believe I can still sit for Mathematics and pass without any revision even though I wrote my WAEC back in 2000 at Ogedengbe commercial high school ilesha.

So, over to you Which WAEC subject do you think you can still write today and pass successfully without revising?

Source: obembet

LoveUdie:
I've been married for 25 years.

My husband and I never lived together under the same roof all these years.

I lived in the South East and worked there before marriage.

After marriage, I offered to resign from my job and join him in Lagos but he rejected the idea.

He said our family needed more financial support from my job.

My Mother and Mother-in-law advised me not to resign from my job and I believe they saw the future.

I also never visited him in Lagos where he resided and worked.

The only time I attempted to visit him in Lagos led to a rift between us.

He threatened to end the marriage and our families had to get involved to resolve the misunderstanding.

He only visited when he liked and that was when it was time for another baby.

We have 4 children together.

Now 25 years later my husband has retired from his job and has moved back to the South East.

The problem is that we live like strangers.

I don't know him and we have no relationship.

We just spent about 1 week together during each of his visits.

He could be gone for over a year without visiting.

The major issue is that I feel a deep sense of resentment for him.

He returned expecting everything to be all lovey-dovey but he is unrealistic.

We never had any conversations, our relationship was so official.

I never enjoyed the marriage which is the main reason for my resentment.

I got married majorly for companionship but I found myself alone like a single woman for 25 years.

If only I knew this was what he had to offer I never would have married him.

Not only did I not have companionship, I hustled like a single mother for 25 years.

My husband never provided any financial support.

At the beginning he kept playing me around each time I asked for money.

After a while he couldn't play around anymore he told me how he didn't live in the apartment so why should he pay for it?

He said the same thing about food and other needs.

I couldn't believe it.

After a heated showdown, his Mother and my Mother had a heart-to-heart talk with me, telling me to take care of my needs as I could.

I also had to cater to our children's needs after he kept dragging his feet.

I felt like I married myself.

I had a husband yet I was hustling like I was a single Mother.

I felt so much resentment towards him.

After the birth of our fourth child, I stopped communicating with him.

He never communicated, we only talked once I called him.

Funny enough he was fine with us not communicating.

That showed me the state of our marriage.

Our oldest child is 24 and out of the house. The other children are 22, 20, and 18. They are all adults, two are graduates from the university.

The other 2 are undergraduates and out of the house.

So it's just the two of us.

Now he is making small talk trying to communicate with me like we are a loving couple.

No love ever existed between us.

Our families have asked me to forgive like everyone else.

It's always so easy to dish out advice once it's not you.

The truth is that there is no way I can relate to him as a loving husband.

Now he is staying in the very apartment he refused to pay for.

He complains that I don't talk to him and sometimes I don't come home.

What does he expect?

His presence offends me and sometimes I stop by my friend who is a widow.

She lives alone and I have spent some nights with her since our youngest child left home.

We could both do with some company.

He is accusing me of seeing another man.

Did I know what he did in Lagos for 25 years?

It's just irritating how he expects us to carry on like nothing happened and all is well.

I don't know how to get out of this situation.

I'm thinking about getting another apartment and moving out.

My greatest regret is marrying this man.

This is not the life I wanted.

I had to work overtime to ensure that I didn't dislike our children.

I'm losing my mind with the way he keeps acting like it's business as usual.

Expecting me to cater to him like we made all these loving memories all these years.

My heart is so heavy and I don't know how to heal from this because is.....
https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

ebubeson:
If it is possible, beg God in prayers that the woman you will marry will not sleep with her EX few days to your wedding or when she goes to share wedding card or even to sleep with anyone else some days or weeks or months to your wedding day.

If it is possible, marry a virgin, but if she is not a virgin, let her be a very Godly, responsible and decent person.

Chilipepper:
A lady has gone viral for dropping “billing formats” on how to collect money from men.

tanigororo:
Avoid Sleeping with someone's wife, Abeg.
One of the thing I dreaded the most is sleeping with somebody's wife. The most scary part is this ladies won't tell you they are married. God Abeg

cutecommend:
It is possible to see the best spouse for you after you are Married, but you just have to love the one you are already married to and move on.

Morbeta11:
Delete one forever.....


Vvvv

pussyphilia:
You had serious misunderstanding with your husband or boyfriend and later he finds out he was at fault. And you're very angry and pissed off with him. Then having realised his mistake, he comes to you and kneels to apologize profusely to you. Is this something you'll love and readily forgive him or is it a turn off that would piss you off the more?
Guys, can you kneel to apologize to your woman or do you consider it "unAfrican" and makes you less a man?
Remember it is a very serious misunderstanding! Perhaps she caught you cheating or something like that.

Kobojunkie:
https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/other/the-silent-ticker-men-actually-do-have-a-biological-clock/ar-AA1OwSgL

Host78:
This question is something a lot of us think about.

Should you do DNA or continue to live in paradise believing that the child is yours as long as there is no pressure?

I think it's the same thing as "should you check your partner's phone or rather not risk the potential issues it may cause?"

Personally, in both cases, I'll chose to go the hard way.

I'm not a coward. I rather face any problem that may arise squarely instead of living in a fōøl's paradise.

So yes, I'll run DNA test. I'll check my partner's phone.

Peace is not the absence of war. Living in delusion should never be mistaken for peace. Living in pretense or running away from reality is not life.

immortalcrown:
Your logic here is either childish or stupid, and I will prove it to you.

