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Kola5281:
hello...good afternoon everyone, i humbly wish to ask if there's any[b] "affordable" [/b]plug where i can do this hse 1,2,3 course pls...the price im seeing on some sites is terrifying

None that I know of. And most of the other strong professionals here like myself will advise you to be careful before you go pay for a certificate that will not be recognized when it matters the most.

Always Use credible accredited training service providers.

dearpiriye:
Good day house, please I need advise. I have a sibling with a bachelors of education in religious education and I want her to switch to hse as a profession .
We’re just about to register her for uniports pgd ohse and nebosh certifications. She won’t mind travel and starting from a low paid job to build experience. Please will this investment be worth it as someone without engineering or core science background? Reasons and the current state of the industry will be highly appreciated as we have no one in the field to discuss with. If not this, any idea of any fields with good chances for employment for someone that isnt strong in science (especially maths 🥺).
Thank you and looking forward to any and all help

The HSE Discipline and Profession needs to be understood.
There is the general appreciation knowledge and skills. Mainly under occupational health and safety. And there are other in-depth and specialist knowledge and skills that require certain background knowledge like in Engineering.

Let me give you an example. If you like have 10000 NEBOSH IGCs FROM THE MOON. I WONT LET YOU TOUCH A VALVE IN MY PROCESS PLANT. NEBOSH IGC It is just a high level HSE Appreciation/Basic OHS course. It is not Chemical Process Safety. No. To be proficient at Chemical process safety it is usually good to have an Engineering degree.

So this discipline has General Areas and Specific Areas.

Tell your sis she can work as an OHS Officer/Professional/ Advisor and other fancy names.


Job Opportunities
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1.It is really difficult to judge the demand for HSE Professionals right now. Nigeria for many reason does not have, create or keep records.

2. HSE culture is poor and many industries are poorly regulated. Consequently many companies see HSE as a problem. And with poor HSE regulation there is nothing encouraging companies to comply. First there must be regulators, then the rules, then companies will need dedicated HSE Teams. For now I can tell you that with unserious regulators no one is compelled to hire HSE professionals as much as they would have done if regulators and inspectors where busy.

It is a difficult question to answer. She should complete her program and give it a shot. She can also try to work as a consultant too. Or get a job first in a consulting company before eyeing the Oil Companies. No one knows her “Chi” or her “Ori” . We can only encourage her to give it her best and hope.

Also she should first get ISPON. It is law that she gets that before even practicing in Nigeria. But as Nigeria no serious who send? Nobody cares. Besides ISPON will enable her immerse herself in the fundamentals of the discipline before paying for NEBOSH.

Tell her not to forget to subscribe to HSE groups on LinkedIn and get feeds from this niche. These will help her immensely immerse herself in the profession.

bixton:
Good day house.
Please does anyone know where on can get a fire fighter training and certification in Nigeria from a foremost recognized training centre or institution?

What certifications comprises of safety fire fighting?
Any place known in the Niger Delta region like Rivers State or any other place....

I await responses.
Thanks and God bless you richly.

1. Fire Fighting training comes at various levels. From Basis Fire Fighting to Advanced.


2. Depending on the industry, some industry regulators accredit trainers and will not recognize any certificate from a non-accredited training center. Please beware of this. For instance the oil and gas industry depending on whether UPSTREAM or MIDSTREAM&DOWNSTREAM the trainer must have an OGISP from NUPRC or NMDPRA.


Be sure you are selecting the right choice depending on your circumstances and why you need the training. Determine the level and the context.

Good luck!

They have no basic fear, regard or respect for Nigerias.



So these lawmaker are telling that a lawmaker that works for 8 years for instance wants lifetime pension which will be larger than that of a civil servant who worked for 35 years. Meanwhile the salary and benefits of this same lawmaker per yearwhile he was in service as a lawmaker could be larger that the civil servant's 10 years salary and benefits put together. We havent even counted the oppurtunities they have to steal (and practically all of them do and did steal) public funds. In hundreds of millions and into billions.

So in any case the Politician wins.


They have no fear of Niegrians.

And they have no conscience to guide them.

Dogalmighty17:
With the explosion of paternity fraud in Nigeria, the need for DNA tests is more germane than ever.
Every man as a matter of necessity, has to conduct DNA tests on his kids.

In Abuja, a peace of mind DNA test costs 270k to 290k. For each additional child, you are paying 150k. The good part is that they can waybill the DNA test kit to you if you can't really travel. They'll instruct you on how to utilise it.
Lagos and Port-Harcourt might be cheaper.

