wahala2007:

I have had the opportunity of meeting several ladies,having acquired 5 years of university education, and another 2 years at an advanced level.Gone are the days when I received love letters.My last love letter was received before my 19th birthday.No more show .Na small small pickin dey toast me nowadays.Imagine a 16year old girl sending her younger sister on  an errand that “she loves me”.Na koboko I go use chase am ,if I go visit my friend again(she is my friend’d younger sister)

Why do girls believe I have a GF? and when I say no,they take offence.All girls I have met so far,has had a boyfriend and indulged in sex.I know if I decide to accept girls for who they really are,I'll get many of them.The only virgin I have seen so far(at 23years) is very proud and an "omo mummy".She says she can only marry a whitie.She even says she can kiss,and I can handle her(which kain virgin be that sef).

Where can I see a virgin of reputable standard and is ready to stand the test of time until marriage?

wahala2007:

please pray on my behalf. I am lazy in that regard

Sisikill:

The more I read your post, the more I like oh jare. . .sadly I don't mess with younger men.

Imagine 16 years old! What will she do when she's 18? I shudder at the thought. Your expectations are not unrealistic. . .there are virgin girls out there, they are just afraid to announce it for fear of being victimized. Isn't that funny? It used to be the other way around. . .at least when I was in secondary school but now, girls will even make up high numbers of guys they've slept with to feel sophisticated.

wahala2007:

Indeed!!! what is strange about my post, and what advice was that?You are one lady I yearn to see her replies,and when I see mockery and insult,I feel so downcast.Anyway I never expected any good reply.I am just scared of dating a girl who is not a virgin.it is a morbid fear.Just like some peeps are blemenophobic(fear of needles).You get my point?

Busta:

and what if your soulmate is not virgin? or not meant to be one?
You'd miss that opportunity in the name that u only want to marry a virgin and that's it? . . . LOST LOVE!!

and what if u marry a virgin and she gives u hell or drives u to an early grave.

u don't expect me to pat u on the head because u are a virgin and intends to marry one . . .like i said, only an advice.
u either take it or leave it.

Busta:

and what if your soulmate is not virgin? or not meant to be one?

wahala2007:

Good point Busta
So how can I know my soulmate?

Sisikill:

The more I read your post, the more I like oh jare. . .sadly I don't mess with younger men.

Busta:

good question-----wish i could tell because even I haven't found mine

But like they say------It just happen!. . . .Instant connection.

wahala2007:

You don't even know and you have been commenting all along.You are the wrong person to take advice from then.I am even way more experienced than you.You should start consulting my wealth of experience.
Instant connection? what's that ?

Busta:

Na your fault? Take your time.
u are more experienced than me because u've sleeping around with girls trynna search for a virgin? too bad because I don't do that. . . besides ain't u supposed to be a virgin?
I am not the one desperate to marry a virgin.
My brain sure works better than urs enways.

HR.hotness:

try lookin at it this way

u meet a virgin, u get married, u have sex, she likes it, she reads books and watches movies all with a different ideas on what sex should be,,,,
inevitably her mind will begin to wonder,,,, then comes one of those shamless excuses for men,,,, they tempt and prod, she gives in,,,,,, what has happened? she has cheated, depending on how much she enjoys it, she continues to cheat,,,, then leaves high and dry!

the truth is that being a virgin is not an accurate measure of virtue and dignity
by choosing to define a girl by her virginity status is a complete disregard of her mind, of who she is as a person and very very disrespectful.
Girls have many different reasons for doing what they do and being judgemental and declaring them cheap and without virtue doesn't say much about you.

how about focusing on a girl who wants simple things, marriage and a family
who wants to build a successful home, who is loyal and has strong beliefs
if u are lucky she'll be a virgin, if not she probably had a good reason why she isn't, and if u manage to look beyond this, you'd find your perfect girl.
Its rather naive to expect a virgin is automatically the perfect wife material, u never know u may have a monster lurking beneath the surface dying to come out! trust me, i'm a girl and I've seen this happen time and time again.

uspry1:

You, the poster, sound insecure finding your soulmate---worrying about your soulmate's ex will cheat her out! It is not fair for you have many ex-girlfriends whom you dated in the past, did your soulmate worry about your ex?

