slimyem: Nobody is trying to see what's not there....
Just call a spade what it is...stop playing semantics..
Flirting -----to behave in such a way as to demonstrate a playful sexual attraction to someone else..
Banter-----the playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks..
Its a double entendre..one meaning formally appropriate....and the other simply suggestive!
This isn't a judgement thread...
The principles of right and wrong behaviour is subject to individuals!
Nothing said/will be said on this issue is/will be expressly based on facts.

ROFLMAO!!!

slimyem: Nobody is trying to see what's not there....
Just call a spade what it is...stop playing semantics..
Flirting -----to behave in such a way as to demonstrate a playful sexual attraction to someone else..
Banter-----the playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks..
Its a double entendre..one meaning formally appropriate....and the other simply suggestive!
This isn't a judgement thread...
The principles of right and wrong behaviour is subject to individuals!
Nothing said/will be said on this issue is/will be expressly based on facts.

slimyem, don't blow your gasket - i am feeling uneasy already. errrrrrr, are you flirting with me?

BABE!:

I'm back. My darling husband... the one that never flirts....unlike them people

my darling wife - how was work today? can you meet me in the bedroom when you are done?

Flirting, harmless banta, whichever way the self-appointed, hypocritical defenders of human chastity wish to see it is definitely no skin off my nose, neither do I give a flying fvcck!

If una wan take panadol for another person headache, then by all means be my guest and go ahead.

What I would not tolerate are the likes of Kobojunkie with yet-to-resolve gender issues, climbing on her/his/it's moral high horse judging & casting asperations on me, based on pre-conceived notions.

Nonsense!

Kobojunkie:

I am not you. You came up with the suggestion that when done occasionally, there is no harm in it. And I wanted to ascertain what your definition of OCCASIONALLY would be in this case since many of those who do it here, do it about daily, and not once in most cases.

I fail to see how you made the connection between noticing people flirting daily to defining occasional as daily or every several hours. I'm at a total loss as to how you can see the words, 'occasional' and 'few and far between' and think it could possibly mean daily or quarter hourly.

BABE!:
I really don't see the reason why anyone in a serious relationship will feel comfortable enough to "flirt" with people online/offline ...

You see married men and women, and even the engaged ones scattered all over having e-girlfriends, e- $e-x buddies, e-husbands, e-all the ridiculousness you can think of. I find it rather irresponsible and disturbing ...

Your wife is lying next to you in bed and you're busy flirting and e-f^cking/kissing/paying bride prices of e-girls... doesn't make sense....

thank you!
##HUGS##

jidegirl12:

There we go.... That's what I'm talking about .... loosen up Babe... Oops

Loosen up? Sir Coogar is mine.

coogar:
my darling wife - how was work today? can you meet me in the bedroom when you are done?

Work was aight. Ready!

Efemena_xy: Flirting, harmless banta, whichever way the self-appointed, hypocritical defenders of human chastity wish to see it is definitely no skin off my nose, neither do I give a flying fvcck!
If una wan take panadol for another person headache, then by all means be my guest and go ahead.
What I would not tolerate are the likes of Kobojunkie with yet-to-resolve gender issues, climbing on her/his/it's moral high horse judging & casting asperations on me, based on pre-conceived notions.
Nonsense!

greatgod2012:

thank you!
##HUGS##

My sista .... if anybody ask me ....I know you will not support flirting any day .... so I understand that part .... so I will not count you with the nays . It is well.

Where there is flirting, the name of one of my e husbands sagamite must appear.

Efe confess joo, so you and sagamite have been chatting off Nld?

And sisikill and Richy, una go hear am today.

Ifyalways and born2fck - you all join

Busybody and her uncountable e husbands- what a "flirt" she is.

Dayokanu and ifyalways-seriously ify's name again?

Jennykadry and ex coogar(BB stole him from me though), agaba, sagamite, debosky, found a new husband @9lifes et. al.

Tgirl and sagamite

We are getting stoned tonight what arrant nonsensicus did we all get ourselves involved in?

Babè...... ooh lalaa! I am jealous!

jennykadry: Where there is flirting, the name of one of my e husbands sagamite must appear.

Efe confess joo, so you and sagamite have been chatting off Nld?

And sisikill and Richy, una go hear am today.