Within 15 to 21 working days, your test results will be available.

The money you will use to raise a child that isnt yours for 18-25 years is more than that amount.


I am an advocate of 3 Peace of Mind Tests:

a. Immediately the child is born (First Paternity Test)

b. Immediately you leave the Clinic and take the baby home (Do not trust Nigerian Hospitals)

c. Final confirmatory Test


Three (3) Tests per kid.

EmmyMaestro:

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7644665555949194516?_r=1&_t=ZS-96r8nFuCczp

''USELESS'' MEN ARE EVERLY READY O.


JUST GIVE US DATE AND TIME AND PLACE...


MAKE WE TAKEK ALOMO ABI MAKE WE NO TAKE?

Kalatium:
Source :
https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1M4J4e74t7/

Cc seun nlfpmod

WHY CAN YOU JUST TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY

YOU WERE A ''LONG THROAT''

NO ONE DID ANYTHING TO YOU.

YOU WERE A LONGER THROAT...



JUST SAY ''NO THANK YOU''



WHY


BLAME


OTHER


PEOPLE


WHEN


GREED


MOTIVATES


YOU?!!!

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139435993]“If any man keeps malice with me for just 3 days, I’ll sleep with another man” – Lady declares

A Nigerian lady has sparked reactions online after sharing her controversial opinion on relationships while reacting to the alleged cheating scandal involving singer Chike and the ex-wife of media personality Frank Edoho.

In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), the lady defended women who cheat in relationships, claiming that prolonged silence and unresolved issues between couples often push women into the arms of other men.

According to her, no woman would remain completely loyal for too long if her partner decides to keep malice instead of resolving problems in the relationship.

In her words, she said:

“If any man try to keep malice with me in a relationship because we’re having issues, the highest I can be loyal for you is three days. Me and you are dating and we’re quarrelling. I no talk to you, you no come beg me, the highest I can promise you that I won’t give out my body to another man is three days.

“So Chike we love you, thank you for being a shoulder for her to cry on when she needed you, we love you and we’re proud of you. For once the men should be proud too. So if you keep keeping malice with your woman, another man will take your place.”

Her statement has since generated mixed reactions online, with many social media users criticizing her stance on infidelity, while others argued that communication are important in relationships.

The controversy follows ongoing social media discussions surrounding allegations involving Chike and Frank Edoho’s ex-wife, which have continued to trend online.

"If Any Man Keeps Malice With Me For 3 Days, I Will Sleep With Another Man"

— Lady reveals.. pic.twitter.com/T0iOd5Siv5

— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) May 16, 2026

!!!!!!! HALLELUJAHHHH .....WHAT WE HAVE BEEN PRAYING FOR. SEE ENJOYMENT IS COMING ON ITS WAY.


MAY IT BE UNTO HER AS SHE HAS PROFESSED...MAY IT BE UNTO YOU OOOO...AND MAY THE CONSEQUENCES OF THIS FOOLISHNESS NEVER LEAVE YOU BUT MEET YOU IN FULL MEASURE.


PLEASE GIVE YOUR BODY TO MEN....


WE ARE HOPING AND PRAYING THAT YOU ALL WILL BE LIKE THIS.....

PLEASE, ALL MARRIED WOMEN IN NIGERIA WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR.....?


SOME OF YOU HAVE STAYED 1 HOUR WITH YOUR HUSBANDS KEEPING MALICE... PLEASE MEN ARE AVAILABLE WITH ALOMO BITTERS SOME WITH CONDOMS AND SOME WITHOUT...


PLEASE GIVE US THE DATE AND TIME.....

demolagilbert:
lol. I can't understand how and why these men both home and abroad subscribe to getting married more than once. IMO marriage should be a one time thing. If per chance, e fold esp due to something as embarrassing as this, I don't know how men find it in them to commit to another woman under the guise of 'try again'. Omo, na then I go fully enter my masculinity patapata sef. Na to jus get babes, but ain't ever committing or getting married ever again. Any babe wey tire and wan waka, I respect wholeheartedly, bid goodbye and keep it moving. In this one life, I'm not saying 'I Do' more than this once. Even if na bereavement, God forbid, I ain't remarrying. This my 2016 wedding is the one and only that will ever be ascribed to me, till I leave planet earth.

I strongly share the same opinion.

Should I decide to marry, and we separate, or my wife passes, I am never marrying agian.

Naah...

It is interesting being Nigerian....

