Busta:

I honestly thot u made sense before but now I know your brain don't seems to be functioning properly.
So quick to conclude and think u know better.

and u say u ain't judging . . . .

as for the cross, That was nothing but an adduce.

ifyalways:

@topic  . . .YES and a resounding YES
a house divided esp in religious issues cannot stand.

4Him:

That is the advantage men have, which is the reason most of the males here don't really care about this issue.
It is also one of the reason i'm not so bothered too. I have a choice to choose who i will marry, what my kids will grow up to be . . . women sadly don't have so much room to manouvre . . . which is why i wonder why so many of them are willing to jump naively into such an important project as marriage.

Sweet T:

can we all just get along??

Chacal:

Fair enough!!!!!

Lets face it. . . . . Only a dumb woman will enter into a beautiful relationship knowing fully well Religion issues might undo her later.
It's always better to spell the terms before entering any relationship. . .Is it going to be a long-term or a dead end relationship.
A girl from a strict moslem background should not even date a Christian because she knows it might become a problem later.
Like i've said earlier, this is not a big issue at all!!!!!

danity:

@ Topic - YES YES YES. I wouldn't even date him if i could.

Chacal:

I have told u many times u are smarter than your age.
A lot of relationships crumble because the people involved see the truth and they completely ignore it.
They go with the stupid assumption that things might change later and that is a huge risk for anyone to take. . .
Don't even smell what u cannot taste. . . . It's the law of PHYSICS.

Chacal:

I have told u many times u are smarter than your age.
A lot of relationships crumble because the people involved see the truth and they completely ignore it.
They go with the stupid assumption that things might change later and that is a huge risk for anyone to take. . .
Don't even smell what u cannot taste. . . . It's the law of PHYSICS.

Busta:

one word: "Ignorance"
you don't have to agree with me and I don't have to agree with ya

Like I always end my postings. . . .every man to each his own.
at the end of the day, You will have to carry your own darn Cross and I'll carry mine.

Sisikill:

Hey, Seun. . .I demand a recount! I think that poll is rigged, rigged I tells ya!

4Him:

I'm perplexed when i see otherwise reasonable adults base their concept of a lifetime of commitment on a few hours of a "soooo beautiful" wedding.

4Him:

the poll isnt statistically significant just yet.

4Him:

I don't like you a lot of the time, but u're making plenty of sense at the moment.

Chacal:

@ Stillwater,

For once?
Ohhhhhhhhh, just because i asked u to shave your head?
You can't be serious.

For example, I never touched a woman while I was a moslem


  and you think hindus and christianity condones adultery and fornication? 1 Corinthians 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,


Quote from: damola1 on Today at 07:20:47 PM
and largely because the moslem religion does not tolerate thievery thats why I am not a yahoo boy.


There are no yahoo yahoo boys in Japan . . . is it largely because of Is'lam?
Did your christian background encourage thievery?


Quote from: damola1 on Today at 07:20:47 PM
You don't know the moslem religion, please be careful how you express yourself about it, and on top of this,  don't forget many of us young chaps are mere casual xtians and moslems, so we don't really know anything in fact!,  only what they say.


Neither do you understand christianity.

Things are different for men and women.For a man,he can go on with a woman from a different religion because in the end,if they get married,she's going to drop her religion and accept his.No two-ways about it.Same goes for his kids.They will follow his religion.
But for us women,its a different matter.Because of the male-dominance factor in serious relationships,its best for a woman to be with a man whose religion she agrees with.This talk of him changing after marriage is rubbish,i tell you.If a girl thinks after marriage she will pray and fast and get her pastor or imam to change him,she's building castles in the air.It won't happen.
So girls,no matter how handsome that relationship is,if he is not of the same religion as you,end it o.Unless you're willing to change to his religion.That's just how it is.Better safe than sorry.
Guys,hmm.  Whatever you want.

4Him:

1. I don't like you a lot of the time, but u're making plenty of sense at the moment.

2. I'm perplexed when i see otherwise reasonable adults base their concept of a lifetime of commitment on a few hours of a "soooo beautiful" wedding.

3. We read cases of honor killings in the UK and recently in the US, we read cases of men (especially those of middle eastern heritage married to white women) forcing their daughters into arranged marriages . . . they all started with marriages were the pastor and imam ate and laughed together.

damola1:

YOu missed the point sir.

damola1:

Not True. in fact, in my case my mother is a xtian, and I am also, and so is my brother.  Please please please, stop this talk that someone is running your life, everyone knows a woman runs the family, she runs everything

damola1:

2. You are correct that people cannot simply change when from childhood they have been made of a different composition, however, I am not talking about change here, I am talking about LOVE, and the fact that, in my parents case, it's seen them cross over: 25years and in my case, 8years. I am talking about the fact that, you shouldn't allow religion cloud your decisions about other people, I am saying, you cannot judge people because of their religious believes from a distant unless you know them. Never ever judge a book by its cover.  

Imani:

@ JoshJosh, I have to agree with you. The religion board is something else . I feel you. How people manage to argue over and over with each other is beyond me and sometimes you will think there is a prize awaiting the winner of the "debate"

Imani:

3. Your example of honour killing is extreme. Honour killing is not limited to a girl simply refusing to marry the family approved "spouse" due to different culture or religion. It transcends that. Honour killing has also been known to occur due to clash of spouse on basis of class even within the boundaries of the same religion, or a lady seeking divorce from her husband both practicing same religion etc.

YOu missed the point sir.


perhaps because there was none in the first place.


Quote from: damola1 on Today at 09:55:43 PM
Not True. in fact, in my case my mother is a xtian, and I am also, and so is my brother. Please please please, stop this talk that someone is running your life, everyone knows a woman runs the family, she runs everything


Simply because that's the way it worked in your family? No sir, my father ruled my family.

damola1:

The point was very simple: The Great Religion instills discipline in people than christianity.

damola1:

2. Whoever said my mother runs my family, don't be silly, its a joint venture where a woman manages the man, who thinks he's the smart one. You might not agree, however, I believe women run the family eventually, men only assume the figure face, but its just like saying: Dangote is a front for OBJ, if a woman understands his man very well, he knows how to manage him effectively to deliver the results she wants, in 90% of the cases.

You have eyes . . . you don't instill discipline by threatening others with death.
Your statement above is incredulous . . .

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I left a very good man, one of the best men to ever walk this earth because of religious differences. My dear, if you ask for my oppinoin now, i will say religion is all politics. I have now refused to believe any person or instruction that says i have to hate someone else because he does not have the same believe as i.
Religion instead of being an instrument of love and peace has turned to be a grooming institution for hate, segregation, and oppression. I want to believe we are all created in Gods image and he loves us all, I[b] will not beleive any religion that makes me think contrary [/b]

Imani:

@4Him, just a theoretical question,

If everyone married within the boundaries of their religion, class, education, what do you envisage the world will be like?

damola1:

Excuse me sir, who threatened you with death?, where did you learn it that disciplined is instilled through threats of death?,

damola1:




The point was very simple: The Great Religion instills discipline in people than christianity.
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damola1:


The morale of it all is, don't judge people if you don't know them, do not generalise people, don't say all nigerians are scammers, don't say all moslems are bombers, don't say all warri people can kidnap, learn to appreciate people for who they are, and just maybe, that person you are searching for might be among them.