Hello Naija pple, i really need your advise on this issue. I am planning to get marry soon but my friends keep telling me that marriage is capital intensive project that i shouldn't waste my money rather i should do introduction and registry marriage. Am ok financially but scare cus of my friends.

By marriage- do u mean like reception after wedding?
IF YES
Then it not really expensive, it all depends on HOW BIG you want it to be.
The venue. food/cake quality, designer gowns and suit, number of invitees and types of invitees etc. are what makes the difference.

Shinkafi- just think about it as a birthday party with more guests, family and in-laws and go ahead and celebrate.
The couple tend to be happier if a party was celebrated (reception) after their union has been blessed rather than just going home after a registry.

DONT MIND YOUR FRIENDS, U BET THEY WILL BE THE ONES TO HAVE MOST FUN ON THAT DAY

If you listen to your friends properly, I think they were not talking about marriage at all. They were talking about wedding. And they were not saying it is capital intensive, but they were suggesting that you approach the wedding in a less capital intensive manner. They were suggesting a less capital intensive approach to wedding.

However, your marriage will benefit from a healthy stash of cash. Don't blow it all on just the wedding. Cheers!

@shinkafi
Yes, it depends on how "big"(profile level, fanfare level) you want to have it be.
In Nigeria, many people listen to a whole lot of voices when preparing for weddings, as such they get caught up in a financial straits after the wedding, coz they allow relatives from right and left to start making unnecessary demands, just to gratify themselves, and fulfil the "If you dont spend money, you are not yet married" philisophy.

The advice is: Cut your coat according to your size.

In the world of today, twill be very unreasonable for someone to go borrow money, get loans just to do a wedding. Such people end up spending months just to repay the loans after the wedding, in the absence of all the guests. Sit you bride down, let her know how far you can comfortably stretch yourself. Agree together and after that, let anyone that disagrees go and marry himself/herself.

Smart people don't start breeding until they have a considerable and consistent income.

You can get married at any time, but please don't have children before you have the means to take care of them. That's where poverty comes from. That's the most capital-intensive aspect of marriage!

if you want to outdo the joneses and do a big bash that you truly can't afford,you'll cause undue financial stress on your young marriage and risk everything.

However a wedding is a most memorable ocassion but don't be carried away and bite more than you can chew.
After the guests are gone,the marriage begins.

we had a wedding that almost had us filing for bankruptcy. its ok to have a small wedding. seriously its ok.

Must you marry

Everbright:

Must you marry

What a question, how old are you, are you married or aint you gonna get married??

Everbright:

Must you marry

u seem to have missed the question

Marriage is a very serious issue,it is important in our lives,but then you should do it in a way that you won't go to your friends to ask for food after the wedding.only then will they give you the laughing of the century MOst of them will start seducing your wife telling her you came to beg for food,what the hellis she doing with a poor man like you,if your wife is not strong enough she may fall for this temptation.

So if you have 100,000 Naira,spent only 20,000 Naira on your wedding and use the rest to take care of your GOd giving wife.

Have a good married life

My brother, it is not albeit more responsibilites. Just plan with your partner and take to voice of reason in every matrimonial step you take.

wedding is different from marriage. while the former may be needlessly and mindlessly expensive, the latter is only a matter of give and take.

wedding is a ceremony, marriage is an intitution or the life together after you say "i do"

I totally support bright Everbright. MUST YOU MARRY. It's not necesary to marry. Most especially when your guts start to tell you it could wipe you out. My advise. DON'T MARRY. That way you will be able to spend your money yourself. Miser!

i think Seun made a good point.

Everbright:

Must you marry

If u think marriage is expensive try fornication or adultry

It depends on the type of wedding you want (Elaborate or small) First, agree with your partner, then draw up a budget based on how much you are willing to spend. Be detailed about it like bride/grooms requirements,venue,entertainment,family rites etc. you cut down if the total is higher or mark up if lesser and work strictly with this budget. Plan more with your partner as it will be your day. I advice you not to overshoot your expenses. Marriage is bigger than wedding. Goodluck.

@ eko4show,
I totally agree with u.
Bros, there is nothing compulsory in wedding except marriage certificate which is not costly at all. It is as expensive as you make it. No body is tasking you on anything.
Plan within your reach. Remember that real marriage starts after the wedding.

@ Shinkafi,

Make it a low key one. A happy home is not based on how big or small your wedding bash is/was. Enjoy your money with your wife thereafter.

Try make am lo key my Bros, time wait for no one

It's not compulsory to get married
If you think or your friends think marriage is expensive
then stay unmarried shekina

@shinkafi, I dont think you should concern yourself with wedding expenses. You can take ur bride to church or mosque-whichever ,and take her away immediately after the vows and all what not. You know, the way they do it in the movies, just prepare pepper soup for ur guest and ride away with ur amarya (bride) to God knows where which does not require any huge expense at all.

Good luck bro.

Any body that wants to do "owambe" shd contribute his own money so that u guys can throw a bash afterwards.lol

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Ore, Shine yur eyes, Your question should have been is wedding a Capital Intensive project.Bro, cut your wedding according to your pocket and do not let friends detemine how you cut your wedding.My answer is wedding is not a Capital Intensive Project.I wedded with onlya thousand in my account, God helped me sha.

As Someone said above, cut your coat according to your size, its not necessary to have a fucking expensive wedding, and later have to pay debts. which could cause problems in your early marriage.

Well Guys, I guess guys here commenting on weddings are woman-like in thinking. Spend now and steal tomorrow. I guess the new way of doing things in a very corrupt country is overlooked. Just get a chick and have it with her and everything spending comes down. Afterall, wedding ends with marriage which ends with having kids. So cut off the first two things in that horrible chain. If not, let the chicks do the spending while Bobos do the climbing.Or we enjoy freelance parents. What about?

no offense intended,
but if you refer to this thread,you will understand why the fellow asked the question:

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-51789.32.html
How To Plan A Good Wedding?

oddly enough,  ladies were advocating 'at least 500,000' .in this thread ladies are advocating 'cut your coat according to your size'.

Interesting.

Point of correction!!!

@ all thay have been quoting "cut your coat according to your size" . .  . this has changed in recent times, it is now "cut your coat according to your cloth".

still interesting.

You get married once or that whats intended, so do it well, don't mind your friends you're getting married not them make it a memorable day but don't you're thinking of the future though.

you sound as if you are doing the marriage for you friend and not for yourself.settle it with your spouse and not your friend.

my guy, it all depends on how you want it, mine was okay, i didn't borrow a dime from anyone, and i didn't plan it based on what i was expecting from people either, that does not mean you will not find favor from people.

you can have an elaborate wedding ceremony that might make u go broke and eventually cause a serious trouble for you because you'll regret getting married to your wife.

at the same time what you call an elaborate wedding ceremony might be something small to some other persons, by this i mean an elaborate wedding for a local government chairman in one state might be child's play to a state governor in the same state,

my advise for you is to base your plans according to what you feel will not make you regret at the end of the whole ceremony,

do not take to all your friends tell you, some of them are just "chicken littles"

more so, wedding is for a day, marriage is for a lifetime,

a word is enough for the wise.