What happen to LOVE CONQUERS ALL? For strong relationship between two people connect that is based on below that lead to stronger marriage:

[list]
[li]Trust[/li]
[li]Spirituality[/li]
[li]4 Characters[/li]
[list]
[li]Humility[/li]
[li]Kindness[/li]
[li]Responsibility[/li]
[li]Happiness[/li]
[/list]

[li]Personal Hygiene[/li]
[li]Communication Skill[/li]
[li]Personal Habits[/li]
[li]Strong Connections[/li]
[list]
[li]Good Chemistry and Compatibility[/li]
[li]Shared Common Interest[/li]
[li]Shared Common Life Goal[/li]
[li]Deeper Emotional[/li]
[li]Sexual Compatibility[/li] (refer the knowledge of sexuality)
[li]Agreed Financial Obligations/Compromise Equally[/li]
[/list]
[/list]

wahala2007:

Victimized?? I 'm hearing that for the first time.Though a girl(virgin) shouldnt go about boasting about her status,she shoudnt be scared of letting people know,when they ask her
On the other hand girls who celebrate and are celebrated for the numerous number of men they have slept with are sick,depraved and mentally retarded.
This world is getting crazy every passing  moment.The opposite is the rule rather than the exception

wahala2007:

lol,why? .Supose your soul mate is a younger man

Busta:

@wahala2007

Its Nairaland.
u don't have to concur with me neither do I.

Hope u put that behind your experinced self.

oyb:

look, there are no virgins on nairaland. go search somewhere else.

the last thing the shameless, remorseless, worldly  fornicators of nairaland need is a sanctimonious prick blathering about finished products etal.

wahala2007:

This is NAIRALAND. So?
Must you follow the crowd?Probably you are angry with the niceties, i am commenting about you.Truth be said,you are suddenly proving difficult.I don't know why? Anywayz Kind Regards

oyb:

look, there are no virgins on nairaland. go search somewhere else.

the last thing the shameless, remorseless, worldly  fornicators of nairaland need is a sanctimonious prick blathering about finished products etal.

LMAO!!!

I can't laugh o!

oyb:

look, there are no virgins on nairaland. go search somewhere else.

the last thing the shameless, remorseless, worldly  fornicators of nairaland need is a sanctimonious prick blathering about finished products etal.

oyb:

look, there are no virgins on nairaland. go search somewhere else.

the last thing the shameless, remorseless, worldly  fornicators of nairaland need is a sanctimonious prick blathering about finished products etal.

Sisikill:

wahala2007
You want me to divorce you before we even start our cyber loverness? Be nice now, not everyone will agree with you. . .it doesn't mean you gotta be rude about it. Anyway, you still own a small piece of my cyber-heart.

Sisikill:

I was ready to lambast you for that statement about no virgins on Nairaland until I saw the picture on your profile? Is that your baby? Oh my God, my ovaries just exploded that's how cute he is. Can I have him? Please? Please? Preeeeeety Please? No? Aaah, I understand. . .I wouldn't give him up if he were mine either.

Now that is one heartbreaker in the making.

oyb:

thank you o. . .

abeg no vex. . .i'm just being sarcastic.

you will observe that i referred to mr wahala as sanctimonious.if you got through his previous posts, you will find that he keeps harping about the fact that todays girls have no morals ,etc. you will also find that he isn't bothered about the morals of men.

wahala2007:

If I eventually get married to a non virgin,how am i sure that the guy she greets everyday and/or the guy next door is actually her ex,and she has been keeping this secret from me?.I have many scary scenarios,not because I have debased the women folk.I 'd rather i marry a non virgin,whose ex is deceased and buried -x did i say that

oyb:

thank you o. . .

abeg no vex. . .i'm just being sarcastic.

you will observe that i referred to mr wahala as sanctimonious.if you got through his previous posts, you will find that he keeps harping about the fact that todays girls have no morals ,etc. you will also find that he isn't bothered about the morals of men.

HR.hotness:



,,,,,,,,, and it is quite annoying

however


it would appear u have trust issues, if u meet d right person her past shouldn't matter and I'm sure she'd be happy to tell u everything if u so desire,,,,
besides u've been going on about what might happen to u and what u want,,,, u, u, u! its all about u,
how about what u have to offer this virgin,
what makes u such a good catch
i really really really hope you're not the kind of person u portray on here, it would be sad.
i'm willing to accept that in some twisted, moronic way (like all men) your intentions are good, but i think some self searching is in order.