I dont wht but the best I can do for now is just to laugh....

I just cannot help it but laugh.

Wahala dey sha....

Lij (Ras) Tafari Makonnen !

BlackViper:
https://malaysia.news.yahoo.com/sam-altman-coworkers-barely-code-201114782.html

Foolishness at its peak.

And who says Dangote too must know Chemical Engineering and Food Processing Technology....?


DO NOT HATE SOMEONE AND SPEAK BAD ABOUT THE PERSON JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE ANGRY...

TINUBU TOO OR TRUMP SHOULD KNOW ALL THE PROFESSIONS REQUIRED FOR ALL MINISTRIES, DEPARTMENTS AND AGENCIES...

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid02RLjxoAVdQKes44JYBrY37MJqVgqsXTuRaJ7pupzXVwPgaiqbagxA9976QWiLrkVTl

Stupendous confirmation bias.

DEATH IS NOT THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN!

Please give me the data of the thousands that slept and woke and some even did this and retired peacefully and happily in that UK.

Now give me the thousands that sletp in Nigeria and did not wake up ( JUST WITHIN 24 HRS IN NIGERIA...DONT GO TOO FAR).

AGAIN....DEATH IS NOT THE WORST THING THAT CAN HAPPEN TO A MAN!

I WOULD RATHER TRAVEL TO THAT OBODOD ABROAD, WORK THREE (3) JOBS AND BE USEFUL AND PRODUCTIVE FOR AS LONG AS POSSIBLE THAT ENDURE A SYSTEM SET OUT TO PREY ON ME, FRUSTRATE ME, AND PRACTICALLY DESIGNED TO KILL MY INNOVATION AND MAKE ME FAIL.

Now you can argue that some people are here Nigeria making it. I agree. But Biko what is the probability that if i start a business in Nigeria and another starts a business in UK for instance, the UK system will not support the business? Unless the person is ignorant about the avrious grants, supports etc. Many Nigerians run from these because their intentions here is to ''scam'' the system. If you are honest in your dealings there are resources here to suppport your innovation. You will be held to ery high standards. In canada, USA, UK, Australia (for instance) there are assistance programs, etc that are set up to ensure businesses survive, with the Directors not asking a girl entrerprenuer to come to a hotel and sleep with them if they want the grant.

LIKE I WILL ALWAYS SAY. I LOVE THAT I AM FROM A TRIBE IN NIGERIA. THE COUNTRY ITSELF, I HATE THE WAY IT IS ADMINISTERED. BUT YOU SEE YOU GUYS WHO COME TO MALIGN AND VILIFY THOSE THAT CHOSE TO LEAVE THE COUNTRY? ONE DAY UNA GO PASS IELTS. Because it is when MOST OF YOU HAVE FAILED OR ARE NOT QUALIFIED TO JAPA THAT YOU GET ANGRY AND GET BITTER.

If this is not the case then these posts are government propaganda and it is useless. The pull factors (overseas) and push factors (in Nigeria) are so strong that many people, not oppurtuned to set up businesses and get good jobs and live a comfortable, would rather leave the country.

Lovelink1991:
She Claims Lekki Boys Na Gays (Agayge)!

A lady who was invited by one of those lekki big boys has cried out over what she discovered in the house of the guy which made her to shockingly run home.

Watch as she narrated the shocking discovery


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hCYunzSM_dA

P
I
G
!.....

Rep9jaCom:
A lady has shared a powerful testimony of how her life was dramatically transformed, from living a worldly, sinful lifestyle to becoming a born-again Christian and a true servant of God.

I

𝙑𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙤 𝙀𝙫𝙞𝙙𝙚𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝘽𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙬 👇👇

“I Went From Clubbing, Doing Drugs, Drinking, And Sleeping Around To Becoming Born Again” – Lady Shares Powerful Testimony https://t.co/o8XneGKGR8 pic.twitter.com/yHHkhEuEBK

— Rep9ja.Com (@Rep9jaNg) March 16, 2026

https://www.rep9ja.com/viral/from-clubbing-born-again-lady/

I choose to remain unmarried, If these are the options available today.

Whalis:
Source: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1JBnud3JcS/

Confined space entry + toxic gas exposure issues...

nlfpmod:
Police Public Relations Officer, Delta State, SP Bright Edafe narrates:




Source

I am and will still remain an advocate for 3 Peace of Mind Tests (for those who can afford it).

POM Test 1: Immediately after delivery and no more than 2 hours after delivery. To determine paternity.