Ifyalways and born2fck - you all join

Busybody and her uncountable e husbands- what a "flirt" she is.

Dayokanu and ifyalways-seriously ify's name again?

Jennykadry and ex coogar(BB stole him from me though), agaba, sagamite, debosky, found a new husband @9lifes et. al.

Tgirl and sagamite

We are getting stoned tonight what arrant nonsensicus did we all get ourselves involved in?

You know y'all are all randy women. Imagine all 50 of you flirtatious females on top only Poor Sagamite's case.

ileobatojo:

You know y'all are all randy women. Imagine all 50 of you flirtatious females on top only Poor Sagamite's case.

Saga can handle it, he is a man. Our baba eleku, champion horse, he score goal -whoa- she carry belle. Our educated cretin/fktrd specialist.

Now wait a minute Ileobatojo, why do I think you've got your eyes on saga, Ehn Ehn? I have got my eyes on you and chaircover

Jenny! Where have you been?

I was just about to hit the sack na all these bloody fvvcktards wan rattle my cage...so decided to give as good as I get jor.

Bunch of self appointed illitrate hypocrites & products of a failed educational system! (Jeez! See as saga don teach me how to swear..lol!) Anyway sha, I'm done for tonight

@ BABE...that your e-slap, I jump am pass

Efemena_xy:

Don't get it twisted, okay?

You cannot compare harmless JOKES on a forum like nairaland to DIRTY S/E/X talks on a Dating Website! Those are two completely different entities!

Next thing I'll read on here is that it's wrong to share a "joke" with the opposite sex on nland, because it'll lead to pasting nu.de pictures of oneself, abi?

You all need to purge your dirty minds.

How did I miss this post?

Do you. My Husband, Coogar, doesn't "flirt" online or offline, so I'm straight. I'm pretty sure your significant other doesn't care much about your online habits, so you're also straight ma'am.

I just don't like the "idea" . . .

Heeereeeeeee
where is madam CC on this thread?

jennykadry:

Saga can handle it, he is a man. Our baba eleku, champion horse, he score goal -whoa- she carry belle. Our educated cretin/fktrd specialist.

Now wait a minute Ileobatojo, why do I think you've got your eyes on saga, Ehn Ehn? I have got my eyes on you and chaircover

Ah! Me ke!! I no fit handle Mr fuku faka fuku faka o!

greatgod2012: Heeereeeeeee
where is madam CC on this thread?

Madam cc is still with Mister cc under their 5000 thread count sheets..... how can you get off that easily too much enjoyment

Efemena_xy: Jenny! Where have you been?

I was just about to hit the sack na all these bloody fvvcktards wan rattle my cage...so decided to give as good as I get jor.

Bunch of self appointed illitrate hypocrites & products of a failed educational system! (Jeez! See as saga don teach me how to swear..lol!) Anyway sha, I'm done for tonight

@ BABE...that your e-slap, I jump am pass

Where have I been? At work and on my break. Una get time.

ileobatojo:

Ah! Me ke!! I no fit handle Mr fuku faka fuku faka o!

I knew ittttttt. I knew you had your eyes on my saga, that is saga's line and he only lets us his wives use it, so for you to have used it here, there is something you are not telling us.

Thank goodness I am not married to the typical naija man, my Ghana must go would have landed in my fathers house a long time ago. The other day I was admiring CHANNING TATUM and he was like "woman make up your mind, today it is Channing tomorrow it is CHRISTIAN BALE, next tomorrow it is JOHNNY DEPP, now Van Vicker has become an ex. Anyways let me go home today and tell him I now have my eyes on HARRY STYLES from one direction that will be the last straw that will break the camels back - I foresee myself being called a paedo

Efe, I hope you have a spare room for me and my Ghana must go

jennykadry:

I knew ittttttt. I knew you had your eyes on my saga, that is saga's line and he only lets us his wives use it, so for you to have used it here, there is something you are not telling us.

Chei! I've been busted!!

Thank goodness I am not married to the typical naija man, my Ghana must go would have landed in my fathers house a long time ago. The other day I was admiring CHANNING TATUM and he was like "woman make up your mind, today it is Channing tomorrow it is CHRISTIAN BALE, next tomorrow it is JOHNNY DEPP, now Van Vicker has become an ex. Anyways let me go home today and tell him I now have my eyes on HARRY STYLES from one direction that will be the last straw that will break the camels back - I foresee myself being called a paedo

Lmao. WoMan must appreciate beauty na!

