baby_123:

rotflmaooooooo! wow, this Dayo is so stingy. WTF. So dump someone after every 4yrs. Does everyone have to be live in lovers? They can maintain different houses and if he eventually remarries they can have a prenup. Besides the 7,000 dollars is even chicken change. I can bet that a woman of his age and on his level has more. The fact that people are advising him to go to naija with 7,000 is hilarious. If his girlfriend ask for Gucci bag and shoe nko? na war o!

Its not dumping its living separately. They can hold separate lease even if its 2 houses away.

Its called once bitten twice shy.

At that age when their children from the separate marriages are out of the house they need each others company. At that age people get lonely as they cant go out like youths, keep large circle of friends etc

I would never tell such man to go to Nigeria and marry . He should stay in America, he would find a divorce or widow of his age with a good job. They should be live in lovers simple. Both helping the others loneliness

dayokanu:

Its not dumping its living separately. They can hold separate lease even if its 2 houses away.

Its called once bitten twice shy.

At that age when their children from the separate marriages are out of the house they need each others company. At that age people get lonely as they cant go out like youths, keep large circle of friends etc

I would never tell such man to go to Nigeria and marry . He should stay in America, he would find a divorce or widow of his age with a good job. They should be live in lovers simple. Both helping the others loneliness

He can remarry and sign a prenup. We both agree on the type of woman to marry and her location.

The prenup option dey too, But people have ways of bypassing Prenups nowadays

dayokanu: The prenup option dey too, But people have ways of bypassing Prenups nowadays

You are just not taking any chances. lmao. They can only live separately for so long. Older couples also tend to marry faster so they can live together. I think he needs some time to figure out his next move and resettle himself before a woman or future family comes into the picture. Besides remarryng is an already expensive venture. He will spend all his savings on the wedding, and then another wahala will start when there is no money. He also has 2kids to take care of still.

^^ You see why the Boyfriend-girlfriend divorcee option is the best See below reasons

No elaborate marriage, They keep each others company and not bound with the "marriage" tag.

He doesnt need much time cos if it doesnt work out they can both leave without any divorce hassle.

They are not raising babies so no issue of "I want my kids in a family environment"

They are both experienced so no one is "using the head" of the other.

Imagine if it doesnt work out again they go and divorce again? too much hassle cohabitation is the best for him IMO

Dayo you're even being rather lenient. IIRC, common law marriage is 12 mths in the state of Texas.