POM Test 2: Immediately after leaving the hospital and no more than 24 hrs after leaving the hospital. (Many Hospital and medical staff in Nigeria are cursed, calous, unprofessional, negilgent and grossly incompetent)



POM Test 3: After 6 months -2 years to verify the previous tests.



If you cannot afford these, then conduct Test 2 at least.

Dpsychologist:
You Can Touch Everything… Except the Phone?

Let’s be serious for a moment.

You can touch each other’s private parts without blinking.
You can see each other naked.
You can sleep on the same bed, share saliva, sweat, and body heat.

But once phone enter the matter…
Suddenly it’s “respect my privacy”

Ah ah.

So the same hand wey dey enter everywhere is now too holy to hold a phone?
The same eyes wey don see everything are now not “authorised” to see WhatsApp?

Let’s not deceive ourselves.

Privacy is important, yes.
But this selective privacy is funny. Very funny.

If someone can access your body but not your phone, then the phone is hiding more than the body. Simple.

Because phones don’t just carry pictures.
They carry:
• hidden conversations
• emotional affairs
• exes that “don’t mean anything”
• backups of lies

That’s why the phone is guarded like national treasure.

Truth is, many people don’t fear losing privacy.
They fear exposure.

If you truly have nothing to hide, a phone should not cause panic attack.
You may not give full access 24/7, but the moment your partner touches your phone and your spirit leaves your body… something is wrong.

You can’t be naked with someone and still be living double lives.

Either you’re in a relationship or you’re in a performance.

Choose one.

Class dismissed.

Truly, the value you bring determines a lot of things. BRING REAL VALUE and you will successfully implement the necessary reasonable rules and boundaries that women say they can never take or stand. These boundaries are for your self-protection and sanity. Women control sex mainly. Men control long term commitment.

My rules are clear and as much as you hear women come here to claim superwomen, please pay no attention to them. Online people come to rant and mouth off how they dont and wont accept this and that....

My dating rules are simple. YOU CAN NOT TOUCH MY PHONE, BUT I WILL TOUCH AND HAVE ACCESS TO YOURS. Simple.

If you do not accept this, then I have nothing to do with you. You can only do shakara for low self-esteem, sex starved men. In all my dating life, I have not seen a lady who said ''No, I dont accept this rule''. NOT ONE!!! This boundary and all other critical boundaries like posting thirst traps on social media, doom-scrolling all day, etc.

Bring Value. Real Value. They will comply. And if they lie that they would comply and fail to do so, do not hold back to ensure full consequences.

I don remove am ooooo.....

I don remove my comment...

I still get family to feed.

Kemetian:
While we're here running down ourselves with foolishness, foreigners SCREAM IN DELIGHT when their Ancestry DNA results reveal they have even 5% NIGERIAN ANCESTRY.

Talk less of those with 70% to 97% who want to more or less THROW A PARTY in celebration!!

Incredible video!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4hjCVIrO69g

I am proudly Nigerian. I am happy to be one.
God has blessed my experiences with pleasantness and success and growth. I am speaking from my own experiences. If yours have been horrible, it is unfortunate, and I sympathize and even empathize. But mine have been wonderfully great.

Proudly Nigerian. Whether with all States, One State, No State at all, 10 states in a region, etc. etc., I am proud of my roots and ancestry under the now more recent and modern administrative borders and country called Nigeria where I have found myself.

I AM PROUDLY NIGERIAN.

Sirchiboy:
Nigerian man sells his house in Lagos for N60m, relocates to UK where he lives in one-room apartment with his two children

I SAY MAKE I ASK AI O.

AND THIS WAS WHAT I GOT. BUT OF COURSE AI CAN BE WRONG TOO. BUT IT SHEDS SOME LIGHT FROM SPECULATIONS.




First: what does N60m actually buy you in the UK?

Using recent exchange rates, £1 ≈ ₦1,890–₦1,910.
Exchange Rates UK
+1

So:

₦60,000,000 ÷ ~₦1,900 ≈ £31,000–£32,000

Call it £31.5k capital after selling the Lagos house (before visa fees, flights, deposits, etc.).

In Lagos he was a homeowner; in the UK he’s arriving as a cash-poor renter with ~£30k and two children, in a country where:

Average private rent in England ≈ £1,092/month (higher in London, ~£1,700+).


Food for a family of 3 averages about £560/month.


