Since it's a wedding day, I decided to post something interesting about marriage..

There are thousands of questions you should consider before entering into a marriage, but to help you out, I’ve narrowed it down to a few of the most important ones. This is a checklist of seven questions I believe every person should ask before walking down the isle.


1. Do I like this person?

I know that this seems like a redundant question, but it’s really not. I talk to many couples who say that they “love” each other, but when you get past all those romantic feelings, there’s no friendship at the core of the relationship. Marry somebody that you love to hang out with. Without a strong friendship, I believe a marriage is destined for failure. Don’t just marry somebody you love…marry somebody you like!

2. Am I attracted to more than their looks?

Physical attraction is definitely important, but looks are going to change. That hot girl or guy you’re staring at now is going to look a whole lot different in 40 years! You need to make sure you’re drawn to who that person is, not just how that person looks.

3. Do I want this person to be the father or mother of my kids?

Before you get married, you need to ask more than “Do I want my kids to look like this person?” You need to ask “Do I want my kids to BE like this person?”

4. Can I be myself around this person?

This is huge. If you feel like you have to be somebody else around your potential spouse, don’t get married! There’s nothing more exhausting than pretending to be someone or something you’re not for somebody else’s approval. Your spouse should bring out the best parts of who you are but never try to change who you are.

5. Does this person strengthen my faith?

As a Christian, I believe God’s design for marriage is that a husband and wife come together with Christ in the Center. Without Him at the foundation, the marriage will eventually crumble. Marry someone who not only shares your faith but also strengthens your faith. Your spouse should bring you closer to Jesus, not drag you farther away.

6. Do the people who love me the most think we’re a good match?

If your family and friends who love you the most don’t think you’re good for each other, then please look past your feelings and weigh carefully if you’re marrying the right person. You need a spouse who is going to strengthen your family bonds, not put a huge strain on them. If your family loves your fiancee, that’s a great sign! If they don’t, seriously consider your next step.

7. Can I stay committed to this person No Matter What?

We live in a world where people like to quit anything the moment it gets difficult. The core of your marriage isn’t feelings which change…it’s commitment which never changes. When you say “I do” what you’re really saying is “I Will.” I will be here for you and with you through life’s ups and downs.

If you can find someone who stands up to these questions and you can do the same for them, then I believe that you’re on your way to “Happily Ever After!” Pray hard, plan well and say “I Do” with confidence and joy!

source - http://davewillis.org/category/marriage/

Nice write up!
Thank God mine is still far, dancing Kekure

Nice stuff.

The key to any successful marriage is communication and communication comes through friendship and not romance.

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Nice one for those gettin married dis easter

. Will he be able to satisfy me in bed #i can

Check out his or her family covenants and pedigree FIRST and settle same once and for all before asking all those questions...

marriage=love+endurance.......simple arithematic

i asked my woman few of dose question, all she replied me is dat........is marriage by force?
To me, marriage is all abt contract, keep urs i keep mine. If Bleep comes up, u go ur fada house. I no fit shout.

Can dis person please me well on Bed

Important questions.. However if I decide to marry a guy it means I was attracted to his physical looks, so I don't think that's really important.

Another question should be about finances, will there be a joint bank account during our marriage? Or separate accounts??

Load of rubbish, marriage have no defined formular. Two total strangers can meet from a one night stand and later marry one week later and stay happily married till death. No long thingz......

Nice one there, but, unfortunately, some people are too desperate and too eager to ask these necessary questions b4 settling down, hence, their future regrets.
May God help us all.

Ask these questions about yourself first before asking about the spouse.

Marriage is about being the right person not marrying the right person.

Nice questions, but there are some people you should not even bother asking questions you should just dump them and never marry them.

http://www.elijahforce..com/2013/02/8-ladies-to-never-marry.html

van bonattel: Load of rubbish, marriage have no defined formular. Two total strangers can meet from a one night stand and later marry one week later and stay happily married till death. No long thingz......

yes, true, but maybe, one in a thousand cases.........mind you, these questions are asked during d courtship, which is very necessary b4 marriage.
May God help us all.

greatgod2012: Nice one there, but, unfortunately, some people are too desperate and too eager to ask these necessary questions b4 settling down, hence, their future regrets.
May God help us all.

Some people still look, watch, wait and learn for many years and still fight everyday for the rest of the marriage.

This is very good write up.

I know someone can love another without liking the person, I just wonder and don't get how this happens.

Super1759: many people don't have time for all these jamb questions...

they don't, right? we will have time to read their stories that touch in family section.

I will keep thinking about these things. The married need them to.

van bonattel: Load of rubbish, marriage have no defined formular. Two total strangers can meet from a one night stand and later marry one week later and stay happily married till death. No long thingz......

Yours I think a load of rubbish... Love at first sight only seems true because you've got a certain criteria and picture of, then the Indian movie comes in when meeting a girl you'd like to be with... that when getting to see her, the picture of whom you'd choose to marry appears.. dceive yourself not.... Imagine marrying a stranger who maybe dropped from Mars...

