xynerise: what about calling them Antelope?

Ada Nri1: There's a different between insult, abuse and curse.
When your dad gets angry and tells you "don't be silly! Or silly!" Go and hang yourself. As far as I know my mum used to say we should stop behaving like goats, that's when we acted foolish, that didn't stop us from changing and behaving like human beings. And the next thing you'll hear her say is "my children are very wise" all these sabi sabi people here telling some1 how to raise their kids, I hope your children are going to be 100% well behaved everyday. Bottom line, correction with love is better than trying to avoid insulting your child and loose him to terrible behaviour. Spare the rod and spoil the child.(They'll soon tell me it wasn't meant to be followed literally)na una sabi sha, I dey my house, I raise my kids how I want. Main goal; useful and well mannered children with great fear of God

Fhemmmy: I think there is a difference between insulting and cursing them . . . I tell my son most times that he is big head and he say it back to me too, but when a parent curse their kids like saying - I know you cant be anything in life, that is dangerous and such pronunciation do have a lasting effect.

Ada Nri1: There's a difference between insult, abuse and curse.
When your dad gets angry and tells you "don't be silly! Or silly!" Go and hang yourself because your dad insulted you. As far as I know my mum used to say we should stop behaving like goats, that's when we acted foolish, that didn't stop us from changing and behaving like human beings. And the next thing you'll hear her say is "my children are very wise" all these sabi sabi people here telling some1 how to raise their kids, I hope your children are going to be 100% well behaved everyday. Bottom line, correction with love is better than trying to avoid insulting your child and loose him to terrible behaviour. Spare the rod and spoil the child.(They'll soon tell me it wasn't meant to be followed literally)na una sabi sha, I dey my house, I raise my kids how I want. Main goal; useful, wise and well mannered children with great fear of God.

Ada Nri1: There's a difference between insult, abuse and curse.
When your dad gets angry and tells you "don't be silly! Or silly!" Go and hang yourself because your dad insulted you. As far as I know my mum used to say we should stop behaving like goats, that's when we acted foolish, that didn't stop us from changing and behaving like human beings. And the next thing you'll hear her say is "my children are very wise" all these sabi sabi people here telling some1 how to raise their kids, I hope your children are going to be 100% well behaved everyday. Bottom line, correction with love is better than trying to avoid insulting your child and loose him to terrible behaviour. Spare the rod and spoil the child.(They'll soon tell me it wasn't meant to be followed literally)na una sabi sha, I dey my house, I raise my kids how I want. Main goal; useful, wise and well mannered children with great fear of God.

pDude: My dad constantly did that shit when we were younger and he is currently paying the price.

ighoosagie: Ur parent insult u n u dey complain my own dem dey beat me in advance for watin I neva do yet

adexsimply: well lets wait and c how those children turn out..i made a personal research and realized that children exposed to much beatings turn out to be more stubborn...maybe its becos they get so used to beatings that it(beating) stops having effects on them----

dowjones:


You obviously dont know what it is to be abused..i'd suggest you review what you posted. My dad constantly told me i was not going to be anything in life..hell, he told me to mark his words...he would be very graphic on how i was going be a failure it was actually scary and mine was still mild compared to my elder sis. We were well behaved kids cos the fear was instilled to us...i used to stutter seriously as a child and my dad will make fun of me.(he too was a stutter but became very eloquent) mind you i had been expelled from 3 primary schools becuase i almost killed students who laughed at me so i also planned to kill the man but thats past now..you obviously dont know sh!!t

adexsimply: well lets wait and c how those children turn out..i made a personal research and realized that children exposed to much beatings turn out to be more stubborn...maybe its becos they get so used to beatings that it(beating) stops having effects on them----

ayodot:

stubborn ke, me I chop cane sotey I gentle

dowjones:


You obviously dont know what it is to be abused..i'd suggest you review what you posted. My dad constantly told me i was not going to be anything in life..hell, he told me to mark his words...he would be very graphic on how i was going be a failure it was actually scary and mine was still mild compared to my elder sis. We were well behaved kids cos the fear was instilled to us...i used to stutter seriously as a child and my dad will make fun of me.(he too was a stutter but became very eloquent) mind you i had been expelled from 3 primary schools becuase i almost killed students who laughed at me so i also planned to kill the man but thats past now..you obviously dont know sh!!t

Ada Nri1: I'm not saying beating is good or not. Moderation in everything. My people say that you don't beat a child the day he spills oil. It means choose the worst offences not just hitting a child anyhow. For me its talk, talk, isolate, punish, beat!!!!!!! Talk .... Removing beating out of it is only when the child is over 7 and you know that there are worse methods without physical contact. I can make u wash all the toilets, clean the kitchen and iron everbody's bed spread. By the time I cancel your holiday trip twice, you'll buckle up. That won't stop me from beating o. I even threaten leaving in Nigeria with nana in the village

Sinju: @OP you mean "the dangers of verbally abusing your kids"

Let us call a spade a spade.

Verbal abuse for humans results in emotional and psychological problems.

To those single and still searching: if you meet someone whose parents verbally abuse dem, ready yourself to deal with the consequences.

To parents: if your goal is to raise emotionally stable children, refrain from verbal abuse.

To those who live abroad: although you were raised in a culture where verbally abusing your kids and others is acceptable, this can get you in more trouble with the law when you decide it is normal to verbally abuse the "cousin" you sneaked in to help with the your kids. Read the stories of all those convicted for "slavery". The evidence of verbal abuse (goat, bush animal etc)was used to convinced the jury.

occam:

You van correct a child without insulting. How would you feel if your boss insults you instead of explaining what you did wrong and then correct you.

This our Nigerian mindset has to stop. Just be firm. Kid get it

adexsimply: ok ma'am..but if you went thru wat me and my two siblings(even my mum 2) are still going thru..u wuldnt plan to do wat u mentioned above to any of ur children..i COULD still go with the bold-en part though

Ada Nri1: There's a difference between insult, abuse and curse.
When your dad gets angry and tells you "don't be silly! Or silly!" Go and hang yourself because your dad insulted you. As far as I know my mum used to say we should stop behaving like goats, that's when we acted foolish, that didn't stop us from changing and behaving like human beings. And the next thing you'll hear her say is "my children are very wise" all these sabi sabi people here telling some1 how to raise their kids, I hope your children are going to be 100% well behaved everyday. Bottom line, correction with love is better than trying to avoid insulting your child and loose him to terrible behaviour. Spare the rod and spoil the child.(They'll soon tell me it wasn't meant to be followed literally)na una sabi sha, I dey my house, I raise my kids how I want. Main goal; useful, wise and well mannered children with great fear of God.

occam:

That's just playing. He finds it funny too that's why he's saying it back to you.

Too many Nigerian parent's insult their kids at the slightest offence. Talking to kids is really alien in our society. A child asks a simple question and they tell him/her to shut up and mind his/her business. Nigerians don't like explaining things to children.

nyere84: Op, i agree with you.

Meanwhile, i am the...........SIXTH to comment oooo.!!!

Oluwa oshe ooo..!!
Chukwu dalu ooo..!!
Nagwode Allah ooo.!!

kaykay123: Thank God my mom never spare the cane on us,she has cane for every one of us,and after beating us back then,she will sit you down and tell you what you did was wrong,thank God she did all that,I can't imagine what would have happened ,as parents we should know when to talk to our kids,and when we should use the cane on then,

That is a nice one, but i wonder why our parents then are so quick in beating with cane. . .