Average household spending across everything ≈ £623/week (~£2,700/month, Office for National Statistics)

Research on “minimum income standard” suggests a single adult needs ~£30.5k/year, and a couple with two children ~£74k/year, to reach a modest acceptable UK living standard – not luxury.
Joseph Rowntree Foundation

As a lone parent with two kids and no access to most benefits (typical for migrants on temporary visas), he is starting from a tough position.

Now your two scenarios.

SCENARIO 1- Scenario 1 – He comes as an international student

Immigration & work rules (high level)

A Student Visa holder can usually work up to 20 hours/week in term time and full-time in vacations - From UKCISA

No access to “public funds” (Universal Credit, most benefits, social housing).

Since Jan 2024, only certain postgraduate research or government-sponsored students can bring dependants (partner/children).
GOV.UK

Children cannot work; if he’s a lone parent, he is basically the only potential earner.

Likely income

Assume he gets typical low-skill work at around the National Living Wage (~£12.71/hour from April 2026; 2025 is slightly lower but close).
The Guardian

20 hours/week × £12.70 ≈ £254/week

Annually: ≈ £13,200 before tax

Monthly: ≈ £1,100 before tax (maybe ~£1,050 take-home)

In vacations he could work full-time and earn more, but term-time restrictions dominate for most of the year.

Typical monthly costs (outside London, small one-room/studio)

Let’s assume he deliberately picks a cheaper city (Not London, not the Southeast):

Rent for a very modest one-bed or studio in a cheaper city: £700–£900 (he may cram into a room in a shared house to be lower).

Food for 1 adult + 2 kids (if he’s frugal and cooks): say £400–£550 (below or around national average).


Utilities (electricity, gas, water, internet, phone): £150–£200

Local transport, school costs, clothing, toiletries, misc: easily £200–£300

Conservative total: about £1,450–£1,900/month.

But his student-job income is only around £1,050/month. So he is short £400–£800 every month, before we even talk about:

Tuition fees (£12k–£20k+ per year for many courses)

Immigration Health Surcharge, visa fees

School uniforms, laptops, emergencies

That deficit comes straight out of the £31.5k savings.

How long does the N60m last?

Very rough:

If he runs a £600/month deficit, that’s £7,200/year just to survive, plus tuition maybe £15k/year.

Just one year of tuition + living costs could burn £20k–£25k easily.

Two years of a taught master’s = likely most or all of the £31.5k gone unless he has extra income (remote work, support from spouse abroad, etc.).

Survival verdict – Student route

Legally, under UK immigration rules:

He can’t work more than 20 hours/week in term and can’t just “hustle full-time” without risking visa breach.

Kids cannot work; he probably has no benefits due to “no recourse to public funds”.

So:

Short-term survival: Possible if he uses the Lagos house money as “fuel” and lives extremely frugally in a small room. But quality of life = very cramped, financially stressful.

Long-term survival: Very risky. If he doesn’t transition quickly into a Skilled Worker or Graduate visa with decent salary, he could end up with:

No house in Lagos,

No significant savings left,

Still renting a cramped place, and

Pressure to overwork illegally.

His chances of thriving on the student route with two kids and only N60m capital are low, unless:

He’s on a funded PhD (stipend), or

He has strong additional support (spouse overseas sending money, or high-pay remote work in tech, etc.).

SCENARIO 2 -Scenario 2 – He comes with work sponsorship (Skilled Worker visa)

Immigration & work rules

On the Skilled Worker route:

His UK employer must sponsor him and pay at least the skilled worker salary threshold – currently £41,700 baseline for new applications, or the higher “going rate” for that job.

He can generally work full-time, change jobs within rules, and often work overtime.

Most Skilled Worker holders and their dependants also have no recourse to public funds, so still no benefits.

Many skilled workers can bring dependants (partner & kids), though some categories now bar bringing dependants (e.g. social care roles).
House of Commons Library

Likely income

Take the minimum Skilled Worker salary: £41,700/year.

Approximate tax & NI:

After income tax & NI, net is roughly £2,700–£2,900/month (ballpark).
(A rough calculation suggests around £2,800/month take-home.)

Monthly costs again (outside London)

Use the same band as before:

Rent: £800–£1,000 for a small flat in a cheaper city.

Food: £450–£600 for 3, if they eat mostly at home.

Utilities: £150–£200

Transport, school costs, clothes, misc: £250–£350

Total: around £1,650–£2,150/month.

With ~£2,800/month take-home, he might have a surplus of ~£600–£1,100/month if he budgeted tight and stayed out of London.

That surplus can go to:

Building an emergency fund,

Paying for childcare/after-school club so he can work full hours,

Saving toward a car, or eventually buying a home (though that’s a long road).

