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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by overdrive(m): 8:31am On Apr 10, 2013
@op I am also like that pm me for more of those stuff it really turns me on big time.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 8:31am On Apr 10, 2013
You seriously need help but I'm sure u knew that already before coming up here to get sorries.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by GraceBestowed(f): 8:42am On Apr 10, 2013
yuzedo: PM me now! Don't make me make you! angry
LOL! I see what you did there!!

OP, from a physical point of view, I think you had a very bad experience whilst growing up, and because it was so traumatic, you have repressed the memories. The feelings you have towards being abused is not the norm, but that doesn't make you 'sick', or 'crazy'.

From a spiritual point of view, see someone you trust as having a strong spiritual foundation, and have a discussion with them; be more open about the dreams you have, and your feelings in totality (I understand that you may have held some things back here, seeing as it's a public forum).

Finally, please don't let peoples' pessimism and insults get to you! It is well with you! :-)

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by victorD3: 9:30am On Apr 10, 2013
Mindependent:
I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom.

I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked.

I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom).

I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life.

I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it.

Is this normal?

Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men.



There is nothing wrong with you. Everybody has different tastes just like some girls love it hard on bed while others will feel you are too rough. That's my pin 2389AFD1 we can talk more about this.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 9:47am On Apr 10, 2013
victorD3:



There is nothing wrong with you. Everybody has different tastes just like some girls love it hard on bed while others will feel you are too rough. That's my pin 2389AFD1 we can talk more about this.
Thank you for understanding, these people just don't get me, so quick to judge and insult
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 11:09am On Apr 10, 2013
POLICE CAP:

You are the one with an inherited useless life since you can't make a simple statement devoid of insult
Now have u made ur own simple statement devoid of insults? (How humans are?)
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 11:11am On Apr 10, 2013
POLICE CAP:

You are the one with an inherited useless life since you can't make a simple statement devoid of insult
Now have u made ur own simple statement devoid of insults? (How humans are?)

By the way the OP is a man! Just got 2 find out, maybe dats how he abuses his lady, such a pitty sad
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Nobody: 11:21am On Apr 10, 2013
You have a psychological disorder. Lemme guess: masochistic personality disorder. It might be something else but 4rm d lil background u gave, dt's my closest guess. It's not something to worry about dt much, many people out there have a lot of disorders. Just see a psychologist if it starts affecting your daily life.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 11:37am On Apr 10, 2013
Raymondenyi:
Now have u made ur own simple statement devoid of insults? (How humans are?)

By the way the OP is a man! Just got 2 find out, maybe dats how he abuses his lady, such a pitty sad
You know you can think whatever you may, just get your facts right atleast.if only I was a man undecided
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by yuzedo: 1:07pm On Apr 10, 2013
victorD3:



There is nothing wrong with you. Everybody has different tastes just like some girls love it hard on bed while others will feel you are too rough. That's my pin 2389AFD1 we can talk more about this.
"Talk" yea? grin grin grin Man, FOH wiv yo thirsty arzzzzz! undecided undecided undecided

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by carlos1(m): 3:21pm On Apr 10, 2013
You people dnt get it, Op luvs abusive r/ships, She is simply looking for someone to murder and it looks as if her dates r only abusing her. Someone should help her achieve her main target, I mean som1 should help d OP to kill d OP

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 5:12am On Apr 11, 2013
carlos1: You people dnt get it, Op luvs abusive r/ships, She is simply looking for someone to murder and it looks as if her dates r only abusing her. Someone should help her achieve her main target, I mean som1 should help d OP to kill d OP

This is just how I am, different people like different things; just because I'm open does not give you the right to judge me. I have arranged for a counselling session, thanks to all those who gave constructive advice. jah bless
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by dapojaja(m): 6:22am On Apr 11, 2013
d truth is some girl craze for such treatment including being rayped by their man
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 6:53am On Apr 11, 2013
dapojaja: d truth is some girl craze for such treatment including being rayped by their man
Who said anything about getting raped?! I'm a virgin o

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by honeric01(m): 7:12am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
Who said anything about getting raped?! I'm a virgin o

when you were younger, did you get beaten endlessly by your siblings/parents?

Did you also offended people just becausd you wanted to be punished?

