Good or bad? I'll take a third option: Childish.

Orikinla: BAD. VERY BAD. We have discussed it on the romance board several times. Silent treatment is unhealthy. You are only hurting yourself. For me, I simply let it out and life goes on. Silent treatment is bitterness and bitterness will only prolong your sadness.Those who don't know how to forgive don't know how to love. No matter how long they pretend, the sadness of their bitterness is like a lingering heart ache.

I agree with you my brother, WELL SAID.

Leopantro:

girl, stop that. two Weeks? you are very lucky he's still there for you. I could be crazy about you but if you can't talk about your issues like an adult and prefer to keep malice for two Weeks then bone, i'm better off without you. there are other fishes in the sea. what makes you think there aren't girls waiting for the opportunity to grab your guy from you?

Abi oo. Ibeg, tell her make she hear oo....2 weeks keh! why on earth would you do that Please, please and please, stop it! it's a very bad attitude. What exactly do you try to gain from it

avolink:

Xaktly d same wt me and i cant help it.

It kld be frustrating bro. A lot of ppl don't actually understand this dimension 2 it.U'r d man,and u'r d one being 'bullied' sort of.Why? Cos u want 2 be d ideal hubby;u don't wanna abuse her verbally,physically or emotionally then she takes u 4 granted. U give her d silent treatment and still come back 2 make peace. Sometimes u begin 2 wonder u'r not making a mistake by acting d 'sheep', plus when u change now,na ur own dem go dey see.

NnekaGirl: Silent treatment is emotional abuse and it can lead to a break up in any relationship if the receiving party snaps!the longest I have treated my bf with silent treatment is two weeks!
I just don't know when to stop ...

2 weeks and he did not leave you?

What is silent treatment again? Malice is Malice. Why must you keep malice in the first place? Even the devil knows that communication is imperative for a healthy relationship.




...and we are wondering why marriages don't last!!!

Leopantro:

girl, stop that. two Weeks? you are very lucky he's still there for you. I could be crazy about you but if you can't talk about your issues like an adult and prefer to keep malice for two Weeks then bone, i'm better off without you. there are other fishes in the sea. what makes you think there aren't girls waiting for the opportunity to grab your guy from you?

Yes two weeks and I started hurting myself in the process but I just don't know when to stop, he told me exactly what you‘ve just said and I am teaching myself to start talking about things even if he does not want to talk about things sometimes(that the reason why I go on this long lol I am not crazy )

NnekaGirl:

Yes two weeks and I started hurting myself in the process but I just don't know when to stop, he told me exactly what you‘ve just said and I am teaching myself to start talking about things even if he does not want to talk about things sometimes(that the reason why I go on this long lol I am not crazy )

I think the first step is that you should try and figure out what drives you to engage in the attitude i.e. what is your aim or reason for doing it in the first instance From there, you can figure out how to stop

Hotie Tima: well it's can be Good when your trying to
have things ur way!! but sometimes i really do piss the crap out of my bebe when i give him the silent treatment
i just don't like to talk too much when i am mad of else the convo will turn nasty.

but i have seem some people taking this method to another level
which even cost them break-ups at the end of the day.

if dats u in d profile pic, then u are very fugly. go and jump into d lagoon real quick bitch

A-ZeD:

2 weeks and he did not leave you?

he did not, he just started living his life like I do not exist ,that's when I started hurting badly! !!but I could not go to him ...until he came and told me one day I am gona regret and I know I will if I don't stop .

Hotie Tima: well it's can be Good when your trying to
have things ur way!! but sometimes i really do piss the crap out of my bebe when i give him the silent treatment
i just don't like to talk too much when i am mad of else the convo will turn nasty.

but i have seem some people taking this method to another level
which even cost them break-ups at the end of the day.

if dats u in d profile pic, then u are very ugly. go and jump into d lagoon real quick bitch

To say the truth, I hate being ignored. If you give me the silent treatment, I won't even bother with you again.

alutacontinua:

I think the first step is that you should try and figure out what drives you to engage in the attitude i.e. what is your aim or reason for doing it in the first instance From there, you can figure out how to stop

Yes and I am praying on myself too,I don't want to lose him one day

Nneka abeg stop soon o, or get a friend willing to help, before you end up learning the hard way.