And remember, he still has the £31.5k capital from Lagos (minus visa, flights and initial setup). That money can:

Cover deposits (often 5–6 weeks rent + 1 month up front),

Buy basic furniture and laptops for kids,

Provide buffer for the first 6–12 months while he settles.

Survival verdict – Skilled Worker route

Legal work hours: He can work full-time, and perhaps overtime, without breaching immigration rules.

Income level: While £41.7k is below the “ideal” £74k for a couple with 2 kids MIS benchmark,
Joseph Rowntree Foundation
a single breadwinner on that salary can realistically support a small family in a cheaper UK city if they live modestly.

Living standard: They’ll still feel “poorer” compared to owning a house in Lagos, but:

Bills are pay-able from salary.

Savings can grow slowly.

Kids access UK schooling and future opportunities.

Risk: If he loses the sponsored job, visa security and income are at risk; but structurally, this route is much more sustainable than being income-capped as a student.

Overall comparison – “Chances of survival”

Economically & legally, with current UK immigration rules:

Student route (with two children, N60m capital):

Income restricted to part-time, around £13k/year from legal work.

High tuition + high cost of living.

Burn rate of savings is very fast.

Survival = heavily dependent on:

External support, OR

Very rapid transition to a better visa/job.

High risk of downward mobility and hardship despite having sold the Lagos house.

Skilled Worker route (work sponsorship):

Full-time earning at £41.7k+.

No benefits, but salary roughly aligns with lower-middle UK income.

With careful location choice (not London), they can:

Pay rent and bills from salary,

Use the £31.5k as cushion,

Slowly rebuild assets.

Chances of stable survival and gradual progress are much better.

Bottom line

If a Nigerian father sells a paid-off house in Lagos (₦60m) and moves to the UK with two children:

Coming as a student, under current rules, is financially fragile and often not a rational move unless:

He has a funded PhD / scholarship,

Or a second strong income source.

Coming with a solid Skilled Worker sponsorship paying at or above the new thresholds is far more viable, though it still means:

Downgrading from homeowner to renter,

Living very modestly at first,

Accepting that the UK is a high-cost, high-rules environment with limited safety nets for new migrants.

If you want, we can next plug in specific UK cities (e.g. Manchester, Birmingham, Glasgow vs London) and model monthly budgets and burn-rate of that ₦60m under each scenario.

The Bongo Man a gone.....gone goooooonee..

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

Do not help replicate the gene pool of poor quality men.... You women hold the key to this, but many ladies have traded this control for bragging rights of being married, material benefits, and toxic addiction to sexual pleasure and the lack of the ability to close their legs.

Now I can bet that there are other red flags you are ignoring, and you have stayed with him through them. NOTE that he will not change because of marriage.

People are already flaying you for bringing this matter here and not settling it with your fiancée. I will not because you are not married. The moment you get married, it becomes a matter of duty. Once you open your two ''koro-koro'' eyes to marry, then you have to accept the full package.

Ok na.

Borrow2222:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/regional/ssouth-west/835179-man-sentenced-to-death-for-raping-killing-11-year-old-in-ondo.html

Only?

How about dissolving his corpse in acid?

Or something worse than death so he is alive but suffers and begs for death but even that will be far away from him?

Alright. Fine. Let me go back to my objective self and say that I guess (and hope that) justice is served. However, Dear Parents, we cannot control the number of animals out there. I know the culprit/perpetrator is to be blamed- 100%. I know it is a crime. I know in a sane society, if a woman walks about naked by 12 midnight, nothing is supposed to happen to her. I know ''Your vagi-na is not a Car'', ''I know you would rather choose the bear'' etc. etc. etc. Beautiful fantastic arguments and profound and beautiful sentiments - only on paper! Unfortunately, that is utopia and not reality. You say ''In an ideal situation...'' but realistically, the world is hardly ever ideal. The world is not like that, and we must be very, very careful and discerning. While we cannot control everything, You still need to watch and guard your kids and do not trust strangers and even known acquaintances.

At any age that you can

-PICK A REASONABLE WOMAN(. THEY ARE SCARCE)
- WISE, BOLD AND STRONG ENOUGH TO PROTECT
- EARN, PROVIDE & FINANCIALLY STABLE
- SUPPORT & BE A GOOD COMPANION
- EMOTIONALLY GROUNDED AND REGULATED
- POSSESS WISDOM TO LEAD THE FAMILY UNIT
ETC
ETC