So after asking all these questions about someone else which questions do u ask urself?once two willing committed parties with plenty tolerance and a lil love jump on d bus marriage don happen abeg!d focus on marriage is urself not on someone else joor.formula no dey dat tin

what is your CREDIT SCORE

Shld the question before marriage or before u even consider asking /going out with someone?b

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adewal15: Yours I think a load of rubbish... Love at first sight only seems true because you've got a certain criteria and picture of, then the Indian movie comes in when meeting a girl you'd like to be with... that when getting to see her, the picture of whom you'd choose to marry appears.. dceive yourself not.... Imagine marrying a stranger who maybe dropped from Mars...

Let me educate you, the more you stay to learn about the opposite sex, the more you hate them, the more you meet other more pretty, younger, richer, more educated and cool opposites. Better close your eyes and marry and develop your love than hoping you have met an angel only to discover you have been duped, the person you thought you knew will soon show her true colours.

I better be surprised by marrying a total stranger than finding out I have been taken an a ride by the person I thought I knew very well.

sadlerrr: Since it's a wedding day, I decided to post something interesting about marriage..

There are thousands of questions you should consider before entering into a marriage, but to help you out, I’ve narrowed it down to a few of the most important ones. This is a checklist of seven questions I believe every person should ask before walking down the isle.


1. Do I like this person?

I know that this seems like a redundant question, but it’s really not. I talk to many couples who say that they “love” each other, but when you get past all those romantic feelings, there’s no friendship at the core of the relationship. Marry somebody that you love to hang out with. Without a strong friendship, I believe a marriage is destined for failure. Don’t just marry somebody you love…marry somebody you like!

2. Am I attracted to more than their looks?

Physical attraction is definitely important, but looks are going to change. That hot girl or guy you’re staring at now is going to look a whole lot different in 40 years! You need to make sure you’re drawn to who that person is, not just how that person looks.

3. Do I want this person to be the father or mother of my kids?

Before you get married, you need to ask more than “Do I want my kids to look like this person?” You need to ask “Do I want my kids to BE like this person?”

4. Can I be myself around this person?

This is huge. If you feel like you have to be somebody else around your potential spouse, don’t get married! There’s nothing more exhausting than pretending to be someone or something you’re not for somebody else’s approval. Your spouse should bring out the best parts of who you are but never try to change who you are.

5. Does this person strengthen my faith?

As a Christian, I believe God’s design for marriage is that a husband and wife come together with Christ in the Center. Without Him at the foundation, the marriage will eventually crumble. Marry someone who not only shares your faith but also strengthens your faith. Your spouse should bring you closer to Jesus, not drag you farther away.

6. Do the people who love me the most think we’re a good match?

If your family and friends who love you the most don’t think you’re good for each other, then please look past your feelings and weigh carefully if you’re marrying the right person. You need a spouse who is going to strengthen your family bonds, not put a huge strain on them. If your family loves your fiancee, that’s a great sign! If they don’t, seriously consider your next step.

7. Can I stay committed to this person No Matter What?

We live in a world where people like to quit anything the moment it gets difficult. The core of your marriage isn’t feelings which change…it’s commitment which never changes. When you say “I do” what you’re really saying is “I Will.” I will be here for you and with you through life’s ups and downs.

If you can find someone who stands up to these questions and you can do the same for them, then I believe that you’re on your way to “Happily Ever After!” Pray hard, plan well and say “I Do” with confidence and joy!

source - http://davewillis.org/category/marriage/

okay....

Nice one!
Only that number (6) shouldn't be found anywhere on the list!

van bonattel:

Let me educate you, the more you stay to learn about the opposite sex, the more you hate them, the more you meet other more pretty, younger, richer, more educated and cool opposites. Better close your eyes and marry and develop your love than hoping you have met an angel only to discover you have been duped, the person you thought you knew will soon show her true colours.

I better be surprised by marrying a total stranger than finding out I have been taken an a ride by the person I thought I knew very well.

Your comment is just like, entering a bus at a garage blindly and hoping to get to your destination.... Pls be practical when you think... Ignorance has a great effect hope you know?

The questions are too vague. They should be more specific to our Naija setting.

1) Is the lady/guy the type of person who easily gets provoked?
2) How are quarrels and disagreements handled?
3) Is the lady submissive?
4) Does the guy love his wife to the point where he can die for her? Is he sacrificial? Can he decide to trek under hot sun so his wife can have the only car to enjoy the A/c, or is he the type that colonizes the car while his wife jumps around town in public transport?
5) Can the woman take correction or is she the type that is forever shouting back at her man and putting him down publicly?
6) Does the man treat the woman as his help mate or as his subordinate or an article of property?
7) Is the man clean? SOme guys throw their underwear and socks everywhere and expect the jackey horse of a wife to always pick up after him.
Is the man a provider? Will his attitude change if his wife starts to earn more than himself or will he still measure up to standard? Will the woman become heady and uncontrollable when her earning power supersedes that of the man?
9) Can the woman cook and do basic domestic stuff in the house?
10) Is the man a stingy fellow?
11) What is the attitude of the man to his mother and what is the attitude of the wife to her father? This will determine how they relate to the opposing inlaws and to themselves.
12) What is the spiritual story behind both the man and wife? Does untimely death, poverty or some other negative stuff run in the family line?

There are too many important questions to ask. Forget all those stupid janded questions that have no meaning in the real modern day marriage setting in Naija.