Some people love pain, maybe you're one of them.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by honeric01(m): 7:13am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
Who said anything about getting raped?! I'm a virgin o

I hope these men don't molest you when you're not in the mood?
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 7:51am On Apr 11, 2013
honeric01:

when you were younger, did you get beaten endlessly by your siblings/parents?

Did you also offended people just becausd you wanted to be punished?

Some people love pain, maybe you're one of them.
No I never got beaten but I just find this is the kind of things I like since I was young
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Mindependent(f): 7:52am On Apr 11, 2013
honeric01:

I hope these men don't molest you when you're not in the mood?
I'm always in the mood wink
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by honeric01(m): 8:05am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
No I never got beaten but I just find this is the kind of things I like since I was young

hmm, i'm sorry to say but you're a pain-lover, you have a violent spirit that craves for violence. I think its your 'shaped' mindset. Ever watched bondage sexx scenes? I think that's the kind of fetish you have. You love torment just like some people love fighting/watching violent movies.

It's your being, unless you find someone of like-mind, you'd be seen as a possessed being. People like you don't even know what 'rapee' means since you're always in the mood.

Do you also fantasize about being gangbaannged by multiple unknown men @ the same time?

Or being bannnged by robbers @ gun point?

Believe it or not, you have a violent spirit wearing you, as long as you're comfortable like that, then you don't need help and you're normal to your likes.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by honeric01(m): 8:06am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
No I never got beaten but I just find this is the kind of things I like since I was young
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by Princeparix(m): 8:14am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
I'm always in the mood wink
#jumps into the red sea#
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by sunnyt1(m): 8:39am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
I am very attracted to guys that are very er...dominant and in a way, bad. Say, abusive, treat you like a posession, jealous, aggressive- IN and OUT the bedroom.

I have been in an abusive relationship and even though I know its wrong and dangerous, It used to excite me when I was threatened or attacked.

I know its really bad, but its the only thing that seems to excite me, like if a guy i like just grabs my wrists or pulls/pushes me against something or tells me what to do it really turns me on (outside the bedroom).

I also have dreams where Im my partners posession and he has full control of my life.

I get really bored of 'normal' guys if they dont seem to have this controlling/possessive streak. I dont know how to break the cycle and its hard to seek out these sorts of guys as its not really something you admit is it.

Is this normal?

Ive also always had a fear of men since I was very young (though im not sure why) but i used to be terrified of older men.

What kinda life is dat? If u dnt see anytin wrong in dis den u need attention
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by dahmie2013: 8:47am On Apr 11, 2013
seedord247: Have you try agbero boys? undecided
gringringrin
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by pleep(m): 8:48am On Apr 11, 2013
This is not even uncommon... yall need to chill out.
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by pleep(m): 8:50am On Apr 11, 2013
Nairalanders always feel the need to fill a thread with the same damn message packaged in different words by different people. Dont yall think that after you repeated the same thing 15 times she got the fuckin point?

buncha dumbasses

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by amaju88: 9:41am On Apr 11, 2013
cryI kinda think dis chick or boy sef is pulling awa legs..but If you aren't!!...go and see a psych,pastor,imam*just go 4 help*
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by onila(f): 10:17am On Apr 11, 2013
yr not the only one

I like them rough

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by drzed: 10:29am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent: Why be rude?

Chineke mei! See me see wahala (SMSW). Did you just complain about rudeness?.... *scratching my balding head and clearing my Pa Ojuigo coca-cola bottle eyeglasses*

You, (OP), the same person who gets turned on when men byatch-slap you, karate-chop you, taekwondo-kick you, insult and probably spit on you...is now complaining of rudeness on nairaland? No wonder someone earlier said...

seedord247: Have you try agbero boys? undecided

Stop wasting megabytes of internet bandwidth. Oya, donate yourself to Yaba left with immediate effect. And dont let the door hit you, where the good Lord split you. grin
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by AGgal(f): 10:31am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
But I'm not crazy or anything
Who told u dat u're not crazy? *in Beyonce's voice*,to d left to d left,everytin u own in a box to yaba!

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Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by shadrach77: 10:32am On Apr 11, 2013
You need spiritual deliverance. Consult a deliverance minister. sad shocked sad
Re: Why Do I Seek Dominating & Abusive Men? Is It Normal? by dammytosh: 10:34am On Apr 11, 2013
Mindependent:
But I'm not crazy or anything

You are more than crazy.

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