shadrach77: You need spiritual deliverance. Consult a deliverance minister.

Mindependent:
Who said anything about getting raped?! I'm a virgin o

Princeparix: #jumps into the red sea#

Princeparix: #jumps into the red sea#

Mindependent: I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom.

I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked.

I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom).

I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life.

I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it.

Is this normal?

Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men.

tpapi: Pls send me ur email address. logspapi@yahoo.com

bknight: Pain is love.

Funny, some men love ladies with domineering characters. How I hate those gay azzz niccaz!

Op, nothing wrong but hope he doesn't beat you though. And make sure you differentiate guyz who u like from those exhibiting insecurity.

If the guy isn't domineering among his male peer & can't face a fellow guy in a face-off but acts all domineering and aggressive towards a weaker you? Naah! That's a bitch azzz niggah

Mindependent: I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom.

I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked.

I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom).

I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life.

I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it.

Is this normal?

Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men.

poke: these is not normal. relationships are built on LOVE and love has no such character as yours, you can only get these from men that don't love. and I doubt if any man will want to.

adexsimply: [size=20pt]that means you are S&M.. a SADOMASOCHIST..its very terrible..you need to consult a psychiatrist.. you can read MERCY: a novel by david lindsey[/size]

Mindependent:
Why be rude?

Mindependent: I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom.

I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked.

I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom).

I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life.

I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it.

Is this normal?

Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men.

Mindependent: I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom.

I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked.

I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom).

I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life.

I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it.

Is this normal?

Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men.

Mindependent:
Why is it terrible and how would reading a book help me?!

Mindependent: I think one of the reasons i like this is the idea that he must feel really passionately about me or else he wouldn't get so angry to be aggressive towards me

pato405: its called sadomasochism:


sorry, had to copy and paste from wiki for those who might not be able to open the link.

Sadomasochism is the giving and/or receiving of pleasure—often sexual—from acts involving the infliction or reception of pain or humiliation. A subset of BDSM, practitioners of sadomasochism usually seek out sexual gratification from these acts, but often seek out other forms of pleasure as well. While the terms sadist and masochist specifically refer to one who either enjoys giving pain (sadist), or one who enjoys receiving pain (masochist), many practitioners of sadomasochism describe themselves as at least somewhat of a switch, or someone who can receive pleasure from either inflicting or receiving pain.

The acronym S&M is often used for sadomasochism, although practitioners themselves normally drop the & and use the acronym SM or S/M. Sadomasochism is not considered a clinical paraphilia unless such practices lead to clinically significant distress or impairment for a diagnosis.Similarly, sexual sadism within the context of mutual consent should not be mistaken for acts of sexual violence or aggression.

The term "Sadomasochism" is complicated by the diversity of intent in its application. These terms were often loosely used to refer to cruel individuals or those that brought misfortunes onto themselves. However, these definitions are misleading. Richters and colleagues (2007) examined the common belief that people with sadomasochistic sexual interest are damaged or dangerous. Their research found that BDSM is simply a sexual interest, and it is not a pathological symptom of past abuse or difficulty with sex. The two words incorporated into this compound. Sadism and masochism were originally derived from the names of two authors. The term “Sadism” derived from the name of Marquis de Sade. Not only did he practice sexual sadism, he also wrote novels about these practices (best known is Justine ). The term “Masochism” was named after Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. He practiced masochism and wrote novels expressing his masochistic fantasies. These terms were first selected as professional scientific terminology, identifying human behavioural phenomena and intended for the classification of distinct psychological illnesses and/or malicious social and sexual orientations.
The German psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing introduced the terms "Sadism" and "Masochism"' into institutional medical terminology in his work Neue Forschungen auf dem Gebiet der Psychopathia sexualis ("New research in the area of Psychopathology of Sex" in 1890.

In 1905, Sigmund Freud described sadism and masochism in his Drei Abhandlungen zur Sexualtheorie ("Three papers on Sexual Theory" as stemming from aberrant psychological development from early childhood. He also laid the groundwork for the widely accepted medical perspective on the subject in the following decades. This led to the first compound usage of the terminology in Sado-Masochism (Loureiroian "Sado-Masochismus" by the Viennese Psychoanalyst Isidor Isaak Sadger in his work Über den sado-masochistischen Komplex ("Regarding the sadomasochistic complex" in 1913.

In the later 20th century, BDSM activists have protested against these conceptual models. Not only were these models were derived from the philosophies of two singular historical figures. Both Freud and Krafft-Ebing were psychiatrists. Their observations on Sadism and Masochism were dependent on psychiatric patients, and their models were built on the assumption of Psychopathology. BDSM activists argues that it is illogical to attribute human behavioural phenomena as complex as sadism and masochism to the 'inventions' of two historic individuals. Advocates of BDSM have sought to distinguish themselves from widely held notions of antiquated psychiatric theory by the adoption of the initialized term, "BDSM" as a distinction from the now common usage of those psychological terms, abbreviated as "S&M".
[edit]Distinction among the subdivisions of BDSM

The term "Sadomasochism" has been loosely used to refer to the entire umbrella of BDSM. However, this is not accurate as BDSM is a shorthand for the three main subdivisions of the culture: B& (bondage and discipline), D/s (dominance and submission) and S&M (sadism and masochism).
Bondage and discipline usually involves either physical or psychological restraint, formalized service and/or punishment, and sometimes sexual role playing, such as costumes.

It is usually agreed on by psychologists that experiences during early sexual development can have a profound effect on the character of sexuality later in life. Sadomasochistic desires, however, seem to form at a variety of ages. Some individuals report having had them before puberty, while others do not discover them until well into adulthood. According to one study, the majority of male sadomasochists (53%) developed their interest before the age of 15, while the majority of females (78%) developed their interest afterwards (Breslow, Evans, and Langley 1985). The prevalence of sadomasochism within the general population is unknown. Despite female sadists being less visible than males, some surveys have resulted in comparable amounts of sadistic fantasies between females and males. The results of such studies demonstrate that one's sex does not determine preference for sadism.


Sexual Masochists

Class I: Bothered by, but not seeking out, fantasies. May be preponderantly sadists with minimal masochistic tendencies and/or non-sadomasochistic with minimal masochistic tendencies

Class II: Equal mix of sadistic and masochistic tendencies. Like to receive pain but also like to be dominant partner (in this case, sadists). Sexual orgasm is achieved without pain or humiliation.

Class III: Masochists with minimal to no sadistic tendencies. Preference for pain and/or humiliation (which facilitates orgasm), but not necessary to orgasm. Capable of romantic attachment.

Class IV: Exclusive masochists (i.e. Cannot form typical romantic relationships, cannot achieve orgasm without pain or humiliation).

Sexual Sadists

Class I: Bothered but don't act out sexual fantasies.

Class II: Act on sadistic urges with consenting sexual partners (masochists or otherwise). Categorization as Leptosadism is outdated.

Class III: Act on sadistic urges with non consenting victims, but don't seriously injure or kill. May coincide with sadist sexual type rapists.

[b]Class IV: O[/b]nly act with non-consenting victims and wills seriously injure or kill them. Difference between I-II and III-IV is consent



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