debrief08: Contrary to most posters here I believe she is a good woman who knows what she wants unlike most low self esteem women who will do anything to keep a man.
She knows what she wants and won't take any rubbish.
Poster am sure you know she is a good catch that's why you hold on. I will advice you to fully commit.
Social media flirting ruins so many relationships and destroys trust, if you are in a relationship then be in one and stop looking for cheap fun.
She will not accept the "all men cheat" logo, you either accept that and stop or you continue your flirting and leave.

You know the truth.

Flytefalls: Stop begging. Be normal and apologise within reason. Value your integrity man, you are soon to be her husband! ... (whythephuckidontknowkmt)

Reenicebay:

So calling a lady "dear" is now tantamount to cheating?!!! When did pinging the oposite sex become a crime? You're so dumb!!! A guy can't have friends again, because he's getting married? Please don't stifle the guy jare! If you don't trust him, then ensure that he gets a job where only men work and he would not see any lady on his way to work, at work and on his way back home. *mumu*

blink182: You had better start being the man and even get annoyed before she does. If she is angry because you pinged a female then you should be more angry at her picking offence over something that little. You had better change now before you get married and start having children who think their dad is a wimp and see their mother as the male figure and the one to run to for anything.

seedord247: Boook of seedord chapter 8 vs 9.

Never in your life begg your woman.. The more you begged your woman the more she feels that she has control over you. Womem need a strong man, not just physicaly strong, emotional, spiritually and kolomental strong. Even thou she caught u cheatin on her, always proove her wrong that its not what she thinks.

90% of men who abuse women mentally, physically, emotionally still ended up being love by the same women they abuse.

mecussey: Dont beg a woman

Reenicebay:

So calling a lady "dear" is now tantamount to cheating?!!! When did pinging the oposite sex become a crime? You're so dumb!!! A guy can't have friends again, because he's getting married? Please don't stifle the guy jare! If you don't trust him, then ensure that he gets a job where only men work and he would not see any lady on his way to work, at work and on his way back home. *mumu*

Sagamite:

She would take rubbish if she meets a guy she likes immensely and who would put her in her place.

She would not only take rubbish, she would eat it morning, noon and evening. She would eat from the palm of his hands and she prefers it.

Women are very subjective, they treat each guy differently dependent on how they like him, how they have studied him and what they think they can get away with.

If they see a wuss, as one female friend once told me: "I know myself, I would walk all over him like a door mat".

That is what she does to wussies, then she dates and falls in love with guys that cheat on her and hardly ever call her or pay too much attention to her. That was when she was hot and in her prime.

Same girl, different approach to different men.

2sexy:

Baba saggy the sagalicious sagamite from sagamu....e ha! Tell them. i WOULD kick that ediot out of my life in minutes. Not until you know your worth as man, you will keep slaving yourself to some good for nothing wretch.

Who the FVCK is she? Any better than the thousands of ladies out there or is she more human than they? Op, let her know that she has rivals, not until make her know that you have got a choice to select from the array of women even beautiful than her. Create a competition outmosphere for her and let her sense(most ladies dont like this).

Too much of everything is bad. I never see wetin go make me beg woman like this oooo. I swear... when them plenty for this world pass my brothers?

sexybash:
then after marriage where she has no competitors anymore her attitide go come up again and then sammy will be fustrated? its either he has signed up to be with her or just end the damn relationship and move on @op sit down one day and calculate how many times you have begged her the you will know that you have spent 80% of your time in the relationship begging her

2sexy:

Baba saggy the sagalicious sagamite from sagamu....e ha! Tell them. i WOULD kick that ediot out of my life in minutes. Not until you know your worth as man, you will keep slaving yourself to some good for nothing wretch.

Who the FVCK is she? Any better than the thousands of ladies out there or is she more human than they? Op, let her know that she has rivals, not until make her know that you have got a choice to select from the array of women even beautiful than her. Create a competition outmosphere for her and let her sense(most ladies dont like this).

Too much of everything is bad. I never see wetin go make me beg woman like this oooo. I swear... when them plenty for this world pass my brothers?

sexybash:
then after marriage where she has no competitors anymore her attitide go come up again and then sammy will be fustrated? its either he has signed up to be with her or just end the damn relationship and move on @op sit down one day and calculate how many times you have begged her the you will know that you have spent 80% of your time in the relationship begging her

Sagamite:

Don't mind the guy, he is being a real man.

I can guarantee you one thing, most likely the girl does not love him, she just loves the way he loves her. She enjoys seeing what power she has over him which she cannot get with another guy and she has reached an obsessive disorder level exercising that power.

I am almost 100% sure that when she meets an total man that shows her interests and tells her what to do, she would split for the guy and cheat on this wuss.

