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| Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 5:26am On Apr 10, 2013 |
I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom. I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked. I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom). I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life. I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it. Is this normal? Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men. |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by boron10(m): 5:31am On Apr 10, 2013 |
See a Psychiatrist 20 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 5:37am On Apr 10, 2013 |
boron10: See a PsychiatristBut I'm not crazy or anything  |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by temi4fash(m): 5:50am On Apr 10, 2013 |
boron10: See a Psychiatrist dat wat i tink too |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by seedord247(m): 5:50am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Have you try agbero boys?  28 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Olorimoney(m): 6:01am On Apr 10, 2013 |
U are terribly sick upstairs    |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Lolaabokoku(f): 6:01am On Apr 10, 2013 |
try yaba left 3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by muaa(f): 6:15am On Apr 10, 2013 |
This is bizarre. Pls take it to the Lord in prayer. 11 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 6:17am On Apr 10, 2013 |
U re obviously close 2 madness and in stack insanity, I really pity ur useeless life, Wait 4 som1 dat wiLl do dis 2 U 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 6:19am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Raymondenyi: U re obviously close 2 madness and in stack insanity, I really pity ur useeless life,Why be rude? 4 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 6:50am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Mindependent: Because I hate hearing about abusive relationships I could kill a guy 4 trying dat shit with my sister! Only 4 me 2b seeing this shit write up 4rm a lady! Dats 2 tell u how I feel. 9 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 6:54am On Apr 10, 2013 |
You are one step away from madness. Just seek the attention of a genuine pastor before it's too late. 6 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Rooneyboy(m): 6:58am On Apr 10, 2013 |
U need the urgent help of a psychiatrist, and be fast about it. |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by masagoody(m): 7:19am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Mindependent:dats what mad people say.... Thank God say na you use ur hand ask whether your condition normal...madness is a thing of the mind(thought process)... You need God first, then psycological attention, before medical attention... Just think of your 16 year old daughter being in this state, and she comes to confide in you. Will you clap for her that all is well?.. Is that how God wanted the woman to be treated? 13 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by yuzedo: 7:22am On Apr 10, 2013 |
PM me now! Don't make me make you!  6 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by olatomiwa(f): 7:24am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Its not madness, you are interested in domatrix. A s*exua*l relationship where one partner is the Dom and the other partner is the Sub. It is possible to have this kind of relationship without abused but maybe not in Naija. You may also seek help, although it doesn't mean that you are mad. 17 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 7:30am On Apr 10, 2013 |
yuzedo: PM me now! Don't make me make you!LMAO, lame! Olatomiwa is right...... 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by djeezy(m): 7:31am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Op will get bruises and punches over her face and turn to ninja one eye and she'll be like "i still love him". Op, ur preference is abnormal and you just watered a childhood fantasy and now it has become a part of you. You really need help. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by SLIDEwaxie(m): 7:38am On Apr 10, 2013 |
boron10: See a Psychiatristthere is nothing like that! It's 100% normal. This arises wen u started avin this fantasy as a kid, even before u had a ur first man. I hate girls who dnt talk back, who dnt get jealous to a reasonable extent The only wrong thing is the issue of violence! I once had a frnd who loves guys that mans up and command her to do he wants. Any guy who listens to her everytime is a fool to her! |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by POLICECAP: 7:38am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Raymondenyi: U re obviously close 2 madness and in stack insanity, I really pity ur useeless life, You are the one with an inherited useless life since you can't make a simple statement devoid of insult 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by yuzedo: 7:39am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Shollypopz:Stalker! you are just jealous cos I'm showing interest in other people and you want me ALL to yourself...  |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 7:40am On Apr 10, 2013 |
yuzedo:Hahahahaha....I laughed. Now, GTFOH! |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 7:45am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Too much 50 shades of Grey 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Princeparix(m): 7:48am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Mak una stop d abuse d chick> na normal tin 4 sumpple. As human beings, we all have different understanding on how to live our lives__a pure exhibition of nature. Thats y in life "we live and breath by the rules, we die and rest by the rules"..... BT SUMTYMS U NID 2 BREAK DIS RULES TO SURVIVE. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by nenergy(m): 7:50am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Is your father that kind of person? Girls like men who are like their daddy. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by pomporiking: 7:54am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Were u molested as a child 3 Likes |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by goldfish80(m): 8:00am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Sweethrt, go and see ur village juju priest. He will wash your head with coconut water and kill two pigeon for the sacrifice. hurry up & do this!!! |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by masagoody(m): 8:00am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Princeparix: Mak una stop d abuse d chick> na normal tin 4 sumpple.na normal thing abi, just the way the urge to rape a girl is normal to a serial rapist, and the urge to kill to an assassin!! This was how america started... Breaking rules to survive when those keeping the rule are not ghosts... 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Princeparix(m): 8:10am On Apr 10, 2013 |
masagoody: na normal thing abi, just the way the urge to rape a girl is normal to a serial rapist, and the urge to kill to an assassin!! This was how america started... Breaking rules to survive when those keeping the rule are not ghosts...u got it all wrong dude>> d urge to rape or kill aint wat we're talking about here but the love and trust she gains from wat African men have in there DNA--DOMINANCE. Those keeping rules ghost?_dude ur just funny--bunching d rules is wat everyone does~sumhow_sumwia |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by naijaobi(m): 8:21am On Apr 10, 2013 |
@op..nawa for u o.. Just put it in prayers.. But if u dnt knw hw to pray, then u r finished |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by eastOFwest(m): 8:29am On Apr 10, 2013 |
Don't mind some of these people commenting. Most Nigerians see things in black and white. For any question you ask them, their reply is you need help - "the lord", "spiritualist", "native doctor" etc. There is nothing wrong with you, so long as you are functioning normally and getting on in life. Every woman has something that turns her on. For some its wealth, power, vulnerability in a man, being complimented, endlessly, braveness, GSOH etc. For you it's a dominating, controlling, possessive man with a streak of terror. So long as it doesn't lead to violence, I don't see a problem with it. Some guys know how to "put on a show" of that quality that turns their woman on at the right time. 1 Like |
| Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by megawax8: 8:30am On Apr 10, 2013 |
una too dey insult pple sef....cos sum1 ws bold enof to admit her way of life,we now sound lyk ours is d most perfect ??Now b bold to mention one fault of urz n make it a thread n get insulted by pple......oh,ur mr/mrs perfect n hav no fault at all Its a faceless network,else plenti of us wuldnt evn stannd a chance to be talked to cos of our inhuman attributes.....she jst asked a question,n she's gettin insulted.....smh I doubt majority of u r in a perfect relationship to say d least OP,to ansa ur question,i dont tink its totali normal....its probably cos of ur childhood fantasies or experience of bin maltreated...... My advice: talk to sum1 qualified to giv u proper advice*a counsellor* n say a prayer too 4 Likes |
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