Efemena_xy:

You cannot compare harmless JOKES on a forum like nairaland to DIRTY S/E/X talks on a Dating Website! Those are two completely different entities!

Next thing I'll read on here is that it's wrong to share a "joke" with the opposite sex on nland, because it'll lead to pasting nu.de pictures of oneself, abi?

This.

I looked back at the original post and wanted to clarify my position but I see Efe has already posted something similar. I completely disagree with what the guy in the OP was doing. In relation to married people, when I said flirting earlier and talked about not feeling strongly about it, I meant very light, short-lived, flirtatious banter that may come up in the course of an online discussion, often in the form of jokes. As a married person, going out of your way to find some one to flirt with is disturbing, deliberately looking for the opposite sex online to chat with (like the man in the OP) is puke inducing. Heavy flirting, exchanging of pictures, e-se.x and the like is totally out of line. Regular flirting is pervy.

So for example, this would be some light, flirtatious banter:
Woman: I enjoy doing a lot of heavy duty work.
Man: Oooh, I love a strong independent woman.
Woman: Lol. And I love a man who appreciates a tough woman.
Man: Ha ha.
Woman: He he.
End of discussion, flirting over. Y'all get the gist.

Its wrong for a married man or woman to engage in online flirtings. I see it an infidelity and disrespect on the feelings of the partner.

Only bachelors or spinsters that are not in a serious relationship can engage in such pleasures, people like mua

greatgod2012: In my opinion, online cheating can actually become physical cheating, because, it may lead to unconsciuos closeness between them, and d two parties may become crazy over each other, which may lead to having to arrange on how to meet physically, and once they meet physically, nothing but real cheating will be involved, so if anybody claims to love his/her partner, he should be able to stay thru thick and thin and stop hypocrisy. I see online chatting as hypocrisy, because he will have to deny his marital status to d person online. To me, it is not a good thing and should not be encouraged. It can lead to emotional disturbance to d spouse.
Thank God for d woman who is comported enough to confront her hubby, but how do we know d hubby was actually saying d truth?


**If u want to be faithful, be faithful, dont add hypocrisy to ur faithfulness.**

You said the truth. The worst ever emotional relationship that can destroy home is online flirting. It could lead a person to get addicted to pornography having the pictures in contact and fantasizing with it and getting emotional. Only deliverance ca get rid of this. If not properly handled could lead to separation.

I hope sagamite is reading this ooo. Oya dump all the other wives

^^ Keep dreaming

CrazyMan: I came across (an) story where a pregnant woman accused her husband of cheating on her.

Her words..." [b] I needed to use the computer and when I got it out of sleep mode there it was... A chat session my husband was having with some 20something year old girl.

They were flirting a lot and he called her honey. I was going to leave him... but then i decided not to run away.. I decided to confront him.

When he got home from work I straight up asked him if he was cheating on me. He said no that he had been talking to her for a few weeks and it was nothing physical.

He said that he had been feeling lonely (since i was on bedrest) and she filled that void. I think that statement hurt me the most.

I think it would of hurt less if he said it was just physical pleasure over the net rather than saying it was filling an emotional void. Anyways... He quit chatting online and I thought everything was good.

Then i found pics on his computer. Not sexy pics but pictures of girls he met online. They were older pics from when we were dating... but then I started to think ...How long has he been doing this?

He doesn't think its cheating... To me it is. I confronted him about the pics and he deleted them and said they were old from before we got married.... He didn't say before we were dating...but before we got married.

He told me I had nothing to worry about that he wasn't chatting with girls online and that after i confronted him last time that he "recommited himself to me" That statement alone upsets me.

Do i have a right to be concerned?? Before this I never would have even worried... now its been about 7 months and i am always wondering.. Am i crazy to be worried? " [/b]

I read the story, and some questions came into my mind...

Is flirting on the net cheating the same thing as cheating...?

Why do most women over react when they notice that their husband has an online lover?

Is it right for a married man to have an online lover, with no physical contact...(eg a married Nigerian man, flirting online with a lady in Germany)

i couldn't continue reading this post when i saw "I came across an story. . .".

online flirting ends up giving me a headache, always.