And even if the Wuss finds out, I can guarantee you one of two things that would happen:
Saggy baba on the contrary so many marriage issues you see today started in relationship, if i am dating a guy who currently cheats on me i should be 100% sure that it will continue sometimes in marriage, but mosttimes we tend to turn a blind eye to these issue simply because we wanna get hooked the op is desperate to settledown IMO

- She will shout on him and deny it.

- She will turn it on him and point to one lame thing and say it was his fault more partly his fault.

There would be no apologising or begging on her part. He would sit there and say he is "working it out" and he would change what she complained about, not knowing everything was written on the wall based on the established dynamics of their relationship.

Virtually all women are not capable of rationality, fairness and objectivity except their is some punishment in line if they don't do it. Simples!

That is how they are naturally built. You can't change it, it is not your fault they are like that, don't be the one to suffer for them being like that. Do what it takes to get things to your advantage.

You are not entitled to call yourself a matured man until you are aware that: A woman must always know you are willing and able to tell to fck off at any stage in the relationship if she does no follow your primary rules and edict.



You must be high on weed!

Who told you she can't have competitors because you married her? Marriage is a licence for her safety? I laugh in Egba even though I am Ijebu.

I would tell her to fck off one month after marriage.

Sagamite:

Don't mind the guy, he is being a real man.

I can guarantee you one thing, most likely the girl does not love him, she just loves the way he loves her. She enjoys seeing what power she has over him which she cannot get with another guy and she has reached an obsessive disorder level exercising that power.

I am almost 100% sure that when she meets an total man that shows her interests and tells her what to do, she would split for the guy and cheat on this wuss.

And even if the Wuss finds out, I can guarantee you one of two things that would happen:

- She will shout on him and deny it.

- She will turn it on him and point to one lame thing and say it was his fault more partly his fault.

There would be no apologising or begging on her part. He would sit there and say he is "working it out" and he would change what she complained about, not knowing everything was written on the wall based on the established dynamics of their relationship.

Virtually all women are not capable of rationality, fairness and objectivity except their is some punishment in line if they don't do it. Simples!

That is how they are naturally built. You can't change it, it is not your fault they are like that, don't be the one to suffer for them being like that. Do what it takes to get things to your advantage.

You are not entitled to call yourself a matured man until you are aware that: A woman must always know you are willing and able to tell to fck off at any stage in the relationship if she does no follow your primary rules and edict.



You must be high on weed!

Who told you she can't have competitors because you married her? Marriage is a licence for her safety? I laugh in Egba even though I am Ijebu.

I would tell her to fck off one month after marriage.

sexybash: Saggy baba on the contrary so many marriage issues you see today started in relationship, if i am dating a guy who currently cheats on me i should be 100% sure that it will continue sometimes in marriage, but mosttimes we tend to turn a blind eye to these issue simply because we wanna get hooked the op is desperate to settledown IMO

Sagamite:

She would take rubbish if she meets a guy she likes immensely and who would put her in her place.

She would not only take rubbish, she would eat it morning, noon and evening. She would eat from the palm of his hands and she prefers it.

Women are very subjective, they treat each guy differently dependent on how they like him, how they have studied him and what they think they can get away with.

If they see a wuss, as one female friend once told me: "I know myself, I would walk all over him like a door mat".

That is what she does to wussies, then she dates and falls in love with guys that cheat on her and hardly ever call her or pay too much attention to her. That was when she was hot and in her prime.

Same girl, different approach to different men.

misterme: Bro my candid advice is call off the marriage. I am telling u this from experience. People like ur lady are inherently bitter and very touchy. They are easily offended and have a knack for holding unto grudges for long. They don't forgive easily. And they take pride in this nature of theirs. For such people the cause the offense does not matter- it can be as trivial as forgetting (only once in 3 months) to call and inform her you'll be late from work or buying a N4,000 phone for ur little niece without prior information. Bro if u marry this lady be prepared to double the duration of the begging. Be prepared to spend so much of ur productive time, energy, emotions and focus on placating her so much so that u are most likely to turn out a failure in life or at least ur attainment in life will be far below ur capacity and capability. And u know what? She will be the first to blame u for the failures. U want be miserable all ur life go ahead and marry her. Mehn the emotional torture alone. Please note this, if she could go this far before marriage, be rest assured that u will have times five of this after marriage. After u have spent 5 years trying to make her happy, u will discover u are not succeeding. U will discover that the more you give the more she demands without offering much. U will discover at some point that u are so emotionally drained that u have nothing more to give (especially since you not getting much). What do u do then? Mostly likely u fight back. It may then be too late. U manage the situation for the rest of ur life especially if u are a born again like me or it ends in violence or divorce or both.

2sexy:
My most repped thread in this section is ===> https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

There are different levels of control, there is no control, artificial control and true control. No control is the default situation most guys fall into. They love a woman and believe everything she says in the heat of passion ”I'll never ever leave you”, “I can't wait to marry you” etc etc, and deceive themselves into overconfidence and over love. A no control guy does not know how to tell his babe no and is always apologizing even when it is not his fault. When they start exhibiting too much attention and love, the chick gets bored and starts looking for “rude boys” somewhere. Then her mind starts wavering and she starts telling you “I need space”, “I'm confused”. When you hear these words you're in trouble.