Bad! It's cruel and becomes mental torture for the other person. It's a very selfish, childish, and controlling way to be. Not nice at all. no human alive wants to be ignored.

vanstanzy: Two people can't be raising their voices at the same time, that's where the silent treatment is good, to ensure peace.

I dont agree with that. That's why its important to learn how to argue well. It really pisses me off when I have an argument with my boyfriend and he's quiet the whole time and he doesn't say anything, under the excuse of wanting me to calm down. I'm a very expressive person so if there's a problem I'd prefer for us to talk it out as adults instead of him just staring at me, and not saying anything in response to my concerns, only for him to bring up the issue a day later when he thinks I've calmed down.

Leopantro: can someone tell me how to overcome this? my girlfriend that I want to marry uses this a lot.you need the patience of the gods not to shout at her.when she gets angry she uses this then I would have to beg and plead and pet her before she responds.
the other day she did it again and I just had it.I didn't say a word to her. she left and I didn't follow her. five minutes later she came back pleading and said she was only playing. sometimes I wish she would be serious and solve things like a guy

Well if you're going to marry her you just need to ask yourself if you're willing to deal with that kind of behavior. If you notice a flaw in your partner before marriage just be very aware of it because what you see is what you get and certain behaviors won't change after marriage like we hope they would.

شهيد عبدالكريم :


Awwww..ok...

Btw.... The 49ers are going down today again.

In Jesus' name!!!

very very very bad. Dont even start it.

I know and she knows it too and we are both working on it. I usually step back and ask myself, in 5 years time is this what I will be receiving in marriage? if i'm not happy with it we discuss about it. nobody is perfect and waiting for the perfect woman will give you gray hair. thank God she is changing gradually.

Leopantro: I know and she knows it too and we are both working on it. I usually step back and ask myself, in 5 years time is this what I will be receiving in marriage? if i'm not happy with it we discuss about it. nobody is perfect and waiting for the perfect woman will give you gray hair. thank God she is changing gradually.

Thats good for you

If u care abt ur rshp, stop using d silent treatment... U might tink it's still working without knowing u have already lost dat guy/girl.....

reeeT: . For the best

you sure?

redcliff: [size=20pt]what woud you guys think of someone who gives his chick the silent treatment for a month and a week *covering face*[/size]

're u suo he is a guy

alutacontinua:

're u suo he is a guy

lol. meaning?

شهيد عبدالكريم :



I dont think your comment is tangible cuz you are in a long distance relationship... So how the hell will you be silent with a old papa youngy albino that lives 10,000 miles away or do you tripple date?

yepa

redcliff:

lol. meaning?

meaning which guy does dt

As far as I am concerned I dislike using this method but I have a gf that is very good in this hiding under pretense of mood swing and I have told her severally that we should always talk things out instead of her using that kind of method but as I am tying this message we are both on the third day of the method. I am ready for it until she comes back to her senses.

redcliff: [size=20pt]what woud you guys think of someone who gives his chick the silent treatment for a month and a week *covering face*[/size]

Shame on you

GBOYEGA255: As far as I am concerned I dislike using this method but I have a gf that is very good in this hiding under pretense of mood swing and I have told her severally that we should always talk things out instead of her using that kind of method but as I am tying this message we are both on the third day of the method. I am ready for it until she comes back to her senses.

It's not a competition,please just try to talk to her .I am sure you miss her already.

redcliff: [size=20pt]what woud you guys think of someone who gives his chick the silent treatment for a month and a week *covering face*[/size]

Does that relationship exist anymore?

NnekaGirl:

It's not a competition,please just try to talk to her .I am sure you miss her already.

@Gboyega, i agree with dis but while u're at it, pls, point it out to her calmly nd firmly dt d next tym she repeats it, she should better be ready to forget about you or d relationship.