Efemena_xy: ^^ Keep dreaming

See this one. This is how people make mistakes. The writing is on the wall and you refused to read it. This is how women turn 50 and husbandless cos they were trying to hold on to someone that wasn't meant for them. Did you not see my name as the No.1? Even CC had to recognize levels

chaircover: Hmmmmmmmm this rudy guy doesn't know anything oooooo! you want to unseat a whole sagalicious sagalulu from his seat as oko omoge nairaland babes. Please which school did you go to? i hope it wasnt in Nigeria o!

Can I just ask a question though before you people start scratching your eyes out with your acrylic nails and tearing your Brazilian weaves out . . . .the sagalicious sagalulus harem seems to be increasing by the day and as you iya oko's I dont seem to know you all. I will list my iyawo's as I know them (not in any order o! cos I dont want any fighting) if your name is not on my list, then come and see me behind with your egunje

[size=30pt]1. JK the aussie[/size]
[size=2pt]2. BB AKA Big bumper (Idi oro, Idi arere, idi mangoro, idi ope and so on)
3. Efe the village girl
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[size=40pt]NO one should see me in private. Only JK has got Sagalicious pumpkin[/size]

Don't hate the player, hate the game

Don't shoot the messenger, shoot the message (That one get meaning sef )

jennykadry:

See this one. This is how people make mistakes. The writing is on the wall and you refused to read it. This is how women turn 50 and husbandless cos they were trying to hold on to someone that wasn't meant for them. Did you not see my name as the No.1? Even CC had to recognize levels

My dear, abeg forget that one jor!

As long as your Sagalicious Saga dey provide moi with the 2K for my saloon runs, no wahala. In the meantime, I dey checkout the hottest cake in town...Mr Rudy

CrazyMan: I came across a story where a pregnant woman accused her husband of cheating on her.

Her words..." [b] I needed to use the computer and when I got it out of sleep mode there it was... A chat session my husband was having with some 20something year old girl.

They were flirting a lot and he called her honey. I was going to leave him... but then i decided not to run away.. I decided to confront him.

When he got home from work I straight up asked him if he was cheating on me. He said no that he had been talking to her for a few weeks and it was nothing physical.

He said that he had been feeling lonely (since i was on bedrest) and she filled that void. I think that statement hurt me the most.

I think it would of hurt less if he said it was just physical pleasure over the net rather than saying it was filling an emotional void. Anyways... He quit chatting online and I thought everything was good.

Then i found pics on his computer. Not sexy pics but pictures of girls he met online. They were older pics from when we were dating... but then I started to think ...How long has he been doing this?

He doesn't think its cheating... To me it is. I confronted him about the pics and he deleted them and said they were old from before we got married.... He didn't say before we were dating...but before we got married.

He told me I had nothing to worry about that he wasn't chatting with girls online and that after i confronted him last time that he "recommited himself to me" That statement alone upsets me.

Do i have a right to be concerned?? Before this I never would have even worried... now its been about 7 months and i am always wondering.. Am i crazy to be worried? " [/b]

I read the story, and some questions came into my mind...

Is flirting on the net cheating the same thing as cheating...?

Why do most women over react when they notice that their husband has an online lover?

Is it right for a married man to have an online lover, with no physical contact...(eg a married Nigerian man, flirting online with a lady in Germany)

My dear, most ladies are facing dis ooo. D guy, whn confronted, will tell u it's nt wht u think its just an excitement.

Abi nah

greatgod2012: In my opinion, online cheating can actually become physical cheating, because, it may lead to unconsciuos closeness between them, and d two parties may become crazy over each other, which may lead to having to arrange on how to meet physically, and once they meet physically, nothing but real cheating will be involved, so if anybody claims to love his/her partner, he should be able to stay thru thick and thin and stop hypocrisy. I see online chatting as hypocrisy, because he will have to deny his marital status to d person online. To me, it is not a good thing and should not be encouraged. It can lead to emotional disturbance to d spouse.
Thank God for d woman who is comported enough to confront her hubby, but how do we know d hubby was actually saying d truth?


**If u want to be faithful, be faithful, dont add hypocrisy to ur faithfulness.**

Which in no time, they will

RudySmith: @OP
In my opinion, online flirting and the real thing is the same thing. The only different is that they haven't found the time 2 meet yet.