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What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 11:52pm On Jan 09, 2013 |
Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is breaking up with you. 1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless. Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war. 2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave you. 3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is still there and your words are not going to mend it. 4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not the other way around!) 5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the more she will ignore you. 6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you. (Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up with me during exam period..." It won't work. It will only make her DREAD being with you even more. 7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you. Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION! Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you, they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation has to come from WITHIN. 9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You can't buy her heart back with money. 10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more you push, the more she will PULL AWAY. These are the most common mistakes guys make during a breakup. Trust me, you don't want to do ANY of these things. If you do, I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed. You probably won't even get a chance to kiss your girlfriend goodbye, let alone get her back. WHAT TO DO 1.Be polite 2.BE indifferent 3.Show to her that you can live without her and your having fun and you have a life and surviving without her. 4.Ignore her 5.Your time now is for other people and things not for her 6.Dont be rude or do somthing signifies that your in pain like anger or hate. 7.Flirt with other girl BUT THIS IS OPTIONAL...if your gonna do this make it sure that it will not seem that your just making her jelous..remeber the point here is to make her realise that you can still continue to live withouot her and have fun and you dont give a fck if she dumps you.. 8.Dont try to be friends 9.Don’t be taken for granted 10.Don’t try to seduce them 11.Just cut them off and get on with your life 12.make their decisions final 13.Be patient and wait for her next move but for the meanwhile keep doing all the above statements. When she contact 1.be polite 2.be indifferent 3.show to her that your time is not for her 4.cut her calls short 5.Be patient and wait for her next move. 6. Say to her or show to her through your actions that "NO HARD FEELINGS" when she cry or says she misses you or do somthing that sugest she cant afford to loose you or trying to be friends 1.Continue to back off 2.be a challenge 3.Accept her only of your truely conviinced that she will do anything just to give her another chance. 4.be polite still 5.Be patient and wait for her next move whe you take her back 1.donr EVER BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED 2.PUT THE BLAME ON HER 3.Do so on your own terms 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Nobody: 12:00am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Do the above rules apply if you DO want her back or DON'T? Loving the end paragraph as a cheeky twist but practically, he is backing off too much if he wants her back.. 2 Likes |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by star4(f): 12:07am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Dude!! LOL! Im almost ashamed to admit that this crap would work on me!! Although it's all pretty sure signs the relationship is over. If a girl is breaking up with a guy like this though, she has probably put up with a lot of his bullshit already 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 12:11am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Flytefalls: Do the above rules apply if you DO want her back or DON'T? its just psychology, we want what we can't have. When she realises she is loosing grip, nd he is going out of her radar, she tries to want him back.... From experience, the more you plead with her, the more ego u loose.... its almost the same thing as what happens when a guy asks a lady out, but she keeps playing hard to get, when the guy starts pulling away, she reaches out to him... its same technique used here "reversed psychology"... She wont want you if she doesnt miss you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Nobody: 12:16am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Mannylex:Hmmm. Then perhaps I'm just too easy. Or I make my decisions too quickly. I don't do well with playing hard to get, and if the guy backed off this much, I'd cry myself into singledom (even if I was in the wrong, I dont do well with begging either). What a stand off that'd be 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 12:24am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Flytefalls: Its not begging. Its just meeting him half way. He likes you, you like him too, but somehow, u dont want to rush.... he kinda pulls away not because he is giving up on you, but because he wants to keep his ego. Unconciously u end up sending him an innocent text. ... But definitely the guy would know what that means, that he is making progess... dunno bout u... but most ladies do. |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 12:28am On Jan 10, 2013 |
star*: I dont think the guy must have seriously done anything if she breaks with him.... Most times, you girls dont know what you want, or prolly feel the grass is greener on the other side. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Nobody: 12:33am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Mannylex:Ok. But this would depend on me wanting him back lol. I pity the man should his behavior leave him alone and destitute. My advice to your own advice would be not to be too rigid when applying such rules to an actual relationship. You know. Where her kiss can make him crumble back into her arms :p. |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by goodmike7: 12:36am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Too long |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by star4(f): 12:45am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Mannylex: Hmmmmmmmmm 1 Like |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by cindyrella(f): 12:49am On Jan 10, 2013 |
goodmike7: Too longMy thoughts exactly! |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Voned(f): 12:59am On Jan 10, 2013 |