No occupation is better than the other in terms of finances. It all depends on the level at which you operate in any occupation or career you choose for yourself. If you choose to be an employee, try to grow so that you'll be promoted to the position where you begin to earn so much. You can also earn so well as a teacher by working in a school that has a good salary structure. If you choose business, try to grow in it so that you will make more profit.

How much money you make is not determined by what you do but by how you do what you do. A teacher that rises to the position of commissioner or minister earns more money than a trader that has been managing just one shop. A trader that is growing in his or her business makes more money than some people that work in banks. Some teachers make more money than some people that work in the military. It all depends on the level at which you operate in whichever career you choose.

Some musicians are richer than some footballers. Some footballers are richer than some musicians. Some traders are richer than some people that work in the Nigerian Custom or in the CBN. Many teachers are richer than some content creators. Some content creators are richer than many bank managers. Some pastors are richer than some native doctors. Some native doctors are richer than some pastors.

ebubeson:
The ladies of your own tribe are wonderful & awesome creatures of God.

If you have your view about the tribe with the finest set of ladies, you can contribute. If you feel its your tribe, you can put it.

LoneSoldier:
If you were given two options to choose one, which one will it be, Marriage or 50 Million Cash?

For me I choose 50 Million Cash.

Note: You can only choose one, if you choose 50 Million Cash you won't marry, and if you choose marriage you won't get that amount, so choose wisely.

Comfortableme:
Wait, una wey don marry how is it going? It's like the good wife's has been married off. Because na almost every day I dey see news of wife killing her husband, one even use knife cut her husband preak. Am in my 40s but let marriage go to dungeon. No wife, no kids am good. My mama no kill my papa make one woman no come make my family cry over me.
Ire ooo

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

Chilipepper:
If you die today, who can unlock your phone?

Anyone can unlock my phone because my phone is not locked but some apps inside are locked.

Prettyangelng:
Please Nairalanders what will you do if you catch your loving father sleeping with your lovely wife
. .be honest because it's painful...

Chilipepper:
Terkula Alukwase Fidelia posted!

Wedding Cancelled!!


Today was meant to be my wedding day, but instead, I stand here making a different announcement.

I just discovered that my ex-fiance has been sleeping with my best friend. This betrayal cuts deeper than words can explain, and it’s a red flag I cannot overlook.

I have choose not to settle for lies. I choose to leave in order to live!

SyrusdeHansome:
Last year we lost one of our family friends because of the Nigerian factor. He was a prostate cancer patient who was receiving treatment in a general hospital in my state. How did it happen? The week he had an appointment with his doctor the state government failed to pay retirees and as a retiree that had about 4 children in the university he had no money for the monthly checkup at the hospital and he couldn't meet up with the appointment.
To cut the long story short, he got paid the next week, went to the hospital to see his doc who wasn't on duty that day, met a nurse who told him she could help him do the doc's procedure on him which was done. That same night there was complications. He couldn't urinate and he died by midnight. This is one of the reasons I'm always annoyed when a Nigerian ask his fellow country man why he wants to travel out if he has upto 50 million naira in his account, knowing fully well that many people travel out for different reasons. I've lost many pple who could have easily survived outside Nigeria and yet the leaders who can't even treat common malaria in Nigeria would always tell us that all is well in the country and that we shouldn't complain.

Has Nigeria ever happened to you? If yes, can u narrate ur experience?

franchasng:
You are completely wrong bro.

Not every man is a disciplinarian.


Men who are disciplinarian are always a problem in marriage because they complain about everything and want to discipline everybody around them.


I am happily married for years now.

My wife knows I don't complain about anything at all, she knows this about me. She knows if I dont like a meal, I wont complain, I will rather claim that I am full after few bites or spoons lol, and she will get the signal and smile; I know you don't like the meal, so sorry hun, I know there is much pepper, etc, let me get you something else to eat, even without my approval she will quickly rush to get something else.


She knows my kids prefer my room to theirs or their Mom's, and she suggested several times that the room remains locked whenever I am not around but I always object that it should be kept open for the kids to use as they please. And you know kids, they will scatter everything in the room, my reading table, just everything. If I mistakenly come back earlier and meet the room scattered, I don't say a word, and immediately both the kids and their Mom will get the signal that Daddy is not happy and will immediately swing to action arranging things, kids packing their toys, story books, drawing boards, etc while their Mom arranges others, and within few minutes everywhere is tidied without me uttering a word lol.


My wife and kids have learned my way, including our domestic staffs, even my staffs at the office, they all know that I dont ever complain about things, if I dont like a situation, I keep silent and try organizing it myself and they will get the clear message.


My wife and kids know that if I am silent and not uttering a word, it means something is wrong and everybody will become worried lol.


If I am silent for some time, not uttering a word, my son will start worrying, Daddy why dont you want to say something, Daddy talk, Daddy I am sorry, it's not me its Linlin that did it, she was the one that, bla bla bla and they will start confessing who did what without me asking.



So don't take liberal-minded and peaceloving men's silence or calmness for foolishness, their calmness and silence speak louder than violent quarrels and verbal abuse


I bless God for creating me the way He did because I hardly have issues or disagreement with people. I get along with people easily and I overlook people's weaknesses easily. I always have this natural gift of accommodating people no matter how horrible others think they are, I have room in my heart to accommodate all kinds of people.


The only place I tend to argue with people is online and especially on political matters because I always feel disgusted with Nigeria's overall situation haven been to working nations where it seems like paradise, so when I see Nigerians applaud Nigerian government, leaders and the Nigerian situation despite knowing that Nigeria is not doing well, I feel disgusted