rolled:
Some people nor just get sense at all
So a man cheats because he lacks something at home?
Holy christ
If a wife is slim,they will cheat on you with a fat chick,if wife is fat,they cheat with a slim chick
Can wifey be fat and slim at the same time

rolled:
Some people nor just get sense at all
So a man cheats because he lacks something at home?
Holy christ
If a wife is slim,they will cheat on you with a fat chick,if wife is fat,they cheat with a slim chick
Can wifey be fat and slim at the same time

Chillisauce:



so are you telling us that mutter no get sense
opoko!

*throws mat on the floor*

lifenocks:
Below is a conversation I saw on my husband's phone with a girl he once asked out, which he claimed that d said lady didn't date him.

He told her he is always picturing her face everyday and she is d wife he never had.

I confronted him and he says that d conversation meant nothing and apologised. And also said if he knew the conversation would make me angry he would ve deleted it from his phone.

But my point hear is dat he is flirting he has cheated on me about twice that i am aware of and it looks as if he won't stop. I need maturity advice. Is the the above statement just a mere conversation or is there more to it. Thanks.

lifenocks:
@mutter i totally disagree with u because there is absolutely nothing he lacks at home. I just can't understand y a man wld want to loose d peace over such issues as this

lifenocks:
@coogar he even admitted to me dat he had not been faithful in d past but promised he wld never cheat on me again. D real number he didn't tell me, but d ones I know is two.

lifenocks:
he even admitted to me dat he had not been faithful in d past but promised he wld never cheat on me again. D real number he didn't tell me, but d ones I know is two.

coogar:


how do you know he lacks nothing at home? men, for what they are, rarely complain. they bottle their feelings so as not to hurt your fragile ego.

mutter:
IF your husband is fliring it means he is looking for something he is not getting home. You can`t change your husband but you can change you. Go into yourself and check what you are doing wrong or omitting to do.
Start working on your marriage.
Getting a husband is not hard but the biggest challange is keeping a happy home. Yo need to keep the live alive and kindle the fire every day.
STOP snooping around. His Tel. is not your biz.

coogar:


how do you know he lacks nothing at home? men, for what they are, rarely complain. they bottle their feelings so as not to hurt your fragile ego.

Wendy80:

Communication is key. Bottling feelings isn't d best cos it will only make them drift apart slowly.
I'm not saying that's why he's flirting o.

chaircover:


Fishbrain
So its when she finds out that he is cheating, becasue he didnt let wifey know the things that were bugging him; giving them an oppourtunity to work on the issues together, that her "fragile ego" wont be hurt abi?

mutter:


Yes a woman typed this! To advice another woman.

Firstly marriage is based on trust! Do you think you can control a partner? He can have twenty phones if he wished to. He could change his number ever so often. You have absolutely no chance. Most times you only find out what the man wants you to find out or what he doesn`t give a damn if you find out.

A marriage is based on trust and respect. You have to respect your husband and trust him enough not to snoop after him. How can you respect someone or have regard for him if you have to invade his privacy and snoop after him.
And secondly where is your pride and dignity that you feel so insecure to have to do this.

I am one of those women that say my husband is the boss because I say he is. My husband has all rights over me because I gave him those rights as a sign of my love and respect for him as my husband. I handed him over his authority over me freely whenever had to fight for it so he knows the source of his authority. He knows he got it from me, I am his king maker in our Kingdom so why should he abuse the authority when he knows the source? I don`t want to brag but there is nothing he would not do for me as long as it is a reasonable request. That is because he feels good when I ask and he feels even better when I appreciate.

onegig:
You are entitled to your opinions but truth is even if you do ebrything. Lie down flat, perform the best action in bed, be submissive and all that. Some men would still go ahead and cheat. It is not in ideal to accuse the victim of not doing enough because reality points to the contrary.
Also, trust is being evaluated daily. There is nothing like blind trust. benefit of doubt you may say. But complete wholesome trust is BS. If he does something suspicious its only natural for you to ask for clarifications.

onegig:
Y[size=16pt]ou are entitled to your opinions but truth is even if you do everything possible. Lie down flat, perform the best action in bed, be submissive and all that. Some men would still go ahead and cheat[/size]. It is not ideal to accuse the victim of not doing enough because reality points to the contrary. The man who couldn't put his fly under control should take responsibility for his actions and take the blame.
Also, trust is being evaluated daily and every second. There is nothing like blind trust. benefit of doubt you may say. But complete wholesome trust is BS. If he does something suspicious its only natural for you to ask for clarifications.

coogar:


he's past caring about working on the issues.
he must have given up that nothing can be done to fix issues & he's chosen his path(if he perishes then he perishes).

ask yourself why a man continues to cheat even after getting caught twice.....the ship of working to fix issues has already sailed. the OP is just assuming the hubby lacks nothing - if he lacks nothing, he won't be out there cheating.

SAMBARRY:
Smh. Hiaannnm

mutter:


I did say that there are exceptions to the rule but you know what-
Most women know already that they are dating a womaniser and go ahead and marry him hoping to change him. When you get married to a man and you know he throws his net in many ponds, do you think he will stop going to the other ponds because he has drawn out the net in your pond? You got what you purshased. Again to this there are exceptions.

No not blind trust, you need to evaluate and the rest but you don`t need to go snooping around, that is humilating yourself and breeching his privacy.

I have enough dignity to know my value .

onegig:
I am all for doing your due diligence before marriage but I like issues to be taken case by case. I can't recall the woman here saying her husband is a womaniser or something. Even if he is before marriage there's what they call vows. He made the vows.
I have never seen a woman put a gun to a man's head and led him to the altar. He knew what he was signing up for. It's either he learns to be responsible or continue being a bachelor and doing whatever he likes. That's me being secular. We haven't even looked at the religious implication, what about STDs and other things connected to such a lifestyle? If he is not satisfied with what she's doing, talk to her about it and if she doesn't change after repeated talks and interventions. Learn to live with it or Divorce is always an option. Though a difficult one but a responsible one than sleeping around.
As for snooping around. What you consider privacy maybe something open for someone else. I don't even share the idea of keeping secrets. There's nothing like privacy between couples. 2 becomes 1 and this is in all acts.

mutter:


I did say that there are exceptions to the rule but you know what-
Most women know already that they are dating a womaniser and go ahead and marry him hoping to change him. When you get married to a man and you know he throws his net in many ponds, do you think he will stop going to the other ponds because he has drawn out the net in your pond? You got what you purshased. Again to this there are exceptions.

No not blind trust, you need to evaluate and the rest but you don`t need to go snooping around, that is humilating yourself and breeching his privacy.

I have enough dignity to know my value .

iyaakanran:
What privacy are you talking about in Marriage?snooping is allowed o