goodmike7: Too long Must u comment? |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Nobody: 4:25am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Long talk,just buy her blackberry porsche! U don win am inatanta!!Lol!!! 1 Like |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Nobody: 5:17am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Nice |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 5:58am On Jan 10, 2013 |
kimberluge: Long talk,just buy her blackberry porsche! U don win am inatanta!!Lol!!! Lolz. .. But money doesnt work. |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by YuzedoII: 6:21am On Jan 10, 2013 |
kimberluge: Long talk,just buy her blackberry porsche! U don win am inatanta!!Lol!!! First article in Romance Section that isn't craptastic! Agree completely with this write-up.. Tested and trusted. Take it from a rich playa! |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by moonraker(m): 8:03am On Jan 10, 2013 |
Story!!! These dayz, especially with Nigerian women, the only reason why they would bail on you would be becos erm they found someone better!!! Hard to find a nigerian women who would stick to you thick and thin. And for the guys, if your game isnt tight, sorry, you will lose her. No two ways!!! |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Adaeze003(f): 8:40am On Jan 10, 2013 |
It all depends on the girl since she called it quits. She'll come back regardless of all these rules if she wants to and she'll stay away if her decision is final so why give yourself this much trouble? Lol! I agree with your 'what not to do' but your 'what to do' is just too much work. Just be yourself and hope for the best. Her breaking up with you might even be good for you. 6 Likes |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Voned(f): 11:33pm On Jan 10, 2013 |
Adaeze003: It all depends on the girl since she called it quits. She'll come back regardless of all these rules if she wants to and she'll stay away if her decision is final so why give yourself this much trouble? Lol! I agree with your 'what not to do' but your 'what to do' is just too much work. Just be yourself and hope for the best. Her breaking up with you might even be good for you. Well to a certain point you are right. |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by chikeorji123(m): 12:05am On Jan 11, 2013 |
Adaeze003: It all depends on the girl since she called it quits. She'll come back regardless of all these rules if she wants to and she'll stay away if her decision is final so why give yourself this much trouble? Lol! I agree with your 'what not to do' but your 'what to do' is just too much work. Just be yourself and hope for the best. Her breaking up with you might even be good for you. Exactly 100likes |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by eghost247(m): 12:00pm On Jan 11, 2013 |
Ok |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Nobody: 1:26pm On Jan 11, 2013 |
So sorry this psychology is for girls who are confused. If you are dealing with and adult woman please try something else. 3 Likes |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by kandiikane(m): 8:15pm On Jan 11, 2013 |
What nonsense?! Are we talking about a 15year old girl here? |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 8:24pm On Jan 23, 2013 |
well this worked. |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by lalarocks: 8:53am On Mar 10, 2015 |
Hy I liked your post. I loved a girl truly she is junior from me and after 6 months of friendship she accepted my proposal on 14 th Feb 2015. her family is very conservative so she talks on phone only at 12 at night. or if she gets time. But my family is very open about it. our relationship. was going smooth bit yesterday she told me that one of her sister who is as a guest in her home got to know about her relationship and she is forcing her to breakup otherwise she will tell to her family. I asked her to tell a lie to her sister bit she is not ready for that. I think she wants to breakup with me.But I love her truly and i know if I lose my ego she will go far from me and now what should I do?? Help me |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Mannylex(m): 9:16am On Mar 16, 2015 |
lalarocks: Give her space establish "NO CONTACT" for sometime, if she really loves you, she will miss you and try to reach out to yoi. Trust me desperation on your path would push her far away. The space you establish would give her time to think. Don't get tempted to beg her... If after 2 weeks she doesn't contact you, you can reach out to her, but do not BEG her... Keep me informed 5 Likes |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by Houseofglam7(f): 9:43am On Mar 16, 2015 |
And this post was dug up from the 16th century because? |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by lalarocks: 5:48pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
we broke up on 13 th march and the cause were that.. First was that her family got to know about the relationship.(her family is very conservative.) but I THINK it was. a lie. coz she talked to me on phone at 12 am for two hours.Second cause was that she told me that I was flirting with her freinds . But before six months when I fell in love with her I stopped seeing anyone else, just see her I didn't even thought of any dirty things about anyone (including sunny loene.) But she didn't understand that she accused me that I was flirting with other girls. I don't know she loved me truly or played with me. She did so much wrong to me but still I want her back . She put a condition that I will never contact her before breaking up. But when I ended the call I did it angrily. As u know the more you pull away the more she will come to you. Now I want her back. can we talk through whatsapp? |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by cokacoola(m): 6:01pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Mannylex:Or these rules becurse your want go swalow you voiments Plasea am dot has exes ones we brake up, i dot kwen your |
Re: What To Do If She Breaks Up With You...(winning Her Back) by ojaydedon(m): 6:16pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
chai why do all this If shes the right girl for u, u wunt have to go through all this.. And if u are in a real relationship that will lead to marriage, i dont think you will do all these too.. If she is meant for u, u wunt go through all these just to keep her from breaking up from u |
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