julienne86: So I had a brief relationship with a guy and we parted. Today I am married to that guy's brother. I never told my husband that I had a relationship with his brother. First I thought our relationship would just be a fling and I did not take it seriously. As time went by, we became closer and closer and fell so hard with each other. At that point I was afraid of losing him by telling him. As our relationship grew, it was harder and harder to tell him. Today we are married. I still haven't told him. His brother haven't told him either. Everyday, that past haunts me and it only gets harder. I have a gazillions of questions that runs through my mind. Am I betraying my dear husband? Will he discover that I was his brother's gf one day? How will he react? Will he despise me? How does his brother perceives me now? Am I a monster for doing what I am doing?
I do not want to lose my husband, I love and respect him beyond words. I just do not if I am doing the right thing by concealing my past to him! Should I tell him? I am getting sick. I am stressing so much. IS there a way out of this? Please advise!

D-Explorer:
OP got more secrets besides just "dating" briefly. She got attraction and whatnot. She's as well mentally declined to just wake up now that she's in marriage. Damn! She needs healing. Tell your husby and end your marriage because he's NEVER gonna trust you again. Young woman, you "kept" the secret for this long, can you keep it forever? I think you did some dirty stuff with his brother.

julienne86: Well, it is not that easy. If I tell him, it may ruin our relationship. Do you imagine how awkward it will be whenever all 3 of us are in the same place? The last thing any man wants is to have to deal with his wife's ex. Now imagine if that ex is his won brother. I dont want to worry my husband. I do not want him to doubt my faithfulness, love, dedication. I dont want him to question our relationship . We r meant to be together and I dont want to jeopardize US. It is just too hard to live with this secret... I don't have anyone to turn to, I cannot tell anybody. I feel trapped. I dont want to fall into depression.... this is oh so hard to live with

julienne86: Well, it is not that easy. If I tell him, it may ruin our relationship. Do you imagine how awkward it will be whenever all 3 of us are in the same place? The last thing any man wants is to have to deal with his wife's ex. Now imagine if that ex is his won brother. I dont want to worry my husband. I do not want him to doubt my faithfulness, love, dedication. I dont want him to question our relationship . We r meant to be together and I dont want to jeopardize US. It is just too hard to live with this secret... I don't have anyone to turn to, I cannot tell anybody. I feel trapped. I dont want to fall into depression.... this is oh so hard to live with

julienne86: When I was dating his brother he never introduce me to any of his family members or friends, neither did I. We dated very briefly may be for a month or so and each of us moved on to sth else. Then heaven said I would meet and marry his brother.
I thought I could live with this but it is only getting harder, my heart aches.

pDude: You better don't tell him. Keep your mouth shut. It is not everything you should tell your spouse. Apply wisdom my dear.

ministerblessed: Pls tel him,imagine if it was ur sis he dated and kept it away from u for so long.........its never too late. If u love him as much as u claim u will tel him