Unfortunately most young guy today no dey hear word and they will start reminiscing about the sweet nothings the babe told them when the going was good and continue to misbehave and show over love and over affection. Meanwhile one bad guy fit dey comb the babe for corner somewhere. In the end the chick leaves and the guy is in a wreck, crying, complaining to his friends begging etc and at that point the girl no go wan hear again, anything you're saying is a waste of time. A chick will bring up some of the dumbest excuses when she wants to dump you. She might regret leaving you later but all that one na Tales By Moonlight what matters is the wrecked condition she will leave you in at that moment.

Sagamite:

I read half way and thought "this is just brilliant".

It really says everything I have already said on NL many times.

I loved this part:



Some guys think women have contrition when they break their word? As I always say "fck her concept of romance". The same girl that said "A" today, might do "B" tomorrow if it is in her best interest. They think about me, me, me, me, me.

Thank God I am a control guy according to his segmentation because:

- I like to control everything.
- I don't chase a babe who does not show interest in me or allow me me to take control. I waka pass .........maybe after a few shaggs sha if that is attainable.
- I don't spend money on women until I know them or I am sure it would go somewhere.
- If she has someone else she is keen on or appears to want someone else, I LEAVE HER THE FCK ALONE!
- I show my affection strategically and only if she has passed a set of criteria. I don't do mumu love. My name is not Mumuni.
- Calling her? Most girls complain about this about me. I am too bad at contacting. Many NL girls will testify to this.
- Trust me, if she is not giving it up to you and she is not a virgin, she is giving it up to someone else. Enjoy your life and fck fairytales.
- Never believe a word of what she says about her chastity, values or ethics. Believe what you see her do. Woman can lie to even the lie itself.
- I am proficient at saying "No". You can moan all you like.
- Let her know she is replaceable. As a man, you have the longer shelf life and the power. Use it!

This is another word of wisdom:

"chicks know how to disrespect a guy who plays with them too much".

I am afraid I suffer that sometimes because I am a naturally and perpetually jovial person. But when it happens, I fcking snap and put them in their place quick quick. They feel like if a Trailer travelling at 80 mph just hit them because "so this jovial friendly guy with a soft face can be so confrontational".

They don't have the benefit of seeing the Sagamite mix on NL (Jovial and Harsh sides of the coin) before it happens. Because I am playing and joking with you does no mean I can't tell you to fck off the next minute with complete aplomb.

Sagamite:

I read half way and thought "this is just brilliant".

It really says everything I have already said on NL many times.

I loved this part:



Some guys think women have contrition when they break their word? As I always say "fck her concept of romance". The same girl that said "A" today, might do "B" tomorrow if it is in her best interest. They think about me, me, me, me, me.

Thank God I am a control guy according to his segmentation because:

- I like to control everything.
- I don't chase a babe who does not show interest in me or allow me me to take control. I waka pass .........maybe after a few shaggs sha if that is attainable.
- I don't spend money on women until I know them or I am sure it would go somewhere.
- If she has someone else she is keen on or appears to want someone else, I LEAVE HER THE FCK ALONE!
- I show my affection strategically and only if she has passed a set of criteria. I don't do mumu love. My name is not Mumuni.
- Calling her? Most girls complain about this about me. I am too bad at contacting. Many NL girls will testify to this.
- Trust me, if she is not giving it up to you and she is not a virgin, she is giving it up to someone else. Enjoy your life and fck fairytales.
- Never believe a word of what she says about her chastity, values or ethics. Believe what you see her do. Woman can lie to even the lie itself.
- I am proficient at saying "No". You can moan all you like.
- Let her know she is replaceable. As a man, you have the longer shelf life and the power. Use it!

This is another word of wisdom:

"chicks know how to disrespect a guy who plays with them too much".

I am afraid I suffer that sometimes because I am a naturally and perpetually jovial person. But when it happens, I fcking snap and put them in their place quick quick. They feel like if a Trailer travelling at 80 mph just hit them because "so this jovial friendly guy with a soft face can be so confrontational".

They don't have the benefit of seeing the Sagamite mix on NL (Jovial and Harsh sides of the coin) before it happens. Because I am playing and joking with you does no mean I can't tell you to fck off the next minute with complete aplomb.

nony30: This is the kind of advice that will come from a fish brain,simply amazing!

c_osemiha: hey, everyone seems to have missed the point. the lady seems to be a very experienced chic in relationships. she knows how and when to switch on the 'beg me' button and this is dangerous for a relationship. you need to take charge of your situation....try to enrage her without begging..if she leaves and don't come back....then she isnt yours...if she does, then she is yours...
cheers